This Is Why He HAS To Give To You (To Fall In Love)

Why giving to a man is masculine and why if you continue to give to a man, to serve him, to give him things, gifts, trying to meet his needs, trying to make him happy, it will end up pushing him away and likely destroy the attraction polari chemistry in the relationship and often end up in a situation where he is leaving you. So in this video we're going to talk about how to actually have him come to you instead. How to be in your feminine, how to magnetize a man. Be the flesh flame and not the moth, be the sun and not the planet, so that he devotes himself to you, he craves you, he desires you, and even obsesses over making you happy. So hi, I'm Brody Boyd, if you don't know me already, and for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go ahead and dive in. So to help you grasp this concept of why giving to a man is masculine, because we've had a lot of women asking us about this recently, especially in our videos and in the live streams, like I'm doing here. Why is it masculine to give to a man? I'm a giver. I want to make him happy. I enjoy making him happy. I enjoy doing things for the people around me. It's not manly, it's not masculine. Like why is it masculine to cook dinner for a man or to clean around the house or to take care of him and then do things that he wants and that he needs? Well, I'm going to unveil that here and explain to you the principles that'll help you to grasp this concept. So there's a couple, there's four key analogies I'm going to give you that'll help you to understand masculine and feminine polarity on a much deeper level so that you know where this is coming from, why it actually is your feminine to be receiving from a man and to have him be giving to you. And why it is in your masculine energy for you to be giving to a man and providing for him. Some of you may already get this. It's like, duh, obviously. Well, it's, it's not that simple of a concept actually, because there's subtleties to it and there's a lot of different situations you might run into a relationship where you're like, wait, it's giving to a man to give him reminders. And it's giving and it's in my masculine to, you know, help pick something up from the grocery store for him that he needs on my way over to his place. And it's like, yeah, actually it is. And actually it is putting you into the masculine role. And you'll often hear women talk about this, about, you know, I gave everything to him. I did everything in the relationship. I did everything to make him happy. And I gave, gave, gave. And he still cheated on me. He still ended up leaving me. It's like, well, once you understand this video, once you've watched this video till the end, you'll understand fully why that's the case and why, yes, obviously that likely did happen because of these principles. It happened. There may be other reasons why it happened, but one of the big reasons is because you reversed the polarity. You were in your masculine, you were, you were giving to him, you were providing for him, you were mothering him. And the polarity and attraction and devotion was destroyed. And now he was in his feminine and he lost attraction, he lost that connection. He lost even feelings of love. So we're going to help you to avoid that because this all goes down to biology. There's nothing super advanced we're teaching here. There's no magic, there's no miracle principles. This is human biology that we're teaching. And it's just an expression of human biology the way God created it in relationships between a man and a woman, how that is expressed to create happy, polarized, healthy connection that deepens the love, deepens the devotion, deepens the chemistry and passion so you can have a lifelong happy relationship. So let's go ahead and start with the analogies that I have for you here. So the first one that we have is sex. So it can't get any more basic than sex, right? You can't dive into biology any more than with sex and reproduction. These are the essence. This is like the essence of life, right? This is this where it all stems from. None of us would be here if it wasn't for sex. It, life would not exist, you know, as we know it, at least in, in the animal form. So sex is where chemistry, passion, polarity is really rooted from. Now what is sex? What is happening in sex? And this is true for basically all animals, all mammals, insects, the man, the masculine, the male is penetrating the female to deliver sperms. And he is giving sperms to the female, right? He is giving. His sex is. We don't have to get too graphic into it, but basically, you know, he's giving her his penis. He's Giving her his gifts, his masculine gifts, his masculine delivery to her of sex. And she as the feminine, the female is receiving that gift. Receiving the sex, the sperms, the penis, everything else, she's receiving it, right? The female's receiving, the masculine is giving. So this is going to a very basic level. So you can understand how this is showing up in relationships, right? Because if at the basic level of sexual intercourse, the masculine is giving, the feminine is receiving, then why should that be so different in an actual relationship, in actual dynamic of a man and a woman living together, cohabitating together, raising a family together? Why should that dynamic all of a sudden be reversed? Where now it's like, oh, now it's okay for the woman to be giving. Now it's natural for the woman to be providing and to be doing everything for him and for him to be receiving and to be getting all this care and attention and devotion from her. Protection provision, whatever the gifts may be, birthday gifts, you know, there's all kinds of different ways this could be expanded on of, like, giving to him and receiving from him. So that's the first analogy. Now, if you're still not convinced, if you're still like, well, that's. That's biology. That's different. We're talking about human relationships here. We're talking about dynamics between men and women in modern society. And it's not all about sex, et cetera. So I'm here for you. I got you. So we have three other analogies that'll help you with this that are more related to the relational dynamics. So let's go to the next analogy here to help help you with this. The second analogy is dancing. I actually met my first girlfriend, a dance class. I started dancing in college. I got involved with the ballroom dance club. I started doing west coast swing, which was my favorite dance. What I learned in partner dancing is some very powerful principles that I knew were going to help me in my love life because I had been struggling in my dating to learn masculine and feminine polarity, that I was actually starting to learn dancing to help me be in my healthy masculine. So I understood this on kind of a basic level, that this is what I needed as a man to step into my healthy masculine. And the same would be for a woman learning how to dance in a partner dance. It helps you get in all these principles on a more relational aspect. So in a. In a ballroom dance, in a partner dance, any kind of dance, Latin dancing, even just bumping and grinding at the club, right? There's many forms of dancing, partner Dancing where talking about, but pretty much universally across all cultures and all times of history, dancing between a man and a woman. The man is leading the dance. The masculine is leading the dance. He's guiding and he's giving to the feminine. He is giving his direction, he is giving his guidance, his leadership. He's giving her a good time. He's giving her pleasure, enjoyment. And that is the masculine role of masculine energy in a dance. The feminine energy, feminine role in a dance is to follow, to follow the leadership of the man, the masculine, to enjoy, to have fun with it. And yeah, of course, she can do her own moves and she could detach for a while and then come back into the dance. And sometimes there's even dance where the woman could take over briefly. But overall, generally the masculine is leading the dance. He's giving in that sense. So this is another analogy that is more, even more closely related to relationships, which is if you're going to be in the feminine energy in a, in a dance of relationship, that means that you are receiving, you're receiving his leadership, his guidance, he's even his protection. I learned this a lot when I was learning how to dance. That as a man dancing, as leading the masculine role in a dance, you. You actually have to do a lot of work. You're not just giving the woman pleasure and providing for her that experience and leading her, which is again, similar to sex, right? Very similar. Sex is often it is like a dance, right? It's a physical, intimate dance. But so in a ballroom dance or in a partner dance, the masculine, he has to do a lot of work. He's looking out. Because part of what I'm doing in my dancing role is I'm looking for the woman I'm leading. Is she going to bump into anybody else? Is there something else in the way? Is she going to trip on something? So I'm not only giving her pleasure in leading, but I'm also giving protection and looking out for her and making sure there's no weird guys trying to, like, I don't know, try to grab her or, you know, grab her butt or just bumping into her or there's something on the ground she might trip over or there's a puddle of water right there. Like, I have to look out for those things, right? So the masculine in a dance, he's providing all those things. Pleasure, leadership, protection, sex similar to a relationship, right? So hopefully you're starting to get that now. Hopefully that analogy is helping to clean that up. Now, let's maybe, let's say you're still not convinced. You're still like, well, Brody, dancing isn't, you know, the same