You Become His Ultimate Desire When You Do THIS

High value men want this from their dream woman. If you'd like to understand how to get a man who you desire to want you to want to pursue a loving, long term, committed relationship, to have a life that you can share together where he cares about your heart, he wants to protect you, he wants to be your hero without a man losing interest, pulling away or not valuing you or the relationship, then that's exactly what we're going to cover tonight. I'm Brody Boyd, if you don't know me already, and for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go ahead and dive right into the content. So high value man wants a woman who has a high sense of self value. That's the first point and most important point really. I have others that are even, even just as important as this one. But for you to be a high value woman is what's going to start your ability to attract a high value man to you. Now what does it mean to be a high value woman? It means two things. One, that you have a high sense of internal value, and number two, that you're able to receive his leadership and gifts. We're going to go into that in a little bit, but let's focus on the high value piece. High value comes internally and it comes externally. Your internal value is all about how you see yourself. Do you see yourself as a high value woman? Do you value yourself? Are you taking care of yourself? Do you have positive self talk? Such as the self talk of I am a queen, I am a high value woman, I value myself, I love myself, I'm amazing, any man would be lucky to be with me. I'm the prize, I'm the gift. But the ultimate belief for this area is for you to believe that you are valuable, that you are worthy, that you deserve to have the type of man that you want to have in your life. You deserve him, you are worthy of him. In fact, he should be the one earning your affection, earning your investment, earning your care and devotion to him. And so for you to see yourself and view yourself and talk to yourself as a high value woman is really where this whole process starts by shaping your beliefs that you can and you will have an amazing, incredible relationship with a high value man that you want in your life. That's where this really all starts. Now the external value component is you actually proving that to yourself with your actions. Do you have the standards of a high value woman? Are you only accepting certain levels of behavior and investment and ways of interacting and speaking to you from a man that a man might present to you? Do you have standards or are you just accepting the bare minimum? Are you accepting breadcrumbs from a man who, who is not giving you ultimately what you want, who's not treating you well, and who may even be disrespectful towards you or devaluing towards you, perhaps even abusive? Are you allowing that to continue in your life? A high value woman would say no to herself. She's willing to walk away. She's willing to end an interaction or an entire relationship if she's not being valued at her standard of what she wants for herself and what she requires of herself. So this is one way you prove your value with your actions. You can also prove your value with your actions by how you treat yourself. Are you taking care of your health? Are you eating well? Are you getting enough exercise? Are you getting out in nature? Are you taking time to relax and to rejuvenate? Are you spending time with people who uplift you rather than bring you down? Are you spending yourself, Are you spending time in high value environments that are lifting you up, that are allowing you to see yourself as a high value woman because of what you surround yourself with? There's an old saying that environment trumps willpower, which means that if you're surrounded by an environment that's showing you that you are a low value woman, people are telling you you're low value. Your friends, your family, they're not treating you well, they're not treating you with respect, or that your house is messy, your environment is messy. Your environment is showing to you on a regular basis that you are a low value woman. You have to change that. You have to get yourself into environments that lift you up. Start with your living situation you have now, making sure that's optimized. And like, is this an environment that a high value woman would live in? And if it's not, you have to fix that. And also get around environments outside of your home, through parks, through restaurants, luxurious hotel lobbies, things like that. Areas like that where you can say to yourself, I'm a high value woman simply because I'm here. I must be high value because why else would I be in this amazing environment? It starts to work on your unconscious and you start to treat yourself and show yourself that you are high value. So start with your environment, start with your social circle, start with your family and make sure you are only allowing the type of conversations and behaviors that are amplifying your value and not the ones that are diminishing your value. That's a big piece of raising your sense of self worth. The next key here is following his lead and receiving his gifts. By the way, if you have any questions, go ahead and start leaving them now in the comments because I'm going to start answering those and I will be able to answer those. Even if you're watching the recording of this, I'll be able to start answering your questions, but I will be able to address some tonight as well. So following his lead and receiving his gifts. This is the feminine part of being a high value woman that will attract a high value masculine man. It's like a dance. If you want to dance with a high value masculine man, you want to be a great dance partner, right? Just like you want to be a great relationship partner, a girlfriend, a wife. So you have to make yourself available to being this great partner. What does it mean to be a great dance partner? Well, in a dance, the masculine is leading, the feminine is following. So how can you be a better follow a better dance partner that's in the feminine role? His girlfriend, his wife, his. His. The feminine energy that he's attracted to. So this is about being receptive. It's about being open to his leadership, observing and listening and paying attention to how he wants to lead in the relationship, how he wants to move things forward, how he wants to show care for your heart, how he wants to solve problems, how he wants to invest, how he wants to give to you. Are you actually receptive to his gifts? Are you encouraging his gifts? Are you or are you denying his gifts? Are you denying his leadership by resisting him, his gifts? Giving? Of course, if he's doing bad behaviors, if he's not giving you great gifts, if he's not treating you well, of course you need to get out of that situation and you don't need to follow his leadership. But we're talking about a man who is high value, who wants to lead you well. Which that's the healthy masculine is leading for your pleasure and for his pleasure. Again, just like in a dance, are you resisting that leadership because you don't want to? You don't feel comfortable with actually receiving. You don't feel comfortable with a man actually devoting himself to you and wanting to take care of you and wanting to protect, provide and be your hero? Or are you also denying it because you're in the masculine? You feel unsafe, you feel uncomfortable with being in the feminine with receiving a man's gift. So you want to take the steering wheel and drive yourself. You want to drive the relationship forward and try to control him, try to get an outcome, try to move the relationship forward, try to get things from him that through manipulation, through leading him, directing him, telling him what to do, mothering him. So these are other ways you may be subtly resisting or avoiding his leadership and his gifts, which again then you can't have a dance. You can't have a dance partner with. You can't have a dance with a partner who doesn't want to either lead or a partner who doesn't want to follow. You can't have that dance. There's just two people standing next to each other, that's two roommates, that's two non polarized beings, friends looking at each other and saying hey. Which is fine. If you just want to be friends, if you just want to have a platonic relationship, or if you're not comfortable