Never Tell A Guy THESE Words Use THIS Instead

Never tell a guy these words. If sometimes you get confused about what to say to a man, he's not understanding you, he's not pulling closer to you, he's moving closer to you, he's, he's pulling away potentially, then this could be a huge reason why you're having so many issues in your relationship. To start having a man devote himself to you, have him want to talk to you, have him want to help you and serve you, even in your life and in your relationship. So, hi, I'm Brody Boyd, if you don't know me already, and for over 20 years, combined with my wife, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world. Here, let me pull this up here to get a loving, long term, committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go into these powerful principles that I have for you today to help enlighten you into what's possible and in your relationship. Now, the way we're going to do this is through masculine feminine polarity. This is the secret to attract a high quality man. And it shows up in how you communicate to a man. Masculine, feminine polarity is really the only thing that creates long term attraction, passion and interest in a relationship with a man that you want. And so in order to do that, your speech, your verbalization of your desires, your needs, your issues, your challenges all need to be channeled. They don't have to be, but they will be mostly received by him in a positive way when they are communicated through your feminine core, through your heart, to him, so that he understands what you are actually communicating. And so the big principle I'm going to teach you today with this is called never ask, never, never tell, always ask, never tell, always ask. Just like the title of this video, never tell a guy these things and never tell him anything, particularly about your desires. Instead, ask here's the reason why and I'll give you some examples of this in a little bit. When you tell a man, especially when you tell a man what to do, you are in masculine energy. You are communicating to him that his desires, that you are in charge, you are directing him just like a little puppy, just like a little child. And ultimately what a man will feel from that is that he is disrespected. He will feel disrespected. He will feel like a child, like you're the mommy and he's this little boy that's being told what to do, how to do it. We even have clients who say basic things to a man, like, let's go to the beach, or let's go on a walk. Well, saying, let's go to him, that is telling him what to do. You are guiding, you are directing him, and he has to follow your lead. Now, he is in the feminine, and he has to submit to you in order to go along with it. Whenever you're telling a man what to do, whenever you're in masculine energy in general, a man really only has three choices. He either has to submit to your leadership and go into his feminine and say, yes, dear, okay, let's do what you have what you want to do, or let's do what you're telling me to do. And then what will happen over time is his masculine sense of self will diminish. He'll lose connection to his masculine core, and eventually he will become depressed and likely start pulling away. Number two is a man will start arguing with you, he will get defensive. He will start fighting with you because he feels disrespected, he feels controlled. He doesn't want to feel that way. He doesn't want to go into his feminine. So he's going to fight you just like he would fight with another guy who was telling him what to do or disrespecting him. It'll become an argument, and that's going to become toxic for your relationship as well. Eventually, he'll likely pull away from that. And then the third option is that a man will simply shut down and likely start pulling away right then and there. He will either shut down the conversation, he will walk away, or he will leave. And so really, all three of these potential outcomes end with the relationship dissolving over a long enough period of time. And so you want to avoid these, because neither of them are going to get you what you like, what you want, which is to have his devotion, to have a man who cares about you, who cherishes you, who wants to serve you and make you happy, and wants to meet your needs, enjoys hearing about your needs, enjoys hearing about your feelings and your thoughts. He wants to know how he can help if he cares about you and if he's not a broken man. Now, of course, a broken man, no matter how well you communicate in your feminine, no matter how connected you are to your feminine core, he's still going to feel disrespected, he's still going to start pulling away at some point, or he'll start doing weird things or potentially abusive things because he's deeply broken. So that is a caveat. There is a percentage of men out there, around 10 to 15%, who are deeply broken as well as women. And so you ought to watch out for that. And that's why we have our 90 day challenge to see what kind of man you're dealing with over time. So how does this show up in relationships? So we started with never tell a man. So never tell him. What are some of the big ways you tell a man? Through your speech, through saying things like directives that are telling him specifically which direction to go. The other way is through trying to control him, trying to change him. These are often coming out as you saying things, and I'm going to go to some specific examples in a second that are leading him in some way, that are directing him in some way, that are trying to change or manipulate him in some way. And they're ultimately going to again, cause some of those outcomes that we talked about. He will fight you, he will pull away, or he will close up, or he will submit. That's the other one. He will submit to you and into his feminine and become depressed at some point. You know, Matthew 7:7 from the Bible said, ask and it will be given