as exactly as a relationship. You know, there's still like, it's more like having fun and it's, you know, but what about the day to day life, right? There's still things that need to be done around the house and there's still things that need to be provided for that I need to do for him. Like I have to do some errands and I have to do these things. And we're going to talk about all how to, how to manage these things. There's ways you can actually do all these things, but from your feminine. So I'm not saying it's never okay if you never want to be in your masculine. It's never okay to cook for a man or to clean or to do things or to give him a back massage or to give him a BJ or, you know, whatever you want to give to him. There's of course ways to do that from your feminine. But if you're doing that of your own initiative and you're initiating sex, you're initiating giving to him, giving gifts and all these things, that is going to be from your masculine energy primarily. And, and it's going to destroy the polarity and likely push him away over time. So let's go into another analogy. We got our third analogy here, number three, which is caveman times, by the way. I'm going to start answering a lot of these questions. So I'm sure a lot of questions are coming up from you. Go ahead and post them in the question in the comments below this video because I'm going to start, I'm going to do a Q and A in a little bit. I'm going to start answering more questions around these and things you're, you're struggling with, with your relationship. You're dating right now. We could also go into that, help you with a man, help you with your guy. So go ahead and start commenting as well. So we'll get to those in a little bit. The third analogy is caveman times. So if you imagine way back, let's go way back. Let's crank back the time machine and go back to times when men were men and women were women. We might say, like I think it says in some movies or some books. So we'll go back in time where. What were the cavemen times like? Let's try to imagine that. Let's imagine the hunter gathering era, right. Of humanity. So oftentimes in hunting, gatherer era epics of human. The human experience men were giving in the sense of. They were the protectors, they were the providers, they were hunters, they were warriors. They were doing all these things that were giving and providing for the village and for their family and for their women. So this is maybe even more apt to modern times as well, how this looks like in a relationship, like cohabil, habilitation, cohabitation situation, a masculine energy is coming from this roots, these roots of our biology and our history, these kind of energies. It is hunting, it is fighting. Being a warrior, it is protecting. Protecting the perimeter, protecting the family. It is building things. You know, oftentimes we imagine back in caveman times, it was probably the men who were building the huts. They were, you know, putting the gates around. They're putting the furniture. They were making the furniture inside the cave, Right? They were building the little end tables and their nightstands and their foyers inside of the cave. These are what men were doing. And the women. What were the women doing? What was the feminine doing back in these times? Well, they were obviously having kids. They were nurturing the kids. They were gathering, sometimes gathering berries, gathering fruits. And it was a very patriarchal society where the men were responsible. They had to provide. If they didn't provide, if they didn't protect the village, the family, the kids, everyone would die. Everyone would die. It was a necessity of survival for the man to be masculine and the women to be in their feminine. It was a necessity. That was the only way kids were going to get raised. That was the only way we were going to survive as a species. And so we're going back to the roots here because all of this still exists inside of us. You might say, well, Brody, this is 2024. Like, are you crazy? We're not in caveman times anymore. I don't need no man. I'm an independent woman. I could pay my own bills. I don't need a man's help. I could build. I could buy my own house. I don't need a man to build a house for me. I don't need a man to make me dinner, cook me dinner, hunt the dinner for me. Like, I don't need any of those things. Yeah, of course you don't. You probably don't need a lot of those things. However, in your biology and within all of us still exist these roots where maybe you don't need those things anymore. Maybe, yeah, you can now just rely on the government to provide all these things for you. And, you know, whether you trust that or not is a different conversation where you don't need a man to give you, but do you want a man to help you? Do you want a man to give you these things? Do you want a man to provide for you protection, taking care of you, making sure you feel safe, making sure you feel happy, making sure the kids are safe, the kids are provided for, to fix things around the house, to go take care of the spider on the wall, you know, burglars that come in the house. So you, you may still have. You have police officers, you have fire departments, you have military, you have government, you have all these things around you. But there's, There's. It's hard to really replicate this fundamental biological safety you may feel and likely do feel when you have a strong, capable man who has a deep care for your heart, who is living with you, who is in relationship with you, who wants to make you happy and can just handle a lot of these things for you so that you can relax, you can focus on doing what you enjoy. You can be in your feminine core energy because he's going to likely get much more satisfaction from being in his core masculine. Being those roles, being able to protect and provide and feel like he's needed and he's valuable and that he's wanted and that you could feel cherished and adored and be able to do the things you enjoy, whatever that is, where you don't have to provide financially, you don't have to be the protector, you don't have to be the strong one all the time, that you can have somebody who's supporting you and taking care of you in that way, taking those roles. So it's more of a question of your desires and what's in your fundamental biology and what makes you the happiest and what would make him the happiest. So you can have a healthy, happy relationship where both of you are living out your true core. Because every man has a core masculine inside of his heart, inside of his being. Every woman has a core feminine deep inside where she does want these things. Because we talked about. Also, this isn't just a societal creation of, you know, caveman times of men are just, you know, they're being programmed to be patriarchal and want to protect and provide and be the heroes. It's like, no, this actually also goes back to some of the basics of our biology, like sex. And I'm going to get to another one as well. These are built into us. These are built into us as our drive, and which is why we have survived as a Species for so long. It's the way we've been structured and programmed that actually allows us to live out from our true nature and being connected to our true nature, who we actually are. Beyond modern dating, culture, modern society, expectations, things that you're told you should be as a woman or shouldn't be as a woman or you need to be a boss babe, and you need to do this and you need to be successful and you need to have all this handled. It's like, well, what if you could also be in your feminine and attract a man who could do all those things? So we're gonna, we're gonna go deeper into this. So there's the next analogy here, analogy number four, which goes back to biology as well, that I think is really powerful that we have to mention, which is the sperm and the egg. So we talked about sex before. This even goes, you know, more basic than sex. It's the sperm and the egg, right? The fundamental masculine and feminine. What are the sperm and the egg doing? So the sperm is providing to the egg when fertilization happens, the sperm's DNA, right, the DNA that's going to bind with the egg to create life. This is life creation. This is where all this springs from, right? The springing of life coming from the garden, right? We talk about the Garden of Eden, like this life being created, that it was just intentionally like, bam, this is happening. This is where all this comes from and all of humanity comes from is this basic meeting of the sperm and the egg, this joining of life and creation of life. So if we look at this as an analogy, the feminine is the egg receiving the sperms, and inside the egg, sperms, life is being created. Fellow fertilization happens and the egg eventually starts growing into a human. Now what is the sperm doing? Also in this process, the sperm is having to fight and compete and chase all these other sperms, all these other millions of sperms to get to the egg, right? So the masculine is chasing, the masculine is pursuing, the masculine is acting, the masculine is doing, the feminine is attracting, the feminine is receiving, the feminine is being. And the feminine is, is the prize in a lot of ways. Like this is the prize of the sperms that are competing over that. Like, you are the prize, essentially, you are the prize. You're the queen, you are this, this, this gift to the man, right, that he gets to actually create life through you, which is a massive gift to him. And he, he's very fortunate. Any man is fortunate to find a woman and that he can create life with and he can build a family with. So this is another fundamental biological analogy to help you to see, understand. Okay, so I see now also another example of how the feminine is