with a man yet, you're not ready to really dance with him, then by all means do not engage. And if a man is ever leading you in a way that you don't enjoy, you have to be high value that we talked about earlier and, and be willing to speak up and be willing to share your feelings and your standards and your needs and desires, but doing so respectfully, vulnerably and in a way where you're true to yourself, you're true to your desires, you're true to what you actually want. Because again, like in a dance, if you don't enjoy the dance, you need to say something, you need to say something or you need to get out. Say something or get out. But don't stay in a dance where you don't enjoy it. That's compliance, that's not submission, that's you accepting a bad behavior. And what we call being the doormat archetype where you are simply staying because you don't want to rock the boat or you don't want to risk him disliking you or rejecting you. So you don't speak up, you don't say anything. Which paradoxically makes it more likely that he's going to leave, more likely that he's not going to treat you well because you're showing that you are low value by not speaking up, by not sharing and not doing so. As a queen, which is vulnerably and in your feminine and with grace and with warmth. That's the balance that the queen gets into, which allows you to receive his leadership and Receive his gifts while you are still maintaining your high value. The next piece here is respect and appreciation. So a high value masculine man, he gets his sense of value, of feeling like he's doing a good job as a man by knowing that others around him respect him and appreciate him. That's one of the big differences between men and women. The masculine desire, fundamental desire, is to be respected and trusted. And appreciation is really a part of that. Admiration, appreciation, they're related. And the feminine's deepest desire is to be cherished and adored. And so if you want a man to cherish and adore your heart, you want to start by showing him that you respect and appreciate him as, as a man and as a man who can cherish and adore your heart, who can give you value, who can help you, give to you, lead, provide, protect, be your hero. So you want to start with that. It would be you. Not giving him respect and appreciation would be like a man saying, I'm not going to give you my care and adoration and devotion until you show me that you're worth it or that you respect and trust me. I'm not going to give that to you until you give it to me first. So you want to give your feminine gifts, which really the only feminine gifts you have to give are being in your feminine, being yourself, being who you are at your core, which is your feminine core, feminine polarity and respecting him, appreciating him, trusting his leadership. And then for him, he's going to have to give his gifts of quality leadership, helping you, solving problems, providing, protecting, making you happy as best as he can, caring for your heart. That's the way he's going to give to you. He has to give that first on his side if he wants to have a quality relationship. Now the beautiful thing about the law of polarity is that we don't need to change him. However, for you to get an amazing relationship with him, we only need to change you. One partner needs to change. Because the law of polarity states that opposite energies attract. The masculine attracts the feminine. If you become more feminine, you're going to attract more masculine men. You're going to attract healthy masculine behavior from men. If you're a high value feminine woman, you're going to attract high value masculine men to you. So we only have to change you or shift your energy in order to shift his energy in relation to you, which is the beautiful thing. The next piece here is your open heart and vulnerability. That's the other thing, very important key that a high value masculine man wants from you is to feel your open heart, your vulnerable heart. He can't give to you, he can't really provide if he doesn't even feel like that is open, that you are open to receive, that you are open, that he can even see your heart, he can feel your heart. Because here's the thing, a masculine man feels his emotions through you. He feels his heart through you. If your heart is closed, he's not going to be able to feel his own heart. He's going to feel a lack of connection. He's going to feel a dis connection, the distance. Because your heart is closed, because you're not being open and vulnerable. And you know that you're being open and vulnerable. When it feels slightly uncomfortable, if it feels comfortable and normal, then you're just already doing it. You're doing it every day. But for it to be vulnerable, it has to feel a little uncomfortable, a little scary. That's how you know you're breaking past some walls, you're breaking past some layers of the onion to showing your true heart to a man. And this primarily would involve showing your feelings, showing your core heart. How are you actually feeling in the moment? I feel sad, I feel happy, I feel anxious, I feel angry, I feel desire, I feel horny, I feel shame, I feel guilt, I feel discomfort, I feel fear. All of these are your range of your feminine, emotional being, your heart. When you share these emotions vulnerably, just as simply as I just did through those statements, but actually feeling it, when you share with him, he is going to be able to feel your heart and be able to empathy, empathize. I could almost make a rap song out of that. So he's going to be able to empathize with your heart and feel you so that he can actually provide. He can actually know if he's doing a good job, how he can make you happy, how he can shift things, how he can help you with your sadness, with your anxiety, or feel good that he's providing you joy and gratitude or bliss. He's going to know he's doing a good job and be in touch with your heart. And then he can know that he's winning as a man or if he needs to step it up. Now, the key if you want to inspire him is to do so respectfully. We talked about respect earlier. To show your open heart and vulnerability in a way where he doesn't feel attacked, blamed, criticized by you saying something like, you're making me feel sad or you're doing this to me right Now. Or how could you do something like this? Or you're never meeting my needs. Or you're never doing what I need you to do. You don't care about me. Why aren't you texting me more often? You're not showing me that you actually care about this relationship. Things like that are actually showing him that you're not emotionally open. You're closed off. You've closed your heart and now you've moved into your masculine, trying to control and lead him like a little marionette on the puppet, like a little boy telling him what to do. You need to do better. You made this mistake. You need to fix it now. That's you and your masculine attacking him, trying to lead him and control him. You'll never inspire a man's devotion from that place. The only thing you will do is continue to repel his devotion. So the only thing that can inspire him is the openness and the vulnerability. That will feel scary and will take courage, but done in the right way, which will help you with, will inspire him to want to shift, will inspire him into his hero and want to provide for you in a way that makes you happy. He'll show his care for your heart. He'll show, yeah, his care for your heart to make things better, to want, to provide, to want to give his masculine gifts from a healthy place. But he'll only be able to do that if he can first cherish and value your heart. And the only way he can do that if he could first see and experience and feel your open, vulnerable feminine heart. So hope this was helpful if you'd like to take this to the next level, because we're just tapping the surface here of what's possible, how you can actually shift a man, get him to infinitely devote himself to you, cherish your heart and provide in ways that would shock you financially, I mean emotionally, primarily emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, but even financially, sexually, we can add that in there as well in ways that would shock you, where he's really wanting to do everything possible to make you happy because you've given him a sense of meaning, you've given him a sense of purpose. So if you want to have that