to you. Seek and you will find. Knock and the door will be open. So that is what we're looking for here. The difference between telling. The main feminine opposite of telling is asking when you can ask properly, when you can ask nicely. You might say respectfully from your feminine making that request, speaking up, and actually verbalizing what's in your heart, verbalizing your feminine core, what your desire is that allows him to know what is going on for you. And it's very important because for one, a man doesn't know all the time what you want and what you feel. Men are not good mind readers. They need it clearly laid out for them, oftentimes a plan for how he can make you happy. If you assume that your man does want to make you happy, that every masculine connected man who has any level of interest or care in you wants to make you happy, then what do they need? The more masculine they are, especially, they're going to need clear guidance, like a shining light, a signal that shows him how he can win with you, how he can make you happy. And so that's what your asking does. By speaking up, you are verbalizing to him what's in your heart. You're letting him know, but you're doing it in a respectful, vulnerable way, which is the essence of magnetic feminine communication. And so that's where it starts asking so that it can be given to you. John 16:23 also said, until now you have asked for Nothing in my name. Ask and you will receive that your joy may be complete. It's a very similar quote as well. Both of these came from Jesus. That is the power of asking rather than demanding, rather than being in fear, rather than faith and being fearful that you're not going to get your requests met, because that's the reason. Actually, we can go deeper into that before we get to our examples here. A big reason why so many women tell instead of ask, which is the same reason why so many women are in their masculine energy rather than their feminine energy, is because they don't believe they are worthy. They have worthiness issues and they believe that in order to get their needs met, they have to demand it, they have to take it, they have to manipulate in order to be taken care of. Because nobody's going to take care of me. That's the belief that they may have. A lot of women do have. Nobody's going to take care of me. I can't rely on men. I can't be loved. So I have to do it to myself. I have to provide for myself. I can't, I don't, I don't need no man. I'm going to be an independent woman, a boss babe, and I'm just going to, to, to count on me because I've been let down in the past. I've had men who have hurt me, abused me, done bad things, broken my trust, and so I'm just going to throw that away and I don't need any man anymore. And we want to be careful with that because we don't want to throw away the baby with the bath water. Yes, there are some bad apples out there. Like I said, there are broken men out there. And it's a spectrum of how broken a man may be because we all have some issues and there's also, there's some brokenness that we all have. However, most men have the ability to connect to their masculine energy in a healthy way and actually take care for of a woman and a woman that they, that they care about and that they love. And so what we want to do moving forward for you is start to shape your beliefs that you can take, be taken care of, that the universe is a friendly place, and that there are many men out there who want to take care of you, who, that you're also attracted to, you're excited about, who you could rely on, who are strong, who are powerful, who want to create a good life for you once you are connected in this way. And even the man you may be specifically interested in right now. You can awaken up, you can wake up that power within him, that hero ability, that hero instinct to want to be that for you, to want to take care of you in that way. When you enter your feminine essence and you communicate in the right way, you can inspire him to do that for you. And here's the beauty of this. Because yes, with worthiness issues, we have to work on your self esteem, we have to work on your core beliefs and how you see yourself and how you see men and how you see relationships to create new lenses to look through that you are worthy, you are good enough, you are lovable, you can be adored, you can be cherished, and that there are also men out there that can adore you, that can take care of you, that want to help you, that want to serve you. Quality men. And then to take it to the next level, that relationships can be loving, that relationships can be simple, fun and easy, that relationships can be enjoyable. That it's. It's possible for you to have a healthy, loving, committed relationship with a quality man. That. That is possible. And relationships can be enjoyable, they can be safe, they can be happy, they can be healthy. So to start to look at some of these beliefs that'll unlock your ability from an energetic place to actually be able to communicate from your feminine core and use magnetic feminine communication. So it's a very important piece as well to look at that inner worthiness. So a worthy woman believes that she is worthy of being taken care of. She is worthy, therefore, of asking for what she wants. She's worthy of speaking up and doing it. And she'll do it in a graceful, respectful way because she doesn't have to demand, she doesn't have to control, she doesn't have to push a man or manipulate a man to get what she wants. That men want to give to her. That of course they want to give to her. Because she's amazing, she's beautiful, she's fantastic, she's magnificent, she is the prize, she's a gift. And then when you ask vulnerably, you give a man that glimpse that you are worthy, that you are worthy of being taken care of. He take, he gets that message and he starts to believe, oh, she must be worthy. So I should treat her like that. I should give to