receiving. The feminine is not doing everything. The feminine is not chasing the sperm. The feminine is not taking care of the sperm and nurturing the egg, is not nurturing the sperm and taking care of the sperm and doing things for the sperm. It's actually the other way. The sperm is fertilizing the egg and the egg then can blossom. The sperm is giving to the egg and the egg can then bloom and create life and become amazing human or amazing creature, animal, whatever the species is. So that is what the feminine does. The feminine actually blossoms and the feminine grows when the masculine is showing devotion and care and investment into the feminine, giving to the feminine. So covered some powerful analogies here. Hopefully that's opening your eyes and helping you to see all the different reasons why it is masculine behavior to be giving to a man and it is feminine energy feminine behavior to be receiving and allowing and enjoying the man's gifts. And now there's many other ways. Now we can take all this and describe, oh, what does that look like when it comes to texting? What does that look like when it comes to online dating? What does it look like when it comes to being married for 10 years or, you know, when is he going to commit to me? Or how does he commit? How does commitment work? Which we can go into today and there's many other videos we have where we cover this, but we've had so many women asking questions about this. I want to give you some deeper training around this so you can really understand how this all works so that you can be in your feminine. And actually that's what we teach in our courses and in our deeper coaching around magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication. So before we go into Q and A, I want to mention this to you as well so you don't lose it if you haven't got it yet. But if you want to take our free quiz, our Magnetize youe Man quiz, to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man you desire, where we teach all these principles and we'll show you how to actually be in your feminine with a man, how that looks like in all the different ways you actually communicate with him, you interact with him so that you draw him to you, you make him even crave desire and obsess over you to have a loving, long term, committed relationship for life. Then make sure to take our free quiz by going to magnetizeyourman.com magnetizeyourman.com or you can click the link in the description or the comments below this video or in our bio, depending on where you're watching this. And with that, let's go ahead and start going into some Q and A. So there's a lot of questions coming in here. So I'm excited to go into some of these. So let's see. Someone said good title. If he taketh he ain't daddy. Yeah, yeah. If a man is taking from you and if he's trying to get you to give to him, he's obviously in his feminine. He's obviously looking for a mother to take care of him. And he's not being the man. He's not being your daddy. He's not being your protector. He's not being your king, your provider, your hero. He's a loser, essentially. He's like wanting you to be in your masculine. He's wanting to be taken care of. Now, that's a harsh word to say he's a loser. Because a lot of men actually have a lot of damage. They've been raised improperly. They have been raised without a father, father figure to teach them how to be in their healthy masculine. They have emotional damage. They have mental damage. There could be a lot of issues causing the man to be in his feminine and not in his healthy masculine. As is. There's a lot of women who have their own damage, their own programming that's causing them to want to be in their feminine or to want to be in their masculine. You know, if you've had trauma in the past, if you've had bad relationships, if you were raised without a healthy model of healthy masculine feminine dynamic, then you're likely have been trained to be, you know, by feminism or by the culture, by whatever that you need to be the strong one. You need to be the boss, babe. You need to take care of things. You need to be in charge. You need to take control, Right? And so it's really hard to then let go of that, to let go of the masks and the armor and the programming to be actually in your feminine core, to allow a hap to attract and allow a healthy masculine man to take care of you and to be your king. So there's issues on both sides and there's trauma and there's damage on both sides. So I don't want to, like, you know, I don't want to be too harsh on these men who are feminine, but they need to. They need to now take Responsibility. As you can take responsibility once you have this information and you've learned to. Oh, now how can I actually be in my healthy masculine or my healthy feminine as a woman to attract a healthy dynamic and have everything that I want? So I just want to add that in as well. So great to hear. So let's hear. So Jessica said, if you're in love with a narcissist, you better assume that you don't know what's going on behind closed doors with either of you. It's scary. It's not normal. There they are. Not normal. Asked to see a narcissist phone number that would never happen. Hack their Facebook account. I bet you could. What you would see discuss you, I give full credit to. Okay, this is a spam person. Sorry about that. Sometimes they trick me. They're trying to sell some kind of thing to find out how to crack your guy's phone. And, you know, we have these occasionally. I'm gonna block and delete that, but there are some good points in that that I'll just mention that, yes, there are narcissistic men. There's a small population of the man of the man population and the female population of narcissists, sociopaths, people that are deeply emotionally mentally damaged. And with those people, if they're not giving you care and devotion over time, if they're doing manipulative things, if they are not trustworthy, you have to share your emotions or ultimately just be willing to walk away. If they're not stepping up, if they're not showing care for your heart, you have to be willing to step away as a queenly woman. And you can't stay in a situation where you're not. You're not being cared for, your heart's not being cared for, your well being's not being cared for, you need to walk away. That's ultimately where you can have the most happiness and freedom in your life. So, yeah, that's. That's an important piece I want to add in. This woman said, my boyfriend wants to offer to pay for things, wants me to do things for him. I think it's because it makes him feel appreciated. I've tried to express how I feel, but it seems to trigger a fear of being used. Yeah. So it's a tough situation, but likely what's happened is he's been in relationships in the past where he was taken advantage of by women who did. Where he gave a lot. He was a masculine provider, and she still, like, ended up cheating on him or disrespecting him in some way or leaving him, rejecting him. And so now he's like on guard. So with these men, it doesn't mean that now it's okay for you to give to him and to pay for things you can occasionally. So this is one of the other things we want, I wanted to talk about is. So how do you actually give to a man? Well, if a man asks you to do something for him, if he asks you to cook for him, if he asks you to wash his clothes or to give him a massage or a BJ or whatever he wants, that's totally fine. If it feels good to you, if it feels good to you, then by all means you can still do those things for him. Now you want to be careful because so occasionally if he says, babe, can you cover this bill? I left my car to home or I, you know, I'm, it's a little tight right now. Like you cover this one. Or if he asks you to, if you guys are in a longer term relationship and he asks you to do something else for him, whatever else you said here, do things for you, I don't know what those things are for him. If it doesn't feel good for you, you need to share that with him. You say you need to use feminine, magnetic, feminine communication. You need to share your feelings respectfully and say like, I feel sad, I feel, I feel fear, or I feel anxiety. Why do you feel anxiety? Because when you ask me to do these things for you, I'm telling myself a story that you want me to take charge in the relationship. You want me to. You could even use this language. You want me to be in the masculine role in the relationship. You want me to take charge. You want me to take care of you. And that, that may mean we're not going to have that we're no longer going to have a healthy dynamic or I'm going to lose attraction for you or you may lose attraction for me. And I don't want that to happen. And I don't know what to do. And then so you give it up to him as a problem to solve. So what you're doing in this moment is you're actually opening up your, your feminine, vulnerable heart. You're being in your feminine. You're sharing your feelings. You're sharing a problem for him to solve. Now you're actually encouraging him to be back in his masculine rather than you going into your masculine and wanting to solve the problem for him or give him and pay for those things. And that's assuming that it doesn't feel good for you. Now, I would say the other caveat is, even if it does feel good for you and you, you do pay for the thing or you do do this thing for him, this favor for him, but you want to look at the overall relationship as well, and look at the overall relationship. And if you notice that you're giving a lot more than he is in the relationship, you have a reverse dynamic, then you need to. That's also an issue that needs to be addressed and you need to speak up. You need to share that with him as well. Using magnetic feminine communication so you get