Warning: These 8 Phrases Can Destroy Your Relationship

Eight things you should never tell a man if you've been confused why your relationship isn't where you want it to be at, why your man is perhaps shutting down, pulling away, or arguing with you all the time, fighting with you all the time, then it's probably because you may have been guilty of saying some of these phrases that you should never say to a man. They will cause him to feel disrespected. They will cause him to feel feel that he doesn't have value in the relationship potentially, and he will subtly start withdrawing for the relationship to look in other areas to get that feeling of respect, likely. So hi, I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man, and for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they want fast. So let's go ahead and dive right in. So the eighth powerful principle here is to don't constantly underline your insecurities. Now, what can happen in a relationship if you feel insecure about something? Usually it's likely something related to your physical appearance, such as your weight or the size of your nose or some other aspect that you're like, I don't know if that's attractive. I don't know if he likes this. Well, if you're constantly bringing it up, the classic example being a woman asking, you know, does this dress make me look fat? Or something like that, where you're constantly mentioning that word fat. All the man is thinking about is the word fat. You may be wanting to get a compliment from him, but he's thinking fat, fat, fat, fat. And that's implanting an image into his unconscious that that is who you are. He starts to notice it more. He starts to think of it also as something negative because how you are thinking about it is implanting that same visual in his mind. So you want to avoid that and instead start to embrace all those parts inside of you that you feel aren't good enough or aren't as beautiful as you would like. Maybe it could also be personality traits about yourself. Maybe it is your awkwardness or your anxiety, or maybe you feel like you're too much of a tomboy or whatever it might be that you feel insecure with. Start to reframe it as a good thing that actually your weight is the most beautiful thing about you, or your awkwardness is the most endearing thing about you, or your anxiety is beautiful because it helps a man to connect to your heart. So you could start to reframe a lot of these things so that you see it as a positive thing. And he will start to see those things as a positive as well. You don't even have to mention it because your energy shifts around it. Your. Your level of confidence will go higher. And so a man will start to be treating you in that way as well. So it's a powerful way to. To start to reframe all the things in your life and know that you are perfectly imperfect. And that's okay. He's imperfect as well. He has flaws as well. He probably has things he's insecure about. And so for you to own that, you're also showing him, hey, it's okay. It's okay to not be perfect. It's okay to have things that we don't like about ourselves. That's okay. And we can embrace those things. We can continue to work on those things, because it doesn't mean that that means now you don't have to take care of yourself or exercise or eat healthy, et cetera, but it means you can still embrace yourself in the process. That's part of committing to the process, but detaching from the outcome. The seventh powerful thing never to say to a man, important thing never to say to a man is accusing him of having negative intentions or that he's trying to hurt you. Oftentimes, this will come across as a woman saying something like, you don't like me, or you're not treating me well, or you don't love me, or you're trying to make me feel this. You're trying to make me feel sad, or what you said was very hurtful, and so that's a little different. But accusing him of having negative intentions, that he's trying to be a bad man towards you, he's trying to be hurtful towards you. He's trying to make you feel insecure, or he's trying to make you anxious, or he's trying to make you feel unloved. These accusations can feel deeply disrespectful to the core of a man's heart. Because in essence, you're accusing him of being a bad man, that he's at least a bad partner, he's a bad romantic partner, and he should feel shame for that. He's like the little puppy that you are rubbing his nose in his pee after he accidentally peed on the ground. You're rubbing his nose and saying, like, you are bad. You're a bad man, and you need to change, which is all masculine energy. It's masculine behavior. It's you trying to lead him, trying to control him, trying to change him and tell him what to do. And ultimately that's going to cause him to shut down. That's going to cause him to pull away, or it's going to cause him to argue with you, fight, or ultimately leave the relationship. So you want to watch out for those things. Because even if he has done something hurtful to you or he said something that you didn't like, or you're feeling certain emotions because of something he did, you should still communicate those things. I'm not saying to just be a doormat and not say anything and never speak up about his bad quality, quote, unquote behavior. But you want to use magnetic feminine communication. You want to say it in the right way, in a way that's respectful, in a way that's vulnerable, in a way that's honoring him as a man and actually seeing the good inside of him, seeing that his intentions are good, that he's capable of being a hero to you, and assuming that he has good intentions, that he might have just made a mistake, he might have made an error in judgment. And to let him know the impact of that so that he can realize it for himself, oh, shoot, I screwed up. I want to do better. I want to make it better. I want to make her feel better. So, for example, sharing when you're feeling sad, like, hey, babe, can I share something with you? Sure. I'm feeling some sadness. Well, what are you feeling sadness about? Because earlier you mentioned that you didn't think it was important for us to go to this event that I really wanted to go to. And I'm telling myself a story that you may not really care about. You know, things that are important to me or things that I want to do and I. I don't know what to do. Or can I ask what you think about that? So that'd be like a really quick, easy example of using some magnetic feminine communication to communicate your feelings, communicate the impact so he can make an adjustment on his own. He understands. He doesn't feel criticized, he doesn't feel attacked. He just understands what's going on for you. You've opened your heart to him, you've been vulnerable, and now he can make those shifts for himself to make things better if he so chooses. Now, before we get to our next point, if you haven't yet, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man. You want fast Especially a man who's pulled away or maybe even broken up with you. Maybe he hates you right now, maybe he's blocked you potentially. And you'll learn the principles of magnetic feminine polarity, Magnetic feminine communication, the advanced principles that will teach you and have it customized for you. And even get personal coaching with me. Get that by clicking the link in the comments or description below. Or you could also go to our website magnetize your man.com to pick that up now. So the next powerful principle number six, the sixth thing never to say to a man is details shared publicly about his vulnerabilities or struggles without his consent. So this can involve, you know, a lot of women in our modern times. A lot of people like to post things on Instagram, Facebook, X, these kind of platforms. They like to share very intimate details about their life. And that's okay. It's actually okay for you to share your own vulnerabilities and share struggles that you're going through. But if you're implicating your man in your struggles when you're posting about something or you're sharing photos about some kind of struggle you're going through or being open about something, some issue that you're dealing with, if you're implicating your man in that, or specifically mentioning something about him that he's struggling with or some problem that he's having, or an issue that's happening even between the two