THIS Keeps You Stuck With The Wrong Man

This keeps you stuck with the wrong man. If you're wondering whether or not a man is into you or not, and if he's just not that into you, then this is going to open your eyes to understand the psychology of men. What they want, what makes them pull closer to you, and also what makes them pull away for you. Also what men are right for you and how to know if your man is right for you or wrong for you. So I'm going to be sharing this wisdom with my wife today. So I'm very excited to dive into that. And if you don't know us already, my name is Brody Boyd and together with my wife antia, for over 20 years combined, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term, committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go ahead and dive right into that. And I want to bring on my lovely wife to start with sharing the powerful concepts that we have for you today.

Yes. So many times where women come to us and basically describe to us how this particular man is sending mixed messages and is saying he wants to be friends, but he's treating me like a girlfriend. He wants to be friends, but he's paying for all my dinners. He wants to be friends at Fill in the blank. Right? And so it's like, so my, my message, first of all, right, is that if a man says he wants to be friends, he wants to be friends, AKA usually friends with benefits, right? So let's be honest and without any strings attached, without any expectations. And it doesn't mean that, oh, if you just wait longer then maybe, you know, because he's treating you like a girlfriend, which by the way is in and of itself an interpretation. You're some meaning making machine depending on what lenses you wear, right? That's where the famous pink rose colored glasses come from. It's like we're distorting our reality, right? And then we're waiting and we're waiting and waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting and get anxious and say, oh well, but, but you know, he was taking out of this other person and, but I don't think they actually hooked up. Yeah. So even if they did, he's in total integrity to do that because he told you that he wants to be friends, right? So then the story goes like this. Yeah, but that doesn't make any sense because we totally compatible. I mean, you know, he says he's deeply connected to me, right? Like we both wash our hamster's hair, right? Like our grandmas have the Same first name. You know, I mean, it's like God wing after God wing after God wing, you know, and all I need to do is I need to just convince him, right? I mean, you know, clearly relied on all levels, like mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Right. And it's like. But he said he just wants to be friends, right? So, like, like if you, if you're not able to make that distinction, you're going to continue wasting your time with the wrong man. Because more likely and body can chime in here. Obviously, as a man, he will not turn around. And of course, that wound comes from your hope as a child. When you're a child, you're hoping that one of your parents is gonna turn around, right? Maybe one of your parents was dismissing you or was abusing you or was neglecting you or was belittling you. And then you said, well, if I'm just being more patient, if I'm just being more grateful, if I'm just being more compassionate, if I'm just being more giving, if I'm just being more generous, then I'm finally going to be loved by my parent. And of course, that never happens.

Yeah. So one of the big things to look for with a man is you need time. Because if a man is not showing you good signs that he's the man for you, that he is worthy of your commitment, of your investment, of your care and energy into the relationship, then you need to see over time what kind of man this is. This is how you actually discover. A big part of discovering whether a man's into you or not is using our 90 day challenge, our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge, which means you go through a period of time. For example, 90 days, which is a generally a good rule of thumb for how long you should give a relationship. If you really like a guy. It could also, of course, be less or it could be longer. But you have a period of time that you give a relationship to see how he actually shows up. In that period of time when you are in your feminine, when you're not giving him things, you're not buying him things, or giving him business advice, coaching him, therapy, healing him, you are simply being in your feminine. You're allowing him to feel your feminine core, your heart, your vulnerability. You're asking him for help in different ways. You're asking him for advice in different ways. And then you see over that period of time, which we'll help you with, that's what our 90 day challenge is all about. You, you'll see his devotion either increasing typically what will happen is his devotion will increase like this, and he'll start showing you that he actually is very into you. He actually is a healthy man. He's not broken. And he wants to care for you, and he is caring for you. He's deepening his commitment to you. Or you'll see that it flatlines. Typically it's going to be one of those two. It's either going to go up or it's going to be flatlined on the plateau. Sometimes it will go down. That's typically only if a man is deeply broken, which is a percentage of men are out there. And so what you're looking for is over that period of time, what is that trajectory? And at the end of the 90 days, if he's not like this, then you have to leave. You have to walk away. Because if it's flat or if it's down, that means either down, he's broken, or even flat. It could be also he's broken, or number two, he's just not that into you. He just doesn't want it. And he's probably even told you that for some, to some extent. But if he hasn't shifted, then we know it's a fact, because he may tell you in the beginning he just wants to be friends. But if you use what we teach you over time, that can actually potentially change now, not always. And this is not a guarantee by any means, because it depends on a lot of factors. It depends on how much coaching you're getting, how much inner shifts you're getting, moving closer to your feminine core. It also depends on what kind of man he is and if he's actually broken or if he does really does not have any kind of romantic feelings for you. But we can't change him. All we can change is you. And the more we try to change him, the less he's actually going to change, the more he's likely to actually pull away and close up. So we don't want to do that. Do you have any other thoughts or feelings on that, Snuggie?

