Unlock His Heart With THESE 7 Phrases

Seven things men most want to hear from a woman. If you've been wanting a man to come closer to you, if you're concerned that he's been pulling away or losing interest, this video is going to help him to come back to you, to devote himself to crave you, even obsess over you, want to have you in his life. He cannot lose you. He needs to have it. That's what we're going to do for you in this training. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife, Auntie, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go ahead and start diving right in. So the first thing that a man most wants to hear from a woman is you make me feel so feminine. A man wants to know that he's making you feel good and also that you're in your feminine and relaxing around him. The fact that you say that you feel like you're in your feminine with him shows him that he's being in his masculine. He's being a good provider, protector, hero. He's letting you feel that things are taken care of, that he's got it, that he's surrounding you with his masculine life force. He's making you feel like a special creature, a special woman, and he wants to keep making you feel better. So this is a really great thing to let a man know when it's true for you. All these things I'm going to mention, I want you to only say them to him if they're actually true and authentic for you. But if they are true and authentic, you can definitely mention those to him and let him know because it's going to feel really good to him. He's going to know he's doing a good job and it's going to help expand the polarity. Even that you're using the word feminine will help him to start seeing the relationship and thinking and feeling into that dynamic of you being in your feminine, him being in his masculine, which creates polarity, which creates attraction and chemistry and devotion on his end. When you are really in your feminine and he will be inspired by more into his healthy masculinity to take that role, to lead, to provide, to give and make you happy. The next thing men most want to hear is you're a great leader. Again, this is expanding on the last principle. But when you tell a man that he's a good leader, especially in Your relationship, when he's great at planning things, planning a future for you, planning dates, putting adventures together, leading the family forward, if you have children, making decisions, creating visions for what the future holds for both of you, or just as simple as what the plan is for the weekend, what the plan is for the evening. And he's doing a good job at that. Just like in a dance, if he's leading you. If a man is leading you in a dance, a partner dance, like salsa or tango or west coast swing, which is my personal favorite, then he is doing a good job. From his masculine he is leading the relationship forward. He is taking, taking on his responsibilities in the relationship and making sure that the relationship has a healthy, polarized dynamic. So when you tell a man he is a great leader, anything you tell him that he's doing great, he's likely going to want to do that more. So when you say that to him, he's going to start feeling, wow, I didn't even think of myself as a great leader. Now I feel good that she likes that I want to do more of it. How can I be a better leader? How can I improve? How can I lead her with more confidence? How can I be more certain? How can I make better decisions for us, for the relationship, for the family? So he'll start to look at those things and he will start to improve because he wants to again, make you happy. Ultimately, the next thing men love to hear is you're amazing at what you do. So when you tell him about the various things that he's good at, not just being a good leader, which is a definitely an important one, but if he's good at math, if he's good at fishing, if he's good at fixing the garage door, if he's good at finances and taxes, whatever his skill set is for his job or his hobby or things that he's good at just around the home, when you let him know that he's amazing at that, that you see it, that you appreciate his competence, you appreciate his skills and his knowledge and his abilities, that's going to feel really good to him as well. And that's going to help also expand him more into his masculine, you're going to start creating more of that polarity. So letting him know when you see these things, it's like your recognition from the feminine that like, hey, you, you have some great things about you. You have some value to provide. You are awesome. And I see that value. I see you, I see you as a man, and I see the hero inside of you. I see the greatness inside of you. So these are things you're saying to him when you do something as simple as letting him know that he is amazing at what he does, whatever that skill set might be. The next saying of something that a man loves to hear, which is number four, is, you make me so happy. Again, I said this earlier. A masculine man, he's going to get his deepest sense of value when a woman he cares about is happy. When he knows he's making you happy, that's his score on the game board, right? That's his score in the relationship, that he's doing a good job, that he's winning, quote unquote with you, he's making you happy, he's a good partner, he's a good man, he has value when he knows he's making you happy. If he thinks that he's making you unhappy or if he thinks that you're unhappy in general, he's going to eventually. And of course, this is when a man has care for your heart because if he doesn't really care about you, he may not care if you're not happy or not. If he, he just be like, whatever, you know, you're just, you're just a friend to me, or you're not even a friend. We're just whatever, acquaintances, or maybe just sexual partners, who knows? Hopefully it's not in that place. If you're in a situationship, which is most of the women we help, we'll help you get out of that. But that's one of the things when a man starts to have care for you, which will teach you with magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication and coaching how to actually make a man care for you and want to make you happy. But when he does have care for you, his natural response then is going to want to make you happy and he's going to get his sense of masculine self esteem. And if he thinks he does have care for you and he thinks you aren't happy, he's going to eventually have his masculine self esteem eroded. He's going to lose his sense of masculine confidence and he's not going to feel good. He'll probably get depressed at some point, become a shell of a man, or move more into his feminine or just exit the relationship altogether because he's like, why am I here? I can't win, I can't make you happy. You should be with somebody else. You should be with somebody who can make you happy. Because if he really cares for you, he's also going to say like, look, you, you should be happy, go with somebody else. Because I can't do it. I'm too broken. I'm got issues, whatever he has going on. And there are a certain percentage of men, 5 to 10% that are deeply broken. There's narcissists, they're sociopaths, they're so emotionally avoidant that they can't even get to the point of even close, close to the point of being a secure attachment. You just, you just going to have to walk away from those men anyways because you're not going to be happy long term. It's true, you're not going to be happy. So don't get caught in the belief that he's going to change magically. He will likely if you use the 90 day challenge that we teach