of you in your relationship, that could also potentially be deeply disrespectful towards him. He can feel deeply disrespected by that, unless he's given you explicit, specific consent to share those things. Like if you've asked respectfully and say, hey, babe, is it okay if I share this on my Instagram or if I share this with my friends or with my family, because it's not just about social media. It's also about the conversations you're having with girlfriends, with family, with friends. But because worst case is that can get back to him, that he finds out that that was shared and then he's going to feel even betrayed potentially, but at least, at the very least, disrespected in some form. Likely, and especially if that's shared publicly with social media, that can be very unsettling to his masculine core because he can feel that that is a breach of privacy, that is a breach of his bubble that he has with you. And also it can feel to him like he's being publicly shamed in some sense, that he's a failure as a man, that he's made this mistake or. Or that him and you are having this issue that he's not capable of solving and he's going to feel likely pretty bad about that. So, again, it's okay to share these things, but you want to get his consent first. You want to be respectful, you want to ask his permission so that he can say yes, he can let you know, or he can say no. I don't feel comfortable with that, babe. Like, could we just keep that between us for now? Again, if it's something that implicates him, you might think it's mostly about you. But if it's some situation you're both struggling with, the implication can be that he hasn't been able to solve it either. He hasn't been able to figure it out. Therefore, he's a weak man, he's an incapable man, he's not good enough. Those can be some of the stories a man can tell, because a man's deepest insecurities typically are that he's not good enough, he's not capable, he's not a great provider, he's not a great protector, he's not a great hero for his woman, he's not manly enough, he's not masculine enough. These kind of things can deeply affect and wound a man's sense of masculinity, just like your sense of femininity can be deeply wounded. If your man was to go around saying how ugly he thinks you are or how unlovable he thinks you are, or that you're such a bitch or whatever he might be saying publicly, or some issues that he's venting that he doesn't like about you, it would be the same effect. So you want to avoid these things. They'll keep a safeguard in your relationship and can avoid potentially ruining a good relationship, which we have seen on several occasions as well. The fifth thing that you never want to tell a man that's very important is don't ask him if he finds any of your friends attractive. Now, this is another form of insecurity and questioning if your man is loyal or if you're attractive enough, if you're beautiful enough for him, if you are good enough for him. And so women will sometimes do this. They do it playfully, like, oh, don't you think she's hot? Or, don't you think my girlfriend's really beautiful? Or, what do you think of her? Don't you. Don't you think she's a. She's a catch? Or something like that, which can be like a subtle way of you probing to see, does he like her? Is he interested in her? Does he think she's more attractive than I am? Again, it reeks of insecurity. And you want to avoid this, even in a playful way, because it's showing your man, it's subtly communicating to him that you think that he is potentially going to cheat on you, that, that you think he isn't loyal, that you potentially don't fully trust him. Or it'll also tell him in a subtle way that you feel insecure, that you feel not good enough. And that again is sending him the message, maybe she isn't good enough. Maybe she isn't the woman I should be with because she seems to believe that. And if she believes that, maybe it's true. And so again, it's about owning those insecurities. It's okay to feel those emotions. There are no ugly emotions. There are only ugly behaviors. And you can communicate actually a lot of these insecurities with him in the right way. If you use magnetic feminine communication and have a magnetic feminine conversation with him, that will teach you how to do and how to actually open up about these things in a way that he wants to help you with it. He understands and he is coming closer to you. But you want to avoid going into that too much for yourself and you want to own those insecurities also. You want to actually believe that you are good enough, that you are beautiful, that it doesn't matter if the most beautiful supermodel is one of your girlfriends or around you constantly. You, your man is going to stay loyal to you because you're the prize, you're the gift, you're the queen, you're a high value woman, you're amazing. And if he doesn't see that, if he doesn't choose that, or if he betrays you in some way, then you're out and some other better man is going to claim you because you are the prize. And just believing this within yourself already starts to raise your confidence, already starts to eliminate some of those insecurities. And the result of that often is, is because of mirror neurons. Your man will start to believe that as well. He will start to believe you're the queen and you're a high value woman, you're the price because it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy at that point. So that's very important as well. Now, the fourth thing never to say to a man that you'll never you want to avoid as often as you can is I can do it myself. So in a relationship, masculine energy wants to feel needed, wants to feel valued, wants to feel of service. So. So if a man doesn't feel that you need him, doesn't feel that you rely on him in some way, doesn't feel that he can really provide for you and make you happy in various ways, then he's going to start looking for another relationship, likely where he can feel needed because it's such an important drive within a masculine core, is to be able to feel that he can be of value. And that's one of the biggest reasons why men will take on such dangerous professions, often such as being a police officer or a fireman or a soldier or a deep sea fisherman or working on oil rigs, is because he wants to feel valuable. He wants to feel that he's doing something important that's meaningful in his life, that has a purpose and a mission, ultimately, that he's providing for others around him in some way, that he's being of service, that he is being that hero in some fashion for somebody, whether for the world, for his community or for you. So a man needs to feel needed in the relationship. And if you're constantly being mis, independent Ms. I can do it myself and I don't need no man, then of course he's going to say, I want to make you happy. You don't need me. So I'm going to exit, like you should find somebody who you do need or just be by yourself, just enjoy, enjoy your life. Like you don't need me here. Like why? And so he's going to exit stage left. And if you want a man in your life, if you want a specific man in your life, it's going to be very important to allow him to have space in your life, to fill a space, whether that's helping you with various problems that you have in your life, health wise or family wise, or with your finances or with your career or with your technology or your car or various things around the house to not just say I can do it myself or I'll figure it out. Especially when he offers you that help. If a man offers you that help and you say I can do it myself, that actually feels disrespectful to him, that actually is communicating to him unconsciously, like, I don't see you as being capable of helping me or I don't really value your help, so I'm just going to do it myself, I think, or I think I could do it better. And that's deeply disrespectful to a man's core because it's essentially emasculating him. It's nullifying his masculine gifts. So you want to avoid that if, especially if a man offers you help and you, you would like to have his help. Of course, you don't always have to allow a man, especially if it's a man you just met and you don't really feel comfortable with him coming to your house to fix something for you, that's a little different. But if it's something that you're comfortable with, that you're okay with, if you're in that stage of the relationship, just let him. Let him do those things for you. And not only let him do those things, but even ask him for help with those things specifically. As long as you're using magnetic feminine communication, you're being specific in your requests, you're being respectful, and you're being vulnerable, he will likely want to help and then he will feel really great after he does it, especially if you appreciate him for what he offered for you in your life, for what he did, the provision that he gave you. Now you have that virtuous masculine, feminine energy cycle. The polarity is increased and your relationship will likely continue to get better and better and better. The third thing never to say to a man is, I don't respect you, or you haven't earned my respect. This will be causing a deep wound inside of a man if you were ever to say some of these things. Because it is actually one of the deepest fears of a man in relationship, especially with a woman he really cares about or has love for, that she doesn't respect him. A man. The most important thing for a man in a relationship is to be respected, even more so than being loved. And many studies have shown this, and even the Bible says this as well with Ephesians 5,33. Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. And it's a deep desire for a man to be respected in the relationship. And it's actually a must. It's a command from God really, that he loves you and that you respect him, and that to do that, even unconditionally. But the idea here is that men crave to be respected. They crave it from their masculine core, especially with their woman in a relationship. And so if you were to say something to him that implies or directly states that you don't respect him or that he hasn't earned your respect, that's going to feel deeply wounding to him as a man. And again, it's going to Cause him to likely shut down, pull away or fight you, argue you, or leave the relationship. So all those things are not going to likely give you what you want. But a lot of women believe that, oh, if I punish him, if I say something that I know he doesn't like, I know that's going to hurt him. Then it's going to feel so painful to him that he's never going to want to do that again. He's going to shift his behavior. He's not. Again, it's like rubbing the puppy's face in the, in the pee after he peed and made a mistake. You're like rubbing his face in it, like, don't do this again. But the actual reality of that is what happens is the man starts to feel less feelings of love for you in that moment. He starts to start guarding his heart. And likely, if it happens enough times, over time, a man is going to feel completely emasculated and disrespected in your relationship, and he's going to start looking for that respect in other areas because it's a deep need for the masculine. If he can't get it from you, he's eventually going to try to find it other in other ways, or I guess he'll just, you know, leave and just live in a cave by himself or, you know, you know, just totally be done with it. But either way, he's going to be eventually pulling out, eventually not wanting to be there, or unless he's deeply emasculated and he just wants to be your slave and just be a shell of a man, he might stay and just be your doormat, essentially, which that's not going to feel good to you either. But this is one of the four horsemen that John Gottman talks about. And one of the biggest signs that a relationship is about to end and that a divorce is coming in a marriage is when a partner, especially a man, feels condemned by their other partner and disrespected. And so you want to avoid this language and you want to avoid things that imply you don't respect him because it's not going to draw him closer. Yeah, you might be hurt in the moment, you might be angry, you might be upset, but there's better ways to communicate those feelings rather than going into attack mode and trying to punish him again. It's about vulnerability. It's about how can you openly share those feelings and ask him for help with those feelings and even to apologize for, for errors you might have been disrespectful to him and Then you'll be surprised often, because we have this process we take our women through in our coaching and our programs called the big apology Process. You'd be surprised when you do a process like this that men will open up, that men will come to you, they'll start showing you more love and devotion, and they won't want to do those things that were hurting you in the past. They'll actually feel more care for you and especially care for your heart and want to be more devotional because they feel respected by you. It creates an upward virtuous cycle, like this graphic here, where because a man is feeling deeply respected by you, he starts to feel more love towards you. And one of you has to shift in order to get this upward spiral. Rather than having it be a downward spiral, one of you has to shift. And so if you can shift first, which we're helping you to do here, you increase the feminine energy on your side, you inspire the masculine energy on his side, the polarity is increased and he's more likely to be more loving and devotional to you, and your relationship will improve. Assuming he's a healthy man, he's not a deeply broken man, because there are some deeply broken men out there, and you just need to get away from those men. Why would you continue to be in a relationship with a deeply broken man who is potentially abusive towards you? That's not healthy for you. But we want to. If you really like a man and you're not in an unsafe situation, we can help you to shift him into being more loving and devotional. When you. With magnetic feminine polarity, with magnetic feminine communication and our 90 day challenge, the process that we have that you go through, that can make him more loving and devotional for you and give it a chance to really shift. Even if your relationship is really on the rocks right now and a man is having any core connection to his masculine core, he will start to shift into being more loving for you with that. All right. The second thing never to say to a man is labeling him with negative characteristic traits, like being arrogant or insensitive or narcissistic or misogynistic or whatever the label might be that you may feel that you want to give him. Or even saying things that may be softer, like you're an avoidant attachment style or you're emotionally unavailable. So anytime you're giving a man a label, it's very dangerous because what you're doing is you're actually putting it on him. You're speaking words over him that he's going to start to again start living into. Likely he's going to be assuming that label because if you see that about him, then, and you're a woman who's known him probably more than other women and knows him more intimate parts of him than other women, then he must be that if you're, if you know him enough that you're saying you're arrogant, you're an arrogant man, or you're an insensitive man or you're a narcissist or whatever. He's going to say, oh, she must be right. Like she knows me best, she must be right. Okay, I guess I am bad. All right, well, I guess I'm just going to have to be that then I guess I must accept my fate that I am a narcissist or I am an arrogant man, or I'm an insensitive man, or I don't care about her, I don't care about women, whatever. And again, you create a self fulfilling prophecy in that where he starts to be that more for you in the negative sense. So we want to reverse that. And what would it be like if instead of criticizing him, you were to hero size him and actually see him as your hero? You and start to put positive labels onto him such as, you're such a loving man, you're such a caring man, you're such a respectable man, you're my hero, you're a great provider, you're a great protector, you make me feel happy. You're such a good husband, you're such a good boyfriend. These positive labels have the same impact over time where he starts to feel, oh, she knows me best and she says I'm a hero, so I must be a hero. I must be a great provider, I must be a loving man, I must be a caring man. I guess that's who I am. I guess that's what I'm going to keep being. And so you create a positive self fulfilling prophecy in those moments. So you just want to be very careful with those labels. I'll add