The "Stripper" Method for Unlocking Your True Feminine Self

If you've been feeling like you've lost your feminine energy recently, like you've been stuck in your masculine and you can't seem to get out of it, then this video is for you. Almost all women go through seasons where they lose their feminine spark, where they're over functioning, overthinking, controlling, directing and doing everything themselves. It happens. And I've seen it with thousands of women. Heck, I've even seen it with my wife Anya through different seasons of our 11 year marriage. But here's the thing, you don't have to stay there. And these five things that I'm about to share with you, they will bring that magnetic feminine energy back. This is my foolproof plan and it works every single time. Hey, I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife anti, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to attract a loving, long term, committed relationship with a man they want without wasting years on heartbreak or unavailable men. So if that's something you want, if you want to step in your power as a woman, tap into your magnetic feminine energy and become radiant to quality men, then you should subscribe and stick around. And if you want more from me than just my video here, you can always take our free love quiz. It's going to give you your personalized roadmap to get the relationship you want with the man you want. That link is in the description below. So let's get your magnetic feminine spark back. And just so you know, all the things I'm going to talk about, they all build on one another and they feed off one another. So you'll find that once you start doing one thing, all the other things will often feel easy for you as well. It's kind of like a ripple effect, getting your magnetic feminine energy back. In the beginning, it often feels like it's happening slowly, but then all of a sudden it happens for you all at once. And that's because everything feeds off of one another. And you'll see what I mean as we get into this. So point number one is to stop energetically penetrating your life. So here's the first thing, and you're probably not going to like hearing this, but I'm going to say it anyways because it's the truth. If you've lost your magnetic feminine energy, it's because you've been energetically penetrating everything and everyone around you. Now, what do I mean by this? You've been telling people what to do. You've been taking Charge. You've been making all the decisions. You've been managing everyone's lives, including his. You've been initiating everything. You've been planning everything. You've been controlling outcomes. You've been problem solving before he even asks you to. You've been living from masculine energy. And listen, I get it. You've probably had to do this at some point because maybe you grew up in chaos and you had to take control to feel safe. Maybe you've been single for so long that you've had to do everything yourself. Maybe you've been with men who weren't leading, so you stepped up. Maybe your career demands that you be in your masculine all day long. I understand. I get it. There's no shame in that. But here's what's happening. Your energy, your life force as a woman, it's scattered everywhere. You're in everyone's business. You're managing, directing, controlling outcome. Initiating. You're penetrating outward instead of radiating inward, which is feminine. Think about it like this. In the ancient world, the sun was seen as masculine energy. The sun penetrates, it reaches out, it pursues, it gives. But the moon. The moon is feminine energy. The moon radiates, it glows, it attracts, it receives. When you're in your masculine, you're trying to be the sun. You're trying to penetrate everything around you. But as a woman with feminine essence at your core, you are, in a lot of ways, more like the moon. Proverbs 31 talks about the virtuous woman. And. And you know what it says? Her husband has full confidence in her. Why? Because she's not trying to control or manage him. She's not telling him what to do. She's not penetrating him. She's radiant. She's magnetic. She's in her feminine power. And he's inspired to lead her. Well, because of it. So the first step to getting your magnetic feminine energy back is to stop energetically penetrating your life, pull the energy back in and start attracting the energy to you. Stop initiating with him all the time. Stop telling him what to do. Stop managing his life. Stop. Stop solving his problems before he even knows they exist. Stop planning everything. Stop controlling outcomes. Now, I know this may sound counterintuitive, and you're probably thinking, but, Brody, if I don't do it, then nothing will happen. And you know what? You might be right with that man. Nothing might happen. And that's actually valuable information, isn't it? Because a quality man, a man with healthy masculine energy, when you pull your energy back in, when you stop Energetically penetrating him. He's going to step forward and want to penetrate you. He's going to start pursuing you. He's going to start planning. He's going to start providing and protecting and leading. And if he doesn't, then you've just saved yourself years of being in a relationship with a broken man where you have