The Truth About Men 97% of Women Never Learn

Men need to feel needed, and they would rather give to you than receive from you. This is because a man's fundamental drive within his masculine core, within his masculine instinct, is to feel valuable, to feel that he can be of service. This is one of the big ways that men and women feel happiness differently. Women want to feel loved and cherished in a relationship. Men want to feel like they have a purpose, that they are needed, valued, admired, appreciated, appreciated and respected. And a big piece of that is knowing that he can provide for you, that he can be the hero for you, that he can make you happy. If a man doesn't feel like he can be a woman's hero because he's not needed, because she is disrespectful to him, she's not valuing or appreciating what he brings to the table, then he's going to start feeling that he can't be part of the relationship anymore. He needs to distance himself. Because it's the same as if a man was to say to a woman that you're ugly, you're unlovable, and I just have no feelings of love for you. That would be the equivalent pain that a man feels when he feels that his woman doesn't respect him, that she's not treating him respectfully, that she's not valuing what he is doing for her or what he can do for her. And if your man is not giving to you, he is not providing for you, then there are ways you can inspire him to start providing for you, to start giving to you in different ways and making you happy through using magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication that we teach. And this is one of the first harsh realities that women need to learn when it comes to men dating and relationships. Now. Hi, I'm Brody Boyd. If you don't know me already, I'm with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife, Auntie, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to attract a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they want. So let's go ahead and continue with these powerful truths. Now, number six is that masculine men primarily show their love through their actions rather than their words. And what this means is the more masculine a man is, the more he's going to feel that he is doing a good job as a partner, through his actions, through taking care of you, through protecting you, through providing, like we mentioned, and showing you in that way that he cares. He may not be constantly telling you how beautiful you are. Or how much he loves you, or what he's thinking and feeling in every moment. But he is showing up, he is taking action, he is solving your problems, helping you with different things, planning dates, moving things forward, checking in with you. So he is doing the actions that demonstrate that, that he cares. Because again, he wants to know that you're happy and that he's making you happy. So he's going to want to do more of those things that make you happy. And the key with this also is that you need to look to a man's actions to know if he actually loves you rather than his words. Because a man who isn't very masculine or who doesn't really love you will say a lot of nice things and they will paint fantasies for you and they will make you feel and believe that, that you are loved by him, that you are cherished by him. However, he's not texting you back, he's not helping you with your feelings. He's not wanting to solve problems and provide for you and be there and be available with his actions. That's a sign that he doesn't actually love you. And, or he's a broken man, or not a masculine man, he's a more feminine man. And it's simply using words as sort of a smoke and mirrors technique to have sex with you or to keep you on a string to so that you are available to him but not really experiencing deep loving commitment. Now, the fifth hidden truth that you want to look out for is that your anxieties and fears about your partner often become self fulfilling prophecies. So if you're constantly accusing your man of cheating on you, or that he's not being a good partner for you, or that he doesn't care about you, or criticizing him in different ways, blaming him for different things, oftentimes the man will start stepping into that role. He'll start stepping into being more of that man that you can't trust, or the man who isn't stepping up or who isn't providing for you. Because in that moment a man is starting to feel disrespected and or mothered or controlled by you, manipulated by you, and just not feeling good, not feeling like a provider. So that's going to inspire him to not do those things. It's going to make that inspiration go to zero so that he's not being the man you want him to be. Conversely, if you tell yourself a positive self fulfilling prophecy about him, such as your man is very loyal, he only cares about you, he's working on improving your relationship. He's doing great things for you. He's wanting to help around the house, he will help around the house or he will help you with a problem that you're experiencing or spending more time with you in your relationship and you start to treat him like that. You start to actually treat him as your hero, believing those things about him and then treating him through your actions and through your words that he does care about you, that he is wanting to make you happy, that he is wanting to be your hero, protector, provider. Then you'll find often that a man will start shifting into that role, that he'll start taking on your beliefs about him because unconsciously he's looking for a roadmap of how to make you happy. And if you're giving him the road map that he's constantly failing, he's probably just going to keep constantly failing because he's falling into that roadmap. However, if you give him a roadmap that's showing him the ways that he can win with you and appreciating him for those things that he is already doing for you and looking for the positive, looking for things to be grateful about what he has done or is doing, then likely he will feel inspired to want to continue to do those things and do more of them because now he has a positive