This Mental Shift Makes Men See You as the Prize

I'm going to tell you something that's going to make half of you angry, the other half relieved. Are you ready? Well, the reason you're still struggling in love isn't because you haven't found the right man yet. It's because you're operating from your masculine energy and you're literally repelling the very man you want to attract. And here's the brutal truth. The harder you try, the faster he runs, the more you prove yourself, the less he pursues you, the more you show him you don't need him, the more, the more he believes you. And I know that may sound completely backwards from what modern dating culture has told you, but stick with me, because what I'm about to share could completely change your love life forever. What I've discovered after coaching thousands of women is this. Masculine men are biologically wired to pursue feminine women. Not strong women, not independent women, not women who have it all figured out. They pursue women who are grounded in their feminine polarity. Women who know how to receive, women who trust the masculine to come to them instead of chasing after it. And by the end of this video, you're going to understand exactly what this is and how to become that kind of woman without feeling like you're faking it or betraying who you are. If you're new here, my name is Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man for over 20 years. Combined with my wife, Antia. We've been helping thousands of women to attract loving, long term, committed relationships with a man they actually want. And today we're going to talk about the three core truths about masculine feminine polarity that that will change the way men respond to you forever. So let's dive in. Number one, two drivers can't drive the same car. Imagine you're in a car with a man. There's one steering wheel, one driver's seat, and both of you are trying to grab the steering wheel and trying to drive the car at the same time. What happens? Chaos, fighting, resentment, or a car crash. Eventually someone's getting out of the car either way. Now that's what's happening in your relationship. When you're in your masculine energy, you're trying to drive, you're making the plans, you're moving the relationship forward, you're initiating, you're leading, you're solving all the problems. And he's sitting there, sitting back in the passenger seat and he's thinking, well, I guess she doesn't need me. I guess she's got this all handled. I guess I'll just Exit at the next stop. Now, here's what most dating coaches won't tell you. This isn't about playing games or pretending to be helpless. This is about the law of polarity. Genesis tells us that God created them, male and female as opposite energies, which but complementary energies. Masculine energy gives. Feminine energy receives. Masculine energy leads. Feminine energy follows. Masculine energy protects. Feminine energy trusts. And when you step into the masculine role, you destroy the polarity. And without polarity, there is no attraction, There is no chemistry. There is no passion. There's just no spark. So let me give you a real example of this. One of our clients, Krista, came to us after years of being single. She's an athlete, super independent, always took care of everything herself, provided for herself, made all of her own decisions. And she kept attracting men who were passive, who didn't lead, who let her do everything. And she resented them for it. But here's what she didn't realize. She was actually training them to be passive by being in her masculine. And when she started practicing what we teach in our Magnetize youe Man program, when she started letting men plan the dates, when she started receiving instead of giving, when she started trusting instead of controlling instead of. Everything shifted for her within months. She attracted a man who takes care of her when she's sick. A man who plans dates and has a whole list of places he wants to take her. A man who makes her feel like she's in a Hallmark movie. So what really changed? She stopped trying to drive the car. She let him lead, and his masculine energy came alive for her. Number two. Your neediness isn't the problem. Your shame about it is. Now, here's where I'm going to lose some of you. But stay with me. You. You've been told your whole life that needing a man makes you weak. That having emotional needs makes you high maintenance, that sharing your feelings will scare him away. What do you do? You hide it. You stuff it down. You pretend you're totally fine when he cancels plans. You act like you don't care when he doesn't text you back. You become the cool girl who never asks for anything. And then you wonder why he's not investing, why he's not committing to you, why he treats you just like an option instead of a real priority. So let me tell you something very important. Vulnerability is not your weakness. Vulnerability is actually your feminine superpower. When you share your heart with a man in the right way, using magnetic feminine communication, something incredible happens. His hero instinct gets activated. It comes alive for you every Masculine man has a deep need to feel like he's making his woman happy. When. When you hide your feelings, when you pretend everything's fine, he has no idea if he's succeeding or failing with you. But