in your life and have a man's devotion for life, have him really see you as his one and only woman that he would never want to leave. Then make sure to take our free Magnetize youe Man quiz if you haven't already, by clicking the link in the description below or in the comments or you can go to our website magnetizeyourman.com and we have everything laid out there, all the strategies, all the tips and exactly what to do. And we'll even do it for you. We'll provide you with the exact scripts you need to use, the exact languaging with your man to turn things around, or if you're single, to attract an incredible healthy, masculine man into your life so that you can be taken care of, you can be held, you can be cherished, you can be loved fully from an available man, a man that you're highly attracted to and excited about, who's available and wants to provide and give to you. So again, take that free quiz if you haven't already. And with that, I'm going to go ahead and start answering some questions as they come in. So go ahead and post your comments or questions below. Anything that I've covered already or if you have a specific situation with a man that you're struggling with, you have some issues coming up, you'd like to get some support around it. Post your questions. I'll be able to address those while I'm still live tonight and help you out. Giving my masculine gifts, wanting to help, wanting to provide, wanting to be a hero in some ways to everyone, to save the world. I'm trying to save relationships. I'm trying to save the world here. So let me help you. And we're very passionate about here on our channel in general. So I'm going to go ahead and respond to some Pamela said, Amen. Glad you're liking it, Pamela. And the Peace coach said, I love this advice. Thank you so much. Brody. It's Michelle here from your coaching program. Welcome, Michelle. Glad. Great to have you here. Great. Glad you're tuning in and also glad that you're in the coaching program as well and going really deep with this because that's a sign you're committed. If you want a man to commit to you. If you want to have incredible relationship, incredible life, you first have to commit to yourself. And that starts by being willing to be vulnerable and ask for help and say, I don't know what to do. I don't know how to turn things around with my man. Could you please help me? Could you tell me exactly what I should do, what I should say so that I can have this incredible relationship that you're talking about. We will help you with that. We will do this. And that's what coaching is all about. That's how we help you in getting you the right strategies when you need them. So awesome. Michelle, glad you're doing that. Jan Said respect and appreciation versus cherished and adored. Yes, and it's respect and appreciation. Really what the masculine wants is to feel trusted as well. To feel trusted by you, valued and trusted. Just like in a dance. We keep going back to that dance analogy. We could use other analogies like sex or, you know, ancient times, but the idea is. Or we could talk about the sperm and the egg. But basically the idea is a man wants to feel trusted, that you're trusting him as a man, as his character and as a leader in the relationship, that he can solve problems, that he can make decisions, that he can lead things forward, that he can help, that he can give. Because then he feels a sense of purpose. That's why men go to war and why men will die easily and happily in some cases, will die for the chance to feel like a hero, to feel like they're doing something that has a greater purpose and a greater meaning beyond them. Now, the beautiful thing is you can be that purpose for him. You can be that meaning, you can provide him with a sense of heroism and ability to be the hero, to be the high value man, to be valued and appreciated and respected and admired for what he can provide for you, for who he can be for you. And that's the beautiful thing is that way he doesn't have to go die in some country halfway across the world to feel like he's has a purpose in his life. He can provide for you, he can be the hero for you. Right now, right today, if you start using some of these principles and start shifting into your magnetic feminine polarity, which is all about tapping into your core, which is what we really help you with, how to tap into your feminine core. Because every woman is, has a core feminine inside, and every man has a core masculine inside of his heart and his body and his soul. And when you peel back some of the layers from society, from culture, from bad programming you were taught, from movies, from evil forces that are existing in the world, you can peel back the layers and get to your core. Now you can be the woman you were always meant to be, the high value feminine woman, who's radiant, who's open, who's available, who a masculine man can craves and desires and wants to have in his life so that he can feel received and wanted and needed and valued for his gifts, his masculine gifts, because you want to feel needed and valued as well. You can feel needed and valued for your feminine core, for your feminine energy, that openness that he can, you know, give his masculine gifts to. And he can Feel needed and wanted for being able to give his gifts. Again, we have that dance and we also have the analogy of sex, which you might be already sensing from that analogy where he's giving to you, he's providing, he's penetrating, and you're able to receive and be open and trust him and enjoy him and respect him for that gift. Giving and sex is just an analogy that can be taken out to expand it into your whole life, into your whole relationship with him. Is he leading? Is he giving? Is he providing? Or are you the one leading? Are you the one giving? Are you the one providing from your masculine. Which would be like a mother, right? A mother leads and provides for her son or for her daughter. But a man doesn't want to be your son. A man wants to be in his masculine. He wants to be protecting, providing for you. By you stopping the madness and getting out of your masculine, you can inspire him into his masculine through the law of polarity. So we first have to get you to your feminine core, shift your energy, and then teach you feminine communication as well. Magnetic feminine communication. So you can inspire his devotion. You can inspire him coming to you and wanting to be the man for you. And then you can have a beautiful relationship. But we first have to shift that energy. We have to shift the dynamic so that you can have a healthy, polarized relationship and not just being roommates or a mother son relationship or kind of a combative man, man type of relationship where you're competing with each other. Deanna said, yes, you are so right. Oh, my gosh. I'm learning so much. Thank you very much. And I want the uncomfortable to stop and share my real self. Yeah, you want the discomfort to stop and share your real self. And part of it is sharing the discomfort. If you're feeling discomfort with a man, you can share that with him. Hey, may I share something with you? Sure. I'm feeling discomfort. Why are you feeling discomfort? Because xyz, whatever's making you feel discomfort. Because I'm noticing that I'm finding myself trying to lead the relationship forward and trying to get you to do things for me. And I don't want to do that anymore. I don't like it. And I want to be more in my feminine and I want to be more respectful and open and vulnerable and. Can you help me with that? Can you show me a better way? That's a beautiful statement. That's a beautiful statement to inspire him into his masculine, Inspire his devotion. And this is just one example of using feminine communication. How you can Inspire a man and get out of the discomfort. Because now he wants to help. Now he wants to solve the problem. How can I help you feel comfortable? How can I help you feel better? It becomes a challenge for him. It becomes a fun game that he gets to figure out. Because a man doesn't want a woman who's all put together. A man doesn't want a woman who has everything figured out, who's a strong, independent boss babe. Because a man can't do anything for a boss babe. She's good. She doesn't need him. We talked about earlier. A man wants to be respected and valued and appreciated. He's not needed by a strong, independent woman. He can't provide