THIS Makes Him Deeply Desire AND Adore You

This makes him deeply desire and adore you. If you'd like to learn the secrets to actually make a man, discover the secrets to make a man actually be attracted and desiring of you, while also respecting and valuing you, then this is the training for you. Because these two elements are so key. It is super important if you want to have a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man that he is insanely attracted, turned on and feeling desire towards you, while also respecting and valuing you and seeing you as the prize and wanting to devote himself to you. Because when you bring these two forces into combination, it creates an irresistible sense of value, sense of yearning, sense of craving to have you in his life long term and to never want to leave you, to never want to have you leave his life because he values so much and he's attracted to you so much. So we're going to create this irresistible combo for you and start teaching that to you today. So welcome. I'm Brody Boyd, if you don't know me already, and for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they want fast. So let's go ahead and dive right into this. So what I'm going to be teaching you today is how to become the queen. And I'm actually going to share diagram with you. That'll allow you to see what I'm talking about in a more visceral way. So hopefully you can see my screen here. So what I want to show you is three different archetypes. Now, if you can imagine, three different types of women, we have here the doormat, the queen and the bitch. Actually, let's see, I could even circle this. That's pretty cool. The queen and the bitch. These are the technical terms. And so we have these three different archetypes and we're going to explore and I'm going to reveal to you what each of these archetypes embody, what they are and how you can actually become the queen to attract your man and have him be insanely attracted to you, while also valuing respecting you and admiring you and wanting to see you, seeing you as the prize and wanting to have you in his life long term. So let's start with the doormat here. So the doormat embodies several different traits. And this is a woman who basically lets men walk over her. She's typically more anxious, she's not speaking up, sharing what her values and desires are. Her Needs and desires are, she's not having, she's being taken advantage of. Like we mentioned, she's giving a lot and not having that energy reciprocated. So these are your typical people pleasers. This is a woman who's a people pleaser, who's wanting people to like her, especially her man to like her. And she thinks that if she gives enough to him, if she does enough to him for him, that he will see that and he's going to value and appreciate her and want to have her in his life forever. Which is actually not true, which you're going to see in a moment. And so the other thing about the doormat is she, she's not respected by men because of that, because of the people pleasing, because you may think it causes a man to want you in his life, it causes a man to desire you. But actually giving in itself is masculine. So you giving to him is actually a masculine action and it's a masculine energy receiving is feminine. So by you giving to a man and hoping to get something in return, you're actually pushing him away. And because a man also does not value the doormat, it's hard for him to value and respect the doormat because she doesn't value and respect herself and it ends up creating a sense of passivity and being actually overly feminine, overly passive and selfless. So she's giving unto others, but not really giving unto herself or taking care of and valuing herself with standards, boundaries and self respect. So that is the doormat. On the other side of the the equation here we have the bitch, the technical term. So the bitch is actually the opposite of the doormat. So the bitch embodies many of the opposite traits of the doormat. So the bitch, instead of being anxious, she's actually more avoidant. I'm going to add this in here. She's avoidant aggressive, taking advantage of others. Oh, I have, I already have avoidant right here. She's intimidating, she values herself too much, some somewhat narcissistic, often or arrogant. She's harsh, she's overly masculine. So she's definitely in her masculine, telling people what to do, telling men what to do, controlling them, manipulating them. She's selfish and overly self centered, disconnected, intimidating and aloof. Now men will actually be attracted to the bitch in some ways because of her self respect, her self value. Especially more feminine men will be attracted to the bitch because of these things. However, more healthy masculine men are going to be pushed away by the bitch just as well as they're going to be Pushed away by the doormat because the bitch is too masculine. So that destroys the polarity, the healthy polarity. She's not healthy, she's immature. She has an insecure attachment style, she's avoidant. And so a man, a healthy man, can't get his needs met. Being with a. His life becomes miserable. It becomes a constant power struggle, a constant battle and arguments and drama, and it just becomes a mess. And so again, more feminine men will be attracted to that and drawn to that, but eventually even they will likely it'll burn out, it'll fizzle and create a big chaotic mess at the end. And then the other thing I wanted to mention is also men are very attracted to doormats as well. Men can be very attracted to doormats, especially what we call the assholes, the men who are more like the male version of the bitch. They look for doormats and women that they can take advantage of, that they can get to buy things for them, to take care of them, to have sex with them, even without commitment. And so some men will actually be attracted to the doormat as well. And even I was attracted to more doormat type of women when I was younger, when I was more in the the side of things for men. And so these women also can create a lot of polarity and chemistry and attraction for, for a man, especially a more masculine, overly masculine man, because they are so feminine. And so there's a lot of attraction created by the doormat. A lot of fundamental mass masculine, feminine polarity and attraction can be created by the doormat, but the respect and the value can be created by the bitch, which also has its own form of attraction and allure as well. So there's good and bads to both of these, but mostly bads for each of these. So what the ideal is. So how do you attract a healthy masculine man who is attracted to you, who wants to take care of you, be your hero, protector, provider, and give you all the things that you've ever wanted in a relationship and see you as the queen, while also being insanely attracted and see you as the queen, and also be insanely attracted and respecting of you and valuing of you? Well, that is what the queen is and that's what we're going to be moving into here. Because the goal of what we want to do here. Let me see if I can actually write this real quick. So the goal of what we're trying to do here is actually move from the doormat to being the queen or from the, to being the queen. And we're going to bring both of those energies together to create this magnetic energy that's going to draw high quality, high value man to you. So here we go, the traits of the queen. The queen, as opposed to the bitch in the doormat, the Queen is secure within herself. She has a more secure attachment style. And if you use what we teach you here and what we teach in our coaching memberships, you're going to become much more secure in your attachment style through magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication. The Queen is also highly confident in herself. She's not arrogant and also she's not insecure, she's confident, she's in her healthy feminine energy. She has the balance where she's able to be very feminine and follow a man's lead and be respectful. However, she's also setting boundaries for herself and she has high standards like the would have. So we're combining both of these energies together. She's able to speak up, but in a warm way. Like we said, she values herself, she respects herself, she is available, she is assertive and she is open. So the Queen is feminine and she also values herself. She's combining the both, the best of both the doormat and the