the relationship back on track so that you're not in the masculine role primarily and he's not in the feminine role primarily, you can get back into a healthy dynamic and inspire him into his masculine by you stopping the masculine behaviors. You have to stop at some point, if that's the case, you have to stop the madness. You have to stop giving to him, you have to stop paying for things, you have to stop doing things for him. And you have to then communicate from your feminine how you feel and what's coming up for you. And through that process, hopefully with respect and honoring him and his masculine, you'll inspire him to get over his stuff, get over his trust issues, get over his fear of being taken advantage of or whatever happened to him in the past and to step up into his masculine again and want to take care of you, want to help, want to be providing and being your hero. So that's what you're going to have to do. And it's a process you're going to go through with him. And if he ultimately does not step back into his masculine and he does not start taking care of you and you've consistently shared and you've done what we call The Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, which I highly recommend doing. If you haven't done it yet, you can get that again by taking our free quiz in the links or comments below or going to magnetizeyourman.com take the magnetize your man 90 day challenge and that'll hopefully get him to shift over the next 90 days dramatically to where he is showing care for you and he is wanting to help. So it's going to be a bit of a process often. But if he doesn't, you will ultimately have to be willing to walk away and be available for a man who is going to show care for your heart and who is going to take the masculine role and who's going to be your hero, protector, provider and want to give to you and not the other way around, where he wants you to take care of him and be sugar mama. So hope that helps. Let's see here. So Marion said, intimacy with a true masculine man is the best. Yeah. It's likely where you feel the most turn on. You feel, you feel the most desire, you feel the most claimed. Because when you're having sex with a truly masculine man, you're going to feel that sense of like he's just fully giving his gifts to you, right? Like he's fully claiming you. He's fully giving to you. He's wanting to penetrate you deeply to make you happy, to make you feel pleasure, to make you feel claimed and feel taken care of and feel like he's got it, like he is your man. And he's like, this is, this is his territory. That's like, this is my territory. I'm taking care of you. I'm like, I'm. I'm your man. Right? I'm. I'm the boss. I'm like, I'm gonna be in charge for us and taking care of us as a unit. And he's taking that role. Right? So that's why it'll feel so good and why you have. You see so many, you know, romance novels and erotica is written about this, about this kind of fantasy of like a really masculine man taking control and taking that charge in the relationship, and that's where that turn on happens. And when you're in your family, you can receive and it's healthy and it's. And he's showing care for your heart. It's like you can fully let go, relax and receive the gifts of a truly masculine man who wants to be that for you and who wants to, to take that role in your guys's intimacy and in your life. Because it's not just about sex. We talked about sex as one aspect, but he's wanting to take that role in all areas where he wants to lead, he wants to protect, he wants to give, he wants to make you happy. He wants to solve problems, he wants to listen to your feelings, he wants to help. That's what you're looking for. That's when you know your man is in his healthy, masculine and that he's inspired to do that. He enjoys doing that. And you actually are open and available and vulnerable and able to ask for help and to ask him to solve problems for you and to ask for his advice and to ask him to give to you and to receive it graciously and to appreciate him and to share your feelings and share how he makes you feel and how happy he makes you feel when he does, so that he feels like he can win. And he wants to do that over and over and over again. So hope that helps. Marianne also said, dancing is so fun. Yeah. And if. And dancing is also fun because of that dynamic, because you could really relax and enjoy and let him take the lead. So that's another reason. And relationship is just another version of that intimacy dance, just like sex is. All right, let's see here. So we have some other questions. So Chastity said, I give because I really don't want to be with anyone. Well, that's good, Chasity. I mean, if you don't want to be with anyone, I mean, it's good that you're at least acknowledging it, that you. You're. You know, that it's pushing him away, but you don't mind it. It's like, I don't mind being in my masculine because I don't want a man right now, which is fine. You may be in that stage of your life where it's like, I would rather push a man away, and I would rather be in my masculine because I don't actually want a man in my life right now, which is fine. You know, there's probably some. Some past, you know, issues you've had, challenges, maybe some trauma, which is okay, we're all looking. We're all through our own healing journey and moving through things, and hopefully a lot of that. You know, I see the cross in your profile. Hopefully God will start moving on your heart as well and healing a lot of the past issues or traumas you've had around men and relationships, maybe trust issues, distrust, fear. So where eventually you will be like, okay, I feel like I've gone through that journey. I've gone through my healing journey, my process, and I'm ready now to really have a man in my life again, a man who can. I do want to be taken care of. I do want to be. Feel safe. I do want to have somebody who's with me who I can enjoy life and who. He takes the lead and plans our adventures and plans our dates and wants to make me happy. So you may just not be at that place now, which is okay. And then hopefully eventually you can get there. And, you know, if not, that's fine too. If you just don't want that partnership in your life, that's totally fine as well. So. But it is interesting that you're watching this video today, so there's something Likely pulling on your heartstrings. That is like, you know, maybe there is something here for me. Maybe there is something else that I want, that I'm not completely happy and I'm not completely satisfied with my life right now, being alone. And I would like to have that in my life. So maybe there is something there and just continue to explore that. So I hope that helps Chastity. And then let's get some other questions here. So Marian also said, Okay, I have a question. How do you handle if your man is doing too much? You may have to elaborate on that, Marion. But the first thing is, I would say that's a really good sign that he is devoting himself to you, that he wants to be the masculine. He wants to give to you, he wants to make you happy. Now, what I imagine you're saying is that he's doing things in the sense of like, you don't even want it. So he's like, he's calling you too much. He's texting you too much. He's buying too much things for you. He's fixing too many things around the house. He's wanting to have sex with you and give you pleasure too often. So it depends on what the thing is that you're like. It's probably. I imagine you're like, oh, it's too much. Well, if that's the case, being in the feminine doesn't mean you just let him walk all over you and do whatever he wants with you, Right? That would be compliance. That's not submission. So healthy. Submission is when you're like, following a man's lead, when you're letting him lead the dance for your pleasure and for his pleasure. Now compliance is when he's doing whatever he wants and you let him do it, even if it doesn't feel good for you. That's not healthy. That's being the doormat that we talk about. The doormat just lets man do whatever he wants. He cheats on her. He comes and goes as he pleases. He takes from her. He's. And she's just like, it's okay because, you know, he might change someday. He's. He's. He's actually has a good heart deep down. I know he's going to change. I know he's. He's just going through a phase right now or, you know, I can't leave him because I love him. I don't want to leave him because I love him. Even though he's abusing me and even though he doesn't give to me. And he's not devotional. So there could be a lot of reasons for that where you need to step away. Because a healthy feminine is like, if you're not enjoying his leadership, you need to speak up. And you need to speak up often and share your feelings using magnetic feminine communication so that he can adjust and, and he knows how you feel and he stays connected to your heart and he understands what's going on for you vulnerably from your heart and from your mind. And you're also showing that you have value. You're showing that you're a queen, that you're like, hey, I'm not just gonna be silent if I don't enjoy this dance, if I don't enjoy this sex, if I don't enjoy this relationship. I'm not just gonna be silent, I'm gonna speak up. Cause I have standards and I'm gonna share how I feel in the right way, in a respectful way. Not where you're attacking him, not where you're blaming him, not where you're criticizing him. Cause that's only gonna push him away as well, because that's masculine communication. But from your magnetic feminine, where you're drawing him to you and you're drawing his devotion to you, which is what we teach in our courses and our coaching, which we'll help you with because we actually create scripts for you and all the