to be in your masculine just to keep the relationship alive, being his mommy. Okay, so pull your energy back in and redirect it towards yourself. Close those energy leaks, stop penetrating outwards and start radiating inwards. And practically, what does this actually look like? Stop texting him first all the time. Stop asking him what he's doing. Stop trying to make plans with him. Stop sending him articles and memes, trying to stay on his mind. Let him come to you. Stop telling your co workers and other people how to do their jobs. Stop managing your friends problems. Stop trying to fix everyone around you. Just stop, Breathe, radiate. Watch what happens. And when you pull your energy back in, you create space. You create in that space. Masculine energy rushes to fill. That's polarity, that's physics. That's how God designed it. And this is the foundation for everything else I'm about to share with you. Point number two is to reconnect with your body. Feminine energy lives in your body. Masculine energy lives in your head. When you've been in your masculine for too long, you've been living entirely in your head. You've been thinking, analyzing, planning, strategizing, problem solving, figuring things out. But your feminine energy, your feminine essence that lives in your body, in your emotions, in your sensations, in your movement, in your heart. Now I'm not talking about crushing your jazzercise workout, although physical movement is a part of it. I'm talking about reconnecting to the aliveness in your body. When did you stop dancing in the kitchen just because it felt good to you? When did you stop wearing clothes just because they made you feel sexy? When did you stop moving your hips when you walk? When did you stop feeling. Feeling the pleasure on your skin just for the sake of the pleasure, not because it's productive or optimal or efficient? You know one thing that really stood out to me about Auntie when we were dating in the early stages of our marriage is that oftentimes she would randomly break into what we called a happy hippo dance. And she just start jumping up and down, singing, expressing joy from her body. Not because she was trying to be cute or get my attention, but just because joy was just bubbling out from inside of her. And her body wanted to express it. And. And you know what? That was magnetic as heck to me, because feminine energy is about expression. It's about aliveness. It's about being present in your body and letting that energy move through you and express itself. The Bible says in Nehemiah, the joy of the Lord is your strength and joy, true joy that comes from your body. It comes from your radiant, alive, present feminine energy. So how do you reconnect with your body? So start by moving, dancing, put on music, move your hips, close your eyes. Or go for a walk outside and start to feel your feet on the ground. Feel the sun on your skin, Feel the wind in your hair. Wear clothes that feel good on your body, not just clothes that look professional or practical. Cook yourself a beautiful meal or make yourself a delicious drink and actually taste it. Don't just shovel food into your mouth while you're on the phone or on your laptop or helping your family with something. Take a bath. Light some candles. Feel the water on your skin. Feel the steam in your hair. Use some essential oils and breathe deeply. You know, most women who are stuck in their masculine energy are breathing shallow breaths up in their chest. That's masculine breathing, you know, Feminine breath is deep, slow breaths down in your belly, down in your womb. Right now, wherever you are, take a breath. Let's do it together. Feel it all the way down in your belly. Feel your body expand. Feel yourself soften. That's your feminine energy coming back online for you. And here's the thing. When you're disconnected from your body, men can feel it. They can sense that you're not present, that you're not available, that you're not receptible. You're in your head. But when you're in your body, when you're present, when you're alive and radiant, men are magnetically drawn to that. They can't help it. It's how God wired them. At some of our live events in our workshops, we used to say, get in your head and you're dead. Get in your heart and you're smart, because that's where your aliveness actually lives as a woman. That's where your feminine energy lives. Your feminine intu. Intuition. And operating from that place is the smartest thing you can do because it creates the future that you actually want. Point number three, practice asking, not telling. All right, so this is a huge piece of the puzzle. If you want to get your magnetic feminine energy back, you need to start asking, not telling. This is one of the core principles we teach in our advanced Magnetic feminine communication course. And it's a game changer for you. When you're in your masculine energy, what do you have a tendency to do? You tell people what to do. You direct, you manage, you criticize, you complain, you judge, you control, you compete. But when you're in your feminine energy, what do you do instead? You ask, you request, you share your feelings. You make yourself vulnerable. Masculine energy gives. Feminine energy receives. Masculine energy leads. Feminine energy