together into a magnetic, irresistible combination that makes a man insanely attracted here. I'll try to draw a heart here. Insanely attracted. Because the Queen is the prize. The Queen has her crown. She is the woman that all men want, especially the healthy men. Healthy men who are more secure within themselves as well, who are confident, not arrogant, who aren't insecure like a nice guy. A nice guy would be anxious, more feminine insecure. But you're going to attract a healthy masculine man who wants to be your hero, protector, provider and take care of you and devote himself to you because he's now insanely attracted to you. And at the same time, he respects and values you because you have created this magnetic combo that makes you irresistible. So this is what we teach our women in our courses, in our trainings. And this is the key to having everything you want in your romantic life. So it is very important and there's going to be many steps and many processes that will help you to actually embody these. Of course, what we teach as the fastest way to get there is using magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication. Because we've built into it all the things, all the things that you need to actually say and communicate to a man that communicates that you are the Queen, that you hold your value while also being feminine and open by using Magnetic feminine polarity. Magnetic feminine communication. You actually heal yourself, you heal your attachment style, you heal all the elements inside of yourself, whether you were previously more of a bitch or previously more of a doormat. Because what happens often as well is women who are doormats will eventually break out of it and they will swing all the way over here to being the bitch. And sometimes also bitches, after they've had a bad enough experience with a man or they got tired or just lost the energy for being a bitch, they will swing all the way over and become a doormat. And so the goal here is not to swing from one side to the other with a man or in your dating life in general, but to actually fully embody and be centered in the middle, being the queen at all times. So if you want to learn how to really master this and do this for yourself, attract a loving, long term, committed relationship, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetic Feminine Polarity quiz, which you can get as well by going to feminine polarity.com we'll put the links in the description or the comments below this training as well. Feminineplarity.com or our new address that you could also go to, which is befeminine.com befeminine.com and you can learn all these principles and how to actually communicate from the queen, to communicate as a queen with a man. Specific scripts that will give you exactly what to say and even coach you and help guide you along the journey to be the queen and have this amazing, incredible relationship that you've been wanting. We have so many dozens of really at this point, hundreds of success stories of women who've who found their man very quickly, within 90 days often and had this amazing connection. Either they had a man that they already knew, that they wanted to have a loving, long term, committed relationship, or they quickly attracted a new man into their life because of these principles that they learned that are so magnetic and works with a man on a fundamental instinctual level in his biology, in his heart and mind, that makes him see you as the prize. And it all comes down to how you're acting, how you're being with a man and how you communicate with him, whether that's through text, whether through it's a message or whether it's through in person. So again, feminineplay.com you can get that in the comments or description below. Hope that was helpful. And now I'm also going to go ahead and answer some questions that came up. So if you have any questions about what we already covered about being the queen about living your best self, your best life, your best relationship with a man. Go ahead and comment those in the Put your question in the comments below this video and I will answer that as many as I can while we're doing this live stream. And so go ahead and think of what those are for you right now. Or they can be comments as well. I'm going to go ahead and start answering those so we can help help you learn this on an even deeper level. Because I want to be here for you. So Arlene said, Aloha, Welcome, Arlene. JL said, hello, welcome. So we have a real question here from Leo. So Leo said, my husband started spending a lot of time with his friends from childhood whom I had never met or heard of before. Sometime last month I just broke up and asked to see his phone. I just woke up and asked to see his phone to check the time. He handed it to me and it opened into WhatsApp, where I discovered he had been sending naked photos of himself to someone. Oh boy. Yeah, that's no bueno. When he realized he had handed me his unlocked phone, he pounced on me, snatched his phone back and smashed it to the floor. But I had already seen it. As it turns out, he'd been. He'd be okay. The rest of your message got cut off, so you can go ahead and post the rest of it here. Leo and I'd be happy to hear about that. So yeah, that's a very unfortunate situation. Sorry to hear that, Leo. That's no bueno. So I imagine what happened is you guys had some discussions around that maybe you've already broken up. I don't know if you guys are separated or if you're still working it out, you're having conversations about it. But yeah, that's. That's not a good situation. That means your man is definitely in some energetic leakage. He's likely at least flirting with someone online. Could be also a fake person. It could be a scammer. Maybe he got caught in a scam. It could be a real woman. Could be somebody he's already slept with. Could be somebody he's just interested in. We don't know. Maybe you do know the rest of the story. But. But yeah. Either way it's unfortunate because it means he's not seeing the value in the relationship. He's not being devoted in the relationship. He's not committing himself and being a living from his healthy, masculine so what do you do? What do you do in a situation like that? Well, the first thing is you Want to use everything we're teaching you and start embodying your magnetic feminine, your queen energy and using magnetic feminine communication. So one of the best things you're going to want to do in that situation is first off, share your feelings. So rather than going immediately into attacking him and how can you do this? And you betrayed me and you know you're a bad man and what were you thinking? So rather than going immediately into that, start going into how it made you feel when you saw that. Really show your heart, really reveal your heart to him and show and share with him. I'm going to hide this here. Don't you see that right now how that made you feel? So I feel, may I share something with you? Sure. I feel terrified right now or I feel super sad right now or I feel hurt. And let him feel the impact of that because that's how you're going to awaken his masculine protector provider hero where he feels like he effed up and he has to fix this and he has to make things right when he can feel your heart. Rather than you immediately going into attacking him and telling all your girlfriends and getting everyone on your side and telling him how bad of a man he is and how could you ever do something like this? Rather than going into that attack first, you want to share your feminine open vulnerability, which is what a queen would do. A queen would first share the impact. She has feelings, she has emotions, she's going to let him feel that. And maybe in the moment you already attacked him, it's okay. You can still share these feelings using feminine communication. And with this situation as well, I would highly recommend taking our feminine polarity quiz if you haven't already and getting us our support helping you with that by going to feminine polarity.com again. But we can help you because this is a very delicate situation that you want to navigate with him so that it doesn't lead into a divorce. And ideally the best case scenario is he apologizes, he acknowledges he screwed up, he fixes it, he breaks up with whatever the whoever the person was, he deletes their contacts, he gets on his best behavior and he's working towards re earning your trust