her. I want to give to her. I want to make her happy. I re. I value her because of that. And so you do want to speak up, you want to verbalize your requests rather than what a lot of women do, which is being Silent, keeping it in, stuffing it under the rug and not saying anything, even when there is an issue, even when there is a problem, even when she does have some needs or desires that aren't being met. So to be able to speak up is very important aspect of being the queen. But being able to do it in the right way, the graceful, respectful, vulnerable way, that's what unlocks your feminine capabilities and makes a man actually treasure, value and want to devote himself to you long term and commit himself. So it's a very important key. So a worthy woman is willing to ask, she speaks up, she believes her needs are going to be granted. And then here's the thing, if a man doesn't grant you your needs, doesn't grant you your wishes over a period of time, using our Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, for example, and he hasn't started doing that for you and to you, providing for you, protecting you, cherishing you, adoring you, loving you, etc, then you're likely dealing with a broken man who isn't capable of being that for you because he's broken. And we need to find that out sooner rather than later. So you know what kind of man you're dealing with. And you don't waste more time, you don't waste precious years of your life hoping for a change or hoping for devotion from a man who's not even capable of giving it. You have to be able to test a man in that sense to see what he is able to do and what kind of man he actually is. And over time what you'll find is is the trajectory will start becoming positive where he's showing more and more care for your heart over time. He's meeting your requests, he's wanting to help you, he's wanting to make you happy rather than a broken man who is not really making any changes in the positive direction or is even going downhill and not showing care for you, pulling away, potentially being abusive, then you have to walk away. You have to be willing to walk away from those situations when a man isn't being that for you, because that's also how you ultimately hold your value as a woman, is your ability to walk away from a bad situation. So I'm going to share some of those examples here that I have to show you exactly what that looks like when you are asking rather than telling. So here we go here. So masculine telling, you need to call me more often. The feminine asking version of that would be, may I ask if we can talk a little more often? It's basically the same statement. But how it is framed makes all the difference because it determines what energy it's coming from, whether you're in your masculine energy or you're in your feminine energy. And even if you add the nice word like please, it's still telling him what to do. Please text me back when you get there. Instead of, may I ask if you could text me when you arrive? The feminine version, the graceful version, the respectful, vulnerable version, that's much more likely to get a positive response from him. So again, always ask, never tell. Here's the other one. Stop doing that. Instead of may ask if we can try it a different way, or may ask if you could please stop. You could also say that, too. May ask if we could do something else. May I ask if you can. And if a man is ever crossing your boundaries and making you feel unsafe, then just feel free to throw all this out and just say stop and get out of that situation. Do whatever you have to. If a man's making you feel unsafe, then go. Go into your masculine. Who cares? At that point, you have to. You have to be physically safe at some point if you're with a man like that. So take that as a caveat as well. Throw this out. If you're ever in an abusive situation, you got to get out of that. The next one is plan something nice for once, as opposed to may I ask if you may ask you to plan something special for us? Or what I would say is my ask if you can plan something special for us tonight. Beautiful. It's not chasing him. It's not pursuing him. It's simply you putting your desire out there and putting it out in a direct, simple way. You don't have to justify it. You don't have to add on a bunch of fluff. Now, of course, you can add honorifics that we teach as well, such as saying, my hero or my king or my boss or boss or sir or Mr. Or master or my gladiator, my dragon, my dragon, king or my lion, commander, whatever is fun for you. You can add some of these in as well, which adds that extra spice to this. But the basic principles hold here. The next one is listen to me or listen to me when I'm speaking to you. Instead of, may I ask if you could slow down for a second so I can feel heard? It's powerful. Open up to me. Open up to me, please. Instead of, may I ask what's on your mind? The feminine version, we're doing this versus may I ask what you'd like to do or what? A lot of women will say things like let's go or let's do this, or let's. Let's. Let's go see this movie or let's go to this restaurant. Rather than may I ask what you'd like to do? Or may I ask if we could so you could also even say directly what you would like to do. So let's say. Instead of saying let's go to the beach, you say, may I ask if we could go to the beach today? What do you think? Or may ask if we can go to the beach today, please? So that's also putting out a direct request. It doesn't have to be just what, what do you want? Or what do you think? But it could also. You could also state your specific desire and then ask for help with that next one. Take out the trash. Instead of may I ask if you could take out the trash or take care of the trash for me? Make a decision versus May I ask what we should do? You should know what I need. Versus May I ask to share what would make me feel loved? I need you to help me more around the house versus May I ask