Oh, yeah. I mean, so many, right? Because Bu and I, we talk about this a lot. And one is like, I always joke with Buddy, I said, okay, so let's go through the best case scenario and the worst case scenario, right? So the best case scenario, which, by the way, is not going to be the best case scenario, but the best case scenario is actually, let's start with the worst case scenario first. The worst case scenario is that he is already seeing other women like he's Already dating someone, he's already sexually involved with someone. And here you are just still having all your hopes up because you think, oh, he just needs to heal his wounds, right? He was just in a abusive, you know, marriage, let's say, or long term relationship or his ex was a narcissist or, or whatever it is, right? So you're just like having all this compassion and in the meanwhile he just does whatever he wants, right? And why I said the worst case scenario is because usually you won't know about this and you won't find out about this until you're going to find out about it. And that's going to be weeks, months down the road. And then the reason why it's a worst case scenario is because you're going to feel the shame. You're going to feel embarrassed. You're going to feel so. Oh, right, it's such a horrible feeling. And that I have felt too in the past when I was giving the wrong man the benefit of the doubt before obviously healed my love blue in blueprint and my emotional blueprint as well, right? But before I did that, it happened and I almost wish like nobody would find out about it. That's how embarrassed I felt, right? And so, and it's so horrible because it hurts because you're, you care so much, right? And you're investing so much and you know everything about this person's life, you know everything about the other people in this person's life and you so in engulfed right, in this person's life that you almost like again lost yourself. And I see already some of you just like nodding your head right now, probably in sadness, right, Realizing, recognizing that, yes, you've done this many, many times, right? And of course the best case scenario is, well, that you actually, that you actually find a way to, you know, break up with him. Or the other best case scenario is that, which is all by the way, not a best case scenario that you push him and you shove him and you convince him and then eventually you drag him in front of the altar and then guess what, you end up in a marriage, okay? And then you, you call me and you say, I'm in this marriage, but I don't feel desired, I don't feel cherished. My husband comes home late at night, he works long hours, he doesn't really care. He doesn't give me birthday cards, he doesn't bring me home flowers. He. I don't even know when he told me the last time he loves me. But because he was not intrinsically motivated from the get go. But you convince them because you know, you can convince some people, depending on how susceptible there are and how many childhood wounds that I have and how codependent there are, you can convince them.

But.

But you know what, you're going to realize that you put the ladder against the wrong wall. And so that's why I'm not kind of joking, that's the best case scenario. Because it's really not the best case scenario because now you're married and now you have to get divorced and all. It's horrible. Right? So I don't even know which. What's the better scenario, the best case scenario, the worst case scenario, Other word, You can't really win with this.