specific steps of what to do and say with a man so that you're able to navigate these tough situations where you can share your feelings and share your problems in a way where he wants to help. He feels connected to your heart, he loves your emotions, he wants more of it. And he wants to also step back or change or adjust his behavior so that he's making you happy. Because here's the thing, ultimately a masculine, healthy man wants to make you happy. If he feels like he's not making you happy and he's claimed you, he's going to feel like he's a loser. He's going to feel like he's failing as a man if you're not happy consistently. And ultimately his self esteem will be diminished and he's going to probably leave the relationship because he's like, I can't make you happy. I want to make you happy. I need to know how to make you happy. Because I'm not a mind reader. I need to. I need you to speak up and share with me what you want and how you feel so I can fix the problem. Because if not, I need to move on. So that you can be with somebody who will make you happy or like what chastity he was sharing. I'll let you be by yourself because you obviously, you don't want me right here. You don't want me in your life. You don't need me. So just, you know, I'll let you be. So he'll be able to adjust that when you share your feelings in the right way and he can stay connected to your heart. And he won't be giving too much. He's going to be leading you and dancing in a way that's pleasurable for you and pleasurable for him. Because he'll be happy when you're happy. If he's making you happy with his leadership and his masculinity and his devotion and his problem solving and his protection and provision, he's going to feel like he's doing a good job and he's getting his sense of masculine purpose. Masculine meaning he's winning the game with you and he's going to feel great. I'm like, I'm being a good man. I have. My life has purpose now. I. Maybe I'm making my woman happy. That's what he wants. He doesn't want you to give him gifts. He doesn't want you to buy him things. He doesn't want you to write him love notes unless it's sharing appreciation. He doesn't want you to, you know, just out of your own accord, cook him dinners, wash his socks, give his hamster a manicure, take his dog on a walk to the fairgrounds. Like, he doesn't want any of those things. Like, he wants to be received by you, and he wants to feel like he's making you happy, that he can give to you. When his healthy masculine energy is connected, when his heart is his, his masculine heart is open, he's connected to his masculine core. Like, that's where he gets a sense of happiness and purpose and meaning when he's making you and the people closest to him happy. And when they're all happy, he's happy. So hope that helps, Marian. A lot of. A lot of longer answer I gave you there, but some. Some. Hopefully some helpful stuff. All right, so let's get some other questions here. Okay. This is a good question. So Eunuch said, I do not like feeling like I owe them something. That's how I feel about it. Yeah. So if it's a man you're not interested in, you. You don't have to receive from every man. If a man wants to give you. If a Man wants to buy you a car. Just a random man on the street walks up to you and say, hey, can I buy you a car? Can I buy you dinner? Can I give you a vacation to Rome, like with me? Like, can I have sex with you? Can I give you my sperms? Like, you know, like that sense of like, he wants to just give to you and you're like, no, I'm not interested. So you don't have to accept a gift from every man. You don't have to receive from every man if you're not interested. You can say, no thanks. And you can say, no thanks, I'm good. Of course, if a man just wants to give you appreciation, a compliment, it's good practice for, you know, all men that you come into contact with to practice receiving and to smiling. And just whenever a man is opening the door for you or he's solving a problem for you, or like one of our clients described, you know, a man taking out her groceries for her from the grocery store to her car and loading them up and she's like, thank you so much. I feel so happy that you did this for me. I appreciate it. That's like you practicing your feminine appreciation. But you don't have to receive from every man if you don't want to. If it's a man you're interested in, though, you want to also look into and notice, are you actually blocking your own feminine receptivity through a fear of being hurt again or trust issues or being vulnerable? Because that's a different conversation. If it's a man you're interested in and you want him, you want a long term relationship with him, you want him in your life, you want him to devote himself to you, but you're still like holding back. Like, I don't really want to receive, I don't really want him to give too much to me because I don't want to feel like I owe him and I'm going to feel guilty and that I need to do things for him. It's like, well, now that's, that's you back, that's, that's a protection. And likely that's you being back in your masculine energy of having the armor on and wanting to protect yourself and not wanting to be open and vulnerable in your relationship with him and receiving in that healthy dynamic like a dance or like what we talked about with sex or the sperm and the egg. So that's another conversation which you want to look at as likely. There's fears there, there's fears of am I actually good enough. So here's a great inquiry is, like, you have to be a worthy woman, and you have to feel like a worthy woman in order to receive from a healthy, masculine man. You have to. You have to overcome the conversation of, like, who am I? Why would a man want to give to me? Who am I? Like, I don't deserve this. I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable. Why would he want to do all these things for me? Why would he want to take care of me? Why would he want to provide for me? Why would he want to take me on a vacation to the Maldives? Why would he want to have a family with me? Like, who am I not good enough? I'm not that great of a woman. So that's. These inner conversations could also be blocks around your own sense of worthiness and your own sense of deservingness. So what can often overcome that is practicing what we teach around magnetic feminine communication, Magnetic feminine polarity with people close to you, your friends, your coworkers, other men in your life in different ways. You can practice that, like I mentioned, and then also starting to shift your mindset, which we do a lot of this work also in our coaching programs and our courses around, how do you become the queen? How do you shift your mindset around being the queen, believing that you are good enough, you're amazing, you deserve it, you're worthy. Why wouldn't a man want to give to you? You're an incredible woman. Like, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be loved. You deserve to have a man who wants to treat you, who wants to treat you like a princess, who wants to treat you like a queen, who wants to buy you things, who wants to take you out, who wants to pay for the dinners, who wants. Wants to take you to shows, take you on vacations, to fix things around your house, to give you a massage to make sure you're happy and feeling loved and wanted and needed. Oh, boy, my camera just went out. Here, let me try to turn this on real quick. It's the summertime here in San Diego, so it's getting a little hot. I think the camera might have died. Let me try. I have a backup camera. All right. It's not going to be as good, but I do have a backup camera. Hallelujah. Praise Jesus, the show will go on. All right. I'm just going to angle it like this. All right, so where were we? Yeah. So that you're worthy enough to receive a man giving all those things to you that he wants to take care of you. He wants to protect and provide. So you're the prize. You're amazing. You're wonderful. You're the gift. You are the gift. You being in your feminine and receiving fully from him, from your feminine is really the only thing you need to do for him. Let that land for a second. I'll say it again. You being in your feminine energy and receiving him from his masculine, the gifts he wants to give you, you being in your feminine and receiving from your feminine graciously, is all you need to give to him. That's all you need to do. Now, there's a lot of other steps that are involved with you getting rid of those layers and peeling back those layers that might be blocking you from that, but ultimately that's all he wants. You don't have to give him a back massage after he gives you a back massage. You don't have to say I love you after he says I love you. You don't have to give him a gift if he buys you a gift. You don't have to give him a compliment. If he gives you a compliment, all you have to do is say how it makes you feel that he did that thing for you. Thank you. I appreciate it. Thank you so much. I feel so happy. I feel so, so safe when you look out for me like that. I feel so happy that you're. When you text me and check in with me, I feel so, I, I feel so relaxed when he takes you out on a, on a dinner or to the beach or he plans an adventure for you both. So see if the good camera, I think it came back. Okay, cool. We'll see if this comes stays back here. So that's really all you have to do is you have to. You, you want to receive and share how it makes you feel and let him know that he's doing a good job and that he's winning with you. That's what's going to inspire him into his masculine. You don't have to do anything else. You don't have to give to him. It's okay. You can receive, you can enjoy it, and he will be happy from that. A masculine, healthy man. That's all he