follows. So if you want to step into your feminine, you need to practice asking for what you want. Instead of telling people what to do or trying to control the outcome. Instead of saying, we need to talk, you say, may I share something with you? Instead of saying, you never call me, you say, I feel sad when I don't hear your voice. Can I ask for a phone call tonight? Instead of saying, you should just do this or you should just know this, you say, could I share a feeling I have with you? Do you see the difference? When you tell, you're energetically penetrating again, you're directing. You're controlling. It's masculine energy. When you ask, you're opening yourself up to receive. You're inviting. You're signaling. And here's what's crazy. When you ask instead of tell, men actually want to give you what you're asking for. They feel inspired. They get to feel like a hero. They get to feel like a provider. But when you tell him what to do instead, you've completely shifted the dynamic. You've turned him into a child and yourself into a mommy. Even quality men will resist that. Not because they're being stubborn, but because you've just aggravated their masculine energy in a way that creates resistance, not attraction. So start practicing this with everyone in your life. With your man, yes. But also with your friends, your family, your coworkers. Practice asking instead of telling. May I share something with you? Can I ask you for help with something? Could I get your thoughts on something? Would it be okay if we talked about this? When you ask, you're signaling to the world that you're a woman of value. You're a woman who believes she's worthy of getting what she asks for. You're a woman who trusts that people want to give to her. That is magnetic feminine energy. Point number four. Let go of who you think you are to be who you actually are. This one's going to challenge you a bit. If you want to get your feminine spark back, you need to let go of who you think you are and reconnect with who you actually are at your core. Now, here's what I mean. Most women I work with have built their entire identity around their roles. I'm a doctor, I'm a mom, I'm a CEO, I'm a lawyer. I'm a business owner. I'm a project manager. And listen, those are all amazing accomplishments, and I'm not dismissing them. But here's the problem. Those are all masculine identities you've created for yourself. Those are all about what you do, not who you are at your core. And when your entire identity is built around what you do, you're living again from masculine energy. You're living from achievement, from accomplishment, from providing and proving your worth through performance. And that leaves no space for a masculine man in relation to that identity. Because masculine men don't want to compete with you. They don't want to be impressed by your resume. They're not looking for a doctor. They're not looking for a lawyer. They're not looking for a mommy. They want to connect with the woman who's underneath those identities. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to be a stripper. I want you to strip away all of those roles, all of those titles, all of those accomplishments. Strip away all of the things that you've built your masculine identity around. And I want you to reconnect to your feminine core identity, the identity that existed the moment you were born, that God created you to be. The identity that has nothing to do with what you do and everything to do with who you are. Because again, masculine energy is doing. Feminine energy is being. Who are you being? You are a woman. Not a doctor who happens to be a woman, Not a mom who happens to be a woman. You are a woman. That is your core identity. That allows him to be a man in relation to you. That allows a man to have space and come into your life and help and serve you. Another great identity is you are a queen. Not because you earned it, not because you achieved it, because that's who you were created to be. That's your birthright as a woman. You are worthy. You are worthy of being loved. Not because of what you do for people, not because of how much you give or how hard you work or how much you accomplish, but simply because you are. Because you're a woman. Because you are you. And here's the important thing. When you live from a core identity like that, everything shifts. You stop trying to prove your worth through achievement. You stop trying to earn love through performance and show a man how worthy you are. You just are worthy. You Stop trying to be impressive, and you start impressing upon him your feminine energy, and that is truly magnetic. You're not here to be a servant. You're here to be. To radiate, to reflect the glory of God as a woman. That's your core identity. Point number five is to create momentum through vulnerability. When you're stuck in your masculine energy, you're stuck because you're closed off. You're protected. You're guarded. You're controlling outcomes. You're managing risks. You're playing it safe. And that creates stagnation, that creates stuckness. Nothing moves, nothing flows. There's no momentum. But feminine energy is about flow. It's about movement. It's about aliveness and feeling open. So if you want to create momentum, if you want to get