anything for her. So what's he going to do? He's going to say, you're going to be happier without me, so I'm going to let you go. I want you to be happy, but you don't need me. So I'm going to let you go. I'm going to let you be free. Because you got it all put together. There's nothing. There's no space for me here. I can't be the hero for you because you already have everything handled. So a man wants to be able to solve problems for you. Yeah. You don't need to be a complete mess and have your life totally in disarray where you're not even taking care of your basic necessities. Like you're not sleeping well, you're not eating well, you're not taking care of your basics around your health, getting outside, cleaning up your living space. Like, he can't do those things for you. He can't manage how you control your own thoughts and what you're doing for your basic human, human needs. But beyond that, there's a lot that he can provide for you. He can open the door for you. He can fix your car for you. He can fix your computer issues for you. He can protect you from the burglar trying to get into the house, or when you're walking on the side of the street and putting himself in between you and the homeless person who's acting weird or somebody who's on drugs or somebody who looks a little sketchy or dangerous. He can put himself into the protector role when you need him, when you allow that space for him to actually do things for you. Like, are you so busy doing everything for yourself that there's nothing left for him to do for you? Like, that's a question you have to ask yourself. And yes, you've probably been raised or you've had situations where you had to step up and do learn how to provide for yourself. And maybe you're a single mom or maybe you've had tough situations in your life where you had to learn how to provide for yourself and take care of things and survive. And that's beautiful. You have that skill set, you have that ability. And now it's learning. It's learning and stepping into the role that you likely actually want, which is how can you now have a masculine, healthy, valuable man want to do those things for you, want to provide for you. It doesn't have to be just financially, but it could be. It could be him taking care of the bills, it could be him fixing things around the house. It could be him helping you navigate a tricky situation with your boss or with your family. It could be him just listening to you showing care. It could be him just holding you or having sex with you or giving you a good time on the weekend, going on adventures together. There's lots of things he can provide for you. If you start to open up that space and say the feminine yearning, as David Dadett calls it, and say, yes, I want to be received. I want a man to. I want to receive a man. I want to receive my high value masculine man in my life. Like send me a hero. I need a hero. You gotta allow the hero to come in. If there's no space for him, he can't come in. There's nothing for him to do. So open up for that, be available to that and admit and say to yourself out loud, even say it right now, I want a man in my life. I want a hero. I need a hero to take it to the next level. Like I need a hero. Listen to that song by Bonnie Tyler. We have it as required viewing in our courses. It's one of our courses. We have that in there because it's so important to learn how to be available and open. And we'll help you with that. And there's going to be trust issues and there's going to be blocks and there's going to be fears and uncertainties of what if I do it wrong? Or what if I scare him away? Like we're going to help you with that. Let us help you at least be open enough to let us help you with that so that you can actually have a high value masculine man want to fully claim you and be the hero for you, be the king, the man in your life that you can have and value. So that's a beautiful thing. Heather said I've had a great relationship for three months, went away for a girl's weekend and didn't immediately answer his texts. When I returned, he broke up even though I checked in. Ex cheated, trust issues. So you had a great relationship for three months, then you went away on a girl's weekend and you didn't immediately answer his text. Then when you returned, he broke up even though you checked in. Ex cheated, trust issues. I don't know what that last part means. If he cheated on you with his ex or if you cheated on him with your ex and there's trust issues on his side or trust issues on your side. So part of receiving a man's gifts is if he's reaching out to you when you're on a trip, maybe he was feeling insecure. Maybe he didn't know exactly what you were doing on the trip or why you're on the trip. And it's good to stay available. Just like you would want a man probably to be available to you while you're on a trip. If he's wanting to check in and hear how things are, maybe he actually cares about your safety. Like, if you're waiting too long to get back to him, he may feel again like, she doesn't really need me. It seems like she's good. Like, she doesn't want to check in with me. She doesn't really care that we're not together. Like, I don't think she really wants me in her life. I don't think she really needs me for anything. So I'm gonna bounce. I'm gonna go elsewhere. It doesn't mean you have to be available every second to like, oh, he texted me. I gotta get back to him right away. But making sure you're available to receive him in those moments when he wants to help, when he wants to check in. I don't know what the last part is, but yes, trust issues can be huge on both sides. So something to address and something to break through. And by you trusting him and showing him that you respect him, you admire him, you trust him as a man, you trust his leadership. That can often help overcome a lot of his trust issues. And it will also help you to overcome a lot of your trust issues by just making the decision to trust. Just making the decision to be open and available, and that's going to feel scary. And, yeah, you're going to be worried that you may get hurt again or cheated on again, but nothing will shift otherwise. You can't inspire a man to devote and care for you. If you're not inspiring yourself to trust and respect him. The masculine's deepest needs is to be trusted and respected. If you're not giving that to him, how is he supposed to find it in himself to be able to fully devote and cherish your heart if he's not feeling like his basic needs as a man are being met? So somebody has to shift. One of you has to shift for the dynamic to shift. And the beautiful thing is you can go first through the law of polarity. You can go first and start showing him that extra level of trust and that extra level of respect by something as simple as saying, babe, I trust you. I trust you. You're the man. You got it. Lead me, lead me. You're my hero. Lead me. Lead us forward. Plan the adventure. Like, I trust you. You got it, babe. I know you got it. Like, giving it up to him to be the leader, to make decisions, to plan things, to. If he wants to spend some time on his own because he needs a break, just like, hey, babe, don't worry about it. And he's saying like, oh, you want me to check in with you? You want me to say. He's like, hey, I trust you. Like, showing him that extra level of trust so that he's then like, wow, this is different. I've never had a woman trust me so much. Like, I don't want to break this. I don't want to ruin this for her. Like, I want to. I care for her heart. Now you're starting to activate within him, caring and cherishing your heart. And, yeah, there are still bad men out there, about 5 to 10% of men that are deeply broken, and they'll still cheat on you, they'll still break your trust. Even though you're fully respectful and trusting, they'll still do what bad men do. And so you have to be aware of that too. And you have to, in some ways, be willing to risk that. Unless the. There's usually. Here's the other thing. There's usually a lot of signs a man will give that he's a broken man. If he's a narcissist and he's. Or he's a sociopath, or he's completely emotionally unavailable, emotionally broken. There's usually signs that he will give before it gets to the point where you're fully having to risk your heart with him. And so be aware. Be aware of the type of man you're with and look for how he treats you when