needs. He needs to know he's doing a good job. He needs to. He needs to feel needed. He needs to feel received. He needs to feel like his leadership is valued in the relationship and that's how he will feel good, that he's making you happy. Happy, happy wife, happy life with a masculine man. That's not going to Apply with a feminine man. For a feminine man, it's happy husband, happy life. Like, I need to be happy. I need to get, I need to give you do, have you do things for me and then I'm going to be happy. That's a feminine man or that's a damaged man. So that's not what you want. You need to step away from a situation like that if you're a queen. Hope that helps. Let's see what other questions we have here. Some other good ones. All right, let's see. Womanhood said, these modern times have destroyed men and women. Feminism is to blame, but also the lack of men to take on these masculine roles. Yeah, it's, it's true and it's unfortunately, it's very sad. And we're not taught these principles in high school, high school. We're not taught these principles in college even. It's a shame, It's a shame because we're actually taught the opposite. Often people are taught the opposite of, like, girls, you should go study, you know, math and you should study science. Even if you don't enjoy it, even if you hate it. Like, that's what you need to do to be an empowered woman. Like, don't let no man take care of you. You don't need no man. You just do your own thing. And it's, it's causing women to shut off their own feminine core to be like, oh, I have to put on the pants. I have to be the man. I have to be in charge. I have to tell him what to do. I have to pay for the dinners, I have to pay for the bills. I have to protect him. I have to listen to his feelings. I have to make, make sure he is happy. Like, those are all the opposite programming that we're being given. Oftentimes I was given that growing up. I was told, you know, men are, it's bad, it's toxic to be masculine. It's not good. You need to, like, let women be, you know, take charge. Now it's. You've had your turn. And so men are being taught, like, be weak. Be, you know, don't, don't live from your masculine. Don't be, don't be a hero, don't be a provider, don't lead. Like, just sit back and be in your feminine and receive. Like, let them give to you. And so unfortunately, then, now we have this, you know, 50 plus percent divorce rate and we have all these other issues and modern dating culture is a disaster. And online dating and unhappy individuals and depression record Levels of depression, depression and anxiety, especially amongst women. So it's obviously hasn't worked and we need to find better ways and we need to get back to some of the roots. And this is also different than what's been taught a lot in the past. Men and women haven't really operated this way throughout history due to survival reasons. But now we have the ability to actually learn what it looks like to be in a healthy masculine, to be in a healthy feminine where you don't need a man and a man doesn't need a woman oftentimes or even need to be a provider, but he wants to because that's what he enjoys. That's where he can get to live his purpose. And you can get to receive and get to have a man who wants to be your hero and wants to take care of you and care for your heart and make you happy and it can be beautiful and you can have a family together and you can raise kids together, you could go on adventures together, you could travel together and you can have passion and you can have great sex and you can have deep intimacy mentally, physically and emotionally. That wasn't really there before. Oh, we lost a good camera again. I'm just going to switch with this camera for now until we get that figured out. It's just too hot. It's too hot. I need to get an AC in here. Yeah. So definitely, definitely agree with that and there's better ways and we can move to the next stage which is healthy masculine feminine dynamics, feminine masculine polarity where you can be living from your core. He could be living from his core. You feel taken care of, you feel adored and cherished and he feels needed and wanted and valued and that he is appreciated for his leadership and his gifts, his protection, his solving problems, being the hero and wanting to help you because all men have that instinct. All men want to be the hero, which is why they go to war and will die because they feel like they're helping. They feel like they're being a hero for somebody, for their country, for their family. Like men put themselves in extremely dangerous positions often because this hero instinct is so strong within them that they want to provide, they want to be responsible for the, the well being of their family, their woman and their people, their, their community. So it's, it's really, really powerful when that's fully activated and we can have a great life and great relationships and create a happier world. So I hope that helps as well. So T Rose says is giving a card for his birthday is masculine. So this is a great question because actually it's not necessarily masculine. To give him a gift is masculine, especially if he didn't ask for it. If he didn't ask you to do something, like we talked about this earlier, like, if he didn't ask for something and you're just doing it, you're just buying him a gift or giving him cooking him dinner or washing his socks or taking his dog to the vet or picking up groceries for him. If he didn't ask you for that and lead it lead you. And it didn't. And it didn't. It didn't feel good for you, especially then that is definitely in your masculine. That is you trying to get something from him, that's trying to get his love, that's trying to control him, manipulate him. And, and being in your masculine, you're providing for him, right? So however, a birthday card is different because on the card, it really depends on what you're saying on the card. If you're giving him a card for his birthday and on the card you're sharing feminine communication, like what we teach, you're sharing, like, appreciation for him and who he is, that's feminine, that, that's totally fine because you're not really giving to him. You're sharing how he impacts you and how he makes you happy. That's different. That's you actually receiving him and you're just expressing more from your feminine how he makes you feel. But if you're giving him an actual gift, that's a different conversation. And you want to be very careful with that because that is moving in the masculine energy. Especially if he didn't ask for a gift. Now you still can sometimes say he's like, I really want to get him something for his birthday. Or we had another woman asking us this in our program. I really want to get him this thing for Father's Day and say, well, did he ask you to give him that? Did he ask you for a gift? No. Okay, well, one thing you can still say is, you can still ask him and say, may I ask if you'd like me to get you something for. For your Father's Day? May ask if it's okay if I give you something for Father's Day. So you can still ask him if he wants to receive the gift, because he might say like, no, that's like, I don't care about gifts. Like, you don't need to get me something. Like, no, it's okay. But he could still say, like, yeah, that would be great, or, yeah, I would appreciate that he may still want that. So you could still offer it occasionally. And if he says yes, if you use feminine communication, he says, yes, that I would like that, and it feels good to you, then you can still do that and you're still in your feminine. He's still in his masculine because he's leading and you maintain the dynamic. So that's why we talk about how we have these roots of masculine, feminine polarity. And it can show up in all these different ways in the relationship and all these little distinctions, why it's so important to have a coach and to have somebody who can help you in these little different distinctions to make sure you get the principles and can have a healthy, happy, loving relationship and have his devotion. So hope that helps as well. We're about running out of time here, so I'm gonna do some rapid fire of some questions and get some more here. So Marianne said, I'm learning to accept graciously and letting myself be happy, but it's a little too much too soon, and I feel guilty. Yeah. So that sounds more like it's. Your practice is going to be the feminine receiving feeling okay and feeling actually deserving and worthy to have a man giving to you and providing for you. A man that you care about giving to you, providing you, and then it's great. And that's all you have to do, is just receive. And you don't have to give back. You don't have to try to reciprocate his giving. That would put you back into the masculine. You could actually just receive from the feminine. And that's beautiful. And that's all he needs. So let's see here. So let's see what else we got here. Where did I lose? There's another good question here. Some womanhood said it's an inevitable, it's an inevitability that women will want men to be masculine, if not at a young age, later on in life when they are graciously needed, to allow to be feminine and to be a role model for the children. Yeah. So you might think right now, oh, it's okay. I'm, you know, I'm okay to just sleep around with guys. And I don't care if you're taking care of me or leading or giving, like, but likely what you're going to run into eventually is you're going to be like, tired of it. I'm tired of having to always give to the men. I'm tired of having to always be the one controlling the relationship or trying to initiate or lead things forward or having to text him all the time or ask him, you know, about the status of the relationship and what he wants