Yeah. Whoops. Yeah. So the other thing is when a man and you are in the 90 day challenge phase, that it's important to look towards the fruits. So the Bible says in Matthew 7:16, you will recognize them by their fruits. So you will recognize your man by his fruits. What does this mean? His actions. The actions are his fruits. So no matter what a man says to you, if he says he loves you, if he says that he wants, even if he says he wants a relationship with you at some point, or he wants to marry you, or he wants to have kids with you or whatever, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if his actions are not backing that up. Is he spending time with you? Is he reaching out to you consistently? Is he committing to you in different ways? How about, let's start with exclusivity. Is there even any exclusivity happening? If there's not exclusivity, you can reasonably assume he is sleeping with other women or at least talking to other women. And hey, even if you are exclusive, that doesn't mean that's not happening either. So you have to look for other actions. Like is he showing you his loyalty also with his care for you, his devotion, him solving problems for you, him wanting to help you, him wanting to listen to your feelings, him checking in with you regularly checking in with your feelings. How are you feeling, babe? What's coming up? And so you're looking for those fruits in your man, but it also goes the other way. You will know them by their fruits. Well, there could also be rotten fruits. So is your man blocking you on social media occasionally? Is he an alcoholic? Is he, is he doing edibles every day? Is he, you know, doing harder drugs? Or is he gambling or is he abusing his family members? Are you like, these are also rotten fruits. You have to look out for that a lot of women will ignore. Or they will paint, painting the roses red, that painting the rose is red. Remember in Alice in Wonderland, they're going around painting all the white roses red because the queen loves red roses. So they're just going to pretend that they're all red roses to make the queen happy. And so if you are the queen, are you doing that to yourself? Are you painting over, Are you painting the green flags, the red flags green? Painting the roses red? Because that's you making the rotten fruit look like healthy fruit, like Antia said. Also you're having rose colored glasses because these actions can be interpreted in a lot of different ways. And we as humans, as Antia will talk a lot with you about, especially when you do coaching with her. We delete, we distort, and we generalize our reality. So what that means is things will happen. The man will have a gambling addiction, or the man will say he just wants to be friends, or the man will obviously be flirting with other women. And then what you will do potentially is you'll tell yourself a story after the fact. Oh, well, that's just because, because his ex was crazy and he's just looking for some escape right now. Or that's because he had a hard childhood. Or that's because he, he's just a man and men always want other women, you know, or he's, he's, it's just something he does for fun, you know, it's just his way to relax. Or it's just his way of showing that he cares about me. That's the worst case scenario when a woman's justifying abuse, especially physical or sexual abuse, that's really dangerous. So you have to look at yourself and hold that mirror up and say, are you painting the roses red? Are you painting the, are you looking at the rotten fruit like as if it's healthy fruit? And generalizing. And if you are, that's okay. Don't beat yourself up about it. That's part of being human. But you need to stop it. Just stop. And instead you need to look at reality. Look at reality, which means flaws and good in your man. Are you seeing the full balanced picture, all of his flaws and all of his good traits and really weighing especially the flaws and not overdoing that either. Because some women go to the other extreme where they just see all men are bad and everything means everything's a red flag. And, oh, this means he's a narcissist. And that means he's a narcissist. And he said this, and he's a sociopath or he's. So you want to do. You don't also want to go to the other extreme where you're now seeing brown. You're looking through brown colored glasses, and every man is going to be a horrible partner for you. But we want to look at reality, get back to reality. And that's one of the reasons why it's so important to have a coach, because a coach will help you take off the lenses and they could hold up a mirror to you, like we do always with our clients, and help them to see, like, what's really going on here. Here's a different way of looking at it. What do you think about this? What did you think when he said this? What if he was actually meaning this? What do you think? That could be true. So getting different perspectives on it that way. What do you think about that? Shiny.