and use magnetic feminine polarity and get him to that place, he will be inspired in that place over time. But you have to be really mastering these principles and really in your feminine to be able to do that, to have him show care eventually. So the third thing that men love to hear is I trust you. So when you say I trust you, just like again in that dance, you're showing him, I see you, I respect you, I admire you. I want you to lead, I want you to take charge. I want you to guide us. Just like in the movie Aladdin, right? What was the saying that Jasmine said to Aladdin when he took her on the carpet? Well, Aladdin said, do you trust me? She said, yes, I think so. But she still said yes. And she got on the magic carpet ride and he felt really great about that. So when you tell a man that you trust him, you're giving him that signal that he is a worthy man and that you trust him and that you're willing to follow his lead. Just like in that dance, you're willing to dance with him. You're willing to tango. You're willing to see where the, the adventure takes you. And that would be the adventure of the relationship. Now it doesn't mean when you trust the man that you're just completely, you're completely passive and you become a doormat and you just do whatever he says, even if it's not good for you and it doesn't feel good to you and it crosses some of your personal boundaries. You have to speak up about those things. And that's why we teach you magnetic feminine communication in our courses, in our coaching. We'll script things out for you and we'll help you navigate conversations with a man so you can speak up and so you don't have to just walk on eggshells and just do whatever he says because you do need to speak up as a high value woman. But when a man is leading well and when he's capable of leading well, and in fact you may need to stretch a little bit in the beginning to start trusting him so that he gets a chance to actually lead and gets a chance to get better at leading and moving the relationship forward. Eventually you will fully trust him. You will be able to relax and just watch him do his thing. Watch him plan out amazing things and lead you on amazing experiences because you've shown that trust. And now he. His natural response from the mask is to want to cherish and adore you because you trust and respect him. The next saying that men love to hear is I feel safe with you. So when you, when you say I feel safe with you, it's another version of letting him know, I trust you, I feel good, I'm happy, and you make me feel so safe, I feel comfortable. What this does, this particular saying wakes up the protector instinct within him. When you let a man know, even if it's in a small way that you feel safe with him, that makes him feel like, wow, I am the hero. I can do this. I can make her feel safe. This is pretty cool. I should do other things that make her feel safe. I should look out, I should make sure nobody's talking bad about her. I should make sure when we're walking on the sidewalk that I'm walking on the outside so that if the car pumps over the sidewalk it's going to smush me and then she's going to be okay. Or if there's somebody that looks aggressive, I'm going to put myself in between her and him and I'm going to potentially fight him and kill him if I need to, if he's posing an imminent danger to my woman. And that's why men will go to war and that's why men will fight and, and die often because they want to feel like the hero. They want to feel like their life has meaning, that they can be of service and they can protect. That's also why so many men are drawn to professions that are often very dangerous but that activate that protector instinct within them, such as being a policeman, a firefighter, a soldier, and there's many others as well. But those are some examples of heavily male dominated professions because the men get that sense of inherent protective instinct and hero instinct woken up just through their career and they get to feel that through everybody that they get to serve in that role of rescuing the cat from the tree or taking care of the domestic violence situation or taking the bad guys out. Like, that's his sense of heroism and protection that he gets activated. But you can also activate that in the relationship by simply just saying, I feel safe with you. And letting him know when you feel safe and you know how you feel protected, you feel his strength, his abilities, his heroism, even. You can even say things. I didn't add this to this list, but it's a really good one as well, which is, you're my hero. You can actually say that to a man, you're my hero. And he'll feel really good and want to do that more for you. So now the number one thing that men most love to hear is, I respect you. Now here's the thing. The masculine and the deepest core of the masculine heart, a man desires to be respected and trusted. You as a woman you desire, likely the more feminine you are, the more this will be true to be adored and cherished. So when you trust and respect a man, his natural response is, assuming it's a healthy man and he's not deeply broken, which there are, again, some broken men out there, is going to be to trust, to cherish and adore you. When you trust and respect him and he feels trusted and respected fully by you, his natural response is to cherish and adore you. Because that's the opposite end of the masculine feminine instinct and the masculine feminine polarity within the core of a woman and a core of a man. So you can often lead first. You can go first. I wouldn't say lead, but you can go for first by sharing and allowing yourself to actually look for the things you respect about him and that you trust about him. We mentioned that before, but look for the things you respect about him and feel that in your own heart first. And then you can actually let him know about that as well, let him know about the ways you respect him. And you can say some of the things we already talked about before, but I respect your decisions, I respect your abilities, I respect you. I respect what you've accomplished. I respect the life that you've built for yourself. And if you've just met him or whatever that might be, but you want it to be authentic and true for yourself. And sometimes you don't even need to say those words, I respect you. But if you just feel that within your own heart and you actually operate from that place with a man of being respectful and respecting him, which is why some of the things we teach with magnetic Feminine communication, such as asking permission when you want to share something or when you want to ask him to help you with something or ask for his attention or to ask for him to call you, etc. That that's a great sign that you are showing to him that you respect him and that you're not just going to tell him what to do or penetrate him energetically or step on his toes or treat him like a little child. That you're going to respect him as a man and you're going to respect his masculine core and honor that in a way, revere and honor that, because that's what's going to bring that out more within him and he becomes a stronger man within himself. He becomes a more devoted man within himself and ultimately becomes a better partner for you and actually wants to do those things more for you because then he wants to make you happy even more. He wants to cherish and adore you. So I'm going to answer some questions in the chat pretty soon, so if you have any questions, go ahead and post those in here. And in the meantime, if you haven't, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get