you to help me out with this tonight or help me out with the house tonight? Or help me out with the house more today? Now, it's very helpful as well to make your requests actually as specific as possible. So instead of may I ask if you could help me out more around the house? Make it more specific. May I ask you if you could help take out the trash once a week during in the house? Or may I ask if you could help me clean up the the countertops tonight? You know, whatever it is, this is just a common example with domestic issues and married couples. It's kind of a a trope that is passed around, but it's useful to get an idea for how any kind of issue can be addressed in your relationship. Not this, just the domestic ones. Calm down. Versus May I ask if we could take a breath together? Please be on time this time. Versus May I ask what time you think you'd be. You'll be ready, pay attention. Versus May I ask if I can have your full attention? Please stop ignoring me Verse. May I ask if you could check in with me when you have a moment, tell me what's going on? Versus May I ask what you're thinking about right now? Also, instead of stop ignoring me or what are you doing or why haven't you messaged me? You could also just ask, may I ask if we can talk on the phone? When you're next available or I would love to connect with you. Can I, may I ask, or can I ask if we can see each other this weekend or spend some time this weekend? Again, it's not leading because you're putting your request out there. Now he has the ability, because you asked permission. You used the permissive. You were asking instead of telling. Now he has the ability to say yes or no. That actually gives him his sense of masculine sovereignty, which men like. Men like being able to feel that they are an individual, that they're not at your beck and call, that they're not your slave, they're not your little puppy, or they're not a little child that's doing whatever you ask. But he has the ability to say no. And sometimes he may say no, which is part of the asking. The power of asking is to be okay with from your feminine that he may say no, he may say no, and that's okay. That's part of detaching from the outcome. And that's part of you being in your feminine and giving him that masculine leadership in your relationship so that he has the choice. He's not your little puppy. He's not your child. He's not your slave. And you're not entitled to, to his provision. You're not entitled to his protection or other gifts. It's a gift that he gives to you. And the more he actually sees it as a gift he's giving to you, the more he's going to feel empowered and good about himself, that he is a valuable man, that he has something to offer. And then, of course, when he does do these things for you, appreciate the heck out of him and say thank you and let him know how it makes you feel. All right, the next one, Tell me what's going on versus may I ask what you're thinking about now? I need you to do it now versus may I ask when you think you could do that? Don't forget, versus may I ask if you can handle that when you're next able to fix it? Versus may I ask if you could please help me with this? So I think you got the basic idea of how. How these sound like and how to use these examples in your relationship. So it's powerful. Remember, asking instead of telling will unlock so much with your relationships with men. Because by default, you are in your feminine. Now, of course, this is just in a way, a communication technique. It has to come from an authentic place. It has to come from your feminine core where you really are trusting him. You really are letting go of control. You're. You really are opening up and letting him in and giving up that, that holding on to the steering wheel that you have to always make things happen or that he's not going to take care of you. So there is an inner aspect of this, like I talked about before, where you have to start believing that you're worthy. But the beautiful thing is that the outer can also shape the inner. So that the more you are practicing these techniques you're using magnetic feminine communication, the more likely also that you are start going to start believing that you're worthy. Because what's going to happen is men are going to start giving to you more, men are going to start doing things for you more, and they're going to be helping you. And even if they don't, just the fact that you put yourself out there in that way is going to start building your confidence that maybe there is. Maybe you actually do deserve. That maybe you actually do deserve to be taken care of. And if you're not getting that response back from men, there may be some other energetic block that you're having around your masculine energy where you still may be subtly trying to manipulate or control or change a man versus letting him be and letting him serve you, letting him be the hero. And you're trying to give, give, give to him rather than receiving, which is feminine. So there may be an inner block that you're still having or you're not around the right kind of men, you're in the wrong environment, you're not attracting the right kind of quality men to you, which we need to address that as well. What is it inside of you, which may be even a deeper worthiness issue that makes you believe that there are no quality men out there or that no quality men would be interested in you, or that you're not a quality woman. So we need to start looking at these inner beliefs so that we can shape your energy back to your feminine core so that you can magnetize that devotion and care from the men around you. Masculine energy that will want to serve you. So I'm going to start answering some questions here now about this, so post them below. And then also if you want to take this to the next level and really master these principles, get the advanced strategies of magnetic feminine polarity. Magnetic feminine communication