you are vulnerable. That's the best test of a man. When you're authentically vulnerable. When you're authentically sharing your heart and you're open in a respectful way, how does he react? Is he reacting with care? Is he reacting with wanting to help and wanting to make things better, wanting to fix the problem, or is he taking advantage of that? Is he dismissing your feelings? Is he being critical of your feelings? Is he not wanting to help? Is he being abusive? In fact, in some ways it's a clear sign you're dealing with a broken man. If you've been consistently vulnerable, which is why we Recommend Doing the 90 day challenge. We have a Magnetize youe Man 90 day challenge. Again, you can get that by taking our free quiz in the links below or in our bio or going to magnetizeyourman.com, our main website. If you take the magnetize your man 90 day challenge, sometimes we also call it the magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. If you've done the 90 day challenge and you've consistently used what we've taught you and you've used feminine communication and you're respectful and you're open and available and we'll give you exactly what you need to do during those 90 days, and if you've done that and you haven't noticed any progress, he's not making the effort, he's not shifting his heart towards you, he's not changing, then you clearly know you're working with a broken man. So we'll help you to be able to reveal that. But likely what's going to happen is very small percentage of men actually are that broken. Most men will start shifting into their healthy masculine. They'll start devoting themselves to you and being the man that you want and that you crave and desire. And you'll have an incredible relationship. So that's why we Recommend Doing the 90 day challenge, because all will be revealed. All will be revealed. And likely you'll have the relationship of your dreams. Of your dreams. You'll be fully happy and have a man who is really dedicating himself to you now and wanting to make you happy and making you a priority and not an option. So hope that helps. Deanna said, yes, I want him to infinitely connect to me and shock me. Yes, he will shock you with his ability to invest and devote. When you use the right principles that we're teaching, when you make these shifts, he will shock you and he will infinitely commit himself and devote himself to you. Somebody said, can you tell me if I should wait? I don't know. It's probably I would need a Little more context. I don't know what you're waiting for, but the first thing is to be vulnerable. First. Be vulnerable and open with him and then see how he reacts. And then you'll know if you should wait or not. Karen said, hello, Brody, you're the best. Oh, thanks, Karen. I appreciate that. How can you gradually take back a man that previously pulled off for stressful situations in his life? He pretty much ghosted me, but now wants to be back with me. Thanks. So how can you gradually take back a man that previously pulled off for stressful situations in his life? He pretty much ghosted me and now he wants to be back with me. So if a man is starting to make effort and he's starting to show progress, you can't expect him. With the things we teach you, you can't expect him to instantly shift overnight. We have cases where men have shifted so rapidly, the woman's head was spinning when she used what we taught her. However, likely it's going to be him showing progress and him showing effort. You want to look for him making the effort and showing progress towards showing care for your heart and being in his masculine and starting to lead, starting to move things forward in the relationship and wanting to devote himself to you and care for your heart and cherish you and adore you and be deeply in love with you. However, it's likely not going to shift completely overnight. It's going to be progress, not perfection. We're looking for progress. And so you want to gradually let him in. You could quickly let him in, but you want to. For what I'm guessing on your side is you want to see, can I actually trust this? Is he actually fully devoting himself to me now, or is this just an act and then he's going to pull away again? He's just playing with my heart. He's just messing around in this crazy situationship. Well, what you want to do is start rewarding his efforts. So you want to give him appreciation when he is doing things that you like. And this goes for across the board. When a man is doing what you like, you want to appreciate him for that and say, thank you so much, or I appreciate you reaching out, or I appreciate you putting in the effort and wanting to make me happy. Like, I see the, the extra level of care that you're. You're providing. And I really, I love it. I appreciate it, and it makes me feel good. It makes me feel happy. That's how he wants to. What he wants to know is, is he doing a good job and how is he making you feel? It's different than just being polite, saying, thank you. You want to let him know how you feel. Show it with your body, show it with a big smile, show with a big hug, and show him that he's doing a good job, that he's winning with you through those statements, like, you make me feel safe, or I feel so happy, or I feel grateful, or I'm. I feel, oh, you're my hero. Thanks for being my hero. You could use that phrase. It's a very powerful phrase to use, like, oh, you. You're my hero. Thank you so much. Feels great for a man. It feels. It helps him to see that he's doing a good job. So reward the behavior you want to see more of and start to let him prove to him, to himself, to you. If he's doing the right activities, like you can receive that you can allow him to give those gifts to you. And if he's doing something that's making you feel uncomfortable, or if you're not certain at this moment in time and you're having some anxiety, share that with him as well. Share with him that you're not quite ready yet to fully receive him. Because I feel anxious. I'm feeling some anxiety. Why are you feeling anxiety? Because I know you're wanting to come back and be together again. However, I'm telling myself a story that we might not be. This. This could be the same situation as we had before, and that we get back together and we have this amazing time, but then you pull away again, and that thought makes me feel scared and I don't know what to do. And you could ask him, based on his response, you can say, could I have some help with that? Or could I ask what you think about that? And let him take the lead. Let him solve the problem. Let him want to step into his masculine to start to make things better and prove to you, make his case why you should take him back. Just like we're on a court trial, he's building his case as a lawyer. Well, I'm not going to do this again, and I promise I'm not going to do this. And let him prove also with his actions. I mean, words are cheap, but let him show you with his actions. Like, look, I'll just have to show you I really want you back in my life. It's gonna be different this time. I'm a new man. I'm a changed man, and here's the reasons why. And this is what I'm gonna do right now. To show you that I'm taking this seriously, like, will you marry me? Who knows what he might do? Who knows what he might say? Like, he could put his foot down, he could put his ring down and say, I'm gonna put a ring on it. That's the ultimate proof that I'm committed to this relationship. We don't know if he's going to do that, but let's give him some baby steps. Let's let him prove himself. And then you have to, like, also look for the actions and wait. Like the woman before was asking, how long should I wait? We give him some time. That's. Ideally, you're using the 90 day challenge and letting us help you through this process because it's going to be. There's going to be stuff coming up and there's going to be moments of uncertainty and where he starts pulling away a little bit and how do you navigate that and what do you say? So hopefully you'll have us help you in the 90 day challenge with what to do with him, but give it about 90 days and hopefully things will completely shift and he'll start continue that upward progress. So you want to see it be an upward spiral like this, an upward trajectory of him showing more care and devotion for you, and then you're set. And then you have an amazing relationship. But likely it'll be