the relationship you want as soon as possible by clicking the link in our bio or in the comments or description below or or going to magnetizeyourman.com, which is where we'll show you how to actually start mastering these principles of magnetic feminine polarity. Magnetic feminine communication. And also you could do our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge with a specific man to turn the relationship around and actually have him start cherishing, adoring and devoting himself to you long term for a loving, committed relationship. So go ahead and take that quiz either now or at the end of this video. I highly recommend it. You don't want to miss out on that. So with that I'm going to start answering some questions that have come in here. So again, post any questions you have with a specific man or in your dating or relationship situation now and I will start answering those on a first come first serve basis as I start continue this video for as long as I continue it today. So Hui said, I love these kinds of videos. Awesome Hui. Glad you like it. So it's so encouraging. And now I know what to say to my beloved Scorpio man. Yeah, so definitely will be good to write down some of these things to memorize them in fact, so you can say them when they feel authentic for you and when you're in the right situation where you feel called to say to share those things and you want to share those things with him and that it can be natural and enjoyable for you. Kendra said, great advice. You're welcome, Kendra. Glad you're enjoying it. And Lorraine as well said, wise words. Awesome. Yeah, I'm glad you enjoyed it, Lorraine. So again, until I get some more questions here, because usually there's a lot of questions that will be coming in, I'm just going to go ahead and continue talking about some things. If you have also any questions about any of the things I mentioned, you can start asking about those. If you want any clarity on those things to say to a man or principles of polarity that may have come up for you with that. So I'll just talk about a little bit until the next question comes in. Oh, actually we do got a question here. So Karen said, hello, Brody, how can a woman respond to a man who wants you to move in with him when what you're hoping for is a proposal? Yeah. So the first thing you want to do, Karen, is share your feelings around that, which is your feminine core. So you have to listen into yourself, what emotions you actually feel about that, the fact that he wants you to move in and he hasn't proposed to you yet. So that emotion may be sadness, it may be anxiety or fear or frustration or confusion. So whatever those core emotions are for you, you want to share those with him respectfully and vulnerably. So we talked about respect earlier and now vulnerability is one thing we didn't talk about in this video yet as far as being open and honest and real with a man with your heart. And that's really what magnetizes him as well, is that openness and vulnerability. That's your feminine core. So to share with him something like I'm feeling, I'm feeling, let's say you're feeling anxious about it. I'm feeling anxiety. I feel anxiety. Anxiety. And then he'll probably ask you why. First you would say, can I share something with you? Sure. You'll say, I'm feeling anxiety. He'll probably ask you why. You say, because I know you know. You recently asked me if I know you've been taught, we've been talking about moving in. You want me to move in with you. And I'm telling myself a story that you may just want to move in and not really deepen the relationship other than that or what I'm feeling within myself, because you could also have boundaries for yourself is that I really don't feel comfortable moving in with anyone until we're really have moved to a more advanced stage of our relationship. And I'm telling myself a story that maybe you're not ready for that or maybe that's concern for you, or I don't know what might be going on on your end and I don't know what to do. So I added a couple parts in there, but you get the basic idea. So the one I would recommend is probably just saying I feel, I don't feel comfortable moving in with somebody until we've reached a deeper level of the relationship. And I don't know what to do. And so that's the basic idea. So you give it up to him and you let him take the lead. You can even ask for help, or you can ask him what he thinks about that and then let him start to take action to start to move the relationship forward, hopefully. Or at least talk about that. Talk about that conversation because that's a good boundary. I would recommend for yourself. Did not move into a house with a man until you are least engaged. I would say, I would say realistically the best thing is once you're married because there's definitely a lot of stories and bad situations that have happened with women that moved in with a guy and nothing really progressed after that, you know, and it just kind of stayed the same and marriage never came, proposal never came, so you definitely want to wait. And that's just setting a boundary with yourself. You're not telling him what to do. You're not saying, like, how could you say something like that to me? You can't. You have to propose to me first before I move in with you. You're just telling him what your boundary is, your personal boundary, and that you set with yourself and that you don't know what to do. You're kind of like stuck because that's the personal boundary you have, which you should. And, and you don't know what to do with that. You don't know what to do next. Let him help you. That also awakens his hero instinct that makes him want to help you. When you ask for his help, when you present a problem to him that he could potentially solve, he can start to work to help you with that potentially, and hopefully he will. You want to be detached from the outcome, but in that moment you're also showing that you're a high value woman because you're willing to hold standards for yourself. You're willing to hold a boundary with yourself and you're also willing to speak up and communicate that standard and communicate that boundary which shows you're a high value woman, because only a high value woman would feel that her feelings are worth sharing, that her desires are worth sharing, and that her standards are worth being met by a man. Her desires are worth being met by a man because she's worthy. I'm good enough. I'm awesome. I'm amazing. I'm a prize. You're the queen. So if you're the queen and if you're the prize, of course you require that. Of course you require that you're going to be married before moving in with a man, obviously, because you're not going to get yourself caught in a situation where you've basically changed your whole life around in a sense, without a clear commitment involved. So I, that's what I would recommend. Hopefully that was helpful, Karen. And then Kelsey said, where's the quiz? So, so again, yeah, the quiz will be in the comments or the description below this video. Actually right now, it may not be. Now that I think of it, it may not be below this video right now, but I will put it in the comments or description or in our bio. It will be in our bio, depending on where you're watching us. Or you can go to our website, magnetize your man dot com. That's the easy way right now. Just go to magnetize your man.com and then I will, I will put the link in the video as we're, as we're talking here. So the next question that we have while I'm pulling that up is Mary said, what do you think about an ex having house