THIS Is The Kind Of Man You Should Be With

This is the kind of man you should be with. If you're uncertain if you're with the right man, how to pick the right man. If you're dating someone who actually could be wasting your time and maybe even leaving you worse off than you were beforehand, losing years, potentially months, weeks, maybe decades off of your life, then this is for you. This is how you can choose that right man to have in your life and some secret signals and to look for. So it's going to be a great show today. We're going to go through some of these powerful examples that I have for you and dive into this whole topic. So I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe Man. If you don't know me already, and for 20 years, combined with my wife, Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term, committed relationship with the man they want. So let's dive right in. So the first.

Beam I have here, actually, let's. Let's start with this other one here. This one's going to be more clear on what we're talking about.

So.

That'S not the right one. Is this the right one? Okay, let's get the right one going here. So this is the right one.

Don't date the. Sorry to hear that. And that's crazy. Men date the. Where are you right now? I'll come to get you. I got you. It's already handled. How much do you need? Let me take care of this. I'm on my way.

Can I help you with this? Men?

So the idea here is if you're dating a man who makes excuses, who is brushing you off, or when you ask for help, when you are in need, is he showing up as your hero or is he showing up potentially as the villain or just a bystander?

You have to watch out for this.

Because if your man isn't showing care for your heart, meaning he's not actively leaning in, wanting to know how you're feeling, wanting to know if there's something he can do to be of service for you as his princess, as his queen, then you are probably dating the wrong man. Now, this is why we have our 90 day challenge. Because you need to have a period of time with any man that you meet with, any man that you're in a relationship with, where you are using what we teach you.

We are.

You are using magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication. You're tapping into your feminine core, and you are communicating in a way that shows a man your heart Shows a man where you're coming from in a vulnerable and respectful and open way, and you see how he responds. You observe him over a period of time and see, is he brushing you off? Is he making excuses? Is he not making you a priority? Or is he wanting to help? Is he showing care for you? Is he wanting to be your man? To lead, to protect, to provide? You're only going to know that if you are vulnerable, if you do show.

Up in your feminine.

And so that's what we want to look out for, because over time that will be revealed. And a man may be broken, he may not be connected to his masculine. And that's going to be a big problem. So don't date those. Sorry to hear that. And that's crazy. Men, date the man who's leaning in, who wants to help you, who shows up for you in your moments of need, maybe when you're sick, maybe when you are sad about something going on in your life. Maybe there's an issue in your relationship. Does he want to deal with it?

Does he want to talk about it?

Or is he shutting you down? Is he running away? This is a great sign of what kind of man you're actually dealing with.

Let's get to the next one here.

Men, unless you're disabled, sick or gay, your wife should not be driving the.

Car when you go out together. So.

So this is a metaphor, right?

I talk about this a lot, actually.

In our coaching programs around the idea of is a man leading? Is he leading in the relationship? Is he taking charge? Is he wanting to protect and provide and be your hero? Driving is a great metaphor for that. If your man isn't willing to drive, if he's not willing to make decisions, to step up, then there's a problem there. There's a problem in your relationship because he has abdicated his responsibility. He has stepped away, and now he's relying on you to take over, for.

You to lead, for you to be.

The mommy and the protector, provider, hero for him. The roles have been reversed, polarity has been destroyed, and you will never get the relationship you want with a man like that. So this is a great metaphor in a practice, actually specific practice, we sometimes call these feminine microhabits. This is actually bigger than a microhabit. Let your man drive, test him, see what happens. Just say it to a man like, may I ask if you could drive us today? Or say, I'm feeling pretty tired.

Can you drive if that's true?

Or just say, I can't, I can't do this. Anymore, I can't drive anymore. I want. I need some support. And there's even more gentle ways to.

Say that about talking about your needs of I'm tired or I'm feeling some.

Confusion or some sadness. May I ask if you can help me here? Now, he will start driving, likely your man. If he has any connection to his masculine core, he's going to start driving. And it's a practice because it's training him that in your relationship, you are the queen, you are the princess, you're taken care of by him because you're in your feminine, you're a high value queenly woman. And that's going to translate to all.

Areas of your relationship.