and respect. And that'll happen most likely when he feels you are being the queen, when he feels that your your heart and he feels that you're open and feminine and vulnerable with him and that you also share what the problem is and what you need help with. Like, I don't know what I'm going to do here. I need to be in A relationship with a man where I feel safe, where I feel protected, where I feel like I can trust him fully, and I'm not feeling those feelings right now, and I don't know what to do. And let him solve the problem, Let him come up with a solution, and maybe he is going to break up. Maybe he's like, this is the last thing where he's like, yeah, I'm already out of the relationship. This is why I was talking to this person. Like, I'm done. I need to get out. I don't want to hurt you anymore. And that could be a possibility. In that case, he's probably doing you a big favor getting out of the relationship. But if he does, if he is willing to change, if he really loves you, if he cares about you and he wants to shift this, he'll solve the problem. He's going to figure out a solution. He's going to say, look, I'm going to get some help. I'm going to start going to a men's group at church, or I'm going to start getting therapy, or I'm going to start reading some books. I'm going to start. I'm going to go on a retreat by myself in the woods to figure out why I did this and what's wrong and how I can make it better and how I can never do this again and how I can win back your trust. And that's going to happen only when he again doesn't feel attacked because he knows he did damage. You amplify that for him. When you share your heart openly and vulnerably and make him actually feel worse than you would if you attacked him and if you criticized him and if you called him a bunch of names, that's going to make him feel bad. But what's going to make him feel worse is feeling the. The raw damage that he did to your heart and how it made you feel, that's going to make him feel much worse, rather than attacking him. So that's what you want to show him and present it as a problem to him. Like, I don't know what to do about this. This is how I feel. This was the problem. This is what happens. This is what I need. And I don't know what to do. And if he doesn't come up with a solution that works for you, let him make his case. Just like in a courtroom, let him build his case of what he's going to do differently, how he's going to fix it, and you get to decide if that's okay with you or not. If you're going to give him another chance, if you're going to let him make it up to you with his actions, not with his words. And if, if you are okay with that, if you feel like he made a good case, you let him do that. Let him start to make it up for you if you want to, and then watch his actions and see how he actually shifts and continue to have these conversations with him. And it's going to be a process of healing and it's going to be a process of sharing these emotions. But let him actually give the have the opportunity to step up and become a king for you by you being your queen. You can have him call him into his king where before he might have been a little boy or immature or whatever, whatever he was. And you can start helping him. He can start helping you to fix things, hopefully. And if he doesn't, he doesn't. And that's. That may be your sign that you need to walk away. You need to set a boundary with yourself and you ultimately need to be willing to walk away if he doesn't shift those things, if he doesn't care about your feelings, if he doesn't care about you really. So you have to be will able and willing to do that as well. So those are my thoughts on it. Leo, again, my heart's with you. I hope you're doing okay with this situation and getting better. If you have any more things you want to share with that for some reason your message got cut off. You might have to share the other pieces here. I can answer that as well, or other questions you have and then we can go from there. So thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with this because this is one of the best ways actually you can practice already. Stepping in your femininity and your magnetic feminine polarity on these live streams with me is by you actually sharing and being vulnerable, opening your heart here, that's going to help inspire men because you're practicing it. You're practicing being open, real and authentic. So when you're in your normal daily life, it becomes much easier because you've practiced it here. You practice it like in our coaching groups. You're being open and available and honest and real and sharing your heart vulnerably so that a man, in this case would be me, wants to help you with that, wants to help serve you and make things better and solve the problems for you, which is a fundamental masculine drive. So great question, Leo. If you have another question, anyone here who's Listening has a question, go ahead and post it in the comments below and I would answer that. As long as we still have time, I'll be able to answer some more questions of a situation you're dealing with. You could also just share a challenge you're having. A challenge of frustration with a guy in your dating life, in your romantic life, or a question that you have and I can address that for you. Or a goal that you have, something you want to accomplish. Pamela said, Amen. Yes, amen. You're welcome, Pamela. Josephine said, thank you very much for your advice. They really help build my faith concerning relationships. You're welcome Josephine. Glad that helps. Nora Said, Watching from the Philippines. Awesome. Nor glad you're tuning in and oops, actually skip one JL said, what do you do or say to the person when they suddenly say something rude to you on a date? Yeah, so the first thing you want to do if someone says something rude to you is share the impact how that made you feel. So you would say something like, may I share something with you? They say, sure. And you'd say, when you said xyz, when you just said xyz, it made me feel sad. Or even before that you would say, may I share something with you? And they would say, sure. And you say, I feel sad or I feel hurt. And they would say, well, why do you feel sad or hurt? Then you would say, because when you said xyz, it made me feel hurt. Or I told myself a story that you don't respect, that you don't have much respect for me, or that you don't see me as a real viable dating interest, or you don't. You don't see me as a quality woman or whatever the story might be that you're telling yourself based on what they said. And then you can say, and I don't know what to do. So that way you've done three things. You've shown him how you feel the impact of his actions. You told him why you feel that way, which is allowing him to see the impact of his actions. And you're presenting a problem to him that he gets to solve potentially. And you've given it up to him saying, I don't know what to do as this problem that he can solve, so now he gets the opportunity to actually fix it. So rather than you insulting him back or just closing up and then leaving, you're giving him a chance. You're being the queen, being open and available to communicate what's going on for you in a healthy way from your feminine so that he can actually shift his behavior and then you let him make his case. Just like what I said with Leo. You let him, let him try to solve the problem and he could probably, he'll probably say something like, oh, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean for it to come across like that. I didn't mean to insult you. I, I don't, I don't think that at all about you. Like, I'll make sure I'm more careful with my words moving forward. Or maybe he'll say something else. Like I was saying that because I felt earlier something that actually offended me and I guess it was my way of kind of getting back at you and you know, that's not very mature of me and I wish I didn't do that, but that, that might have been why I did it. So I'm really sorry about that. And you guys can have a conversation about it and then hopefully he'll apologize and make things better and then you can move on. And now he respects you more, he values you more because you're being the queen with him and he's less likely to do that in the future. He's also, because he's respecting you more, he's going to be more attracted to you and more valuing your presence. So