These 8 Things Will Push Him Away (Most Women Don't Know)

Eight surprising things Men Find unattractive. Have you ever wondered, what are the things that turn men off? What are the things that kill his desire for you? In this video, I'm going to give you eight things that men find unattractive. That way you can avoid doing these things and you can keep him desiring you. I'm Kevin Anthony for Magnetize youe man. And I am a certified sexologist, NLP practitioner, and sex, love and relationship coach. For over 10 years, I have been helping men, women, and couples have the relationship of their dreams and the best sex of their lives. All right, let's dive in. So these first four that I'm going to give you all fall under the category of the four Cs. These are things that my wife Celine used to teach women not to do for a very good reason. So, number one is complaining. Nothing turns a man off. Nothing is more unattractive to a man than a woman who is always complaining. This is a very bad habit that a lot of women have gotten into. And they've gotten into this habit because they found, or at least they think anyway, that it's an effective strategy to get us men to do what you want us to do. The problem is it is not a very good motivator. While we may do it just to get the complaining to stop, we're not going to be happy about doing it, and we're probably not going to do it as well as we could or in a timely fashion or any of that type of stuff. And resentment will build up. So complaining is absolutely unattractive to men. And it's really. It's a bad habit if you catch yourself doing it. You have to figure out a way to stop doing the complaining. The next of the four Cs is criticizing. This is another huge one that is really unattractive to us men. A woman who is constantly criticizing could be, you didn't take the trash out. It could be, you know, who knows, you left your clothes on the floor. Now, I'm not saying that bad habits should be ignored. However, how you go about getting what you want or bringing those topics up is really important. You can't do it by criticizing. You have to find positive, constructive ways to have those conversations. Criticizing is another one of those things that over time, even if they're little criticisms, things that maybe you're not, you don't even see as a criticism, but they are heard by us as a criticism. Those little things build up over time and, and then resentment builds. So you really want to do everything you can to avoid criticizing. It is very unattractive. The third of the four Cs is competing. It is really unattractive when our women tries to compete with us. Now what do I mean by that? I don't mean that you can't have friendly competition. You're playing a board game, you can compete, you're doing sports together, you, you can compete against each other. That kind of stuff is perfectly fine. But what we don't want is you constantly competing for pretty much the role of the masculine or always trying to compete with us with just showing up in the relationship, right? So this can be rather unattractive to us men. And it's interesting because people say, well, men love competition. Yes, we do love competition, but we don't want to compete with our partner, we don't want to compete with our woman. We want to compete with our male friends. That's what they're for. We go out on the sports field and we compete, we compete in the workplace, right? We have our outlets for competing. When we come back home to our woman and to our relationship, we don't want to be competing in that as well. So that's another one of those Cs you really want to avoid. Number four on the list and the last of the four Cs is controlling. Another really unattractive behavior that women get into is trying to control their man. This is a really, really bad behavior. We as men need to feel a certain amount of autonomy, independence, self directedness, right? And so when a woman is constantly trying to control us, every little thing that we do, always telling us how to do something, what to do, what we can do, what we can't do, it is really unattractive. What happens when you do that is you actually end up being in the mother role. So you create this dynamic in your relationship where you assume the role of the mother and he assumes the role of the child. This is a terrible dynamic to have in your relationship. So definitely do not do the controlling behavior. Number five on the list is somewhat similar to controlling, and yet it's different. And that is taking on the masculine role in the relationship. This is very unattractive to a masculine man. Now, there are some relationships and some instances where a more feminine man, a man who leans more towards his feminine side, might be okay with a strong masculine woman. But for most regular masculine men, which is what all you ladies say that you're looking for, you all say that you want a strong, masculine man. Well, in order to have one of those, you can't also Be strong in your masculine. And I know this is a very difficult thing for many women to do. I understand that. I understand that you have been competing in a male dominated world and one of the ways that you've learned to do that is to, you know, really embrace your masculine energy. And, and that's fine. If you're a single mom. You've had to wear, you