and what he needs. And eventually you're going to. You likely will get to the point where you're like, I don't want to do that anymore. I would love to have a healthy, masculine man in my life, the king, to take care of me too. I want to be supported as well. And I want a man who also gives me the security of knowing that he's there for me and that he's committed to me and he wants to, you know, get married or just at least show that he's fully in it with you rather than just having to do it yourself all the time or just feeling uncertain and unstable in the relationship. So, Karen. Karencia said, what should be the approach when a man has pulled away and comes back? Yeah, well, you want to share your feelings with him when he comes back. You don't just want to accept him and just be like, okay, unless you are really okay with that. But likely you're not because you're like, why did you pull away? Why did you leave me like this? So you want to share your feelings. How did that make you feel that he pulled away? You want to use magnetic feminine communication. And these, these situations are often very helpful. Again, to have a coach or to have us help you craft out the scripts because we'll actually do a lot of this for you like, like with our Magnetize youe Man quiz in that, that free gift that we have in the link in the comments. Like, we'll do a lot of this for you. We'll help you craft the scripts. We'll help you get. Get exactly what you need to say to navigate these conversations from your feminine. That draws him closer to you rather than pushing him away with unknowingly using masculine communication and destroying the polarity so that he actually pulls away. Again, we don't want that. So you want to communicate in the right way that pulls him closer to you and. And shares your feelings and still is the queen showing your value. That draws him closer to you and that makes him respect you and value you as well. So that's what you want to do. And not just immediately take him back and only if he's proven to you and shown with his devotion and his actions that he really wants to claim you this time and be committed to you, then if it feels good to you, you can start letting him start gradually back into your life. And that would be up to you and how you feel so hope that was helpful. Marion said, I've tried asking to share, getting permission and then sharing my saying my emotion. Worked like a charm. Awesome. Marianne, so great to hear. Those are some of the basics of feminine communication. I'm glad you're starting to learn those and use those because that's going to help you so much. And it's a, it's a, it's something you're going to master, like learning a new language. It'll take some time, it'll take some coaching, but once you get it, it's going to be the most natural, easy thing you've ever done in your life to have a man devote himself to you from that place. Ruthie said, how do you tell your man he needs to be the provider and not expect you to financially contribute for the benefit of relationship when he already expects financial contribution? Yeah, you need to share your feelings. You need to use magnetic feminine communication. You need to share your feelings around that, the problem and let him solve it and let him start to, to step up and, and not do the masculine behavior, not be giving him to him financially anymore. You have to share your feelings around that in a respectful way that honors his masculine and it is allowing him to not feel attacked or criticized or blamed. And from that place he'll likely start stepping up and shifting the dynamic. So hope that helps. Ruthie Rani said, it is wife's responsibility to take care of husband and moreover, help mate. A lovable wife and lovable mother. She has many roles and responsibilities too. Yes. Now the key Rani with that is again, is he leading you to do those things as he asked you to take on those roles? Because if he's not asking you to do those things and if he hasn't, if he's not even valuing those things, then you need to make sure you're not just giving them and doing those things for him. Because that would be coming from the masculine place of trying to please him and trying to get his love, get something from him, get an outcome which is masculine. And you could always, if you're really like, I really want to do these things because I enjoy it, you just ask him and say, you know, would you like me to start doing this around the house? Like, I enjoy it. Like, would you like me to start doing these things for you? And then if he says, yeah, that's, that would be great, then it's okay. Great. Now he's given you his, his directive. He said, yes, he wants that thing. He's led you in that way and now it's it's totally fine. And if it ever doesn't feel good for you, you need to share your feelings. Because there's a lot of solutions now, especially in our modern age. I give this example sometimes. Like, I don't like to cook. My wife, Antjea, she doesn't like to cook. So I don't. I don't make her cook. I don't say it's the wife's responsibility to cook in the household. Like, I'm the man. Like, I'm not gonna cook, you need to cook, or whatever, you know, even though it is more masculine for actually the men to be providing in that way. But what I do is I, as the man, the masculine, I found a solution. I found a creative solution, and I found some meal delivery services that we hired that I pay for or that we pay for, you know, through our bank account. But I made it happen. I figured out the solution, and now we get these meals delivered every week that we just have to cook up. And so that's a solution. That's the way I found a solution to do something that she wants and that I want. But I'm not forcing her to do something she doesn't enjoy, because that would be me not caring about her heart and forcing her into compliance. So I find ways to help her to do the things she does enjoy in our relationship. Like, she does enjoy taking care of our daughter and taking our daughter to activities. And I have other things that I want to do and other things I do enjoy doing those things with my daughter as well. And we spend time in other ways, but she loves to do that, so I give her space for that. So we have our unique things that we enjoy. And I, just, as the masculine, allow her to have those roles and responsibilities that I want her to do that I enjoy her doing, but also feels good to her, and it feels good to me. And if it ever changes for her, she can speak up. And I could try as the masculine, to find other solutions for that so that she doesn't just have to do something she doesn't enjoy, which would be compliance. So that was more like when people say, oh, you're teaching women how to be in the 1950s, or men and women, oh, it's actually not true, because in the 1950s, likely women were doing a lot of things they didn't enjoy, and the man wasn't really showing care for her heart in a lot of ways. And so it wasn't really a healthy dynamic. So we have to find healthy masculine feminine polarity. Which is involved the man listening and caring about a woman's heart and the woman actually sharing and being vulnerable about her feelings and about her heart in the right way, in a respectful way that she's not criticizing him, she's not blaming him, but actually draws him closer and makes him want to help and find a better solution. So hope that, hope that, hope, hopes. Hope that helps. Raquel said, I'm. Is giving compliments to a man masculine? I heard another coach say not to do it because it's giving, not receiving. Yeah. So giving compliments is masculine. And when you're saying something like, in a specific way, like, you're saying, like, oh, that's a nice shirt. When you're saying that's a nice shirt, you're giving him a compliment and you're also judging him. So there's judgments that are good and their judgments are their bad. So you could say, like, if you were to say, that's an ugly shirt, that's like a bad judgment. Right. But then you're saying, that's a good shirt. That's a good judgment. But it's still a judgment. It's still like you're like the mother judging him and saying, oh, you're doing really good. You're doing good, little boy. You have a nice shirt on. This is good. Or when a man's not being. Doing what you want, you're like saying, no, this is not good, little boy. You need to stop that. This is bad behavior. So it's still putting you in this kind of motherly kind of leadership role. Right. Where you're, You're. You're kind of the judge of him, and you're, you're in your masculine. So what's the actual feminine way to do this? Because it's not like you don't share anything with him. And you don't. The way you do it is through appreciation. So instead of saying, that's a nice shirt, you would say, when you wear that shirt, it makes me feel so attracted to you. So it's subtle. It's a subtle distinction, but it makes a big difference energetically because it's more now you being vulnerable and sharing how what he does make you makes you feel, which is really more about you than it is about him. Like, yeah, he's wearing the shirt, but you are having an emotional response and you're sharing that. I feel attracted when you wore that shirt. That's your experience. It's you sharing your feelings. It's you being vulnerable. That's feminine. When you're Sharing appreciation and how you feel, which is about you, that's feminine. When you're making it about him and what he's doing right or not doing right and what your judgments are about that, that's about him and that's masculine. So there's these little distinctions, which is again, why it's so important to have a coach and to be in, like, a coaching container where we help you get these little distinctions where you might not have been like, wow, I