work on your worthiness as well to be the best woman you can be, be connected to who you actually are as a woman from the beginning. Take our free quiz by clicking the link in the description or comments below or go to our website, magnetize your man.com or you can click on our bio to get that as well. And you'll get these advanced strategies personalized to you and get coaching support from us with your specific situation. Highly recommend that. All right, so let's look at what kind of questions we have coming in from here today. Pamela said, excellent advice. Thank you for this important reminder. You're welcome, Pamela. Shirley said, thank you for this. You're welcome, Shirley. And then Ardley said, I understand using the word may I implies asking for permission. Yes, yes, yes, it does. It's a bit disingenuous. Okay, now that's why I would question. Why do you think asking for permission is disingenuous? We want to look at that. I'll read the rest of your question as well. Most men would think it's phony. Hey, it's my opinion. I tried it before and I was asked if I were AI. So most men will think it's phony. So again, this are stories, stories that it's disingenuous or that it's phony. Now, here's the reason why it may not be working for you potentially is because you're not used to it. You're used to still potentially operating from a masculine energy, which a lot of women are in this day and age. They're still used to trying to get what they want, claiming what they want, operating from a place of trying to control the situation, typically because they're anxious. Anxious attached women. Attachment women are typically some of the most masculine women as well because they're anxious. So they feel like they have to grab the steering wheel, they have to take control and, and they're energetically overriding the man or they're energetically penetrating him and that's causing him to feel this disconnect where you're still coming across as masculine, but then your language sounds feminine. And he's confused. And that's where it may sound disingenuous. He's like, well, you're a masculine woman, but then you're also communicating like a high value feminine woman. And I'm confused. I don't know what, what to make of this. So that can be one possibility. And I'm glad you're sharing this already. This is a great, great question to address here. And so, and then that story that most men think it's phony, well, that's a story and we don't know what they're thinking or feeling unless their actions show it to you. Now here's the other thing with our 90 day challenge. If you're with a specific man, sometimes he has to learn to get used to you being in your feminine because he's used to you being a certain way before where you were energetically penetrating him, you were telling him what to do, you were starting arguments or subtly trying to change him or manipulate him or control him, or having trust issues. You're also energetically blocked, perhaps, where you're not being vulnerable enough, you're not being open enough, you're not receiving enough, and you're trying to give, you're trying to provide for him and you're leading. And so he may not be used to you, just like in a dance. He may not be used to you being in your feminine, just like in a dance, which this is like learning a dance. It's like learning a new language. It may seem foreign to you at first, but that's what any good dance teacher will help you with, and that's what any good process and dance will teach you, is that you got to learn it one step at a time. You have to practice it often. Me and my wife are taking tango dance classes right now, and we're learning that as we go. You have to get the basics first. You have to get the rhythm, the tempo, the. The basic moves, the basic steps. And then eventually it'll feel weird. Weird. It may feel a little disingenuous, it may feel a little phony. Just like also, if you're learning a new language, you're speaking, you're getting some of the words right, but then some of the other, other words are a little off, or the grammar is not proper. And so it'll feel a little weird, a little strange. But then as you get to know it, as you practice it, it gets easier and easier and easier. And then eventually you can just dance. Eventually it just flows. And yes, I will say you don't have to say the exact same words every time. You don't have to say, may I ask, every time. But I do recommend it. And I recommend it because that's the most feminine way I have found to ask properly from. For what you need, for whatever desire it is you have. It's the most feminine. It'll activate his masculine the most. Like I said, a man still may not be used to it. So it may take some time also for him to learn the dance on his side, for him to reconnect to his masculine. Because through the law of polarity, the more feminine you become, the more masculine he is going to be inspired into. And the men around you, you're going to attract more masculine, healthy energy. And so he may still need to get used to it. He might be a more feminine guy, he might be a broken man. Like I said before, you may be attracting more feminine, broken men into your life because of worthiness issues or because of you being in your masculine or anxious attachment. So it may take an adjustment period where you're learning this, you're practicing it. It doesn't mean that it's wrong. It doesn't mean that it's not going to work for you. It just may mean you need to practice it more, you need to use it more. And also with your guy so that he gets more comfortable with it, he gets more used to it and how to actually be in his healthy, masculine and be your hero and actually meet your needs and actually help you and feel what it feels like again to be respected, to be honored, to be revered from his masculine core so that he is your king. He feels more like your king. He feels like a king when he's with you and he wants to