And again, it's part of the test of the 90 day challenge. If a man isn't stepping into that role, if he's resisting it, if he's fighting with you, if, if he's complaining, whining, getting emotional, turning into a puddle, that's a sign. That's a big sign you're not with the right man. And you should probably start moving on. You should probably start looking towards the exit because this isn't a man who can really serve you. This isn't a man who can be in his healthy, masculine leader of the household.

And you got to watch out for that.

And this habit, over time will build that polarity. Actually, it'll start to increase his sense of ownership and investment in the relationship. And he's gonna wanna do it more and more and in other ways in.

Your relationship as well.

I'm guilty of this, actually, I'm guilty of this. I used to be the guy when I was in my early 20s, where I loved my girlfriend to drive me around. It's partly it's because she had a.

Car at that time for a while.

In certain moments, and I didn't. And so it was her car. But even then I should have been driving. Like, even if it's your car, that's a good caveat. If it's your car, still ask him to drive. May I ask if you could drive us? I would love if you could drive us today. Ask for that. And ask as many times as it takes until he says yes, because that's going to help shift this polarity. Once I stopped doing that, once my relationship ended because of a lot of these polarity issues we were having, I.

Started working on myself.

I started learning how to lead, how to be a strong man, how to be in my masculine core. And that set me up to attract my amazing wife and have an incredible Relationship where I can be connected to that purpose. I can be connected to my center.

And she can then relax into her feminine. And we have attraction, we have polarity.

We have even a mutual devotion because of that difference. Remember the law of polarity.

Opposite energies attract. So it's a super important key to this.

Let's go into another one here. Let's see what we can find. These little golden nuggets I've dug up for you on social media. I feel amused when women say they don't want to be told what to do until a man says, I'm picking you up at 7, wear a nice dress. I'm taking you to X place.

Be ready.

And they swoon. They swoon. Baby girl, I think you want to.

Be told what to do.

So it's an interesting point and I've.

Noticed this as well.

A lot of women have resistance to the idea of, of a man telling.

Them what to do.

You can't tell me what to do. I'm a strong, independent woman. I'm a boss babe. I don't need no man. But in certain situations, we see the opposite of that. Often where a woman loves when the.

Man is paying for dinner.

A woman loves when he's planning the.

Date, when he's telling her where to go.

Or maybe he's telling her to get some sleep, telling her to take a rest, take a break. Like, let's rest, let's rest for a while because I can see you're pretty tired. He's still telling her what to do. But you see the difference there. It's coming from a place of care. It's coming from a place of love rather than a place of control, abuse, narcissism, et cetera. So you want to make this distinction with masculine feminine polarity. Here it's not about a man telling.

You what to do, because that actually.

Can be healthy leadership. Just like in a dance, when a man is leading the dance, when he's directing and quote, unquote, telling, guiding, where the woman should go for the beauty of the dance, for his pleasure and for her pleasure. So there's a difference between that loving direction, loving masculine energy, healthy leadership, and control, abuse, manipulation.

You have to make that distinction because.

When a woman says, I don't want a man to tell me what to.

Do, what she's actually saying is, I.

Don'T want an uncaring man to tell.

Me what to do.

But I would actually love a caring, connected, masculine man to tell me what.

To do in various ways and in various places.

So Just to become aware of that realization. Because if you do enjoy that, if you do enjoy a man leading in.

This way, planning, that means you still.

Have some connection to your feminine core. It's in there. Every woman has a feminine core deep inside, just like every man has a masculine core. It's just a question of how connected you are to it and how much wounding and trauma and. And societal programming from the world has disconnected you from that core.

So that's what we're helping you to heal and that's what we're helping you.

To build in our teachings, in our programs. So remember this.

It's a powerful key to the puzzle. Here.

Here's another good one I found. My husband started reading to me before bed and I'm the happiest I've ever been with Him. After 13 years of marriage, I'm the happiest I've ever been with my husband. We got married very young and, and have two boys under 3 years old. I'm finally out of my postpartum haze, feeling like myself again. My husband has always been so supportive and helpful as dad husband and we.

Have gotten a lot closer after having kids.

Recently, he started reading to me before bed. I asked him about the book he was reading and he asked if I.

Wanted him to read it to me.

It has been one of the most intimate and special things he has done for me. I look forward to this every night.

Let me hide this for a second.

I look forward this every night and have already picked out the next book.

I don't want this feeling to ever end.

So it's a beautiful. It's a beautiful thought, It's a beautiful message.