keys and coming by, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. You don't want to be in that situation. You got to get those keys back. Got to get those keys. He shouldn't have access. He shouldn't be able to just drop into your life at any moment. That's not you being a queen. Because a queen has boundaries with herself especially. And that boundary, a very important boundary, can be that nobody can just walk into your house unannounced, especially an ex. That's not, that's not okay. And okay, I just say, I just posted the quiz link here. I'll pin it and I'll try to put somewhere else too, in YouTube. All right, so that's, that's definitely a situation you want to avoid, Mary. So what I would say is ask him. Tell him, Tell him your feelings around it. You have to communicate your feelings around it, which I'm not sure exactly what your feelings are, but I would imagine there may be some fear or confusion or anxiety because otherwise you wouldn't have asked me about it. So I would share with him those feelings. You want to share with your feelings first and then you want to pause. You always pause at you sharing your feelings because you want to give him space to actually feel your heart and respond to your openness and vulnerability. And then you would talk about the fact that, you know, I know you have my keys, or, you know, you were asking if you can have my keys. And that similar to what I said with Karen earlier. I don't feel comfortable with that right now and I don't know what to do. So that's all you really have to say at that moment. It's one example, I mean, so many examples of different things and what we coach when we go deeper. If I, if you or me were to coach in our, like our coaching groups and our memberships, for example. But when you say, I don't know what to do, I, I, I'm not comfortable with that and I don't know what to do, you give him a chance to also potentially help and say, oh, yeah, that's totally fine. Or, what if we did it this way? Maybe you guys had an agreement, maybe there's a negotiation that happens, but at the end of the day, it's your boundary with yourself. And so if you're not comfortable with it, you're not comfortable with it. And don't let him push you or pressure you into giving him those keys and making you feel guilty, etc. Etc. And dangling the carrot in front of your nose. Also, that there's a potential of a relationship happening or that you're going to get back together or something that he's going to finally commit to you. Like, don't buy that. Like, you can get back together without him having keys to your house. Like, if he really wants to win you back, he can do that in a courtship process. Like, he can go through the courtship ritual again of asking you out, going on dates, taking you on dates, planning dates, paying for the dates and cherishing you and showing care for your heart and listening to you and asking questions and wanting to know how you feel and helping you with your problems and wanting to provide and protect and be your hero and let him do those things for you and prove to you that he's worth accepting back into your life or worth having a relationship with again, giving another chance. Let him build his case as well. Why? Why that should be the case. Like a, like an attorney. Let him build his case of why you should take him back. And then you can decide if you want to give him that chance again. But definitely not in the sense of I wouldn't recommend sleeping with him again or letting him have access to your house until he's clear that he's claimed you. And he wants to have a loving, long term, committed relationship. And his actions show that, not just his words, that he's proving that to you with his actions, hence the courtship ritual. And that's why I'd recommend doing also the magnetic feminine 90 day challenge with him so that you can actually start making progress and hopefully turn things around to where he actually does care for and adore you and. And also value you and respect you so that you guys can have a loving relationship together. And if not, he's got to move on because that's not something that a queen would allow. She wouldn't allow her ex to just have access to her house at any time or her life, really, in general. He needs to earn that and he needs to request that if that's really what he wants, he needs to ask you out and he needs to plan it and invest into the process. So hope that was helpful. Hoi said, hugs and care. Hugs and prayers, Karen. Yes, hugs and prayers. It's a tough situation, but, yeah, I think it'll work out. Hopefully you'll be some good conversations. All right, I'm just talking to Karen here. So Sarah said, all sounds great. I am in the second round of dating the same man. After three years, I've decided to follow my heart. He pursued the reconnect, but now I'm feeling uncertainty. Second round. Okay, so you guys have reconnected. You're dating again after three years. You decided to follow your heart. He wanted to reconnect, but now you're feeling uncertainty. So it really depends on why you're feeling uncertainty. Sarah, I would guess that you're feeling uncertainty because he's not really. He hasn't really changed. He's probably not giving you really what you want in the relationship. You, whether that's full commitment or him really showing care for your heart or investing into the relationship or being devoted. So if that's the case, then you need to share with him about that. You need to use magnetic feminine communication to have a conversation with him about how you're feeling and share the emotions, the uncertainty. That's the emotion. That's your feminine heart. You want to share that with him respectfully and vulnerably and you want to allow him to. Like I was sharing With Mary, you want to allow him to build his case on why he does want to be different, he does want to change for himself. Because you're not telling him what to do. All you're telling him is that you're feeling his emotions. And these are the reasons why. When he asks, these are the reasons why. Just the facts and maybe the stories you're telling yourself potentially, and then also that you don't know what to do. So, you know, we started dating each other again. I know this is the second time we dated, and I'm just noticing these things, X, Y and Z. And it's causing me to feel uncertainty about the relationship and if I should continue it and I don't know what to do, or if we should continue this and I don't know what to do. Or you can say, could I ask for some help or may I ask what you think about that? And so you allow him to then take the lead and start shifting things, hopefully, and actually changing because he wants to. Because he empathizes with your heart. He feels your heart. He feels the polarity, and he wants to be a better man for you because you've awakened his masculine instinct. Hope that was helpful. Sarah S. Said. Hi. Thanks for the love. I've been divorced after 15 years of love, married again to a wonderful man who is older, 15 years older than me. However, I can't get over my fear of divorce. And I'm always scared of. Yeah, it looks like it got. May have got cut off. Yeah. So you're afraid of divorce and you've been divorced after 15 years. So. Yeah. You know what I would recommend is it's natural for you to be afraid of divorce after you've been divorced and probably had a bad one. And. And so the key here is to be open about that with him, which I'm sure you have been. But I'd recommend using Magnetic Feminine communication and letting us script out what to say to him. Exactly. And then also doing the Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge to help you really share those feelings with him vulnerably and where those feelings are coming from and you're experiencing your last relationship, but doing so in a way where you're not telling him what to do. You're not saying, like, I need you to do this for me and I need you to text me every day and I need you to constantly tell me that everything's okay and that you still love me. You just simply share what the problem is and let him come up with the solutions. Let him try to figure out how he can make you feel more secure or less afraid that he's going to divorce you. Now give it some time as well. I don't know how long you've met this man, but you want to give it some time because you need to really see who this man is. Oftentimes you may meet a man, women will meet a man, or men do this as well, where you meet someone and then very quickly you're like, oh, this is the one, or this is going to be my next relationship, or this one person seems perfect for me. But you don't often really know this person. So you want to give it some time to actually see who this is, which is why it's having a time set limit on it and using like we teach the in our courses, in our coaching communities, the Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge. That allows you to give you some space to actually see what kind of man he is and if he is really going to cherish your heart and take care of you so that you don't have to worry about divorce, you don't have to worry about any of that. And you can also just share those feelings with him. And so that's how oftentimes the best test of a man is having how he responds to your vulnerability as a woman. When you're vulnerable, when you're open, when you're sharing your heart, see how he responds, you have to do it the right way. Because many women think they're being vulnerable, but they're actually, they're also, they're not doing it respectfully. So they end up doing what I call dumping their feelings on a man, where they just say, like, you're making me feel sad or you're making me feel afraid, or you need to fix this, or you need to do this better. And telling him what to do, essentially telling him what to do, rather than simply being open and vulnerable and trying to lead and control him. Right? So as anytime you're trying to lead or control a man, you will reduce or destroy the polarity and you will put yourself into the masculine role and you will put him into the feminine role, which will cause him to lose attraction and devotion for you. So it's very important that you get the right distinctions to make sure you're actually operating and communicating with him from your feminine rather than from your masculine. The feminine is detached from the outcome. The feminine is expressive, vulnerable and open. And allowing him to step into his masculine and actually allowing him to take the lead and to guide things forward, just like in that dance, rather than you trying to manipulate him and trying to guide him or manage him or control him or lead him or give to him, to try to get him to like you, care for you, be a better, different man, etc. So I hope that was helpful. S user97 said, Guy smiled at me at the grocery store. Dating coach said, smile, slash, stare back at him for five seconds. I don't. I. I think it's a little silly to put a time limit on it. I think it's good practice if you're like, not if you're so shy in the past, where it's hard for you to make eye contact with a guy. But definitely eye contact and smiling is a great signal for you to send to a man that you can send to a man that you're interested in him, that you're interested in connecting. Not even that you're like, oh, I want you as my boyfriend or my, my husband. But just like, I'm interested in getting to know you, I'm interested in talking. I'm interested in talking to you. So, yes, practicing smiling back. Of course, if a guy smiles at you, feel free to smile back and make eye contact. And I would say just make eye contact with him as long as he's making eye contact with you. You know, if he's still making eye contact with you and you're making eye contact with him and you're both smiling at each other, likely he will start approaching you. He will get a little uncomfortable because of this sustained eye contact, and he will start. He'll either wave at you or, or he'll start walking over. And if he can, you know, hopefully he can. If he's working, it may be a little hard. I don't know if he's working at the grocery store, if he's just shopping or depending on how busy he is, but he will likely approach you if the contact of the eyes has sustained and the smile has sustained and. Yeah, and to practice it with multiple men. So don't just focus on him, but when you're out and about in your daily life, like, try practicing smiling at men in general. More. I know it can feel scary and you don't have to do this recklessly, but maybe just one guy a day that you think is attractive or you find him interesting. Just practice making eye contact and smiling. Just for a couple seconds. It doesn't have to be five seconds, but just a smile and a maybe a head nod. And just like that, it's like, I see you. I see your masculine. I see you as A man and I like what I see and here's, here's some. I'm sending a signal of some interest and do with it what you may because again the feminine energy is detached from the outcome. All you do is you're just simply being the light. You're like this beautiful flower that's blooming everywhere you go. And you attract the honeybees, right? Or you attracted the honeybee that you want the specific man or men in general if you're really single and quality men. We don't just want any man quality men into your life. And the more, more magnetically feminine you become, the more higher quality men you will attract and that you will attract them being more in their masculine and wanting to pursue you, chase you, protect, provide, be your hero, invest in the relationship, take care of you, care for your heart, et cetera. So that's what I'd recommend. Hope that was helpful. And Angela said my boyfriend of three months went on a vacation two weeks in Italy, but he was there a month dealing with closing his life there. But he lives in Canada in the same city. All was great. I returned to work. He didn't come back the next week. No more phone calls, just writes we'll call you soon. One week. No explanation other than found on Facebook. He took a job in Italy. How long? Don't know. How do I get him to open up like we used to? I've video called, texted. He responds with call you later. Will like my IG posts but no more. Wow, so that's your boyfriend. Your boyfriend of three months went on a vacation and then he basically ghosted you is what I'm getting here. And that's pretty, that's pretty sad. I mean if he was going to break up with you, he should just say it. You know, he just to say he wants to date other people and he doesn't want to be exclusive. So yeah, who knows what's. Who knows what's going on for him? I mean if you want an explanation it sounds like of what I think is. Is what he's. What's going on. It's either he just lost interest in the relationship and didn't have the guts the cojones to have a conversation with you and tell you and maybe he just wants to keep you on a. As an option so he didn't want to totally end it. So he's kind of like playing this weird game of cat and mouse and kind of keeping giving you just enough to stay sort of hopeful so that you're not dating other Guys, potentially. But he didn't break up with