it's a very powerful way to adjust that behavior from him. You're giving him a chance, so hope that helps. JL Let me know if you have any other follow up questions on that. Next we have. Angie said if you're talking to a guy for two months and it is long distance relationship, he said he's not sure if he wants a serious relationship. What should I do? Yeah. So again, the first thing you want to do is share your feelings with him. How that makes you feel that he's not sure that he wants a relationship. That's how he can feel your heart and your femininity. So you have to share with him your feelings if you haven't already. I'm sure you may have. Maybe not in the way that we teach exactly, but you would want to do this in obviously if you're long distance, it's going to be hard to do it in person. You could wait if you have another meeting coming up soon. If not, you can ask for a phone call and say, may I ask for a phone call? Or may ask if we can talk on the phone. And he'll say sure. And then you get on the phone and you say, hi, how are you doing? Great. May I share something with you sure? I feel sad. Why do you feel sad? Because when you said you don't want a long distance relationship, when you. I know we're in a long distance relationship and we've been dating for two months now and you've said you don't want a serious relationship. And I feel sad because I'm telling myself a story that I don't know if you're ever going to want a serious relationship and that I might be wasting my time. And I don't know what to do. I don't like that thought. I don't like that story. I don't know what to do. May I have some help? Could you help me with that? Can I ask for your help with that? And give it to him. Give it to him to solve. You've given him a problem. The masculine loves to solve problems. He's gotten to feel your heart, which is feminine. You're building the polarity, the attraction. In that moment, you're communicating openly, authentically how you're actually feeling in the situation, which he may not be aware of some of those feelings and the stories. And you're also communicating your value, that you're speaking up, you're sharing, you're. You're saying that your feelings are worth, worthy. Your stories, your problems are worthy. They're worth being heard by a man because they're valuable. Because you're valuable. When you speak up and share, you're living from the queen. Because only a queen who believes she's worthy would speak up and share vulnerably with a man and share her feelings in a feminine way, like we're teaching you here and we teach in our programs, magnetic feminine polarity. So this way he's going to be respecting you more and valuing more you more and being attracted you more at the same time then you've given it to us, him as a problem, which men again love to solve problems. So he's likely going to help try to find a solution. Hopefully you give him a chance to find a solution. He'll tell you, maybe he'll reveal that he does. He's very clear. He doesn't want a relationship. He's not ready for a relationship. In that case, it's great. You have that clarity. You can move on, you can let go, you can detach, knowing you did the best you could. And you're not wasting your time anymore with somebody who can't give you what you need either. Because he's emotionally broken, he's mentally broken, he's immature, he's too Feminine he has no care for you. Any of those things could be a reason why he won't be able to step up and give you what you want. And in which case you can move on knowing that you did everything you could. And actually what's really helpful, especially with long distance relationships, is to do our Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge. Because when you do our Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, they'll give you a set period of time, ideally 90 days. Sometimes it could be less like 60 days or 30 days. 90 days is a good sweet spot to give you a set period of time where you use everything that we will teach you what to do with him. That will for generally 100%. I was thinking of this other quote. So it will, it'll generally reveal to you with 100 accuracy. It will reveal to you that he's going to be in a committed long term relationship with you or that he's not the right man for you. It's putting you in the place where you're going to attract him and attract his devotion with 100% guarantee or it's going to reveal to you with 100% guarantee that he's not the right man for you. So either of those ways is a win for you because also in that process you're going to be learning more about your magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication. So when, by the time you've mastered this, if it's not him, or you're going to be able to easily attract an incredible man into your life, a high quality man who's going to value you for everything that you are and have that care because you've practiced what you learned. So I'd highly recommend doing the Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, which again, you can get that by going to feminineplarity.com or clicking the link in the comments or description below. This training as well, we'll post it there or in our bio. We'll have the link in our bio that's going to help you the most. Angie. We can coach you through that process because long distance relationships can be a delicate situation and it's great to have a coach actually helping you along your side in those situations so that you know what to do and you don't screw it up and end up pushing him away unnecessarily, especially when you're in a situation where he's already said he's not looking for a serious relationship or he's not sure if he wants a serious relationship. So I hope that helps. Angie. Oh, you had a follow up Here you said I like him, but now he's not sure. It's hard enough. Been three hours away, which I only seen have seen him twice. He enjoys talking to me, but he is confused. He was married 20 years, single for four years. Yes. So using magnetic feminine communication with him is going to help the most because it's going to help him feel your heart. It's going to help clear up any issues and hesitations that he might have to actually committing to you so that you can have a loving, long term committed relationship with him. Unless he's broken. If he's a broken man and he has some of the issues we talked about, then no matter what, it's not going to work and it's not going to work with any woman because he's not capable of giving you what you need. He's not capable of being in a long term relationship, in which case you need to know that so that you can move on and not waste your time with somebody who's sucking away your life and energy unnecessarily. Hope that was helpful. Angie. Adventures with Katie Said okay. Known a man for six years, met him online, met him in person. We had a blast. Yet he was openly stuck on his ex. He was clearly open but wanted to hang out. We never had sex. And then you said he recently reached back out to me, wanting me to think about hanging out again. Do I? So let me just recap here. You've known him for six years, you met him online, met him in person. We had a blast. Yet he was openly stuck on his ex, clearly open, want to hang out. We never had sex. He recently reached back out again wanting to think about hanging out again. Yeah, I mean, it depends on when you last spoke to him. If that was very recent, then likely he hasn't really changed. But if he. If it was several months ago that you last spoke, maybe even several weeks, but several months would be even better. There is a chance that he may have shifted, started to shift towards actually wanting a getting over his ex and being open to a new relationship. So I would say yes, you can hang out with him with the caveat of when you hang out with him, you want to make sure you're being the queen, which means sharing your feelings as they come up. It means asking permission, sharing your feelings as they come up, sharing problems as they come up, sharing stories that you're telling yourself as they come up, sharing appreciation with him, doing it in the right way. Which is great to also practice with us or practice with a coach so you Know what you're saying with him, that it's going to really work and not push him away more. And then see how he responds and. And make sure you also are holding your standards and setting a boundary with yourself if he tries to