It's a beautiful situation here.

Now. What's going on?

What's going on with this?

Well, for one, I love that she asked him. I love that she spoke to her desire and actually said, hopefully using magnetic feminine communication, said something like, I would.

Love if you could read to me tonight. I would love to hear what you're reading. Can I ask if you would read to me tonight?

Ask for what you want. Asking for help, right?

That's going to inspire his masculine devotion.

That's going to wake up the night in shining armor from his slumber.

Speaking of slumber, this can even happen in bed like it did.

So he woke up his masculine core and he started providing for her in that sense. He started reading and actually what happened was he probably realized, I actually enjoy this. She enjoys it. I enjoy making her happy. Because here's the other thing. Whenever a man is connected to his masculine core, he gets a sense of pleasure and joy from knowing he's making the woman he cares about happy. So when he's making you happy, he's winning, he's doing a good job, he's.

Leading, he is the hero. He loves that feeling.

All men who are connected to their.

Masculine core want to make their woman happy deep down.

And that's just a question of how wounded they are and how much they are connected to their masculine core or how much they even care about you.

Which could be another factor sometimes, not always the first factor, by the way.

So he starts reading to her. He starts realizing, wow, this is actually.

More fun than was just reading by myself.

She's enjoying it because she gets to.

Feel connected to him in that sense.

She has some time with their doing something together. Now, this is actually. I would love to hear the man's perspective on this because there's a psychological principle here that men really enjoy doing activities more with their woman than they do talking. So the man in this situation probably is enjoying this reading to her, which.

Is a form of an activity. Just like playing golf or watching a. Watching a game, playing a video game or going out in nature, hiking.

This is an activity, and he's probably enjoying this a lot more than just having long, endless conversations, potentially.

But now there's a time and place for those conversations, which you should have because you want to be open and vulnerable with a man and ask for help in the right moments so he knows what to do, how to lead you well, how to lead as the man of the household in your relationship.

However, he is really loving that as well. He's getting a sense of connection by.

The activity, more so than a verbal conversation.

So men love this.

It's called side by side bonding. I've done a whole video series on it.

And yeah, so that's probably what's happening.

On his end as well.

So you're seeing them both become closer. You're seeing them both bond now, man and woman together in this special moment that they have.

Even with kids running around the house, even with probably hectic lives and hectic careers, they've made it a ritual for their marriage. And it's a beautiful thing to see.

Because this is some of the glue.

That will hold couples together over time, these shared bonding experiences. And ideally, ritualizing it once a day or once a week or two, several times a week, makes it even more solidified. So I love to hear that.

Here's another good one.

Let me hide this again.

Adult size pacifiers have recently become a trend among young people in China.

With prices ranging from 100 to 500 won, adult pacifiers are becoming popular as a method to cope with stress and anxiety. So I just want you to sit with this image, especially looking at the men in the image.

How does it make you feel to look at.

This is probably AI generated the photo to look at a man, a grown man with a binky in his mouth.

How does it make you feel as a woman?

Does it make you feel excited, passionate, turned on? You just want to open and have him ravish you? Or does it. Does it bring up a feeling of repulsion and disgust and let's say, at least not being turned on?

I would imagine it's probably the latter.

So now, as a woman, I want.

You to imagine, okay, if that's your.

Reaction to a grown adult man having a pacifier, how do you think a.

Man is responding to you? To a woman treating him being the.

Mother and treating him like a child.

It'S probably a similar reaction. Men do not like to be mothered.

Now, in this case, if a man.

Is deeply damaged, if he's lost connection to his masculine core, he's going to.

Want to look for a mommy. He's going to want somebody to take care of him, to be the protective provider hero. That's an unhealthy man. That's an unhealthy relationship. So this video, again is the big topic is how to choose the kind of man you should be with. Well, this is one of those clues. You want to choose a man who doesn't have a binky in his mouth, who's not a child, who's not acting like a child.

But then you also have to turn.

The mirror back to yourself with the law of polarity.

If you're attracting those kind of men.

Are you showing up as the mother? Are you contributing by enabling him, by doing things for him, by giving to him, by trying to make him happy and trying to meet his needs? You have to watch out for that because the polarity is reversed. In a healthy, polarized relationship, the man.

Is giving more than the woman. The man is giving more, the woman is receiving more.