the caveat here that yes, if your man is deeply hurtful towards you, if he's abusive towards you potentially and you're in an unsafe situation, he's likely a broken man. Maybe he isn't. I'm not saying he's not a narcissist, but that has to be diagnosed by a professional because that term gets waved around very frequently, especially online and on YouTube and whatnot. And everybody says, my husband is a narcissist or my boyfriend's a narcissist. When there's. If there was a really a psychologist to diagnose these men, the percentage would actually be very low because it's only about 10% of the population who are narcissistic, both men and women, and so or more like 5 to 15%, depending on the specific population. So it's actually a pretty low percentage. When you would think, based on all the conversation online, that every man, every bad, every. Every woman who's in a relationship isn't going well, they're with a narcissist. So it must be 80% of men are narcissists. And it's just not true. This, the science does not back that up. However, he might have some traits. He might have some traits like that. And again, we'll help you with that. Assuming he's not a deeply broken man, that he's not actually a narcissist or actually a sociopath, which you got to get out of that situation. You should have the, the value yourself enough to get out of abusive situations here and be stepping away from those things when you don't feel safe with a man, because that's not healthy for you. And when you use what we teach you, it'll become very apparent over time when you use our 90 day challenge what kind of man you're dealing with. And you'll either know quickly that he's a broken man and you can get out and we'll give you a process for that, or you start inspiring him into his healthy, masculine energy, becoming your hero, becoming your king. And he wants to do those things for you. He starts to devote himself to you. He starts to love you more. He starts to care for you and even obsess about you and be deeply attracted to you and addicted to you. So we can shift that as well. There's a process that we go through, but you do have to be aware there are some men out there that are broken. It's about the Same amount, about 5 to 15% Amount of men that are deeply broken. And if that's one of those men, we have to get you out of that situation as well, because that's not good for you long term. Now, the number one thing to say to him, to never say to a man to avoid at all cost, is suggesting that he calls a repairman when he's trying to fix something. So when a man is working on solving a problem for you or for himself, it can be very disrespectful potentially for you to imply that he should get help or that he should hire somebody to do it for him or. Or that you should do it for him, or that you should help him, or that you should take over. Because again, the subtle message you're sending there is you're not good enough, you're weak, you're incompetent, you're impotent as a man. You're not masculine enough, you're not smart enough, you're not capable enough, you're not good enough to be able to do this on your own. And you can leave it up to him, because all you have to do from the feminine is share the problem. The masculine solves the problem. So anytime you're trying to solve a problem for a man, you're offering suggestions, you're offering solutions, you're creating solutions, you're making recommendations to him, you're giving him advice, or you're giving him tips. You are in masculine energy and you're going to kill the polarity and you're going to push him away over time. You are being his mother. In another analogy, you're being his mother and you're treating him like a child. Like, why don't you do it this way, darling? Or how about I do that for you? Or why don't you hire somebody to help you with that? I've been seeing that you've been struggling for so long, and maybe you should get somebody to, like, fix this for you, or maybe you should go see a therapist, or maybe you should read this book, or maybe you should watch this YouTube video. That's all subtly subtle emasculation behaviors and subtly disrespectful behaviors and even overtly disrespectful behaviors. And again, you're destroying the polarity in that moment. You are stepping into your masculine energy. You're pushing him into his feminine energy. And this doesn't mean that you can never offer him any tips, you can never offer him any advice and that he just has to struggle for years and just try to figure it out on his own. You can still offer suggestions, you can offer advice, but you have to do it in the right way. You have to do it through asking permission first and using magnetic feminine communication so that you're respectful in your offering. Because he may not want it and he may say, no, thanks, I'm good, babe, but you give him a choice so you can say something like, hey, babe, is it okay if I've seen you been working on the car engine for a while? Would it be okay if I offered you an idea that I have about that and Then he has a choice to say yes or no to whether he wants that tip or he doesn't. And I would also not offer it right away. I would let him solve it. You know, he has to solve the problem. His mask and role in your relationship is to be chief problem solver, leader, protector, provider, hero. And you can share problems with him. You can make requests, you can receive his help, you can appreciate him for the help he gives you. You can honor him and respect him as a man for being that for you. Just like in a dance, we're in the dance here, where he's leading, you're able to follow him, follow his lead, enjoy the dance that he's taking you on, enjoying the magic carpet ride, the adventures, the journey of life that he's taking you on. And that's the. That's the natural way of being. That's the way God designed it. That's what's going to make him happiest from his masculine core and you happiest from your feminine core over time. Because every man has a masculine core inside. Every woman has a feminine core inside. And when you're in alignment with that, when you've bypassed some of the wounds of your childhood that told you that you aren't worthy to receive a man's help, or you need to be strong one, you need to protect yourself, you need to look out, and you can't trust them, and you can't really respect a man. Those wounds are gonna cause you to close up and not be able to connect fully to your feminine core. And so we're helping you in this program, in our training that we give you with all of our trainings, but in our coaching programs on a deep level, we're helping you to connect to your feminine core as a woman, to be authentically who you really are. And we're not changing who you are, we're helping you to be your authentic, pure self when you were first born, that authentic, pure openness and vulnerability and uniqueness that is you. And so when you're. That a man will give to you, you can receive. And you're sharing problems, and a man solves the problems. You're trusting him that he's a capable man, he's strong, he's got it, he's a hero. And he'll figure it out on his own, or he'll ask you for help, or he'll find somebody to help him. But whatever he does, he'll figure it out. However he does, whether he does end up getting a therapist or reading a Book or hiring somebody, he'll figure it out. Let that be his prerogative. And of course, if he's not making progress, if he's still struggling, you can still offer him some help, potentially offer him some suggestions. But you want to do so very respectfully because that can be a sensitive area to navigate. And that's why we have more of the advanced trainings on magnetic feminine communication and how to script this out. And we'll actually script out these conversations for you and give you exactly what to say in these conversations when they come up. And we have tools for that. And I personally coach you so that you can shift, of course, your way of being with him and have him devote to you, have him love you, have him want to be that for you and not only solve his own problems, but start to solve your problems as well. Start to make you as happy as possible and give you the desires of your heart, because that lifts him up, that makes him feel great. He feels empowered and happy from his masculine core. And now you have this great upward spiral, beautiful relationship