some bumps along the way and you're going to have to navigate that with open, vulnerable, and respectful communication from your feminine core. And we'll help you with that as well and exactly what to say. And then you can hopefully get back on a good track from there and continue to have the relationship go up. So that's what the journey is going to be like. But as long as you keep practicing these principles, likely he'll continue to be inspired and want to continue coming closer to you and having a great relationship. And that's the game, that's the journey. And remember, I want to remind you as well, the feminine is detached from the outcome. The feminine is enjoying the journey. The feminine is enjoying the process. The masculine is getting outcomes. The masculine is making things happen. The masculine is penetrating and creating solutions and solving problems and leading and directing and guiding. So you want to be detached and open and available to allow his leadership to come in to start to direct. And if he's leading you with care and he's leading you in the right way, then follow that leadership. If he's not, you have to speak up or respective, respectfully decline, respectfully decline the dance or decline the relationship. If you need to, if he's not showing that care. So hope that helps. Karen Deanna said. So how would I start the conversation? By letting him know I desire him. He definitely is aware I'm interested in him. But how do I let him know? I would first check in with why do you feel that you need to let him know that you desire him? The best way that you let him know that you desire him is by being open and receptive to his leadership and appreciating him and trusting him and respecting him. Those are some of the main ways that you let him know that you desire him. By just being a good follow. Like in the dance. How does a man know that you're a good dance partner? Because you're following his leadership in the dance, that you're enjoying the dance, you're smiling, you're showing that you trust him, that you want to dance with him again, that you're available to dance again. So that's what I'd recommend is being open and available to follow his leadership and trusting him and respecting him. And also sharing appreciation and saying, I, I appreciate your leadership. I appreciate your decision making skills. I appreciate your sense of confidence or your sense of humor. I love how masculine you are or I love how decisive you are. I love how strong you are. These are all ways you can help a man to feel appreciated that he's doing a good job with you. Other than just saying I desire you. I like you. You could say that as well. May I share something with you? Sure. I feel, I feel just like a strong sense of desire inside of me. Why do you feel desire? Because I just notice I enjoy spending my time with you and I feel so great when we're together and it just makes me feel like I desire to spend more time with you and to enjoy, you know, the adventures that we go on. And I just want to share that with you because I just feel good when we're together and may ask what you think about that. Or you can say you don't need to say anything after that. Just let them feel you. Let them feel that you enjoy spending time together. You could just share you're being open and vulnerable and just sharing your feelings and you're not telling them what to do with that. You're not making them do something with that. You're just being, hey, I just love spending time with you. I just want to share that with you. He feels good, he feels appreciated and it becomes very clear that yes, you desire him. You don't have to like blatantly say to him, hey, I like you a lot. Hey, I desire you a lot. Like, he'll probably know from your actions. The words are cheap as well. Men know this as well. Like, who cares? He doesn't really care so much about your words. He wants to feel you in your body. He wants to feel that availability. He wants to feel that vulnerability and feel the desire in you from your heart, not just from your words. Words are nice, but ultimately what a man wants is to feel your heart and feel that availability and that openness, which you can often just share simply through your body language. Just a smile, just a look. Marilyn Monroe was really good at this, showing men her desire just by the way she looks at them. They call it the triangle gaze when you're looking from one eye to the other eye to his lips. From one eye to the other eye to his lips. There's a lot of ways you can show desire for a man just through your body language, so hope that helps. Deanna Mandy said, Wondering how to get my guy to propose. He had a really bad experience with an ex who cheated on him and was about to propose. So he is going very slow and makes me feel insecure. So the first thing I would recommend is sharing that with him. Basically what you just shared with me. Maybe not the wanting him to propose piece, but you can still share how you feel insecure. So you would have a conversation with him, such as, may I share something with you? Sure. Or can I share a feeling that's coming up for me? Sure. I'm feeling it. I noticed I'm feeling some insecurity coming up. Why are you feeling insecure? What's that about, babe? Because I've noticed that when we had our conversation about your ex and how you wanted to propose and she cheated on you and you felt really hard hurt by that and that made you want to go slow. And I, I guess I'm telling myself the story that maybe you don't ever want to propose again or maybe you don't ever want a serious relationship again because of that. And it made me feel insecure and I don't know what to do. I don't know what, what I should do with that. And then just let him, let him hear your heart, let him hear your where you're coming from and let him respond to that. And he'll likely say, oh, babe, I don't want you to feel insecure. Like I do want to, of course, have another relationship like that again. And I'm definitely wanting to get married again, potentially. We don't know what he's going to respond. I'm just making things up here. But he will probably want to reassure you. He'll probably want to say, like, I, I definitely do, and I don't want you to feel insecure. Like, I feel like we're definitely moving towards that and I'm working on my trust issues and I'm opening up. But I, you know, I love the time we spend together and I want things to continue progressing like that. And so leave it up to him. We don't know how he's going to respond. But the main thing is you're just sharing your, you're sharing the problem. The feminine shares problems, the masculine solves problems. So by you sharing your problem of your insecurity, the feeling he can do whatever he's going to do with that, he'll likely want to solve the problem and help you feel better. He may not. We don't know how he's going to react. But likely because you're being open and honest and available and authentic with him, he's going to want to help. He's going to at least want to have the conversation with you. And you're not telling him what to do. You're not telling him, I need more reassurance or I need you to, I want you to propose to me. You're just telling him what the problem is and let him come up with a solution, which will likely be wanting to reassure you, wanting to have a conversation and potentially wanting to give a serious, a more serious commitment with you because he, he feels that that's a desire of yours or that's something that's on your heart. So that's the feminine approach to having these kind of conversations. Commitment conversation. And again, it's good to navigate these conversations with a coach and helping, letting us help you with these tricky situations, especially around commitment marriage proposals. But that's, that's in general what the, what the path will look like and how we can navigate that. For you to have him want to commit and want to and be excited about giving you what you want and making you happy. If that's through proposal, if that's through a marriage and through a deeper level of him saying, like, I'm committed to you, then that's what he's going to do because he wants to show care for your heart and he wants to make you happy. And that's the, that becomes the most important thing to him in him winning the game of being a great man and being the woman that you desire or being the man that