THIS Makes Him Miss You More Than Anything Else

How to make him miss you badly. In this video, you will discover some rather counterintuitive ways. How to make him think about you and really, like, you know, talk with his friends about you and just wanting to spend more time with you. The first way to make him miss you is a personal growth look. When you invest time, time, money, energy into yourself, like, he will actually notice a shift, but he'd be like, did you get a new haircut? Did you get a new shirt? Like, what is wrong with you? Do you have a new boyfriend? Right? So he doesn't know what it is. He can just feel that there is a difference. Look, when I met my husband Brody, and I was, of course, in personal development, he was, like, immediately attracted to me because he felt, look, there is something different, something that stands out about this woman and how she carries herself, also how she speaks, how she frames her experiences as opposed to being simply the collapsing victim. There is something to be said about a man actually really being attracted to a woman who can own her emotions without necessarily putting it on him. The next way to make him miss you badly is stay friends with his friends. Now, this is actually going to do two things. For one, you are actually in this feedback loop which will actually give you, like, more insights on, like, what's actually happening with him, right? Like, where, where is he standing? But also, number two, and this may be even more important, you stay in the conversation. So think about it this way. When, right? Like, if your friends assist, friends are your friends, then you are actually popping up in a conversation. They're probably going to be like, oh, I just went to the mall with Joanne, or, you know, I just went, you know, I just had a coffee with Susie, or we just hung out last night or whatever, right? And it, you know, the focus, what the brain hears, the brain has to focus on. So he's now starting to focus on you, right? And he's going to be like, oh, oh, well, I wonder how is Susie doing? How is Joanne doing? Right? So he can't help but actually wonder about you, right? So it's a really good strategy. Of course, only if you're also, of course, enjoying his friends as well. So obviously don't do something you don't want to do. If you don't want to go to the football game with his friends, then, I mean, I'm like, more the advocate. Don't go to the football game with his friends. I know there's other coaches out there who would tell you something different. However, I do believe in, like, being authentic and aligned and congruent when it comes to dating and romantic relationships. The next way how to make him miss you badly is simply prioritize yourself. Now of course sometimes you may hear that may mean to not be so available to him. But let me give you an example what that looks like. You know, 14 years ago I was dating this guy and he actually had like a sailboat, right? And I remember this beautiful Sunday afternoon, He reached out to me and he invited me to go sailing with him. I may have been like the night before. And he was just waiting for me to get a response. And look, I knew like, of course it's going to be a heavenly experience. I'm going to have so much fun. Plus I get to see the guy that I'm not really attracted to and, and I was at the time also sort of attached to, but I was sort of like on the path to getting attached to him, right? And of course, like every woman would afflict all of her ten fingers to be in that moment. But because of that, because of that very thing, I knew, like, I actually have to be able to create this by myself as well, right? So I have to actually be able to give myself that pleasure, have that joy on my own. Because I. Otherwise I'm going to be codependent. So I did the unthinkable on that particular Sunday afternoon and I turned him down. You know, the rest is history. Because what ended up happening is this guy ended up falling madly in love with me, pursued me all the time. This is a true story. Called me, texted me. Even when he was on a road trip, he left me like, like voice messages because I wouldn't, I wouldn't like always like call him back or text him back right away. But he's like, hey, we just entered Montana. And he here's what I see and looking forward to hearing your voice again and so on. So this truly works, right? But it has to be authentic. The intention was for me to create that same pleasure and joy by myself that I feel in his presence. The next way to make him miss you badly is maintain a positive attitude. Now so many times like women can fall into this pattern of like being super over emotional, right? And not being able to control their emotions for one reason or another. Now the man of course reads it as such that he's now responsible for your emotions, even though that's not necessarily what you meant, or maybe that's what you'd meant, but for some reason it's not what they exactly meaning. They just want to express themselves and he feels like a little bit of a load on him because he doesn't know how to solve the problem. And. Right. Like, emotions are not as simple as, like, oh, let's, let's just solve the problem. Because men are problem solvers, but women, like, I feel emotions somewhat circular, so there's not necessarily a rhyme or reason to them. Right? So if you can maintain a positive attitude and can say, yes, you know what, we just had a flat tire. But what's so great about that, right? What? You know what? Yes, you know what? Like, we didn't get the reservation at my favorite restaurant. Or even though despite we had the reservation, for some reason they don't have a table for us or whatever the case may be. Right? So what's so great about that? Now, of course, in the Bible it says, all things work together for good. And I believe. You believe, right? When a woman brings this attitude to the table, that's what she's really saying. She's saying, you know, if it's not good yet, God is not done yet. And it's one of my favorite quotes because it's really saying, hey, you know what? Like, if it doesn't taste right, just turn up the oven. Just wait a little longer. It's not fully baked yet. You know, it's kind of the same with when you're pregnant and you're having a baby, right? Like, you just have to wait. And so practice that particular tool as opposed to, like, jumping to conclusions, getting reactive, taking it personal, projecting it onto the man. That's not helpful. And then the beautiful thing about it is the man will say, well, hold on. Where is this woman taking a piece of might coming from? Like, where's she taking this positive attitude from? I want more of that, right? This is sort of like this yummy favorite ice cream that we can't get enough of. Now the next thing to make him miss you badly is show empathy and active listening. And what I mean by that, oftentimes, you know, we're so busy wanting to be understood, you know, and it's just really because we were, of course, not understood by our parents. As a matter of fact, we were misunderstood. We tried to explain the situation, but, you know, we tried to do something. You know, maybe we were experimenting with something and our parents totally took it out of context, got really upset at us, yelled at us, and so on. So our desire is to be understood. However, the way how to make him miss you is. Is actually you seeking to understand first, right? If you understand him better than anyone, Else like he feels there's this presence, there's this like awareness that's there right when you're communicating with him. And he will feel like that's missing when you're gone, you know. And of course this can't be the only thing. And of course, of course, especially if you're recovering from narcissistic abuse, of course you want to be mindful with that and also take the other four points into consideration. But you would say in general, right? Like it does feel good to the nervous system, it feels safe to the nervous system, it feels attractive to the nervous system when someone is truly interested and invested into you. However, here's the caveat, right? Only when that other person also comes from a place of confidence. Only when that woman also comes from a place of self love herself. So she's not just doing that because she wants to get and that's how she feels actually valued and appreciated, right? So that wouldn't be authentic. You want to make sure you do this from a full place because he can tell the difference. As you can see in this video you'll learn how sometimes it can be about the small shifts that make the big difference. However, what you've also saw today was that it's about attitude. It's about the energy behind the actions. It's not just about the actions. If you just take the actions and you're like, well, auntie, this is not working well, I tell you why, because there's not the right intent underneath it. So it's really important that you combine the two because that is truly attractive. And he will continue to build trust and attraction towards you. And even when he goes on dates of other women, he will find himself missing you because he'll feel like, you know, I don't feel like this woman is really that aligned and that congruent and that alive and that joyful and actually honoring herself, right? Like he'll feel the difference, he'll feel the contrast. And that's where want him to have you back. 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