together that actually lasts because you have polarity. So hope that was helpful. I'm going to start answering some questions now. So if you have any questions, post them in the chat. And let's see what our first question is that we have here. Have a couple people saying, good afternoon, good afternoon, good afternoon from Norway. Good night to Winnie. All right, let's see what we have here. So Catherine said, when I said that I didn't deserve him, this was long ago. He told me, don't you ever think that way? You're the best. I was stunned. Really stunned. Yeah. So that can actually be. It can be a form of appreciation, what you shared there. I wouldn't frame it as that you don't deserve him because that could also speak to potentially an insecurity on your side that you don't feel good enough, that you don't feel worthy. And so there's different ways to share that feeling that you may have that you just really like him, you really honor him, that he's a great man. For you, that's through feminine appreciation. So simply letting him know how he makes you feel, rather than saying, I don't deserve you, saying, you make me feel so happy, or I feel so amazing being with such a strong and capable man like you and to have you in my life, or you're such a great partner for me, or I love how great of a husband you are for me and our family. So those are different forms of feminine communication that will Light him up and it will still have the same effect. Because he was saying, basically the reason he said that he doesn't want you to feel like you're less than him. He doesn't want you to feel that you're undeserving. So he's saying, like, don't do that, which is actually him being in his strong, masculine leadership. He's telling you, like, don't do that. That's not okay. I don't want you to feel that way. I don't want you to think he's more saying, I don't want you to think those thoughts. Like, stop thinking those thoughts because they're not healthy for you. And ultimately they're not healthy for our relationship. Because I want to devote to you, I want to love you. But if you keep telling me that you don't deserve that, you're actually subtly blocking it. You're blocking my ability to be your man and to give to you, to fill you up, to make you happy, to give you pleasure and bliss and happiness. That's going to be subtly, actually a form of disrespect, potentially, where you're blocking his gifts because you're saying, like, I don't want it. I don't want your gifts. And the reason is because you don't feel worthy. But he may not know that. He may just get that impression before you said this, that you just don't want him to give to you for whatever reason and he's feeling not received by you. And he's really questioning, am I in the right relationship? Am I in a relationship where I could actually give my gifts fully, have them be received, and I get to feel great about that and knowing that I'm doing a good job as a man, that I'm being her hero, that I'm giving her a happy life? And if that's not the case, then he's going to start questioning that and wondering what's wrong. And maybe he'll wonder what's wrong with him. And he doesn't know. But that's important that you share that you shared something at least to give him an idea what's going on. But he doesn't understand the full impact. Because you didn't use feminine communication. You didn't use your feminine core to share those things. And you were also coming from a place of unworthiness and undeservingness. So we got to work on that as well. We got to help you reframe those thoughts inside of yourself. And that's why such an important Part of this process as well is the self care. There's a lot of things a man can do for you and a lot of things he wants to do for you and can and desires to. And there's also a lot of things you can do for yourself. Like for example, a man can't breathe for you. A man can't feed you food. I mean, you know, he can give you a sexy strawberry dipped in chocolate. But it's really weird for a man to just be feeding you food, you know, with his hands and to be, you know, wiping your butt and stuff like that. Like there's things you should do for yourself and you can do for yourself. And so you want to make sure to increase that as much as possible and you're increasing your self care for all the things you can and should be doing for yourself, such as going out in nature, getting some sunlight, eating healthy foods, sleeping, getting naps if you need to, hanging out with friends, family and environments that lift you up, doing activities that you enjoy, exercise, passions that you have, creative, creative hobbies and social life that you're cultivating a social life, groups and friends and family. We talked about going out to events, maybe a church community that you're part of your spiritual practice, reading the Bible, whatever that is that lifts you up in a spiritual way, in an emotional and intellectual way. And then there's also lots of things he can do for you, which is the romantic piece of your relationship, having sex. If you're at that level in your relationship, you're an exclusive, committed, claimed relationship. Physical affection, helping you help have him, helping you solve problems and doing things for you, and leading and planning things for the future and making decisions and protecting you, protecting you from bad guys, protecting you from dangerous situations, even protecting you from himself if he has his own wounds and his own things. So there's a lot of things he can still do for you and there's a lot of things you should do for yourself. And that creates a great cycle as well in the relationship where it's this give and take and he feels needed and wanted and he also feels that he has an interdependence with you where you are also still taking care of yourself and your own happiness and your mental well being and those worthiness conversations that we talked about that we really help a lot of our clients in a deep way. Because when you also feel worthy as a woman, you feel deserving, everything gets easier. That's one of the big keys to building attraction as well. Because a man wants a woman who feels deserving a high value man. He wants a woman who feels worthy to receive his gifts again for some of the reasons we talked about before, because he'll start questioning it or feel not received by you. And only a healthy high value woman who believes she is worthy, believes she is worthy to ask for what she wants and to ask for help and to ask permission for things and to share her problems with a man, to share her feelings with a man, to be open and vulnerable and and to trust that he's going to solve the problem or he's going to want to give to you. He's going to want to give you all the desires of your heart. Only a worthy woman believes that and believes that it's worth her speaking up and sharing those things rather than closing up or not wanting to rock the boat or not wanting to be too much or not wanting to be too high maintenance or a woman who is more in the other side of it, the bitch potential side of it, where she is telling a man what to do and saying, you need to do this for me. And she's feeling entitled to his gifts. She's making him her slave and trying to change him and trying to mold him into the perfect man and trying to correct his behavior all the time or be his mother and treat him like a little child. So that's not healthy either. What we're helping you here is to get the perfect balance between those two where you're able to speak up and ask for what you want and share your problems and your feelings, but doing it in a gentle way, doing it in a vulnerable way, doing it in a feminine way that he wants to receive. He wants to then help you and listen to you and give you those things rather than pulling away, pushing away or starting to not value you because you're not valuing yourself. So it's a very important conversation. So go ahead. If you have a question or a comment, post it now. I'm going to answer a couple more before we wrap up today or if not, we'll wrap it up pretty soon. I do see one other question coming in now that I'm going to answer and we'll see how many more we got before we close it up for today. So Joanne said, hi, I've been single for 40 years and so used to doing everything myself. What will you suggest me doing? I don't want to be a burden. Thank you. Well, the