That creates the masculine feminine difference because.

Masculine energy gives, feminine energy receives.

So you want to watch out for that.

And hopefully we can reverse this trend together. Let's spread the word here. Speaking of that, share this video with a girlfriend.

Let's spread the word and start shifting the culture.

Let's spread this.

Let this video be like a spear spreading out into the culture and this.

Idea that women have feminine course, men have masculine course.

And we need to get back to that, because otherwise we end up with this. Otherwise we end up with adult babies looking for a bottle of milk, looking for a breast to suckle on. And not in a nice way, not in the sexy way. All right, so let's remember that. Let that image stick in your mind. All right, so now we're gonna get another one here. We already looked at this one.

It's another good one I found. I don't know where this came from, by the way.

I found it randomly on Facebook, I think.

Take her on dates, satisfy her, motivate.

Her, build with her, make her feel special. And then there's like a big X here. I don't know what happened here. If this. This was edited and then it says.

Take him on dates, Satisfy him, motivate him, build with him, make him feel special. Don't expect what you don't give. I used to believe this to some extent. I used to believe this was true, that if you want to have a partner who does all these things for you, like takes you on dates, satisfies.

You, motivates you, builds with you, makes you feel special, then you have to.

Be that as well. That you have to be that kind of woman to match that kind of man. That's looking at the world from a lens of oneness, we might say, where.

All things are equal. All things are the same.

Men and women are equal.

There's no difference between us. We're exactly the same. We're just people. We're just animals. We're exactly the same. There should be no differences. We should treat each other exactly the same. And we'll get. We'll have a happy, loving relationship if we do that. Now, this is false.

This is deeply false because.

Well, one of the biggest obvious reasons is because we aren't the same biologically, genetically, mentally, physically, emotionally, we are different in so many different ways.

And the other reason why this is false is.

Is because it doesn't take account for.

The law of polarity. The law of polarity states that opposites attract. And this is confusing to a lot of people in our modern world. We don't get this concept fully because.

Let'S say it's a more Eastern concept in a lot of ways, such as with the.

The yin and the yang. But it's existed throughout time. You know, in the Bible, God said he made women and men and different. He made them the man.

Let me actually pull the exact quote because I don't want to get this wrong. Male and female. He created them all right? This is the exact quote here. So God created mankind in his own image. In the image of God, he created male and female. He created them male and female. The separation, right? The difference, the distinction. God is great at making distinctions.

Male and female. He created them differently. Differently, because that's.

There's beauty in that difference. There's a dance that can now happen. There's life that can be created because of this. We couldn't create life without polarity, without the sperm and the egg, without male and female.

So it's not about matching him and.

Being exactly who he is and the kind of man you want to be. Oh, I want a successful, wealthy man. So I have to be wealthy and successful.

Oh, I want a man who leads and takes charge.

So I have to lead and take charge. It's like, what, okay, are we three?

We've moved past this.

We've moved past this level of thinking. You know, speaking of the adults with the binkies, it's about polarity.

Polarity creates attraction. Polarity creates devotion and passion.

It's the only thing.

Otherwise we're just roommates. Otherwise we're just buddies. If we're exactly the same, we're co.

Workers, we're co habitators, co parents. We're not passionate lovers. Okay? There's a big difference between passionate lovers and buddies. It's a very big difference. And this is the difference what we're talking about.

Now, if you just want to be buddies with your man, then by all means, take him on dates, satisfy him, motivate him, build with him, make him feel special. But that's not going to create passion.

Devotion and deep love in your relationship. So we have to watch out for this because it is a lie and it's a lie from the devil. We have to cancel it out and embrace the way we were actually designed and the beautiful ways we were designed as man and woman.

All right, so next I want to.

Give a shout out to someone very special who we all likely know about. Whether you love him or not, that's a different thing. But because he has recently passed away, I want to show this tribute here. It's not a full video, but it is some. Some powerful words from Charlie Kirk. Let's listen into this stance.

Ever, should a man ever let a woman pay for a date or you should ever.

No.

Even on the third, fourth, fifth.

What if it's first date and you're just not in for anything?

Okay, well, let me.

Period. Well, let me.

Okay, so what world Are we living in.

Well, hold on a second. I agree with you. If I'm dating a girl, I would pay for everything.

Everything?

Yeah, everything.