Yeah, very true. And I think a telltale sign, in my opinion, is like, when a woman feels anxiety. Because one thing I didn't feel was before Brody was anxiety because my body was so busy feeling peace and calm and almost like a little bit of boredom, right? And boredom just compared to these super hyperactive, reactive, fiery, burning, painful nervous system responses that I was used to. Right? And so, like, what I really see with the women, too, that are sort of painting the red flags green and wishful thinking and projection is that that's actually quite anxiety. I mean, as soon as there's like, something that's slightly out of balance or somebody doesn't text back right away, and then I always say, well, you're. You are attached. You are attached. You're lying to yourself that you just want to be friends. And that's also the other piece I want to say too, is like, stop lying to yourself. Right? Because we have yet to find someone who actually said, no, I don't care. I'm okay. I'm good. You know what I mean? If you just want to be friends, that's great. I actually want to be friends, too, mostly because I don't really know if I want a relationship anyways. But then as soon as something happens and God is like, so good because he's actually, like, bringing up an opportunity for you to actually get the authentic reflection of actually what's really going on inside of yourself. And then you freak out or you can't sleep the whole night, well, that's usually a sign that you are attached and that you do have secret expectations. And in that particular case, you know, it's, you know, you can communicate it again. I mean, Buddy talked about the 90 day challenge. Right. But it's really about being honest with yourself and realizing, grieving, that your man's man's not going to give you that or you're going to see this thing through, and it's going to be even more painful. Because what my suspicion is is that at some point you're going to find out that he is dating someone or that he is maybe even living together with someone, but that he's actually, you know, sexually involved with someone, whatever it is. Right. For, and has been for maybe as long as you've been talking and he's been telling you that he wants to be friends. So that's why it's tough. You have to be willing to let go, even if you're in the unknown and even if you don't really 100% know.

Yeah, it's. It's a really important aspect to it. And there's one. One key as well with this, I believe, which is another great scripture on this, which is trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. So sometimes we get so stuck on believing that things are a certain way that we see it that it must be true, rather than trusting and having faith in something bigger than yourself. Now, there's a caveat with this, because when you're asking God for guidance on is this the right man for me? Should I keep seeing him, or. When you're leaning on a coach. Also when you're leaning on a coach like us, helping you to decipher what's going on in your situation, whether a man is right for you or not, or if he's your soulmate or not, or good for you or not, you have to. It is very beneficial to actually let go of some of your understanding because what often happens is we get stuck in our own belief systems. And there's an old phrase, a fish doesn't know that it's wet. And so oftentimes you are operating from your belief patterns and your view of relationships that has created this cycle for you where you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men or men who aren't committing to you or treating you like a princess or not really pursuing you or chasing you. And there's another great quote. I believe it's from Einstein that said, you can't solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it. So you need to get out of your bubble. And you need to lean not on your own understanding at all times, but also be willing to look for answers and to trust in a bigger power. Now, this is dangerous because what a lot of people will also do, a lot of women we've known, they will let go of their own understanding, but then they will imagine that they're getting whispers from other sources. Like, there's this book I was reading where a woman, she said, well, I don't know if this is my husband or not, but what I'm going to do is if he's my husband, God, then show me a sign that only I will know that it's meaningful. And that means he's my husband. And now there's. There's some value in that where she's, like, letting it go, right? She's not making the decision herself. She's not jumping to conclusions, and she's looking for answers elsewhere. Now, the problem is she was so vague about it. So I do not recommend being vague about your request, but look for specifics. How will you specifically know if this is your man? Well, the 90 day challenge is a great way to do that, because what happened in this situation, the man, when he picked her up on a date, he ended up giving her flowers. And of course, if she has this conversation in her mind that some meaningful sign, well, then, of course, flowers can be a meaningful sign. It's like, oh, well, that means he's my husband, then. Well, isn't that convenient? Because there could have been a lot of things that he could have done that probably could have made her come to that same conclusion. Oh, he pulled the chair out for me. Oh, it must be my husband. Or this guy's probably also brought flowers to other women before, too. Or he's. Lots of men will bring women flowers in different situations, so it's not like a super unique sign. You can do something like that. Like, what was that? Who was the guy in the Bible who did the fleece? And the. The rain and the dew was on the fleece. Was that Gideon?