didn't even know I was doing that in the past. I didn't even know that was masculine. And I was pushing him away. And that's why it didn't work out. That's why that relationship ended, because I was doing that all the time. That's likely why it was so. And you'll push away guys, even in, you know, on a first date and small conversations, these little behaviors will affect how he feels when he's with you. If he feels honor, you know, respect, his masculine is honored and respected and valued and appreciated, or if he's feeling like he's being judged or being controlled or manipulated or blamed or criticized or attacked, that'll make a big difference in whether he comes closer to you or whether he pulls away from you. So hope that helps. Mercedes said, thanks for these lives. It's really useful. Glad it's helpful. Mercedes, a couple more here and then we're wrap it up tonight. There's so many comments and questions coming in, but I don't think I'll be able to get to them tonight. Got to get going soon. She said, my boyfriend grew up around single moms with no masculine role models. I can tell he is masculine at core, but has no concept of polarity and thinks things should be equal. My feminine desire triggers him Help. Yeah. So again, if he didn't have any masculine role models, he has no concept of how to be in his healthy masculine. Right. Even though he has a core, he still has his core. So the main thing you can do with him is to use everything we're teaching you here. Being in your magnetic feminine polarity, doing the magnet, the Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, and also using magnetic feminine communication, that's going to inspire him into his masculine because he needs to figure that out on his own. All you can do is be in your feminine and inspire him into being his hero through you sharing vulnerably with him and being in your feminine, vulnerable heart. And that's going to inspire him to want to change and to want to be the hero rather than you telling him what to do or trying to control and manipulate him or trying to help him, being his therapist, being his helper, being his mother. Like, no, that's not gonna change anything. That's gonna put him more into his feminine. So, yeah, that's what I say with that. Hopefully that helps. And I definitely recommend getting some coaching support. And if you haven't taken our free quiz, that's gonna help you a lot so we can get you on the right track with him, especially with the 90 day challenge. Okay, let's see here. I know I'm always answered. All right. I have an issue with most men. What about a man who has had a hard time remembering special dates like anniversary date, birthdays, etc, not talking, not talking about gifts, remembering and saying happy Anniversary. Yeah. So you need to share your feelings with him about that. That's what you need to do. You're not going to try to control him and say, remember our anniversary is coming up next week. That's you trying to tell him what to do. That's you trying to control him. And really, you're mothering him. Also, it's like you need to share your feelings. You could share still your feelings and say, may I share a feeling I have with you? Sure. I feel sad. I feel anxious. Why do you feel sad and anxious? Because our anniversary is coming up next week and I'm telling myself a story that you haven't, that you don't remember it or that you haven't planned anything. And it's making me feel sad and anxious and I don't know what to do. And so you give it up to him as a. As a problem to solve, as a story. And you've done it respectfully, you've done it using magnetic feminine communication. And hopefully then he. He will shift. And then if he didn't remember still that you have to share your feelings around that. And if consistently he's not showing care for your heart, which is again, why the 90 day challenge is so important, then you need to be willing to walk away. But likely he will start shifting. If that's one of the only issues you're having, that's not a huge one. But it is important that you speak up and share because that's what a queen would do. You're a queenly woman who values herself. Okay, so. So yeah, we're gonna wrap this up pretty soon. Charlotte said, he does so much for me and wants to remind me, why do they do that? Yeah, it's probably because he's in his feminine and he's Feeling resentful because he's giving to you, but not from a place of devotion. He's giving because maybe he feels like that's what he has to do or that he is trying to get something from you and he's not actually in his masculine devotion. So if he keeps saying things like that, like he's reminding you, oh, remember I did this thing for you last week, that means you need to give me a blowjob today, or that means you need to make, make massage my back, or that means you need to cook dinner tonight, or that means you need to fix me something. Then he's not in his healthy devotional masculine and you need to share your feelings around that. You need to use magnetic feminine communication and you need to speak up. And if he's not changing, you need to be willing to walk away. So it's basically what I said before because ultimately that's what it's going to come down to is doing this. Exactly. This is being willing to share your feelings and using everything that we're going to teach you and that we're helping you with with him so that he can step up and change. And if not, you gotta gotta move on. Unix said, thank you so much. It's good to hear your advice. I feel it would be good for me to let it sink in and consider it. Thank you, sweetheart. Said. Interesting. Stephanie said, my man hates when I buy him things, so I try to always make it small. But he takes such good care of me and I know I want to reciprocate and he knows I want to reciprocate. Yeah. So you could still share your feeling that you want to reciprocate. And again you could also still ask him, say, I really want to get you something. Like I really want to give to you. Is that okay with you? Or may ask what you would like me to do to give back to you. You could still ask that you're like, I really want to. Can I ask, you know, what you would like me to do? But you letting it, giving it up to him as a problem to solve and letting him take the leadership on what he actually wants you to do. Because I don't like gifts either. And a lot of people don't like gifts, especially men. So they'll say like, no, I don't like gifts. Like, you don't need to give any gifts for me. But you know, if you want to, like, I, I wouldn't mind if you want to, if you want, if you could, I don't know who can Scratch my back. Or, you know, if you want to cook dinner tonight or if you want to just, you know, just let's. Let's be a little spicy in the bedroom tonight. If you could put on that cheerleader outfit I bought for you last Halloween, that would be really hot and sexy, and I would appreciate that. So that may be something. And ultimately, all you really have to do is, again, your gift that you have to give is your feminine and receiving and sharing how he makes you feel and that makes you happy. And appreciating him when he does those things and letting him know that he's winning and just receiving and raising your bar of your ability to receive and that you're a worthy woman and that that's okay to receive and that that's how he feels. Happy is when he knows he's making you happy. And that's really all he needs to feel good. From his masculine. Okay, so is there a way a feminine man can become more masculine? Yes, totally. And by you being in the feminine through the law of polarity. The law of polarity states that opposite energies attract. So the more feminine you are, the more you're gonna. Well, do it the other way. The more feminine you are, the more you're gonna inspire him into his masculine through the law of polarity. Because if you're both feminine, you just have to be more feminine than he is, and he's going to be called more into his masculine. So you have to stop the masculine behaviors, and that's what's going to encourage him to be in his masculine. And if he's still so broken, if you're using what we teach you here. Magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication. He's still so broken he can't step into his masculine. You have to be willing to walk away because he's not capable. He's too broken. And D said, how do I see the magnetic feminine? So to get that and to start diving deeper into these principles again, the best way is to click on the link in the description or comments below this video to take our free, free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get these principles on a deeper level and to actually get support. Because we will do all of this for you. If you're like, I don't know what to say. I'm not exactly sure how this all works. Like, we will do it for you. 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We have so many things, but it really starts with the free quiz that we can help you to get on this path and have a loving, devotional, long term relationship with a man you desire. So hope this was helpful tonight. Much love. I really appreciated all the questions that came in. There's some really good questions tonight. I hope this was helpful. Hope you got some new distinctions and I look forward to seeing you on our future trainings, diving in and helping you master this and learn this new language so you can have everything you desire with your man right away and not have to suffer anymore with men pulling away, not knowing what to do, not knowing why, not knowing what to say and being frustrated in your love life anymore. We don't want that. So let's end it, end the madness and have what you ultimately desire. Much love and I'll talk to you again very soon. Bye bye.