you, which would be the honorable thing for him to do as a man would be to actually break up rather than just this weird stringing along. Now, the other possibility is, I mean, who knows if there's another woman involved or whatever, that could be a possibility. It doesn't really matter because the same, it's the same effect of how he's treating you. And then if he also took a job in Italy and he doesn't want to tell you because he's sad about that, whatever, either way, he's not handling it well. That's not a masculine man. It's not a healthy masculine man. He might be masculine, but he's not. He's not being a healthy masculine where he's showing care for your heart. And so, yeah, so what I would recommend for you going forward, I wouldn't just call him, I wouldn't text him, I would message him and just say, could I ask if we could talk on the phone or may I ask if we can talk on the phone and just see what he says? And it sounds like you may have already asked that, but ask if he can talk on the phone. And you said you did call him and he said he'll call you later. When he says he'll call you later, just say, could I ask what time so I can make sure I'm available? So ask him. That's part of inspiring, that's part of inspiring him more into his masculine is actually having him be specific and set solid specific plans on what he wants to do with you and when he wants to do it and where he's taking things. So ask him, may I ask what time you're going to call? And hopefully he gives you time. And then if he doesn't give you a time or if he doesn't call when the time he said, it's, it's. He clearly doesn't have care for your heart and you could use feminine communication with him still, you could do it over text, which isn't ideal, but if he's not willing to talk to you on the phone, you can have a conversation. We could help you craft that over text what to say and to hopefully start turning things around. But other than that, if, if that were not to turn it around, you may have to just let him go. So either way, regardless of what I'd recommend, first thing I'd recommend is probably getting coaching. If we were, if you were to join our coaching memberships and learn the Magnetic Feminine 90 Day Challenge and to take the courses and actually have us give you the script of what I'd recommend texting him. That would be the first thing. I think we could hopefully turn that around for you. And then number two, regardless of what you do, I would recommend that you're making sure you're also building your social life and polishing up your online dating profiles and starting to meet other people. Because this guy clearly isn't showing care for your heart. And so with this vagueness, you're basically single is what I'd say. You're effectively single right now. Now the question is, can we draw him back and get the relationship back, if that's what you want, or can we detach clearly and start attracting a high, higher quality man into your life who is going to care and devote for. Devote himself to you? So that's what I'd recommend. Angela, sorry to hear that. And yeah, I would love to support you more with that and hopefully we can turn that around for you. S had a follow up. She said he is doing everything in action, showing his love to me, my children. I'm daily feeling scared and insecure that he might walk away at any time. Like my ex, my father and my children heartbroken. Yeah. So, you know, if he's doing everything in action, he's showing that he loves you and cares for you, then it's more of your own stuff, which you can still, like I said, you can still communicate that to him. Your. Your feelings and where some of those feelings are, are coming from using respectful, vulnerable, feminine, magnetic, feminine communication. And then beyond that, it would be important for us to help you with your mindset and opening up to trust again, to be trusting and have faith, maybe reconnecting to God and praying and having something other than yourself that you're leaning on. I mean, getting coaching and having our coaching support groups is going to be really helpful for you as well as having a connection with the spiritual practice that you can navigate some of those fears with and, and start to use affirmations such as trust, trust, trust. So there's something my wife did before we met each other where she was also in a similar situation where she was very anxious and very fearful with guys. And she was also getting strung along a lot by guys. Little different situation. But then she just did. One day she put on, she put on. I don't know if she did this at the same time she put on Taylor Swift song that was we will never get back together. We will never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever get back together. But that's a different situation. But then the other thing that she did was she wrote trust like a hundred times. She wrote down the word trust in her journal. Trust, trust, trust, trust, trust, trust, trust, trust. She was trying to teach herself trust, trust in the process, commit to the process, but detach from the outcome. You can't control him. You can't control. If you get hurt again. It's like, it's a possibility. Of course you can get hurt again. Of course things can go sour. Who knows what can happen? You know, your husband could get stroke, struck by lightning, could get struck by lightning. All the crazy things that are so slight possibility can always happen. But if you're just to live your life in fear that you can be divorced at any time or you can be dumped at any time, like that's not a fun way to live. And so at the end of the day, you have to be willing to face those fears and still live life. Because that's the. As long as we're here on the earth, that's the human experience. The human experience is bad things can happen and pain can happen, but good things can also happen. And you can still live a great life in the midst of things that are bad, you know, or evil in the world or bad situations. You can still find that hope, you can still find that peace within yourself. And that's why, you know, religions have existed throughout human history and religion can be a great tool to, to use in your life other than, of course, just your spiritual connection that, that you have just from your own desire in your heart. But that can be a great tool for you to have and to lean on in the process. To know that you have someone looking after you, whether that's God or, you know, your ancestors potentially looking down on you and guiding you and, and helping you to, to live in, in this, in the. Live in spite of the fear, to have courage, to live in spite of the fear and push forward and have trust and faith that no matter what happens, you will be okay. No matter what happens, you will be okay. And that you are an amazing woman, you're valuable, you're worth it, you're worthy. And that even if a man was to dump you or leave you or whatever, that you can attract a man that you want. You can attract any man that you want. Not any man, but I'd say you attract the quality man. There's many quality men out there. And so just to start living in a life of abundance as well, that there's many high quality men out there. There's Many high quality men available. And even if worst case were to happen where you were to get divorced, you can attract a quality man just like you've already done. You've already proven to yourself from your last divorce until now that you are able to attract another healthy relationship where a man is showing action love to you with his actions and not just his words. So you have to remind