A relationship coach shares communication strategies for women, using his wife Karen's example to show how appreciation and vulnerability work better than anger. He argues that softening after conflict and displaying emotional openness creates closeness with men.
Never get mad at him. Use these feminine words instead. I appreciate the masculine energy. Loves appreciation. The deep desire of the masculine is to feel valued, that he is needed in some way, that he is appreciated for what he brings to the table, who he is as a man, because he needs to know that he's bringing value to the world, that he is of service in some way to his community, to his people, to the world, and especially to you, if you are his woman or a woman that he's close to. So. So when you share that you appreciate him about something, that can totally shift the energy again from tension, from fighting, from him pushing against you or pushing away from you, to then coming close to wanting to connect to you again. So my wife did this very well. When we were first dating, she would often shift when we would have a fight or have some tension or an argument. At some point, she would soften and she would say something like, I don't want to fight you anymore. Or she would hold my hand, or she would come close to me or hug. And I would do it sometimes with her as well, but she would often be the one that would be softening up. And that made me feel really great as a man, that she was showing me her vulnerability, she was showing me her femininity and being willing to drop the armor even if we both had something to do with the argument or the disagreement. And that made me want to show Karen love and devotion for her and shift my energy to be a better man for her, to be a better, at the time, boyfriend and fiance.