However, I could see for other people that might be in a different financial position. You, you know, you pay for 10 dates and then she's like, you know what? I want to treat you.

Well, that's.

That's totally different. What we're talking about is like, oh, we're going to alternate, like once you're serious and she wants to take you out to something for a nice dinner. And you might, by the way, if you have the intent to marry, you're already like, kind of blending finances. Like, I get that psychologically. But like, if you're like, oh, we'll take turns like, oh, well, you know, you pay this time, I pay this time.

What's your advice to a girl who's.

Who?

The guy she's currently seeing.

He says that, oh, do not marry that man.

But here's the thing. I feel like they should always break offer, but they should offer. They should pull out the credit card.

The woman, of course, Just.

Just to offer. No, it's a.

It's a nice gesture.

No, by the way.

No, no, no.

This is, this is. This is feminism. Feminism is that you have to be this, like, self independent. This is a nice gesture. It's you trying to be like egalitarian. No, you, as women should want to be provided for. In fact, you should have an expectation that you as a woman are so important and so critical and so necessary and beautiful that it shouldn't even be a quick.

To me, when I was dating, it would be a huge turnoff if the check comes and she just looks at it and then looks at me and.

Looks at the check. Totally dis.

All right, so it's powerful here. What he's talking about is what we've been talking about this whole video again.

Polarity, healthy polarity, where the masculine gives, the feminine receives.

That's what creates that attraction. And as you've probably known from watching.

Our videos, I am in full agreement with Charlie in this. The man should be paying for the date and really all the dates until pretty much leading up until marriage. Yes, in marriage, what he's saying here, you co.

Combine finances and then it's a bit of a different story. It's both of you contributing the pot and then you both go out on the dates.

But the man should still be handling it. He should still be taking that lead.

Just like I talked about earlier about driving the car. Who's driving the Car.

And so the question is here, when we're talking about what kind of man you should be with, you're looking for this. You're looking for a man who wants.

To be that for you, who wants.

To invest into you, who cherishes you, who values you, who wants to be.

Your protector, provider and hero.

Who's putting in effort? Who's putting in effort? Not this back and forth. Not like you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. You. Yes, that's going to happen naturally, but it's different in polarity. Your feminine energy is the gift. You don't have to reciprocate, you don't have to do anything to give back to him, because your energy, your connected heart, your feminine core, which we teach you how to open up and unlock it, is the gift to him. That's enough. You are enough. You don't have to do things for him. You don't have to baby him. You don't have to mother him.

You.

You don't have to provide for everything and pay for everything or give him really anything, because what you have in your core is enough. Your heart is what he wants. And yes, of course, you can do things for him. Occasionally, yes, you can make him a gift if you want. But you have to look at the.

Overall balance of the relationship.

Overall, is he giving more to you or are you giving more to him?

You have to look out for that. Because if it's the reverse, you've reversed polarity. Now he's going to lose attraction. Now he's going to lose devotion.

Now he's going to lose connection to his masculine core. But when it's in the proper alignment with him, in his fem, in his masculine core, giving and providing for you.

He'S going to feel more connected and.

Not from, by the way, being a people pleaser or a simp, where he's just giving to you because he doesn't value himself and he's trying to win your affection, he's trying to win your.

Love or pay for your love.

That's not a healthily connected man. That's a man who's actually disconnected from.

His masculine core because he's being a people pleaser. He's trying to make you like him.

No, a man who's connected fully to his masculine core. He's doing it because he wants to. He enjoys it. He gets pleasure out of giving you pleasure.

That's what you're looking for.

All right, so with that, we're going to start answering some questions here before I go deeper if you haven't yet.

And you want to really master some of this in your life, these principles.

I highly recommend taking our free quiz and@ magnetizeyourman.com or you can click on.

The link in the description or comments below or in our bio and we'll help you get a top recommendation to start attracting loving, long term, committed relationship.

Getting that with the man that you.

Want with a high quality masculine man and activating that even in a man that you're already interested in a man you're with right now. So it's, it's basic, powerful masculine feminine principles. So with that, we're going to start answering some questions here. Let's see what we've come we have that has come in today.

By the way, if you have a.

Comment or question on anything I've talked.

About today already, go ahead and leave.

That in the comments below and I'll start answering questions and responding while we have some time here. So Imelda said, thank you for this. You're welcome. God bless us all. Loyal men and women. Yes, pray for that. You will attract a loyal man. And, and being a loyal woman, now.