you desire. So hope that helps. Mandy, the peace coach said thank you so much. Brody, may I ask, is there any other key tips for me? I live very in a very remote rural area on a building that inner self. Oh, on building that inner self confidence. Yes. Loving your coaching course thanks you. Thank you again. I'm glad you're loving the course and our coaching in our membership again. Great to have you in there. And so as far as building your self confidence, living in a rural area, you want to start getting out there again. So I don't know if you're dating a specific man right now, but we have a course inside the membership, you should check it out, called Magnetic Feminine Online Dating. And so we teach you how to date in the best way from your feminine, using your feminine core and exposing your heart through online dating. And how to interact with men, how to even message men from your feminine. Because there is a way to message men and even initiate, as long as you're doing it using feminine communication, that still draws them in, draws them closer rather than pushing them away. So we'll teach you how to do that. Because getting online, even if you're just messaging guys who live in other cities, other states even, it'll help build your confidence. It'll help you to start forming some connections because guys can, when they feel this polarity and they feel attracted and devoted enough to you, they will fly out. They will fly out, they will come visit you or they will fly you to them, or they will plan a trip to Europe or they'll plan some adventure for you both to go on. And so that'll build your confidence getting out there again online. And then of course, we can work with what you can do in your area that you have that you live at. There's hopefully some social activities, some social areas or groups that you can join that you can be part of and you can ask around, what are the good places to be a part of? Maybe a church that you can join depending on your spiritual beliefs, which we recommend having a spiritual practice and having a connection to God, personal connection, because that's going to help you in this journey as well. You never want to lose that. But yeah, that's going to help you build your confidence and showing with your actions that you're putting yourself out there, you're being vulnerable, you're giving yourself the opportunity to have quality men approach you, interact with you, show care for you, want to take the relationship to the next level. And of course, the inner aspects, we go deep into that in the course as well. So continue to go through those modules. You need to watch yourself talk and how you're treating yourself and how you're talking to yourself. And even just basic things like looking at yourself in the mirror. Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say I like you? Like, that's a very basic core test to see if you have a level of self worth and self confidence and self value. Can you look at yourself in the mirror and just say I like you? And then if you can do that, you may need to practice it for a while and find the things about yourself that you like. Doesn't have to be just physical. Look for the physical things you like about yourself, but also your personality, your history, your achievements, your skills, your character, things you've done and basics about your life. And then you can take it to the next level by finding those things you love about yourself. I love my beautiful eyes. I love my beautiful sense of humor. I love the fact that I'm so caring towards my pet hamster and I'm always giving a bath every night at six to take care of his hair. Like whatever you're doing that you appreciate and admire about yourself, like start to fall in love with that. Start to fall in love with your abilities. I'm such a great sister, I'm such a great friend. Look for those things that you can find that you, that you love about yourself and appreciate. And it could be basics and you'll start to build a case for why you are a great woman, why you are a confident woman, why you are amazing. And that will start to build over time. So in psychology they talk about the table and the table with the legs. So imagine a legs. I'll make multiple tables, but imagine a leg here. I'll just do this. Imagine a leg that has four legs on the table, right? The table, if it's missing a leg, is going to fall over, but if it has four legs, it's going to be sturdy. So it's your belief and your sense of confidence is like a table. You need to get as many legs under the table. It'll be as. And so it becomes more and more sturdy. So what are the legs? The legs are your beliefs. The legs are your, your, your self image, the way you view yourself, your beliefs about yourself, your beliefs about men, your beliefs about relationships. So starting to affirm to yourself these beliefs like I am valuable, I am amazing, I'm a gift. Men are amazing. I love men. Men want to give to me. When men want to provide to me. High value men want to have an incredible relationship with me. Relationships are easy. Relationships are fun. Relationships are simple. I love my life, I love myself, I love people. I'm. The universe is a friendly place. That one came from Albert Einstein. So these beliefs you'll start to tell themselves, tell these beliefs to yourself until you start to believe them. And the more you tell them these beliefs to yourself through the morning affirmations or just throughout your day, you'll start to find evidence for why those are true and you'll start to build those legs on the, on the table. So those are some basics. Hope that helps. Hope I gave you some new things to think about in practice and of course ask more questions in our coaching membership and I'll, and we'll help you there as well to get these, get this handled for you so you can have an incredible relationship because it does start a big piece of this is your self confidence and self worth, which was the first point of this video. And that's very important. So Harlow said penetrating. Yeah. So I guess you're asking what do I mean by penetrating? So a man can penetrate you, of course, in the physical sense of having sex, but a man can also penetrate you in the emotional sense of penetrating your heart through his love, through his devotion, by making you feel those warm fuzzy feelings of him giving you that extra level of eye contact or that extra level of showing care for your heart by solving a problem for you, or asking you questions about how you're feeling or how your day was or how your life is, or wanting to hear more about your heart, your background, your feelings, things that have happened in your past. And a man could also penetrate you physically through the physical sense we talked about, but also through leading, through giving you hugs, through wanting to make you feel good physically. He can penetrate you mentally by having great conversations with you, teaching you things, asking you questions, showing you things you've never seen before. He can penetrate you spiritually by holding space for you, by holding a container in the relationship, wanting to lead, wanting to make a great relationship, having his own connection to God and bringing that into your relationship together. So there's a lot of ways a man can penetrate you and be in his healthy, masculine and penetrating you in a positive sense. There's also ways a man can penetrate you in the negative sense by being critical, criticizing you, or leading you poorly, or hurting you, insulting you, abusing you. Like there's also ways a man can penetrate in the negative sense as you can also penetrate a man energetically from your masculine. So receiving A man's positive leadership is a form of receiving his, his penetration in a way, receiving his ability to give his masculine gift. So being open and available to that. And if a man isn't giving you the positive, he's not really devoting himself, then you have to set a boundary with yourself and you have to say, no, I don't accept this behavior and I need to walk away. I need to get out of a situation that's not healthy and that's not good for me. Where a man isn't really leading me from the positive sense, he's not giving in the positive sense. I need to get out of that situation. Set a boundary with yourself and be available to a man who does show you his gifts and his leadership from a positive sense. So