have sex with you again. And knowing how to communicate your feelings in those moments and communicating in your problems that you're having in that situation, using magnetic feminine communication, that's going to help him to respect you and to respect your standards and to also be attracted to you and desire you because you're being the queen. And either he meets your standards, he meets your desires and your feelings, or he doesn't. But you can give him that opportunity. I wouldn't drink a lot of alcohol. Or put yourself in a situation where you might make a bad judgment call and like sleep with him, for example, but you can hang out with them on a date, on a proper date and see what happens and have some good conversations and take it one step at a time and see where he's at. And you could also potentially tell him your fears about him still. You know what he shared last time? Being stuck on his ex. Share with him your fears about that. May I share something with you? Sure. I feel afraid. Why do you feel afraid? Because last time when we talked, you shared that you were still stuck on your ex. That was only three weeks ago and I'm still telling myself a story that you may still be stuck on your ex and I don't know what to do. Let him make his case. Let him share with you how where he's at now. If you're not comfortable meeting with him in person before that, you can also have a call with him before that. Say, may I ask for a phone call? Get on a call with him. Share those feelings with him. Share those stories and those problems and let him make his case. Let him respond and have a conversation about that. And if, then if you feel comfortable with it, you can meet up with him. If he still wants to hang out at that point, you can say, okay, cool, let's. Yeah, sure, that sounds fun. Let's. I would love to hang out and then let him set the date. Let him set the time, location. You guys can have a date. I would make it a proper date. Don't make it just him coming over to your house or something like that or you going to his house like a proper date. That's what I would say. So I hope that was helpful. Katie. Linda said my boyfriend watched the bartender whenever she is in the bar. My boyfriend watched the Bartender whenever she was in the bar while I am with him. Yeah. So what would a queen do? What would a queen do in that situation? I want you to think about that, Linda, and I want everyone here to think about that. What would a queen do in a situation where you're with a man? Even if you're just dating a man casually, maybe this is your first date and he's staring, he's ogling the bartender while you're with him. How would a queen handle that? Now I'll tell you what, let's look at the other two examples. How would a doormat handle it? So a doormat would handle that by not saying anything. She would be quiet. She'd be, oh, whatever. You know, men are, men are just that way. And I shouldn't speak up. I don't want to offend him. I don't want him to think that badly of me or think I'm too much or think I'm too high, high maintenance. I'm just going to be quiet, I'm not going to say and just, just keep, you know, enjoying my time with him. That would be more what a doormat would do. What would the do? So on the other side, A, she would probably throw her drink in his face and walk out of the bar. That's what the would do. And that would be equally un unaffective with a man because now he's going to be really upset about that and probably think you're a little crazy and he may still be attracted to you, but he's not going to see that likely as long term potential any longer. What would a queen do? So a queen would do somewhere in the middle. So if you can imagine somewhere in the middle of not saying anything and throwing a drink in his face and walking away. So a queen, what she would do is she would speak up. She would speak up from a queenly place using magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication. And she would share with him how she feels. Hi, may I share? So she would say, may I share something with you? He would say, sure. Say, I'm feeling a bit, I'm feeling confusion. Or I'm feeling hurt. Why are you feeling hurt? Because I noticed that since we've been here, it appears to me that you've been ogling the bartender or you've been staring at the bartender the whole time that we're here and I'm telling myself a story that you're more attracted to her than you are to me or that you would rather be just staring at her than Spending time with me and it made me feel hurt. And that story I told myself made me feel hurt. And I don't know what to do. So you've spoken up, you've shared, but you've done it from a feminine place where now he can correct his behavior. He has the opportunity to shift, to say, oh, shoot, I didn't even realize I was doing that. Or I didn't want you to. I didn't mean to look at her like I'm, I'm here with you, like here. Why don't we do this? Why don't we go sit over here at the booth so we can just stay focused? Because here's the thing as well. Men, yes, we're visual creatures. If there's a hot booty in front of us, if there's a attractive woman, she's very feminine. Yes, likely we're going to be looking at her or wanting to look at her. Now, a more masculine man, the more masculine he is, the less likely he is actually to look at her because he's going to have more self control and he's going to be with his woman. It doesn't mean he wants to look at her, doesn't want to look at her. It just means he's going to have more self control to manage his own emotions. Because the masculine is about controlling your emotions. The feminine is about sharing your emotions. So he's going to be more likely to control his emotions and he's going to want to make you happy if he's a more masculine, healthy man. So he's going to feel bad about it. He may have had a weak moment, maybe it's because of the alcohol. And he's going to say, okay, let's go sit somewhere else. I don't want to be looking at her. I don't want to do this. I don't want you to feel bad. Like, I'm sorry, like, let's go sit over here. I want to just give my attention to you and let's continue our conversation. Does that work for you? And you'll probably say, sure, thank you so much. I appreciate it. I didn't, I don't want you to feel like I'm being overly critical, but I, you know, maybe it's an insecurity app, but it makes me feel so, so much better that you're, you're acknowledging that and you, you want to help. Thank you so much. I appreciate you so much. So you always end with appreciation and when you can, to make him feel great, make him feel like your Hero. He solved the problem. He did something you liked. He made you happ. You're showing him he can win with you. And now he feels great. And now he feels much better than even before. And now he feels more like he's your hero and you're his woman. And you have a much healthier dynamic. So you can actually use a little bit of Aikido jiu jitsu and turn a bad situation around by being in your queen to where now he's actually much more attracted to you than he was before because you've spoken up. You shared your desires, you shared your needs, your. Your standards, but you've done it from a feminine place where you're still incorporating elements of the doormat, where you have this warmth, you have this openness, this friendliness, this care in the way you communicate. That's you're not just attacking him or criticizing him or trying to control him, but you're just fem. You're being vulnerable and feminine and sharing your heart. And you're speaking up, which is also you valuing yourself and valuing your standards and valuing your. Your feelings and your problems and your needs and the stories that you tell yourself. Because only a valuable woman, only a queen, would feel that her needs and desires and feelings are worthy of having a man listen to them and do something about them. Drop the mic. All right, so now let's get Jinky's question. Hope that was helpful, Linda. Jinky said, I like what you shared. I'm watching from the Philippines. All right, we have a good Philippines audience tonight. That's pretty cool. One of the countries I want to visit, I haven't been there yet. It's one of the next on my list when we next go to Asia. We're going to answer a few more questions tonight here, so make sure you post your questions quickly if you want them to potentially get answered. Empower yourself. Said, I