know, both roles in that situation. And so you've learned how to get into your masculine and get stuff done that is okay. But in your relationship with your man, you have to get into your feminine, you have to relax into your feminine. If you are too much in your masculine, it's going to be very unattractive. Now of course, how masculine your man is has a lot to do with this balance. So you might be a woman who's a bit more in her masculine than the average. But if your man is, you know, a super alpha masculine man, then that's not going to be a problem. But for the average majority of men, you're going to really need to soften and relax into your feminine. Number six is not being interested in sex. This is very unattractive. Most men will want at least a reasonable amount of sexual contact in a relationship. And so a woman who's pretty much never in the mood, always has an excuse or is always complaining about it is a big turn off. Now I understand ladies, we've talked about this in other videos as well, that often how he shows up to that has a lot to do with how much you want it. In other words, if he's not performing well, if he's not, you know, treating you well in the bedroom and he's just out for his own gratification, I can get why you would not be interested in that. However, assuming he's not making any major mistakes, if you're not feeling the desire on a regular basis to have sex with your partner, you need to figure out what's going on in your relationship that's preventing you from getting there. Because it is something that most men are looking for in a relationship with a woman. And so if you're really not that interested in always making excuses, it's going to be a major turn off for him. Number seven on the list is not taking care of your body. This is a big turn off. Now I'm not saying that you have to be skinny little stick model. I'm not saying you actually have to look at any particular way. What I am saying is you have to show that you put effort into your body so not just making sure you put the makeup on and do the hair, that's one thing, but just making sure that, you know, you are at a healthy weight for your size frame, that you're eating healthy food, right? That you're treating your body in a way that is respectful. So all of those things are part of how you take care of your body. And you know, a woman who shows up really in her feminine as a beautiful woman, who's appreciating us, encouraging us, being our champion, you know, is attracted to us, physically, reciprocates with all that kind of stuff, she's going to be extremely attractive almost no matter what she looks like. However, if you are not taking care of yourself, you're not dressing nice, you know, you look like a slob all the time, you don't take care of your body, you don't eat healthy, that sort of thing, that is going to be rather unattractive. And number eight, the very last one on the list is what I call fakeness. Have you ever noticed we live in a very fake world? Nearly everything is fake. The news is all fake. Most of what you see on social media is fake. Pretty much everything is fake. And what I find, and this may not be true for all men, but I know it's true for what I would call most of the good men, right? The good men who are looking for a real woman. Not the players, not the people who only care about vanity and looks and that kind of stuff, but real quality men, the kind that you want to magnetize, they find all of the fakeness to be unattractive. So what am I talking about? The fake hair, the fake nails, the caked on makeup, the fake boobs, the butt implants, all that stuff that you think you're doing to be more attractive to us much of the time actually is unattractive. I know for myself personally, the realness of a woman is so much more attractive to me than the fakeness. And you know, even if I had a preference for certain size boobs, which I don't, but let's say I did, that size, if it were fake, would be actually unattractive. It wouldn't meet that need, right? So fakeness is something that many men, and I've had this conversation with quite a few men, they don't require nearly as much of that, you know, fakeness that women think and they really just want a real woman. So if you are embracing your natural beauty as a real woman and you are taking care of yourself, you're going to have that natural glow, that natural vibrance, that natural energy, right? You're going to look good. You're not going to need all of that fake stuff. So there you go. Those are eight things that men find unattractive in women. If you can avoid those things and also do the things that we talked about in the other video, the video titled 8 Things Women do that turn men on. If you can do both of those, like avoid these things and do those things, you will have him absolutely desiring you. Next. If you like my content and you would like more, you can follow me right here on YouTube on my own channel called Kevin and Celine. You can also listen to the Love Lab podcast on any major podcast platform. And lastly, if you go to my website, KevinAndSline.com vault, you can sign up for a free library full of resources, free resources to make your relationship better and your sex life better. All of those links will be in the description below. And I hope that you found this video helpful.