serve you as his queen, as his princess, his cherished love. So it just may take a bit of time on his end as well to learn these principles. So you don't have to say, may I ask all the time. You could say, can you, Can I? Or could I? Or would it be okay if. And so that way you can have a little bit of variety with that. But you should still always ask instead of tell. Because every time you tell, just realize you are penetrating him energetically. You are, like in sex, you are the man, you are penetrating him. You are pumping into him your masculine energy. And he now has to receive and take it and submit and, and follow your penetration, follow your leadership. And it's going to reverse the dynamic, it's going to reverse the polarity. So that's another danger is if your man isn't letting you ask permission, if he's saying, no, I want you to be in charge. I want to follow your lead. Like, please, just tell me what to do. Just speak directly to me and just tell me what to do. Then that's going to cause issues later on. You may think, oh, that feels kind of good right now I can just be direct with him and tell him exactly what to do. But over time, he's going to rely on you for that. He's going to start becoming less devoted, less committed, less active in your relationship. He'll be investing less and less and you'll be having to do more and more. And all of a Sudden the polarity is completely thrown out, the attraction chemistry is completely thrown out. He loses attraction for you, you start to lose attraction for him, and the relationship goes down this downward spiral that we often talk about. So it may just take some practice and, and it may also take some building up of your worthiness and also some getting used to it on his end. But like I said, you can, you can use some variety in the beginning, you can try it in different ways, but I would never recommend throwing it out. I would always recommend practicing asking permission with a man, especially a man that you're romantically interested in. And this will start improving all of your relationships. It's not just going to help with your man that you're romantically interested in, but it'll help with family members, especially masculine family members, friends, colleagues. It works very well in the workplace. And people will just start wanting to help you more. They'll want to do stuff for you more, they'll be more happy to be around you. The men will feel lifted up, they will feel empowered. They will feel really good when they're around you. And they won't even know why, because they feel respected, because they feel appreciated, admired and valued for their masculine gifts. And they feel more drawn to you. They'll feel some level of attraction, whether that's romantic or just from a, a social level. They will feel drawn to you. So it's very powerful and I would never let go of it completely. Now, occasionally, when you're in a, in a deeper relationship, married romance, like a exclusive relationship, then you can start to occasionally, you know, say some things. You don't always, always have to ask permission. But when it's a desire that you have, when it's like a real desire that you have some request that you have for him, an issue, a problem, you always want to start with asking. That's what I would recommend. Always start with asking first because it'll just keep. It's like a little. It's like in the bowling alleys when they have the guards around the rails so that the bowling alley, the bowling ball doesn't fall into the gutter. Like, you don't want your relationship to fall into the gutter. So it's like a protection just to make sure it's almost like relationship insurance that it avoids going to there and then what will also happen over time, this is the other caveat, is you're going to start feeling more connected to your feminine core and you're going to enjoy it more, more and more and more. And you're going to start wondering, why did I ever not do this? Why was I ever in my masculine. I love receiving. I love having men do things for me. I love having men meet my needs and meet my desires and not having to tell them what to do, not having to demand, not having to try to change them or manipulate them. And it'll just flow a lot better. You're in that dance with him now and now and you're like, why did I ever try it? Why did I ever do it differently? Because what's happening over time is you're connecting more to your feminine core. Because remember, we're not changing who you are. We're not telling you to be anything different than who you really are. But what that's the key is who you really are. Who you really are at your core is what we're bringing you back to when you were born as God stitched you together in your womb as a woman, you had a feminine core. You have a feminine piece of you. It's in your DNA. And what we're helping you to do is come back to that. Come back to home where you can be expressed, you can be fully vulnerable, fully open and receiving and being taken care of the way you were designed from a man who cherishes you because he will feel that from you as well. So hope just some more insights into that. I see a lot of other questions here from you as well, Ali. I'll see if what others I can address. Address. I just address alternatives to May I? I would also recommend, by the way, adding in the word please. That can always help too. Adding in please adds a little fluff to it. You can also occasionally add in the words I would love. I would love. You can add in there as well or I feel so you can share some of your feelings in there. This goes into more advanced strategies that we teach around magnetic feminine communication. And then you could also add the honorifics that I talked about earlier, like saying boss or my king or my hero or daddy or my love or sexy or handsome. You can add in those words as well to really activate his masculine and turn on the heat in a way. So she said