That'S one thing that can be equal.

We would say between a man and a woman is they should both, you should both be loyal to each other. And that's the way God designed it with marriage as well. As we read in Corinthians.

Be unto.

Unto death do you part. Really. So Ali says, where should I, where can I find such a man?

Now the thing is, Ollie, these men are everywhere.

Essentially. They are around. They are.

There are probably some of these men even in your neighborhood right now, in.

Your city, in your vicinity. Now the idea is if you want to attract a man, yes, you're not going to get one just by sitting in your home doing nothing.

I recommend being like the light, being the feminine light that you are like.

A lighthouse that you put your light out there. You have to get out there and be seen. Now the first caveat to that is you have to connect to your feminine core. If you're not connected to your feminine.

Core, you can go out and be seen in the world and the right.

Man still aren't going to see you. They're not going to be interested. They're not going to approach. But when you're connected to your feminine.

Core, you're lit up from within.

You have something deeper. You know these principles. You practice these principles. You practice magnetic feminine communication. You've gotten coaching support on this, ideally to help break through some of your trauma, some of the blocks, the wounds that may be keeping you from fully being connected, your feminine.

But once you've done that, you're out in the world, you will be seen, you will be seen by men. You have to get out though, and that can mean going to physical events like meetups, meetup.com, festivals, farmers markets, sports groups, hiking groups, etc. Church, community, all these different places you can go to be seen, to be.

The lighthouse, to be the light, the flame that attracts the moths, the sun.

To the planets, the rose to the honeybees.

But you have to get out.

So I love the quote from Woody Allen.

80% of success is just showing up. So oftentimes you have to just show up. You have to get out of your house, show up in a safe place. Ideally, you don't have to go somewhere sketchy, but go somewhere safe. Maybe go out with a girlfriend or two or friends, family, but be out so you can be seen, so you can interact and actually have the right man notice you and want to pick you up, want to claim you, want to at least ask you out on a date and, or connect in some way. But that's only going to happen if you're putting yourself out there. Now, you could also do this online, of course, and we have a whole course on magnetic feminine online dating, how to do that, how to shape your profile, your, your photos so that they're most authentic and vulnerable and shine your light, your feminine core the brightest, so that the right man sees that and starts to interact with you and wants to connect and wants to meet up. And then of course, you use magnetic feminine communication in your conversations with them now. And we teach you how to do that. Exactly.

But those are the keys.

You have to put yourself out there to some extent.

And ideally, the way you make this.

More inevitable is you make it fun.

Finding ways to make online dating fun.

Finding ways to make your social life fun has to be, let's make it fun again. Let's make it great again.

Getting out, being around people.

I know this has been something that's been a slow build since COVID A.

Lot of people still aren't really going out that much.

They're still addicted to online video games, hiding work. So getting out is a big piece of it. But find ways to make it fun. But like I said, inviting a girlfriend, playing some fun music while you get ready, picking events that are actually interesting to you, things like getting out, nature. We said there's a lot of things, activities you can do, dance classes, dance communities, you'll learn polarity principles in that as well. So that's a high, a big recommendation of mine. But you have to get out in order to actually be seen. So that's going to be one of the first steps I'd recommend that you start to embrace as well. And then she also had a question. What is your take on splitting bills on dates? Well, I already covered that. You must have asked that earlier in the video. So hopefully my response and Charlie's response, Charlie's brilliant response. May rest in peace. Wonderful man, hero.

Let that be your guide.

You know, split, don't split. I'm saying, if anything, you are. The only thing you're splitting is polarity. Masculine, feminine, polarity is the only thing being split.

You more in your feminine.

Him more in his masculine. Other than that, you're not splitting.

And even like what the other guy.

Was saying, Graham Stephan, he was saying, well, I don't really know about. If a woman doesn't even make an effort to pay. No, but that, that's.

He's not fully connected to his masculine, then he's not fully connected to his masculine core.

If he has an issue with that. The other thing is a lot of.

Women feel like they have to do that.

Like they, like I said, they, they feel that they have to give something, they have to do something in order to earn the man being on the date with her or that he's paying for the meal.

You're enough. You're enough. You are the gift.