first thing we want to do is shift that language that you're not a burden, you're not a burden. Your Desires, your feelings, they're not a burden to a man. A man actually wants those things from you. He wants your heart. He wants to know the desires of your heart and your feelings and that you do have needs, you do have things that you want that he can help you with, that he can give to you. It has to be shared in the right way, though, otherwise it can become a burden. When a woman is nagging a man or constantly reminding him, hey, you didn't clean the dishes, or you still haven't taken care of that issue, or why haven't you done this yet? Why haven't you worked on this issue yet, or why haven't you fixed this for yourself yet? Then that's going to make him feel that you are a burden, that you are pushing onto him, but mostly because of the disrespect, not because of your desires. The desires are beautiful. It's the way you're communicating them that's a burden to him potentially. And that's why we say there's no ugly emotions, there are only ugly behaviors. So we want to shift the behaviors and allow your emotions still to shine brightly. Because that's your feminine energy. Your feminine energy comes from your heart. It comes from your feminine core, your feelings, the sensations in your body, the range of emotions, good and bad, and the things that you want, those are all your feminine core. And so a man wants to feel your feminine energy, if he's a healthy masculine man, because that's his guideline, that's his map of knowing how to win with you, how to have a path to victory, to make you happy, to have a great relationship and to feel he has purpose in his life and in his relationship with you. So that's one important thing for you, Joanna, is to start to reframe that, that you're not a burden to a man. Your feelings are not a burden to a man. A man wants them as long as they're sharing the right way. So I'd recommend getting some more support and coaching with that because that's going to help you know how to constantly communicate and be that open book with a man so that he wants to help you rather than feeling anything like that. And the other piece of that is also worthiness that you do believe you're deserving of having a man in your life who wants to do those things for you, who feels love for you, who wants to care for your heart, who wants to give to you. That's another part of that conversation. The worthiness that we've been touching a lot in this training today. And so, yes, you've been used to doing a lot of things yourself. So now what I want you to do is visualize your day, your week, your month, and see all the things you're doing and imagine where a man can fit in. What of those things that you're doing for yourself would you like a man to do for you? What other things in your life would you like to have a man at least doing those things with you? So going on trips, vacations, helping you with various chores around the house, or problems that you may have in your life, or physical affection, sex, potentially other things that you can't really give to yourself that you still want or you can give to yourself, but you would choose not to. I would rather have a man do it for me. Those kind of things. I want you to start to look at your life because what you're doing is you're creating space for him. You have to start looking to create space for him in your life, a space that he can fill so that he can provide for you in some way. And you have to do an analysis of sorts to see where do you actually want a man to fill that space in your life and to start creating that space. I know some women who have done things, like in their house, they start to actually clear out space. They have a lot of stuff in their house. They say, like, with a man was actually to live with me, or if we were to live together, I would probably not have all these things, or I would. I would have maybe a bigger bed. Maybe I would have more chairs at the table. So, like, if you have a table at your house and there's only one chair, the subconscious message you're sending yourself is like, it's just me. This is me by myself, my life. There's no space for a man here. Or if you have a small bed, you're sending a message. There's no space in this bed for a man with me because I. I do. I do life by myself. So I want you to think about energetically and in your environment, making space for that man. How can you do that in different ways and then start to look at your schedule? How can you make space in your schedule for a man as well with times that he could ask you? A man could ask you out on a date, or you can do things together, or social activities that you would do with a man as well. So things you can do. That's like, you could invite a man to join you, or a man could invite you to join him with something similar, such as, I don't know, playing pick pickleball or tennis or going golfing or going to social hiking group, a meetup group of some kind. So things that you're like, yeah, a man. I could see a man coming along with me to these things. So that's just an energetic, subtle thing you can do. And you'll start to subtly shift your system that you're making space for a man. So then when you are interacting with men, they feel that. They feel that there's a space for them to fill in your life. And they want to feel, if they're a healthy, masculine man, they're going to start to feel a desire to fill those spaces. And then what you can actually do, the next step is to actually ask them for help. So when you meet these men online or at the grocery store, or just throughout your life, your social life, you can start to ask for help by in small ways. Ask for advice. If you're struggling with something or if you're not sure about something, ask a man for his advice or just ask his opinion on something. Say, hey, you know, I heard you mention that you, you're like a car aficionado. You're into cars. And I'm actually considering buying a new car. I was curious if I could get your opinion on which one you think I should buy. That would be like an example of asking a man for an easy thing, especially if you know he's into cars. Ask him for his opinion on what to buy or how to fix something, and that's an easy way for him to start helping you and giving him space. You're not only making space for him in your life, you're actually asking for a man to fill that space respectfully. You're not telling him what to do. You're not saying, you need to help me with this, or you're just paying men to help you all the time. But you could also ask men to help you for free with different things. At the grocery store, we had a client of ours who every time she goes to the grocery store, when she started learning what we're teaching her in our programs, she's every time she goes to the grocery store, she'll ask a man, usually a man who works there, obviously she'll ask a man if he could help her load her groceries into her car. And that's like a way of her practicing asking for what she wants respectfully and receiving. And she's detached from the outcome because maybe a guy says no, maybe he doesn't do it, that's okay. She's looking to go about her life. Everything's going to be great. And it's also giving space for where, yes, she could load the groceries into her car herself, but isn't it nicer when somebody does it for her and when a man does it for her? And generally the men feel really good about doing that for her. They want to help, they're lit up, they smile. And especially when she shares appreciation like, thank you so much, you're my hero. Or I feel so taken care of. Thank you. That's her practicing receiving masculine provision in her life. Even though she's probably not going to date any of these men. It's her getting used to being in that flow of asking for what she wants, allowing a man to give to her, to receive, to share her appreciation. And she's in this positive masculine, feminine polarity cycle that is now attracting more and more masculine energy into her life. More and more high quality, healthy masculine men and masculine energy to want to be that hero for her. And then she has a great relationship. So that's the process. That's a part of a process and some examples and hopefully that'll get you on the right track. Joanna Rose said, I respect my husband. I never insult him, just encourage him to be the