unstuck, you have to practice vulnerability. And I know vulnerability can seem scary. I get it. Especially if you've been hurt before. Especially if you've been rejected or abandoned or criticized for being too much or too emotional or too needy. But here's the truth. Vulnerability is the only way back to your feminine energy. You know what the word vulnerability actually means? It comes from the Latin word vulner, which means to wound. To be vulnerable literally means to open yourself to the possibility of being wounded. And a lot of women will hear that and think, hell, no, I'm not opening myself up to being wounded ever again. But here's what you're missing. When you protect yourself from being wounded, you also protect yourself from being loved. You protect yourself from connection. You protect yourself from intimacy, and you protect yourself from joy. You become invulnerable, meaning you're incapable of being wounded, but you're also incapable of being deeply loved. The Bible says in proverbs, guard your heart above all else, for from it flows the wellspring of life. But here's what most people miss. It doesn't say lock your heart away. It says, guard it, meaning, be wise about who you open your heart to, but still have the ability to open it. A castle would be a very lonely place if the gates always stayed shut. So how do you create momentum through vulnerability? You start by sharing your feelings. Practice it with everyone. Not just with him, but with your friends, your family, the people in your life. I'm feeling some anxiety. I'm feeling excited. I'm feeling sadness. I feel so grateful. Then you practice asking for help, even when it feels uncomfortable for you. Can I ask you for help with something? I don't know what to do. Can I get your guidance on this? Then you Start sharing your desires and needs. I would love to spend more time with you. I miss hearing your voice. I need to feel more connected. Can I have a hug? And here's what happens when you do this. When you start being vulnerable, you create momentum for yourself. Things start to move. The wellspring starts flowing again. Men start responding. People start showing up for you and caring about you. Because vulnerability is magnetic. Vulnerability activates the hero instinct in healthy men. It inspires them to provide, to protect, to lead. I've seen this thousands of times with our clients. A woman will come to me, and she'll say, brody, he's pulling away. He's distant. I don't know what to do. And I'll say, have you shared your raw, authentic feelings with him? And she'll say, no, no. I don't want to scare him away. I don't want to seem needy or dramatic. And I'll say, well, that's the problem. You're closed off. He can't actually feel you. He doesn't know how to actually connect with you. You need to open your heart and share your vulnerability with him. And she'll be terrified, but she'll do it. She'll have a conversation where she says, may I share something with you? I feel some fear. I've noticed that we haven't been connecting as much lately. And I'm telling myself that maybe you're losing interest in our connection. And I'm not sure what to do. And you know what happens? Nine times out of ten, he steps up. He comes closer. He reassures her. He makes plans. He leads. Because her vulnerability activated his masculinity. That's the power of vulnerability. It creates momentum. It creates movement in your life. It creates flow. So take the armor off. Stop playing it so safe. Stop being invulnerable. Stop being a wall and start to become a door. And watch your feminine spark come rolling back. So let's integrate what you've learned here. If you want to get your magnetic feminine energy back, stop energetically penetrating your life. Pull your energy back in. Radiate instead. Reconnect with your body. Get out of your head into your heart, your sensations, your aliveness. Practice asking, not telling. Make requests. Share your feelings and be receptive. Connect back to your authentic feminine identity and become who God created you to be from the very beginning and create new momentum in your relationships through vulnerability. Open your heart. Share your feelings. Ask for help. Do these five things, and I promise you, your magnetic feminine spark will come back. And not just back. It'll come back stronger, deeper and more radiant than it's ever been before. I highly recommend taking our free Love Quiz. It's going to give you your personalized roadmap to attract the loving, committed relationship you desire. You can go to our website magnetizeyourman.com to get that, or click on the link in the description or comments below. As a final note, if you feel you've really lost your feminine energy, if you've been stuck in your masculine, now is the time to put your phone down to go do something that makes you feel alive. To go dance in your kitchen. To go put on an outfit that makes you feel sexy. Go for a walk and actually feel your body moving. Feel your hips swaying. Go call a girlfriend and share something vulnerable with her. Start radiating and start being the magnetic, feminine woman you were created to be. I'll be here tomorrow and every day after that. But right now, right now, you actually need to apply this. Thanks for watching and I'll see you soon.