Assuming you're connected to your feminine, assuming you're showing up like this and you're not showing up as disrespectful, critical, aloof, inauthentic.

You know, these kind of things that are masculine masks and shields of armor.

If you're not showing up, if as.

Long as you're not showing up with your armor on and all these mask and, and masculine energy, masculine behavior, then you are enough. You're giving him the gift with your feminine energy already.

So you don't need to split. Split the masculine, feminine, polarized. That's the only thing that you need to. All right, great question. And then Gail said, do you think about my husband texting his former long term girlfriend about the passing of friends?

Well, what I would say, Gail, is it almost doesn't matter what I think about it.

And even.

It doesn't even matter what you think about it.

What matters is what you feel about it. That's your heart, that's your feminine core.

So I want you to feel inward. What do you feel?

What emotions do you feel about that now? It doesn't have to make sense, it doesn't have to be logical. This could be totally justified. He may have no romantic interest in her, which is probably true, by the way. He may have no romantic interest in her and it's really just him. A form of his grief of wanting to connect with friends who knew this person also. And just say, you know, did you hear about this and you know, what did you think about it? Or when did you learn, you know, trying to connect? It's a form of grieving really.

But even if it wasn't, if there's.

Some, some, some interest potentially, we don't know, I don't think so. But all that matters really is how you feel about it because that's what gives an opportunity for him to step up and actually help you. So if you felt some anxiety around that, if you felt some insecurity around that, or confusion or uncertain, I think I mentioned uncertainty, some fear maybe, then that's something you can ask for help with and say using magnetic feminine communication, how you feel. So you'd say something like, can I share something with you? And he'd say sure, likely. And say, I notice I'm feeling some, some sadness and uncertainty. And then pause so he can receive it. And then he will probably ask why is that? And you say, well, because I was thinking about the other day when you told me you messaged your girlfriend from your former long term girlfriend or whatever her name might be. And I noticed that I'm.

When, when I heard about that, I'm.

Telling myself a story that I'm telling myself a crazy story that maybe there was some interest there, maybe there was some attraction there and I don't know what to do or I'm curious if, if you have any thoughts about that.

Or maybe there's still some interest there. Whatever the thoughts are you might have, be having, because you acknowledge it, that.

You'Re having some thoughts, they may be crazy thoughts and you're just being open with him, you're being honest, you're being authentic, you're being vulnerable, but you're still being respectful. You're not accusing him, you're not blaming him, you're not shaming him, you're just asking him for help essentially. And then he as the man can.

Step up and help you with that, your husband, he's probably going to want.

To help you with that and say, oh no, babe, that's, that was, you know, definitely not any kind of interest. I'm just grieving my friend and I Just wanted to see if she knew anything else about it. And you know, if you don't feel comfortable with that, like I don't have to, I, I won't message her again or respond again and then he'll probably handle it. That's probably how it would go down. Now the caveat to all this as well is that you can be doing some self sourcing, some self care, which is a huge feminine principle, directing the energy back to yourself.

And if there is some just insecurity.

Coming up within you, or maybe there's some other things, some other issues in your life, maybe you're not getting enough sleep, you're not taking care of your health in the right way, you don't have a great relationship with another family member or something, or you're maybe grieving.

About something, then get that handled too. Take care of that, go out in.

Nature, make sure you're eating enough quality food, drinking enough, etc. Go pamper yourself, whatever it takes to fill your own cup back up. And then see if you still have this insecurity. See if you still have these feelings. I'm not for sure calling it an insecurity. I'm just saying see what happens when you actually first invest in yourself and regulate yourself and see if, then if it is still an issue. If it is, then I would still communicate to that to him. But it may be something else, it may be some other things going on because I don't know your whole situation here.

Your man could be normally very loving.

Very caring, he's very loyal in all other ways. And this is just one little thing. So you may need to balance just to kind of get some perspective, take some time for yourself a little bit, maybe have go get a drink with a girlfriend you, you really like who lifts you up or just go on a walk or do something like that so that you're back to connect with yourself. So that's another good approach for that. So I gotta start wrapping this up for today, but hope this was helpful to everyone. Again, if you haven't yet and you wanna take this to the next level, you wanna master the principles of magnetic feminine communication. Magnetic feminine polarity attract a passionate, crazy, devoted, loving relationship with your man. Then go to our website magnetizeyourman.com right now to get that.

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