roadmap for how to win and win the game of your heart making you happy in the relationship. So it's very powerful to be aware of. Now before we continue, if you haven't yet and you want to go to more advanced principles with these and actually learn the roadmap to a man's heart, I would highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man you want by going to our website magnetizeyourman.com or you can click on the link in the description or the comments below as well as our free gift to you now. The fourth hidden truth you want to look for and know about men that you may have learned too late, but you're learning them now is that mothering your man can be a major turn off and can create an unhealthy dynamic in your relationship. So what is mothering a man? Mothering a man is when you're anticipating his needs, you're anticipating his thoughts, you are doing things for him, you're giving things to him, such as constantly cooking for him when he didn't ask for it, or cleaning up for him or buying things for him, buying meals, setting up dates, sending him reminders, helping him to choose what outfits to wear, etc. You start to treat him like a child, like you're the mother providing for him, you're responsible for his happiness, you're the hero, protector, provider for him, which is actually a masculine role. You stepped into the masculine and and thereby put him even more into the feminine role where he is now the little child, he's the little boy receiving from you. His sense of responsibility goes away, his sense of ownership over the relationship goes away, and ultimately his self esteem as a man drops and he starts to feel like he's not really needed, he's not really respected in the relationship. If anything, he is being disrespected, he is being devalued and he's being emasculated, feminized in that process. Even if in the moment he might say, oh, this is so nice, thank you. But if it's consistently done where you're the one primarily giving to him and you're mothering him, you'll see over time that he'll start to feel less and less invested in the relationship, less and less attraction for you and desire and devotion, and ultimately he will probably leave the relationship, unfortunately. So you want to watch out for this, this dynamic overall. If you, if you look at your relationship as a whole right now, are you primarily giving to him or is he primarily giving to you? If you are primarily giving to him, you want to stop the madness. There's an old saying, if you find yourself in a hole, stop digging and you want to start inspiring him through principles of magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication that we will teach you advanced principles that'll be really helpful as well. That'll start drawing him to you and inspiring him to give and actually feel devotion and deep sense of love and commitment for you as a man, as a hero for you, taking care of you and making you happy, which will make actually him happier as well, because now he will have a sense of purpose and responsibility in the relationship that perhaps he didn't have before because of the role reversal that you are in. So you need to learn about that as well. Number three is respecting a man even when he doesn't seem to deserve it. Respecting a man even when he doesn't seem to deserve it can inspire him to become better. Now here's the key. Like I said before, women desire to be cherished and loved and adored. Men desire to be respected and trusted and admired. So for you to start activating that masculine feminine polarity which is the Only thing that creates real strong attraction, love, devotion, passion in a relationship long term, you need to start respecting your man. You need to start trusting him and showing him that in small ways and in big ways. And even here's the key, even if you don't feel he deserves it right now, because you're not going to be able to shift the dynamic unless you can go first. Because of the law of polarity, opposite energies attract. Masculine feminine energies attract. If you want to inspire him into more of his masculine, his healthy, masculine love and devotion for you, you need to first start stepping into your healthy, respectful, feminine energy, which is being respectful and vulnerable and appreciative of your man, which will start to then inspire him upwards as well. Because the law of polarity, when you start shifting, he'll naturally shift, which is great because we only have to shift one of you. We don't have to shift him to, to change your whole relationship, we just have to shift one of you. And so if you can shift, your whole relationship can shift. And so you need to go first off, and you might be thinking, well, why should I show him respect? He's not showing me any love and devotion right now. He's not giving me what I need. Well, that would be similar to saying to a man or to a man feeling, I can't love you. I'm not going to show you love until you start respecting me. I'm not going to show any love or devotion to you until you start respecting me. So one person has to go first. It'll shift the dynamic and it'll inspire him into his healthy masculine where he actually wants to give you that love and devotion because he feels now like a healthy, full, fulfilled man in the relationship. So it's a powerful way to shift the dynamic and start drawing him close. Number two. The number two powerful truth, hidden truth about men is that attracting selfish, ungiving men is often a reflection of a woman's own lack of self worth. So here's the gist with this. If you feel that you're not really worthy deep down inside in your unconscious, if you feel that you're not or believe that you're not really worthy to have a man being your hero, a healthy masculine man, an attractive man that you want, if you don't feel worthy of having him be your hero and give and provide for you and want to make you happy, and all you have to do is really be vulnerable and receive that love, that care and devotion, then you're only going to attract selfish, ungiving feminine men who are not wanting to be a hero for you