when you say, may I share something with you? Then waiting for his response, and then sharing, I'm feeling some sadness. When you canceled our plans, I told myself that maybe I'm not a priority for you. And I'm curious if you could help me with that. Now, something can actually shift in your dynamic with him. You're not blaming, you're not attacking, which many women will often do when they feel helpless. Instead, you're authentically showing him your heart and a respectful way. And a healthy, masculine man will feel that weight and respond. He may even apologize. He'll make it right. He'll plan something special to show you that you are a priority to him. In Proverbs 31, it says, A virtuous woman does him good and not harm all the days of her life. Now, this means that a radiant woman doesn't attack. She draws a man in and becomes a huge gift to him by being true and authentic to herself and her own heart. Now, let me share another story. Our client, Stephanie, came to us after years of dating the wrong men. She learned our principles and attracted her man in July. And by October, he proposed to her. What did she do differently? She stopped hiding her heart. She stopped trying to be Miss Too Cool for School. She vulnerably shared her feelings, her desires, her needs. And the right man stepped up almost instantly. Number three. Stop giving your pearls to swine. Now, Jesus said in Matthew 7, do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet and tear you to pieces. Your love and your body, your time, your trust, your feminine energy. These are your pearls. They're priceless. But when you give them to the wrong men, to men who are emotionally unavailable, to men who won't commit, to men who keep you guessing, they don't see them as pearls. They see them as dirt. And you know what the hardest part is? Sometimes you have to let the hope die. I know that hurts. And I know you're thinking, but, Brody, what if he changes? What if he finally gets his act together? What if I just give it a little more time? But here's the truth. If you have to convince him to love you, he's not your man. When my wife, Antia, met me in Hawaii at a church meetup in Waikiki under the Hawaiian moon, I knew within weeks, I wanted to marry her. I didn't need to be convinced. I didn't need time to figure it out. I moved the relationship forward. I soon made her my girlfriend. And I introduced her to my friends and family. Because when a man wants you, he'll make it obvious. When he's unsure, he'll make it confusing. And a high value woman doesn't decode confusion. She trusts her feminine intuition. When something feels off, she speaks up. And if he doesn't shift, she walks away. Because the ultimate act of self love is being willing to walk away from breadcrumbs to make space for the banquet. So here's what this looks like. Practically use our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge we teach in our programs. Give him 90 days of you showing up in your full feminine energy using magnetic feminine communication, magnetic feminine polarity, all of it. And asking for what you want. Sharing your feelings, being vulnerable, open and respectful. And then observe him. Is he stepping up? Is he showing more care for your heart? Is the trajectory moving upward? If yes, beautiful, keep going. If no, then you have your answer and you walk away with your feminine dignity intact and your standards. Because at the end of the day, relationships should be simple, fun and easy. Not complicated, miserable and hard. All right, so let's recap the three core truths about masculine feminine polarity. Number one, two drivers can't drive the same car. Stop trying to lead. Let him step into his masculine by you staying in your feminine. Number two, your neediness isn't the problem. Your shame about it is. Share your heart using magnetic feminine communication and watch his hero instinct activate. Number three, stop giving your pearls to swine. Use our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. Observe if he's showing care for your heart and be willing to walk away if he's not. When you master these three truths, you stop chasing, you start attracting, you start magnetizing, you stop convincing and you start receiving. And that changes everything. Now, I also want to give you something super powerful right now to help you out the most. Now we have our free love quiz that will show you exactly where you're blocking masculine pursuit and how to shift into your magnetic feminine energy. It takes only two minutes and you'll get your personalized top recommendation for attracting the relationship you really want with a man you actually want. You can get that at our website magnetizeyourman.com or or by clicking the link in the description or comments below right now. Also, feel free to drop a comment below and tell me honestly, what's one way you realize you've been in your masculine energy with a man? Did you initiate plans? Did you try to fix his problems and mother him? Did you hide your feelings to try to be a cool girl? Be brutally honest. I'll read as many of the replies as I can, and I'll even help some of you with my top suggestions. Thank you for investing into yourself and your feminine energy. Remember, when you shift, your entire life can shift. And you're doing that right now. I'll see you in the next video.