am seeing a guy that also. That was also seeing other women. Now we are more connected and seeing each other more. I'm sharing my feelings with him, and he is changing slowly and with a struggle. Any ideas? So are you saying it's a struggle for him to change, or is it a struggle for you to help him or to share or just the whole situation is a struggle? I'll assume that it's both. And so if it's a struggle, that's okay. Let him struggle. The masculine grows through struggle. Men become stronger through struggle. Let him figure it out. All you have to do is share your feelings and give him an Opportunity to shift because he wants to make you happy, because he's a masculine man, because he cares about, because he wants to feel like he's winning, like he's able to solve problems and be a hero. Let him go through that struggle. Just like the hero's journey. The hero's journey is about trials and tribulations through the journey of life, and he gets to solve it. And when he gets to the treasure, when he defeats the dragon and gets to the treasure at the end, he gets to feel like a hero. He doesn't actually get to feel like a hero. If the treasure is just already there waiting for him, he never got to accomplish it. He gets to go through that struggle and order to feel like a hero. He gets to. He doesn't have to. He gets to look at it as a gift for him that he actually gets the opportunity to solve these problems. And when you continue speaking up and sharing and being respectful and asking permission and sharing your feelings and sharing the problems, he gets to actually have the gift, the opportunity to step up and be a man and solve problems and make his woman happy, which is going to be deeply fundamental to him on a deep, masculine level where he gets a better sense of meaning in his life because of you. So give him that opportunity, don't take it away from him and let him struggle a bit. And yes, it may be hard for you, it may take a little while. That's why we recommend doing the Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, because you give a set period of time where you're learning these skills, where you're getting our coaching and support and allowing yourself to learn these principles, and also allowing him to get used to you being in your healthy, feminine queen energy, which he may not have been used to before, he might have been used to you being the doormat in the past or the in the past, but now he has to get used to you actually being in your queen, which means you're feminine. You're also speaking up and sharing your feelings, your problems, your stories, your appreciation, and give him that chance. Give him that period of time to start shifting, and it may be a little bit of a struggle, maybe a little struggle for you as well. So take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, do other feminine activities in between your dates with him and allow it to start shifting and allow it to start moving in the right direction and look for progress rather than perfection. You're getting on an upward spiral. So let him start to make slight improvements and look towards his effort as well. See that if he's making effort or not. See if he's making small steps or not. And if he's not, you can share that with him, share your feelings around that, share the problems that you see with that, and let him make adjustments if he wants to, if he needs to. But you're detached from the outcome because remember, the masculine cares about the outcomes and the results. The feminine cares is about the process and the journey. So commit to the process, detach from the outcome. That's going to really help you in your journey and in your process with him. So hope that was helpful. And again, if you really want to take The Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge, if you haven't yet and you want to get our coaching support with it as well, to help you on this journey, go to feminine polarity.com or go to befeminine.com that's our. Or we'll put the link in the description or comments below. Where's my little banner I have here? We'll put the link in the description or comments below where you can get that. And I would love to help you because it's a powerful journey you're on and you're going to have an amazing, incredible relationship with him that would shock you. Once you've actually done this, once you've actually gotten this and you've gotten the help and support you need to make these tweaks to make sure you're not pushing him away but actually doing it correctly, you're going to be shocked at the type of relationship you have with a man who's going to treat you like a queen. Because now you're actually being the queen. Jail said. Thanks for answering Great question and I will try that in the future. Awesome. You're welcome. Monet Said. I'm currently chatting and talking over the phone with someone I met online. I really want to get to know him in person first to go out on dates, but because I've been watching your vids, he's in love. Okay, great. Well, one thing caveat I'll make with that is if he's in love just for talking online, be very careful with that. Yes, of course. These things that I'm teaching you will have a man fall in love with you very quickly. But let's be reasonable, okay? If a man's falling in love with you after two days of messaging online, or even like a week or two of messaging online, it's probably not really authentic. Especially if you haven't met in person. Even over phone calls. You have to meet in person. You have to get to know each other over a period of time before the feelings of love can be authentic. They're not just going to just magically appear. Even with using everything that we're teaching you. They're going to be much more likely to appear and they're going to appear much faster. But be aware of that because there's a lot of scammers out there. There's a lot of guys that are taking advantage of women by getting them to think that they're in love with them when they aren't actually for the actions rather than the words. Look to him actually meeting you in person and making the investments necessary to learn more about you and show his love to you, to prove his love to you and not just say it and have that be over time as well. Ideally, it should be several weeks or months before a man is really in love with you. Not. Not a couple conversations over the phone. It's going to take a while for it to be really authentic because he gets to know all of you. You're a human being who's been existing on this planet for many years, and how can he learn everything about you? Be smart. Be smart about this because you don't want to fall in love with a man who is not actually really in love with you and who's just playing with your emotions potentially. So be very careful that. And we'll help you with that as well. That's a great question. Something we can be a part of your journey again with the Feminine Polarity Quiz and in our Feminine Polarity membership that we can really help you to master this in your life. So hope that was helpful. Monetary. All right, so let's see if we have any other great questions here. There's actually a lot of questions. I'm going to choose which ones because we're getting close to ending, ending this live stream tonight. Kaylin said, how do I respond when I calmly explain to my husband why something hurt and he gets defensive? So it's not so much about you calmly sharing it, it's about sharing it in the right way. Just because you're saying it calmly, it can still make a man get defensive, depending on what words you're using and how you're explaining what the problem is and what your feelings are. A lot of women can use their feelings as a weapon unknowingly and actually make a man feel like he's screwing up and that he's making mistakes and that he's bad and that he needs to change. So in order to make him feel like he can win with you and that he is on the right path. For one, you want to make sure you're also appreciating the things he does that you like. So always use positive reinforcement as well and appreciate all the things that he does for you that you do. Appreciate the things you admire about him, things you admire about things he's done, things you appreciate about the skills he has, his accomplishments, things he's done for you in your relationship, even recently, and say, thank you and I appreciate this, and I appreciate you, and I admire you for this, and