yourself of all the things that are true. That you are safe, that you are protected, that you are loved, that you are worthy, that you are desirable. And so that'll hopefully help alleviate some of the fear as well. So just a couple things, a couple little tools and suggestions to help you, but it's going to be an inner process for you as well. My wife actually is very powerful with these things as well. So I would definitely recommend if you join one of our coaching memberships, you. You can get coaching with her as well. And they're very affordable and so I'd highly recommend that. And yeah, and taking our free quiz as well. So that'll be the first step with anything is taking our free magnetize your man quiz, which again you can get clicking the link below or going to magnetize your man.com and that's going to really help you on the path to shifting your mindset so you can get more into your healthy, feminine, detached from the outcome and open and loving like that beautiful flower. The analogy we were talking about before where you're this beautiful flower and the flower trusts, what is the flower doing? The flower, Some flowers will actually, I think it's actually also the sunflower. The sunflower will turn its face towards the sun, right? So when the sun is changing, some flowers will actually turn towards the sun. And so that's a great analogy for you being this feminine woman that you're also turning your face towards the positive, towards what you want, towards the hope, towards the belief and the trust and the faith and in the process that you are desirable, that you are worthy and that you will have an amazing relationship and no matter what happens, you will be okay. That you will find it within yourself to be to. To handle it and to move. Move things forward. So turn your face towards the sun. And that's a way of life. So hope. That was helpful. S And then Angela said also he made plans for Christmas together in Brazil. Have a future together. And I can see you as my wife now. Here's the thing, Angela, and this is helpful because we've had this recently with a client of ours as an interesting thought experiment. I want you to imagine that everything a man says to you means nothing, that every word he says, it has no significance. It is all just smoke and mirrors. Just as a thought experiment, right? Because he, of course, could mean some of these things, but let's also imagine that they mean nothing. That they are complete lies, potentially. That they're complete lies, or that they're just whatever, they're just fluffing smoke and mirrors just to make you feel good. So if that were true, if a man's words meant nothing, then what do you have left? All you have left is his actions, what he actually does. Is he texting you? Is he calling you? Is he beyond that? Because that itself is also just still a form of communication. But at least he's. He's reaching out, right? But is he inviting you to things? Is he actually planning things? Is he making it happen? Is he taking action to move the relationship forward with his real action? Is he booking a flight? Is he booking a restaurant? Is he asking you out and setting a specific time and a date? Or is he giving you a specific time and a date when he's going to next meet with you? That's all that really matters. At the end of the day, words are words, and some men are very good with words. And they can be very manipulative and they've gotten a lot of what they want out of words because a lot of women unfortunately believe their words. So to protect yourself from that, and this is also, by the way, why so many women fall for romance scams every year and billions of dollars are lost from women around the world every year is because women believe the words and they're not believing the actions. They're not seeing the actions, and they're not actually seeing what a man is doing rather than what he is saying. So look for the actions. And of course, you use your feminine communication and you share all these feelings like I told you earlier. And you have to see how he responds. And primarily you see how he responds through action. Because if he's not responding with action, it's really not a response. It's really not anything. You want to be very careful. Is he planning things? Is he actually moving things forward? Is he booking the flight? Is he setting the dates? That's what you want to look for. That's clear action that he's moving things forward. If he's actually spending time with you, if he calls you and actually talks on the phone, that's still an action because he's spending time with you. Now, texting, that's kind of easier. And that, by the way, that's what most romance scams are. Just a guy texting a woman right through online dating app. He pretends to be like, I heard one yesterday, he was a soldier in Israel. He's stationed in Israel. And because he's a soldier, he's not able. He's not allowed to speak on the phone, he's not allowed to do FaceTime calls. He can only text because the way place he's stationed. But if she could send him her Social Security number and some other things, then he could start planning because he has visa issues, he could start planning to get help with his visa. I don't know the whole story around it, but he was asking for Social Security and some other things, which that's a little more obvious of a scam. But some of the other scams are more subtle. And then she's like, oh, he didn't ask for me for money. In fact, he said he was going to send me money. Well, yeah, of course, because he's going to send you money. And then the money never arrives and he says, oh, I accidentally sent it to. You know, there's just all these different ways that the scams actually work when they. But the key to look for is when they hook you in with the emotional language and they don't actually have any, really, really have any actions behind their words. It's just all a make believe, it's all a story. So it's just an interesting exercise to look at that and look at how romance scams operate, which you can Google romance scams and you can look on YouTube to see how a lot of them operate. And this is more for the single women. But I think it's important for all women to realize you just got to be really careful with what a man says because oftentimes they're easily faked. And you see that it's effective because of how many women fall for romance scams. So just something to be aware of and hopefully that was helpful. Angela, look to his actions. Look to his actions. All right, enough on that. Hope you got that. Karen said, that was a great answer. Thanks for your guidance. You're welcome, Karen. Glad it was helpful. And then Mercedes said, may I ask more about how to let go and let God? Yeah. So the practice of letting go is really, you have to redirect your energy. So part of your energy right now may be really focused on a man. You're really focused on this specific man that you want. And you're like, I just want him in my life. I Want him to commit to me. Why can't he just do this? Xyz, text me more, call me more, shift, you know, fix himself, whatever it might be. And so your energy is all focused on him, right, which is outside of yourself. Because here's the thing, you can't control anything. You can't control anything outside of you. You can only control what's inside of you. So you can't control a man. And the more you try to control a man, often the, the, the worse results you're going to have. The, the, the, the less effective it's going to be, the more you try to control him. And the paradox is the less you try to control a man and you're