best version of himself. And I know my high worth as a woman. So we are happily married in our 11 years soon and counting. Wow. Congratulations. Ro that Rose. That's great to hear. When you put God first, the marriage will work happily and peace at home. Yeah, it's totally true, Rose. And so many, so much wisdom actually comes from the Bible and is in the Bible around how to have a great relationship, such as what I mentioned before with Ephesians. Nevertheless, each one of you must also love his wife as he loves himself. And the wife must respect her husband. And that's a command. Must A husband must love his wife, which for me is really unconditionally. A husband must unconditionally love his wife even if she's not the nicest that day, even if she's in a bad mood. And the wife must also respect her husband unconditionally, even if she's feeling that he said something that wasn't super nice the day before or he hasn't been that affectionate lately. But if you still show him that respect or even amplify it, generally he's going to shift to be more respectful. Now, I'm not saying stay in a bad situation or stay in a relationship where you're potentially being abused and totally neglected. That's why we have our 90 day challenge. But you give it some time, give it some time to actually shift and we'll help you. If he's a healthy man, he's not broken, he will start becoming more loving and devotional and usually it's going to involve you being more respectful and using magnetic feminine communication that will help him feel more connected to his masculine core, feel great as a man being in the relationship and you expand that polarity which is the only thing that creates that long term attraction, chemistry and devotion. There's another quote from the Bible that I like. Even if your husband does not obey the Word, he may be won over by your conduct when he sees your respectful and pure behavior. So that was 1 Peter 3:1:2. So what this is saying is basically even if your husband's not doing great behavior, if he's on his bad behavior, if he's not following God, if he's not following God's word or if he's not following the tenets in the Bible and he's being mean to you and he's being uncaring to you, he can potentially be won over again, assuming if he's not a broken man by your conduct and your respectful and pure behavior, you can shift him. And of course this goes for I'm not saying that all this is the responsibility of the woman because of course a man can shift his woman when his woman is being disrespectful. A man can also shift her over by his conduct, by being pure and following the Lord you could say. But following being a good husband, he can shift his wife to be more respectful as well. So it's a two way street. But the beauty of it is all it takes is one of you to shift. If we can shift you to be more respectful, we can shift your husband to be more loving. And it sounds like that's what you've been experiencing in your relationship, Rose, with your man, which is beautiful to hear that you're in that dance together and your relationship will just continue to get better and better, especially when you're using what you're learning here and making these small tweaks and distinctions that it will just keep getting better and better over time because your man will start feeling more connected to his masculine core, feel more loving towards you and that's just going to make a better relationship for both of you. Great question or great share, Rose. Thank you for that. Ellen said, the guy I'm seeing says he does not want a relationship yet on Valentine's Day, he bought me expensive gifts, a card for fix me dinner, etc. He pampers me when he sees, when we see each other. Now he's pulled way back. Well, that's, I'm sorry to hear that, Ellen. So one thing to realize and to remember is whenever a man does those things for you to lock it in. So when he was treating you well for Valentine's Day, to actually say something to yourself like this is just the usual, this is what I'm used to. Of course a man is treating me well. Of course he's taking me out to dinner. Of course he's buying me gifts. Of course he's paying for me because I'm a high value woman, I'm amazing woman, I'm a gift, I'm the prize, I'm the queen. This is my normal life. Men do these things for me all the time. So you lock it in for yourself energetically by telling you these, telling yourself these thoughts that are affirming that to you that that's your new normal. So that's one tip. The other tip is so I don't know why he pulled away. Likely the reason why he may have said he doesn't want a relationship and he pulled away is because there may have been some disrespect. There may have been some ways where you were in your masculine behavior, you may have been mothering him in some ways or you may have been trying to please him. Or maybe you were saying some of the things we talked about in this video earlier, the eight things to never say a man to a man. Maybe that came up. I'm not saying that's for sure what happened, but we want to look at that so that you can clean up your side of the street and make sure that any issue in a relationship is not because of you, it's because of him. Likely if, if you are using everything we've taught you, it's going to be because he's a broken man or he simply has no care for you. Now the other reason could be that he said he didn't want a relationship is because he simply is being honest with you, he doesn't want a relationship and that's unfortunate. And it could be because he's a broken man. It could be because he doesn't have enough care for you. It could be because he's an avoidant attachment style, he's non committal, he has a fear of commitment because of his wounds. I would still consider that being a broken man. But for whatever Reason, it doesn't really matter. All that we're looking for is, is a man able to show care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? If he is showing care for your heart, great. And continue that. If he's not showing care for your heart over time. You need to, of course, first off, take our courses and take our program and learn how to actually be fully in your magnetic feminine energy and using magnetic feminine communication and take our 90 day challenge so you can actually shift the relationship and then really discover if he's a broken man or if it's simply because you weren't fully operating in your feminine core. And that will hopefully shift him. That will hopefully get him to be more of that man for you and have a great relationship. And if a man in the future is ever to share something like that with you, like, I'm not looking for a relationship or I don't want a relationship, first off, you should believe him. Second off, you should share your feelings about that and you should have a magnetic feminine conversation. I don't know if you did that or not, but you should really talk to him about that. Because if you want a relationship and he doesn't. He said that he doesn't. That's. That's something you definitely need to navigate, you need to speak up about. Because otherwise you're just going to be wasting your time, likely or caught in a situation like you were in right now where now you're confused and now you feel hurt and you don't know what to do. So now the question is what to do next? Well, I would give him some space. You know, Valentine's Day, it was a while ago. I don't know how much space you've given him since then or if you've sent him any messages, but we could help you send him a message. We have a message that we teach our clients called the seven word Relationship Revival Text that you can send to him that will get him to respond back to you and want to talk to you and want to engage you again, and then you can have a feminine communication conversation with him after that. So that's one option. The other option is you could just continue to give him some space and fill up yourself and build your social life and actually polish up your online dating profiles and start to date other men. Because here's the thing, he told you he doesn't want a relationship, so he's probably telling you the truth. You should, you should believe him and you should probably move on. I know as hard as it will be is you could of course do the other things we told you, if you really like this guy, but if that doesn't help and if he's still not responding