I respect you for this. That's going to help build up his sense of masculinity and the polarity in your relationship, which is going to make him value you more. And he feels like he has a purpose. Purpose. He has meaning in the relationship that you need him and that you value him. Because a man in a relationship, he needs to feel needed and he needs to feel valued in order for him to feel happy. He's not going to feel happy if he doesn't feel needed, valued and respected. So those are going to be keys in the relationship to make sure he feels those things. Then when you're sharing your feelings with him, you need to make sure you're doing it in the way we teach, using magnetic feminine communication and hopefully role playing, that getting some practice around that as well. Because a lot of things we teach, if you just do it on your own, try to do it on your own, you're not really getting support with it. It can often lead to you doing things unknowingly that's actually making it ineffective, like the specific words that you use. For example, using the word I feel. What's a good one? I feel uncomfortable. Can make a man feel bad because using the word uncomfortable can make him feel like he's making you feel uncomfortable, which will make him feel like he's not doing a good job. However, you can switch it with a different word such as I feel discomfort, which makes it feel less like it's about him and more about your experience. I feel discomfort. Also, the I statements saying I, rather than you, you make me feel discomfort or you make me feel uncomfortable is much different than I feel uncomfortable or I feel discomfort. Or you could even use another word like I feel anxiety. It can be even less confronting to him to make it seem like you're attacking him with your feelings because you're still speaking up, you're still sharing, but you're trying to share in the best way possible that is feminine, where he doesn't Feel like you're attacking him, criticizing, complaining, controlling or manipulating him, or trying to lead him, which would all be you being in your masculine rather than your feminine energy. The masculine tells the feminine asks the mass. The masculine is leading, the feminine is sharing and responding. So by you sharing simply your emotions and doing it in a feminine way, and also being respectful through things like asking permission, may I share something with you? May I ask something? May I ask if I can share a feeling with you? Can may I share a feeling with you? So asking these questions helps you to avoid. It's a, it's a safety guard for yourself as well. When you ask permission, that helps you avoid energetically penetrating him with your masculine and energetically trying to control him and trying to lead him, which will make him defensive. Because a masculine man, or any man really, when you are in your masculine with him, he'll have really only 3 responses. Either he has to fight you and argue with you, he has to submit to what you said and be in his feminine, which is not going to feel good to him on some level, or he has to close up and pull away. So all those three responses are probably responses that you don't want, you don't like. So in order to avoid that, that means you have to be in your magnetic feminine. Your magnetic feminine is going to cause him to not be defensive. It's going to cause him to not want to fight you and be in an argument. It's going to cause him to not want to pull away. It's going to cause him to not want to have to submit to your leadership and feel bad about that. It's going to actually pull him closer to you. So everything that we teach you is how to pull the man closer to you rather than pushing him away. And that's the difference between masculine energy and feminine energy. Masculine energy from you will push push a masculine man away. Feminine energy from you will pull a masculine man towards you. It's a law of polarity. So we want to make sure you're doing all those things correctly. And because it's not just about the calmness of how you're sharing something, it's actually also the words you're using, the way, the order at which you share things. Because you might jump right into sharing with him what the problem is or what the issue is that you see but if you haven't asked permission to share that or if you haven't shared your feelings before, that he's not going to actually, for one, he's going to feel energetically penetrated in that moment that you're telling him what to do, he's not going to feel good to him on some level. And also he's not going to get to feel your heart, which is the most magnetic thing about you. It's the most magnetic thing you can do in that moment. To make him feel like he wants to change, that he wants to do something different, that he wants to help you, is when he feels your heart and the emotional impact. So that has to be present first before he's willing to come closer to you and to receive what you have to say. And not being in defensive mode. Now, the last thing I'll say about that is you may do everything right, but if a man is used to you being in your masculine energy in the past and energetically penetrating him or controlling him, criticizing, trying to lead him, trying to manipulate him, trying to get something from him, he's going to be on the defensive by default. Because he's not used to you being in your queen energy. He's used to you being in the energy, or he's used to you being in the doormat energy. He doesn't treat you, take you seriously, he doesn't believe you actually do value yourself and you actually are speaking up and communicating. But this sounds more like him being defensive, sounds more like he may be recovering from you have been being in your masculine. That's the possibility of it. So you want to give it some time, which is also why The Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge is so valuable, because you give it time, you give it a period of time where this can actually shift for him and for you within like 90 days. And then at the end, you'll know if he's actually capable of giving you what you need. And if he has already dramatically shifted, you'll know. Now, the other last thing is he may be a broken man. He may be a mentally broken, emotionally broken, he may be immature, he may be feminine, or he may have no care for you. And if that's the case, then he's not going to really shift, no matter what you do, no matter how perfectly feminine you communicate, or if you're in your queen, if he's a broken man, it's not going to really work with him, but this will reveal it to you over time what kind of man he actually is. And then, you know, clearly he's not the right man for you. And you have to get out of that situation. If you value yourself, you have to detach from a man who's broken and who can't give you what you need. Otherwise you're going to continue to sacrifice yourself at the altar of hope and false visions of romance that will never be realized because he's not capable of giving that to you. Hope that was helped, Kaylin. All right, so then, let's see. We have another question here from Min. I hope I said that right. What would you say men at age 53 look for in a relationship? I have shown that I am interested in him from the first date. I just felt the chemistry. Now we only text and I am cold by his behavior. Yeah, so the same things that attract a man at 53 are the same things that will attract a man generally at age 23, which is masculine feminine polarity. It's you being in your magnetic feminine and using magnetic feminine communication, revealing your heart. If he's a healthy masculine man, it's the most effective thing you can use regardless of what age the man is. Okay, I'll say maybe a guy that's 15 years old or younger, it's not going to work with because they're not emotionally developed yet. And maybe a guy older than, you know, 80 who can barely speak or comprehend, it's not going to work with them. So, you know, we have some outliers, of course, with this, but for, for the most part, most men, most healthy masculine men who are fully functioning adults, it's going to work well with them. It's going to be the most effective thing you can use, in fact, to draw a man to you and to make him want to have a loving, long term, committed relationship with you. Now, what I'd be interested to do more coaching with you, miniavere Minivera, is how you showed interest in him and what you did