most people do not have etiquette. Yes, it's true. A lot of people don't have etiquette. So they're not used to it. They're not used to interacting with respectful people and what it feels like. But then when they get used to it, they realize, oh, I should. I should step up my game as well. I should be more respectful also. I should Be. I really like this. I want to spend more time with. With her, and I want more people to be like her. I wish more people, more women were like her as well, because it's really. It's really awesome. Once he gets more connected to his masculine core, he's going to see you as very special and very unique, and you're going to stand out much more from the other women that he may interact with. But it's also filtering process. Like I said, it's also filtering. Are the men you're interacting with, are they actually quality men or not? Are they broken men or not? So you'll see over time how they actually start responding when you're in your feminine, what do they do? Do they act weird? Do they not like it? Do they try to push you back into your masculine. Do they want you to lead you? They want you to. To tell them what to do, to penetrate them? Like, this is obviously a man who's broken in some way. And why would you want to be with a man like that? So it's filtering. Also in the 90 day challenge, what kind of man you're dealing with so that you can attract a quality man into your life who does want to take care of you, who does want to devote, who is able to first and foremost, and then it's going to be a lot easier for you. Okay, so let's see what other questions we have here. So she said, what about Ali? Already also said, how about using the alternative to may I ask, check in with me with. Whenever you have a spare moment, I'd appreciate if you could circle back with me. No, no, because it's still telling him what to do. I mean, it's, it's still, it's saying your desire. So it's not the worst thing you're saying. Like, I appreciate. I would actually change that to I would love. But then you can just add in, like, you're still telling it. You're just, you're simply putting your desire out there. I would love if you can check in with me. If you could circle back with me, that's okay. But it's not as great as. So I wouldn't say that's the most masculine thing. You're not technically telling him what to do. You're sharing your. Your desire. You're sharing a feeling. But it'd be even more powerful if you said, I would. I would love if you could circle back in with me when you have a spare moment. May I ask. I. I would love. So here's how I'D phrase it, Man. Well, I would actually just phrase it as, may I ask if you could circle back in with me when you have a spare moment? I would love to reconnect with you. That's actually how I would phrase it. That's how I'd recommend. But you could also say, I would love if you could circle back with me when you have a spare moment. May ask what you think about that, or may ask if that would be okay with you, or may I ask if that sounds good to you? Something like that. Because you had that permission piece. Otherwise it is. It's on the verge of telling him what to do. It's on the verge of saying, like, oh, I would love if you take out the trash, versus may I ask if you could take out the trash? It's more direct. It's making it a clear request rather than just putting out a vague desire. And it's giving him the ability to say no. Because if you just say, I would love if you could take out the trash, he can't say no to that. And you actually want him to be able to say no to that because that gives him a sense of masculine ownership that allows him to take the lead. Because then if he says yes, it was his choice. It was his choice to say yes, and rather than being. Being manipulated into it. So you want to give him that sovereignty. That's what the masculine energy is all about, is that sovereignty to be able to act, to lead, to give, to do from a place of choice rather than from a place of obligation or entitlement. So a little. Some more distinctions with that. And she said, words have power. Definitely. All right, so let's see what other questions we have here. All right, so. All right, a couple more here. Yes. So Artie also said, I think I'm going to use may I to rule out feminine men and bounce. I remove myself. Yes, totally. It is a great filter. A great filter. Now, there's other things. This is just one aspect of magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication. It's powerful, but it's only one aspect. So there's a lot more that you would use to really feel into and get to know who these guys are and to really kind of test who these guys are. But it's definitely a great filter to see what kind of man you are dealing with. And lady, Ms. Coppertone said, may we reconnect later? Yes, that's good too. May I ask if we can reconnect later? I like the phrasing of may I ask? Because it's almost a double permission. It's like you're asking before you ask. And so it's even more feminine you might say. So it really turns it up. Especially if you use the word please, if you use honorifics, if you maybe weave in your desire, your feeling and it gets really great. Now you're fully operating from your feminine so all right, I gotta wrap this up for day today. Hope this was helpful. Don't have time to answer any more questions. But if you again would like to take this to the next level, learn our advanced strategies on magnetic Feminine polarity, Magnetic feminine communication, all the rest that's available to you as well as the deep inner work to becoming this kind of woman, becoming the most feminine magnetic woman you can be. Then I highly recommend taking our free quiz by clicking on the link in the description below. That's where it all starts. You'll get your top recommendation and have us customize and personalize this for your specific situation. 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