Gideon, yeah. So Gideon Wine press. Yeah, twice.

You know, like, okay, if it's really you, God, then. Then when I wake up, there will be dew on the fleece. And then when the dew was there, he's like, okay, okay, well, if it's really this. This is what you want from me, God, then I'm gonna wake up, and there won't be any dew on the fleece. So he's like, asking for multiple signs of confirmation. So that's one way to do it. But it's. It's better if you give something very specific. And then also if you have A real process for leaning on your understanding. Because we also had other clients who said, oh, God told me he was the one for me because he spoke to me and he said that I meant to have his child, I meant to have. I'm. We're going to be married or we're going to live here and we're going to travel. So you got to watch out for that too. That are you just telling yourself potentially. And I'm not denying that maybe God spoke to you, maybe he didn't. But is it possible that it also could be a part of you telling yourself what you want to hear? So we got to look out for the confirmation bias. Are you looking for signs? Are you looking for verbiage or things from other people or from yourself that are just confirming what you already have in your heart because. Or in your mind? Because there's another psychological principle that's really important here that we act on emotion and we justify it with logic. So a lot of women, they emotionally will feel this attraction for a guy or they'll feel some kind of like maybe some love developing, maybe it is real love they're feeling. But then they'll logically justify that and say, oh, this must be real, this must be correct because, you know, he is really kind with me whenever we have sex or he is really, he's always like, you know, opening the door for me or he does, he did pay for dinner that one time. So I think he is a really good die. I think he does really love me. And so. But that's coming from a place of confirmation bias where she feels these feelings. But now she's telling herself the logic behind it that's completely made up oftentimes. And she's ignoring meanwhile all the other negative signs, the dozen hundred other signs that he doesn't love her, that he doesn't really care, that, that he's not emotionally available, etc. Do you have anything you say on that?

Yeah, it's. It's really. Well, a true prophecy actually comes true to me. Oh gosh, now this is a whole different live stream, you know, I mean, now we talk about a supernatural gifts of the Holy Spirit, the prophetic gift of the prophetic and all that, you know, but it's really, it's really almost like something where you come up with something completely out of left field. Right. You know, I had like one client who said, you know, if you want me to. I forgot what it was. Trust this guy, whatever it is. Then I see a red bird, which by the way was winter. There's like no red birds anywhere around. It's just not possible. She was living on east coast, right? So she was almost like asking for the impossible, you know, like, really something that's like basically not possible. Right. Like, I'm living on the side of the earth and I'm going to see Penguin tomorrow kind of thing. You know what I mean? That's when I know or, you know, one of our pastors said, you know, if you, if you think my husband, who ended up being her husband is, is the right one, then have my roommate and I have someone mention to me before the end of the day something about the Old Testament. And she's on purpose because she was in Bible college. It was all about the New Testament. So the likelihood that there's going to be something that's going to be talked about, the Old Testament may have been even a certain chapter was like, very slim to them. Right?

Yeah. Specific chapter. Because that's still very common that someone would mention the Old Testament at a Bible college.

She said, nobody has ever, ever mentioned that a whole week. Anything about the Old Testament, maybe with something about a specific chapter. I don't remember. It could have been a specific chapter. But the point was there was really something very, very unexpected. And then the other pieces, like a prophecy, you, you don't hold on for dear life. To me. Prophecy is like, oh, interesting, you know what I mean? Because I already know it's going to come to fruition. I want to be excited about it. I'm going to just see how it all unfolds. I'm just like, okay, putting that in my back pocket. Right. But it's not like I'm holding on to it for like, dear life. Right. And override all of reality like that. Like, I don't, I don't, I don't. You know, I don't think that's how it works. Especially if it's something where you don't even know yet if this person is actually good for you. Because God doesn't only know immediate consequences. God knows secondary consequences, tertiary consequences, and so on and so on, so on. Because he knows beginning from the end, which you don't. Right. And so we usually just think about the instant consequences. Feeling loved and feeling cared for and feeling wanted, feeling desired and. Yeah.