simply being vulnerable and open, the more that he's likely to give you what you actually want, which would be, you know, coming closer to you, desiring you, wanting to commit to you, et cetera. So part of the process, and this is what we teach a lot of our clients and I go really deep in with our coaching memberships, is how to actually navigate that energy and how to transmute that energy into yourself and use that energy instead of putting it onto him, putting it back onto yourself. And how can you use that energy to become a better woman, to become more magnetic, to master magnetic feminine polarity. And so that's often why you're doing, partially, you're doing it right now. You know, the fact that you're here and you're watching this live stream and you're asking questions and you're engaging, that's already on the process, to redirecting the energy into yourself. And the more you can do that and the higher level of investment that you do and commitment into yourself, the more you're able to take that energy and transmute it so that it's not that you're losing the anxiety, it's just you're redirecting that anxiety into the process. So one of my favorite quotes of all time from Wayne Dyer, which really helped me actually personally in my own dating life before I met my wife, was commit to the process and detach from the outcome, put the energy into the process of becoming the best woman you can be, the most magnetic feminine woman you can be, and mastering magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication being high value, then the outcome takes care of itself. You let the cards fall where they may. You can't control him, you can't control what he does. So you let that be what it is. That's part of being in the feminine is you're detached from the outcome. And so sometimes some helpful affirmations that could also help you in that process is simply saying, let it go, let it go. Anytime you're, like, catch yourself, like, feeling really anxious about him and wondering if he's dating another woman or if he's pulling away, etc. Just let it all go. Let it all go, let it all go. And of course, this is your part of your own practice. I'm probably going to release a training in our courses pretty soon around the distinction of, like, what you can control and what you can't control in a relationship. Because it's a spectrum. Like, for example, a man can't help you with your breathing, right? A man can't help you to breathe. You have to breathe by yourself. That's something that you. That's on you, right? That's. That's your job to control your breathing. But there are things that a man can help you with. Like, a man can help you feel cared for. He can help do things for you. He could fix your car, he can walk, hold your hand while you're walking outside. He can help solve other problems for you in your life, in your relationship. He can be strong for you, he can be a protector. He could have sex with you, he could kiss you, he could hug you, he can lead you, he could do all these different things, dance with you. So there's a lot of things that a man can do for you, but there's an important distinction between what a man can do for you and what he can't do for you. And these are some of the things that he can't do for you is manage some. He can't really manage your own thoughts. Like you have to manage your own thoughts at the end of the day. And you can somewhat manage your emotions. And it's not about controlling your emotions, but it's about learning how to navigate your own mindset and your own thoughts so that you can be more open and you can be more trusting and you can be more detached from the outcome without him having to do that for you because he can't do it for you. He can't oftentimes even make you feel fully secure. A man can't do that because he's always going to be a separate person from you and you don't want to be in a codependent relationship because that's what will happen. If you really believe a man has to provide you with everything to make you feel secure and happy, that he has to constantly be available and constantly reassuring you, then that's going to lead to codependency, if a man even does that. And that's not going to be healthy for either of you. And that's going to end up very painfully as well because you're both going to basically implode on each other like a black hole. So you have to control what you can control and you have to let go what you have to let go of. And I'll. I'll end the live stream tonight with this because it's always good to go over and remind yourself of. So it is the Serenity Prayer. So the Serenity Prayer, we're all going to do it together. I'd recommend. Let me see if I can post it actually here. I'm going to see if I could post it in a banner here. It might not give me enough space. I think I might have to do it in two parts. All right, so let's all recite this together. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, accepting hardships as the pathway to peace. Oh, it doesn't give me that time. Let me post the rest here because it doesn't let me post at all. And we don't have to do the whole prayer. But I think there's some value in the rest of the prayer as well. Accepting hardships as pathway to peace. Taking as he did, the sinful world as it is, not as I would have it, trusting that he will make all things right if I surrender to his will. And then there's just one piece here, one last piece. I'll put it in that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with him forever. So it's a beautiful prayer and I would recommend reading it often, especially when you're feeling anxious and when you're having a hard time letting go. Just go through the Serenity Prayer again and just help to remind yourself of the things you can control. The things you can control and to practice letting go of the things you can control, which, for example, in this training in our program, the man you can't control, the man, ultimately all you can control is yourself. And that's why we help you. And that's where we come in, to help you become the most magnetic, feminine woman you could be. To attract a loving, long term, committed relationship with the man you want. But it's through controlling yourself. It's through investing into yourself. It's through you taking the time to get coaching, to get education, to get support and to do that to the maximum of your abilities to really take the leap and to invest into yourself and to commit to yourself so that you can be that woman and you can attract a man. And he's inspired now. He wants to do it, he wants to help you and he looks forward to to doing it because he wants to be that man for you now. He cares for your heart and he wants to make you endlessly happy. So using the 90 day challenge, that's going to help get you there and it's going to just be one step at a time and we will definitely help you get that relationship. So much love. Hope this was helpful today. Again, take our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get the relationship you want, which you can get by going to the link in the description or comments below. That's where this whole process starts. If you really want to master this, invest into yourself, be the best woman you can be, learn the magnetic feminine polarity and feminine communication principles. We'd love to help you with that and I'd love to coach you on a more intimate level as well in our small group that we have for our coaching as well. If you want to join that also. But that's where it all starts with the free quiz. 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