because it's very easy when you're interested in a man. It can be very easy to move into your masculine because you want to have a connection with him. You want to lead the relationship forward, you want to get things from him, you want to get more attention, you want to get more attraction, you want to get more affection from him. And you want to lead the relationship forward to a commitment or to the next state or the next date. So it can be very tempting to move into your masculine energy when you really like a guy. And so you want to make sure that we're using all that desire and putting it into the process of becoming the magnetic feminine and drawing a man to you so that you can have what you want. Because, yeah, it will be very easy to get into your masculine. We want to make sure there's no Bad emotions, there are only bad behaviors. So the desire you feel for him is beautiful. The desire itself is beautiful. Now, what you do with that desire, that's a different thing. Do you use that desire to try to control him, try to get something from him, try to give to him, to get him to like you, or which is all masculine, or do you simply share your desire with him? You use feminine communication. You share your desire with him. You share your feelings. You're open, you're vulnerable, you are available. You are also doing other feminine activities to fill yourself up, to step into your magnetic feminine polarity, which we'll teach. We teach as well in our coaching programs how to actually embody your femininity, even when you're not with him, and to energetically embody your femininity, to draw him to you just through your energy. So there's a lot of things to unpack. And what could be going on there? What can actually draw him to your. What may have pushed him away? Now, where you're at now, the best thing to do is to have a phone call with him and to ask him, may I ask for a phone call? Set up a phone call. And on the phone call to share your feelings, to share how you're feeling and be open and real with him and why you feel that way. So you would have a call and say, may I share something with you? Sure. I feel sad. Why do you feel sad? Because we haven't spoken for. We've just been speaking over text since our last date for several weeks now. And I feel sad because I feel desire to see you again. And I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. You give it up to him as a problem to solve. Him and his masculine. He gets the problem. He says, oh, here's a juicy, delicious problem. I can solve that. If I solve it. I can feel like a hero. I can feel like a. A worthy man that I get to provide this for her. And how can I make it better? How can I fix this? Oh, why don't we go? Why don't we have a date? Why don't we meet up? Why don't we talk more? I want to see you again. Thanks for sharing your feelings with me. I'm sorry I wasn't. I know I've been busy. I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. And his energy can shift potentially with that conversation. It could be just one conversation or it could be a series of conversations, but that can cause him to shift Often to start coming closer to you and start shifting his behavior to be a man for you, to be a man that you want him to be and to come closer to you. Or it will also reveal potentially that he has no level of care for you or he's a broken man emotionally. The things we've talked about. In that case, it becomes very clear and he may say, like, you know, no, I'm not really interested right now. And you have to be detached from the outcome. That's a possibility. The feminine is about the process and the journey, not the outcome. So you have to detach from the outcome. It's a possibility. Of course, he could reject you. He could say no. He could say. He could make a lame excuse, but not really change his actions. But if you're using what we're teaching you and you've done it over several times and a man hasn't shifted his behavior, that's a clear sign that he's not the right man for you. And then you have to set a boundary with yourself. You have to be willing to walk away. Hope that was helpful. All right, so we're about wrapping it up for tonight again. If you haven't yet, make sure to take our free Magnetic Feminine Polarity quiz by going to feminine polarity.com or our new address, which is befeminine.com or you can click the link in the description or comments below or in our bio to get that. Highly recommended because it's going to help you integrate everything we're teaching you here and allow us to actually virtually coach you to get the magnetic feminine polarity right and attract a man to where he's incredibly desiring of you and he values and respects you using your queen energy. Let me just see if I'll answer a couple final questions before we end for tonight. Karen said, what do we do with an avoidant who is deeply hurt by a narcissist in a marriage and divorce, but is interested and cautious? Again, the best thing to do with an avoidant man is to use magnetic feminine communication because that's going to help you be in your secure attachment, your secure energy, secure within yourself, being the queen, which is going to help inspire him into his secure self. He's going to feel more comfortable and trusting to actually come closer to you because he doesn't feel like you're trying to control him, you're trying to lead him, you're trying to tell him what to do from your masculine or you're not being a doormat who doesn't say anything. And who just lets him do whatever he wants and never speaks your desire, never speaks up your desires or your feelings or problems. So being the queen is going to help heal his, his avoidant attachment style and it's going to help even you heal your attachment style so that you can have a healthy, secure relation because it calls him into his king. When you are in your queen, you're going to attract men around you. The man you're interested in being more in, his healthy king energy, his healthy king masculine energy. And you are also going to attract men in general who are going to be more in their healthy king energy. They're going to be attracted to you and they're going to want to do things for you. They're going to want to serve you, protect, provide and be your hero because of who you are. Being as the queen, the feminine queen who men want to value and men want to provide for, it's an energetic component. It's the law of polarity. So it's really inevitable and it has to happen because it's the law of the universe that like energies attract and that the opposite energies on the pole attract the polarities of masculine and feminine, that when they come together like a magnet, they have to be drawn to each other when you embody it. So this is a very powerful thing that you're going to continue to practice and we'd love to help you with that as well because that will definitely make him more comfortable being close to you. All right, so that is it for today. Mina said link please. So again, the link for our Magnetic Feminine polarity quiz is going to be in the description or the comments below this training. If it's not, it will be in our bio. I'll be posting a link in those videos after this or you can go to befeminine.com I'm going to post it up here. Befeminine.com or our old link feminine polarity.com either one of those work you'll get to our quiz, you'll be able to get some information there, some powerful information on femininity and some personal things. We can adjust for you as well based on your answers to help you get the right strategy in place and get some coaching support to actually have this loving, long term, committed relationship with a man you desire in your life as soon as possible. So much love. Hope this was helpful. Take care and I look forward to seeing you on the next powerful training very soon. And as all, I'm giving my heart to you as well because I know this is a tough journey. I know it's not always easy. And we were really here to support you. We want to see more happy couples in the world. And that's really why we do this work, because we believe the world's going to heal when people really get this magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic masculine polarity, which would be the men's side of things. So that you can have a healthy long term relationship and the world will have more love and more healthy relationships as well. So take care, much love, and we'll talk to you.