back to you, and even if, if, if you decide right now that this is not going to be worth your time, it's probably a good decision also, because why would you continue to waste your time with somebody who basically told you he doesn't want a relationship and now you're basically trying to convince him you don't. You should never convince a man, but you're, you're working towards getting him to change his mind, basically. And that's not a powerful position for you to be in as a woman. So what I say is choose a man who chooses. You should default towards attracting high quality men using everything that will teach you to attract high quality men into your life. And then out of those men who have chosen you, who want to date you, who want to be in a relationship with you, then you choose one of those men which one you want to be with rather than having to chase a man yourself. That's not natural. Because think about the sperm and the egg. What's happening with the sperm and the egg and fertilization. The sperm are chasing the egg, the sperm are going to the egg, and then the egg is actually through sending chemical signals. The egg is choosing the sperm, the egg chooses which one she's allowing into her life. But the sperm already want the egg. They're all chasing the egg, they're going after the egg. The egg is choosing which sperm to let in. It's in the position of being the chooser, being the interviewer you might say, or the qualifier you might say. And that's a more powerful position for you to be in. And it starts with you using what we're teaching you, how to build up your worthiness, how to build up yourself as a woman. Connect to your feminine core more so that you are radiant. You are more of the egg to the sperm, or the flower to the honeybees, or the sun to the planets or the flame to the moths. Like that becomes you. And your life gets easier at that point. And you naturally attract men who are quality into your life. And then it's a lot easier because you're not having to convince a man to change or to want you, or to want the relationship or to not be afraid of commitment. And that's not a, that's not a great road to go down. But you can still use what we teach and we'll help you to Shift and hopefully get him back. And we'll just have to see in that process. So hope that was helpful, Ellen, and gets you on the right track with that. And then Robin said he did not show us or call for. He did not. He did not show up or call for an appointment with me. He has changed dates prior to work with pressures, but always called. How do I handle this? He does not show up or call for an appointment. He has changed dates prior to working. Yeah. So if a man doesn't show up for an appointment with you that he says he was going to, and really, if a man ever does something different than what he told you, so if he's not being true to his word, he's not being a man of integrity in that moment, you don't want to say that to him because that could be very disrespectful and that's not going to get the result that you want. But if he's not keeping his word with you, you need to speak up about that. As a queen, you need to speak up, but you need to do so in a gentle way, in a feminine way, in a respectful way, using magnetic feminine communication. So ideally you would ask him for a phone call. Well, he already said he was going to call you, but I would ask him again. Can I ask if we can talk on the phone? And then hopefully he'll say yes and you guys can get on the phone and then when you're on the phone or when you next see him in person. Because magnetic feminine communication is always most powerful when you're in person or over the phone rather than via texting or email. It's just not as effective. It's just letters on a screen. It's ones and zeros. It's not him being able to really feel your heart on a deep way, although it can. You can make some progress. If a man's not willing to even get on the phone with you or not willing to talk in person, you can still use magnetic feminine communication over texting. And we have seen positive results with that, but it's not ideal. So you want to share your feelings with him, and that's really all it's about. You know, with feminine communication, it always starts with your feelings. What are you feeling? You're probably feeling some sadness. You're probably feeling some hurt, some anxiety, some frustration potentially. And you want to share that with him and share those feelings with him in the right way, and we'll help you craft that as well. And then also to share the problem. So the Problem is how he didn't show up. He didn't show up for the call. Just the facts. The facts are he said he was going to call you at a certain time and then he didn't call you. And then there's also the stories you may be telling yourself around that. The story I'm telling myself is that means maybe you don't really value our relationship or you don't think that. Maybe you don't think that that was important to want to call that night or you didn't. Or maybe you're too busy in your life to be able to connect in the way that you said you would or that I was hoping you would. And I don't know what to do. Or you give it up to him. Can I ask what you think about that or can I ask for some help with that? And then now he gets to help you with that. His mission, if he chooses to, is to fix it, to make it better. You've shared the problem, he's going to solve it. He's in his masculine. You have to give that up to him and you have to detach from the outcome because he's either going to solve that problem and be your hero or he's not. And if he doesn't shift over time, if you've had this conversation several times, it's happened and you've shared your feelings and you've done it in the right way, you've cleaned up your side of the street, you mastered these principles, you've gone into the advanced principles of who you're being as a woman, and he still hasn't shifted over time, then he's probably a broken man. He's probably not capable of being in a relationship with you and or he doesn't have care for your heart. Either way, all that matters is is this man showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? If he's not showing care for your heart over time and he doesn't shift even when you've used everything that we'll, we'll give you and teach you with our 90 day challenge, then you got to walk away. You have to walk away because he's. It's not a right situation for you. And you have to be valuing yourself enough to set a boundary with yourself, which is the feminine way of setting a boundary. I need to move on. I can't be in a situation that's like this and that's not healthy or good for me. And you have to have enough self valuing to be able to do that. So. All right, well, I know there's a lot of other questions here. Unfortunately won't be able to get to them today. You can save them for next time when I do a spontaneous live stream. Or again, if you really want to get your questions answered and really have me personally coach you, I would highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz which you can get by clicking on the link in the description or comments below this video. You learn the principles deeply of magnetic feminine polarity. Magnetic feminine communication get customized coaching recommendations and we have a team. We have tools that'll help you with your communication with a man. We have an AI tool. We have private email coaching. We have personal coaching with me where I can actually be coaching you over zoom with your specific situation. Everything can get customized for you because that's the most powerful way to do this and that's where things are going to move fastest for you. When it's specified for your situation and your background and who you are as a woman and who he is that we can customize our recommendations and get you on the right track very quickly to have a life that you crave so that you can be married happily to him for 11 years like Rose is with her guy and have an amazing life. Because ultimately it's about who you're becoming and the treasure is inside in your heart. How we're helping you connect to that and get that out and that's going to be making your life better overall in all areas. Once we've achieve that for you and got you there. So much love. Take care. Hope this was helpful and I'll talk to you again very soon. Bye bye.