Men crave purpose and feeling needed more than sex. When a man lacks purpose, he withdraws or gets depressed. Partners can help nurture his sense of purpose without becoming his therapist or mother.
Men secretly long for this way more than sex. Having purpose and meaning Men and women feel happiness differently. Women tend to feel happiness by knowing that they're loved, knowing that they're safe, having fun, things to do, having activities and connections and relationships in their lives. Men feel happiness primarily through knowing that they have a purpose that they're serving in the world, that they have a mission, that they are serving, that they are being a hero, that that they're making the world a better place, at least for the people close to them in their life. They need to know that they're needed and that they are valued and that they can provide that service to the world. If a man doesn't feel like he's needed, if he doesn't feel like he has a purpose in the relationship or in his life, he's going to become depressed over time. He's not going to feel like a man. He's not going to feel like he's activated his masculine core and he's going to start shutting down, he's going to start pulling away, he's going to start becoming a shell of a man. So it's very important that you help your man to develop this purpose and meaning. You can't do it for him. And never do you want to be his therapist or his mommy, because that's only going to push him further away, make him feel more disrespected and more like a child. However, what you can do is allow him to have a purpose in the relationship. So even if he can't be leading the entire planet, or leading a whole country, or building an empire of businesses, he. He can still have a purpose in your family, he can still have a purpose in your relationship, knowing that he can make you happy.