So are there any other points you want to make on, on this before we get into questions?

Like, I think we covered it. All. Right.

I mean, it's more of your gm.

I mean, it's enough to digest for the women's nervous system.

Yeah. So we're going to start answering questions. So post your questions below on your specific situation. We can start giving you some tips and and also if you haven't yet and you want to get the advanced principles of Magnetic Feminine communication, Magnetic Feminine polarity for your specific situation, make sure to take our free quiz by going to magnetize your man.com or clicking the link in the description, comments or bio of wherever you're watching this so you can get that free recommendation for you to get on the right path to attracting your man. And so let's go ahead and answer a question from Paula here. So Paula said, what if it's a one sided marriage? He shuts down towards me but is happy towards others. I treat him with kindness and caring and he shows none towards me. Well, the first thing I would say on that, Paula, is we want to really look at when you said that. What came up for me is when a man is shutting down, typically it's because there's some masculine energy involved. Now I know you said you're treating him with kindness and caring, but kindness and caring isn't necessarily feminine energy. In fact, kindness and caring can be masculine energy. For example, when you are giving to a man, when you are giving him your gifts of whatever that might be, you're cooking him, you're cooking for him, you're buying him things, you're giving him a massage, you're making sure his socks are clean, you're putting out his lunch before he leaves for work. All these things are nice. But it's potentially masculine energy because what does a mother do to her child? A mother is putting out the socks, putting out the lunch, cooking dinner, making sure the child has everything that they need, getting their lunchbox ready, which we have a visceral experience of this because we do that every, every other day for our daughter. And so this is like a parent child relationship. So you want to be careful because kindness and caring could actually become nurturing energy, can actually become giving energy, which is actually masculine energy. I know this is bit of a paradox because, you know, we're typically taught that nurturing is feminine, right? Well, it is feminine, but it's when it's directed towards a child. But if it's directed towards a man, it's not really feminine now, is it? Now it's a mother treating her man, a woman treating a man like a child. And so we got to watch out for these little distinctions because what could be happening is you may think you're being so kind and so giving and you just give Give, give, give, give. Why doesn't he love me? Well, it's because you're giving to him incorrectly. You're giving to him from the wrong place. You're giving to him from your masculine energy rather than from your feminine energy. And what this means, and I'm not saying this is for sure the case, but this could be what's happening, especially when you said, and I'll explain that in a little bit more, why he's shutting down is because when you give to a man, you're meeting his needs, you're filling him up, and so he doesn't have the ability to give to you. And. And that's really what creates. Because. Creates that polarity. Because the only thing you need to give to him from your feminine is your feminine energy. You don't have to do all these things for him. Yeah, it can be nice, especially if he's giving more to you than you are to him. Because that's what we want to look at is the overall relationship. In the relationship as a whole, who's giving more? Is he giving more or are you giving more? Because if you're giving more, you're in the masculine role, he's in the feminine role. He's receiving from you, just like in sex, he's receiving from you, and you're penetrating him and giving to him. It's backwards. So we have to stop the madness and you have to reverse the trend and start receiving from him. And if he's not giving to you on his own, which he may not, after you stop giving, there may just be a period where nothing's happening. But you can activate his masculine core by learning the art of request, the art of feminine requests, which means asking him for help, asking him for advice, and asking him for things that you desire in the right way, from a place of respect, a place of trust, a place of vulnerability, a place of openness. That's what activates him to then want to give to you and fill you up and make you happy. And then what's happening, he's not shutting down, he's actually opening up. Because his masculine core feels respected, feels valued as a man, and he gets to give more to you. And so what typically happens is when you are giving to a man and you are doing things for him and giving, giving, giving, giving, being the mommy, he's going to shut down. Why does he shut down? Because at the end of the day, it feels disrespectful to his masculine core. His masculine core feels unconsciously. I'm not a Child. Why are you treating me like a child? Stop it. I don't like this. I want to be a man. I don't like this dynamic. And he may not even say that. He may not even be consciously aware of that. He just feels like a little bit of some annoyance whenever he's around you because he feels like he's caught, he's being coddled, or you're trying to change him subtly or you're trying to manipulate him into giving you what you want rather than asking him directly and letting him provide. So we got to watch out for these subtleties of the dynamic, which is why it's so important to get more coaching and training on this and to get this customized for your specific situation. Because if this is happening, then we can reverse it and we can get him to start opening up and, and treating you with kindness and caring. And so that's what we want to create for you. So this just a little glimpse and I would love to get your hear your thoughts on that, Paula, but do you have anything you want to add to that?