because unconsciously you don't really believe that you deserve it. And that'll come across in many different ways. For example, being more masculine. And if you don't believe that you really deserve to receive a man's love and care, then you're going to start doing that for yourself. You're going to start trying to get it from him, start trying to control him. And that's usually why women will engage in mothering behaviors and controlling and manipulative behaviors with men is they're trying to lead him to give them what they want. Because they don't feel like they're deserving to just have him give it on his own. They feel like they have to do something in order to get a man's love and devotion rather than just being and receiving and being vulnerable and sharing their feelings and using principles of magnetic feminine energy and polarity and communication to get to inspire a man to want to give to you that you don't really have to do anything other than that. Because feminine energy is about being, masculine energy is about doing so. Anytime you're trying to do, you're trying to get something from a man, you're trying to get an outcome, you're trying to get him to give you something and control him in some way. That is you operating out of low self worth. That is you operating out of I don't really believe I deserve this, so I'm going to try to manipulate him into giving me what I want. I'm going to try to control him. So we have to shift that within you and shift your inner self worth to believing that you are a queen, that you are amazing, that you are a quality woman, that you are a feminine woman, that any man would be lucky to be with you and that you deserve the love and devotion from a man from a quality masculine man. And that's easy. That's simple, fun and easy. That's what we have to shift within you in many different ways and levels to get you that point of self worth where you can attract that from a man without having to grasp for it and try to get it from a man. You'll simply just be receiving open and receptive is the feminine way. And then lastly, number one is waiting for a man to figure out your needs is unlikely to lead to happiness. Now there's this old saying, you've heard it before, men aren't mind readers. And often if you're also operating from a sense of low self worth, you're going to Have a hard time telling a man about your needs, telling a man about your problems and asking him for help because you subconsciously believe you don't deserve it. But also you're anticipating that he's going to reject you, that he's not going to want to help you, that he's not going to want to meet your needs. So we have to shift that. And you can't wait for a man to suddenly just magically figure it out on his own what your needs are and how to make you happy and feel inspired. To make you happy, you have to go first. You have to be willing to open up first and allow a man to meet your needs, which involves vulnerability and involves sharing how you actually feel in a respectful way with a man so that he can understand what's going on for you and get it and not feel blamed, not feel attacked, not feel like you're trying to control him, but instead feel inspired to want to give on his own, to want to help you, whether you're feeling anxiety or loneliness or frustration or confusion or disappointment or anger or sadness, that he will feel that and want to actually help you with those emotions from his masculine because you've shared it vulnerably, you've spoken up rather than keeping things quiet and allowed him to actually understand what's going on for you, empathize and feel inspired from his masculine to want to be the hero, to want to help you with those emotions however he can, whether that's just giving you attention, talking with you, understanding the problem more, and then ultimately finding solutions and giving you those solutions to the problem to help you and to bring you both closer. Because now you have a healthy polarity in the relationship. So you have to be able to communicate those needs with him, communicate those problems. And the opposite of that, of what will happen, is if you just are quiet, which we call the doormat archetype. The doormat archetype is quiet. She doesn't speak up. She suppresses her feelings and her emotions because she doesn't want to rock the boat. She doesn't want to risk being rejected, so she doesn't want to risk making a man upset. So she says nothing and she pretends it's all good. Sometimes we also call this Ms. Cool, Ms. Too Cool for School, which is a woman who just, oh, I'm just going to keep it light and fun and just be the fun girl. Be his, like, his buddy. And usually those women end up as friends with benefits or there's no attraction there, or they're actually not valued and respected by the man because he never gets to understand what she actually needs. And oftentimes she will end up repressing those feelings of needs and desires and she'll end up resenting him for not giving her those things and she'll actually do passive aggressive things or there'll be an outburst or she will be stonewalling him because she's resentful and she's wishing that she's expecting him to just know that that's not okay what he said, or that he should just know what she needs and that he should just reach out to her and rather than communicating her feelings using magnetic feminine communication so that he can understand. And so it's going to come out either way. Your needs and desires are going to come out either way. They're going to come out from you healthily communicating those needs and desires and having him actually meet your needs or they're going to come out sideways through passive aggression, stonewalling, trying to get back at him in some way or trying to control and lead him in some way to get you what you want rather than being able to respectfully ask for those needs and desires. So that's a big key that you need to understand about men so that you don't get caught in those situations anymore. So much love. Hope this was helpful and I will talk to you again very soon. Bye bye.