Shanghai yeah, so I hear this because I've just heard this from another client of ours, is that I'm so kind, I'm so caring. But what I don't hear is that you're self caring that you're kind to yourself. Because one thing that I always say is the quality of men that you attract into your life or the quality of treatment that you attract into your life is directly proportional to the relationship you have with yourself, right? Because otherwise you have to give to get. Because if you don't invest in yourself, if you don't care for yourself, if you don't set boundaries for yourself, if you don't, you know, feel into your desires or your vision or your purpose or how you want the day to go today or who you were, you know, you're thinking about yourself, you're becoming self focused that because what you focus on expands. So guess what, if you focus on yourself, then guess what, you actually get attached from your husband, right? Because you're focusing on yourself. And I tried that many times in my office doing something for myself. And then Buddy's like, oh, what's what aren't you doing anyhow? You know what I mean? And so there's something like that happens magnetically. If you're just like minding your own business, you're doing something different, maybe doing a fun dance or whatever it is, but you're putting yourself first, right? That also means before I make the I'm just saying the proverbial lunch, let's say, right? I'm actually checking in with myself. Wait a minute. Have I showered today, right? Have I gotten ready? Have I done my breath work or have I done my prayers? Have I read my Bible? Whatever it is, whatever gets you actually fully filled up, gets you actually grounded, gets you actually for your foundation filled up, right? That almost like you don't start your day until that's in place. Not like you're rolling out of bed and you're there for your husband and whatever he needs and whatever's happening because then you come from this like empty container. And that's what Buddy said. There's like no femininity there. There's nothing in here inside. So all you have to do, all you can do is like give, give, give, give, give. And then your, your husband doesn't feel state change or anything. Like nothing new, nothing exciting, nothing polarity building. And then, yeah, like he's. He has no real motivation because it doesn't add anything to his life, if that makes sense. Right?

Yeah. The Bible says watch over your heart from every. Because everything you do flows from it. So that's part of the, the self care, right, to take care of your own heart. Because if you're not taking care of your own heart, you can't flow from it. You can't have feminine energy flowing out, radiating out from a heart that is withered up and neglected primarily by yourself. And yes, when your heart is flowing, of course you're going to magnetize and you're going to have a man want to take care of you, want to do things for you. And then oftentimes it's just about respectfully asking for that help. Also respectfully asking for time together. May I ask if we can spend some time together this weekend? Or may I ask if I could share a feeling with you? Or may ask if I can have. If we can have a phone call. My. My king. And so that's what unlocks him, actually starting to give to you. You inspire him. Because it's not about changing a man. You can't change him. You can only change yourself. But by, by inspiring him into his healthy, masculine. That's what makes him want to devote even more and help you in all the different ways. So much love and hope. This was helpful for everyone today. Again, if you want to take this to the next level, make sure to take our free quiz magnetizeyourman.com we or you can click on the link in the description below, get your top recommendation for your specific situation. Get the coaching support you need. We'd love to help you with that and help you personally. So, yeah, have a man devote and desire you on all the different levels from this powerful process and the strategy we have available for you. So much love. Take care and we look forward to talk to you again very soon. Bye bye.