that's what I mean by penetrating. But it's part of the masculine feminine polarity. It goes back to our biology and how we're wired as men and women. That a man wants to give, a man wants to get outcomes, a man wants to lead and the feminine wants to receive from a healthy masculine man and wants to be taken care of and wants to be pleased and wants to be cared for and wants to be adored and wants to be cherished. So allowing this natural flow in the relationships is what will allow you to have the relationship of your dreams. And that's what we're teaching you here. Healthy masculine, feminine polarity. So the only thing that really creates long term love, chemistry, passion, and that lasts for life as well. So let's see what other questions we have. I'm going to answer a few other questions here. Then we're going to wrap up for tonight. So Melissa says, oh, let's see. Okay. Tony said, I have a question. I've been dating this guy for three months, going well. And he said he never felt this way before. No drama, he says, everything is so easy. Had a great time, dinner. Then he ghosted. Yeah. So I don't know exactly what happened. We're making up stories, which is good to acknowledge whenever you're talking to a man. That's why I recommend using the phrase telling myself a story. Because oftentimes we're just making up. We're story making machines. As humans, we're constantly trying to analyze things and imagine, oh, I wonder why he did this. Did I say something that offended him? Did I screw it up? Did I do something wrong? So we're making it up. We don't know why. Now here's one thing I'll add in. This could be an interesting point. Of view for you. That's not always a good thing. And this may shock some people, the fact that he said it was going well and everything was so easy and there was no drama. I know you might be shocked for me to say this. That's not necessarily a good thing. Here's the reason why I call this the Miss Too cool for school problem. So if everything is so easy and joyful and effortless for a man, he doesn't get to be the hero. He doesn't get to solve a problem for you. He doesn't get to help and feel valued and needed. And yes, there is an aspect where men love to have a peaceful relationship. They want to have a relationship that's easy, that's fun, that's enjoyable, that's relaxing, that's peaceful. However, it doesn't necessarily give him that deeper masculine core sense of purpose and meaning in the relationship. Which is why you will often see men ending up with women who are quote unquote, more dramatic or who are a little bit more on the bitchy side or the high maintenance side. Because a man does want to feel that he's needed and that he can solve problems and that he can be the hero and that he can provide for her. And so in that sense, yes, it may be a little bit annoying to him when a woman is having an issue, but if he solves the issue, if he fixes it, he gets to feel great and even better at the end of it because he got to go through the hero's journey. What is the hero's journey? So the hero's journey comes from Joseph Campbell and he wrote a book called the Hero with a Thousand Faces. And it was the inspiration for many of the Hollywood films that we see nowadays. But a man is wired in this way where for him to be a hero, he has to go through a trial and tribulation. He has to go through the belly of the beast. And we teach this more in our courses as well. But the hero's journey that a man has to go through is where he feels like there's an issue, there's a problem. Just like let's use the example of any movie, really, we'll use Star wars is the classic one. So Star wars, the issue was the Empire. The Empire was attacking and they needed his help. So Luke Skywalker was called onto this mission to go help save the galaxy, Right. And so in your relationship with your man, you can give him these little heroes journeys where there's a problem that comes up whether it's you feeling Anxious, you feeling insecure that we talked about earlier? Maybe there's an issue in the relationship. There's an issue with the house, the car, the computer, finances. Something's wrong, right? There's some problem. Now there's the call to adventure. The call to adventure in the hero's journey is where there's a problem that the man gets to be called into solving. So something comes up for you. I'm feeling sadness. I'm feeling anxiety. And he gets to inquire within you, why are you feeling sadness? Or why are you feeling anxiety? And you get to present the problem to him. This is a big piece of feminine communication that we teach is how do you present problems to a man in a respectful way so that he wants to solve the problem for you? He gets to feel needed. He gets to feel like a hero. So he goes into the problem with you. He gets to solve the problem. What is it? What's the problem? Why are you feeling anxious? He hears the problem. And then natural response after that is, if you've shared so respectfully from your feminine I want to help. How can I help? How can I make things better? How can I make you not. How can I help you to not feel anxious? How can I help you to not feel insecure? How can I help you to not feel. Or how can I help you to feel more connected to me? How can I help you to feel like I'm not going to break your trust? Whatever the issue is, or could be issues in your relationship, or could be issues like there's this guy standing over there looking at us, and it's making me feel uncomfortable. I don't know what to do. And he's like, okay, I'm gonna go talk to him. I'm gonna go get security, and we're gonna get him out of here. He's gonna solve the problem of you feeling unsafe. So there's many different problems. There's infinite amount of problems that you could present to a man that he can solve for you and get to be the hero. When he comes out on the other side of the return, the return from the hero's journey, he solves the problem, and now he gets the treasure. The treasure is you being happy. The treasure is you feeling good at the end of the journey that he solved the problem and that he gets to feel like a hero. And he won. He won the game. And so if you're able to provide these little heroes journeys. Heroes journeys for a man, then he's able to solve these problems continuously. Be your man. Be your hero and know that he's in a relationship where he has a sense of purpose and he has a sense of meaning. So in that sense, it may not always just be fun and easy. And you don't always want it to be fun and easy. Because here's the thing also, if you're with a man and it's always just easy and fun and light to the point where he's even commenting about it like, oh, it's just so easy being with you. It just feels so good and so relaxing, then you're probably likely not being fully authentic. Because I'm sure if you're really inquiring within your heart, there's something that you may feel slightly off about, slightly uncomfortable about, slightly sad about, slightly anxious about, slightly nervous about, or insecure about. And you can share those things with him again in a respectful way. And you're not just dumping all your problems onto a man right when you meet him and complaining. You're giving him a chance. You're easing him in. Which is also why we recommend asking permission. Whenever you share a problem with a man, you're making sure you're not just dumping it onto him and penetrating him through your masculine by just, hey, this is a problem. You need to fix it now. But you're giving him a chance. You're saying, hey, can I share a problem I'm having with you? Sure. Well, I'm noticing that when you came in earlier, you were talking in a way where your voice was pretty loud, and it made me feel that you were upset about something with me that I did, and I felt sad about that, and I don't know what to do. And so he's like, oh, sorry, I didn't mean to talk so harshly. I didn't mean I was. I didn't mean to raise my voice with you. And I just had a hard day at work and I won't do that again, babe, I'm sorry. Or he'll just make a correction, like, I don't want us to talk to each other like that. So there's many different problems. That's just an example of, like, if he was raising his voice at you, right? Or he was a little aggressive when he came home from work and you didn't really like his tone. You can share that in a respectful way where now he gets to fix it and be like, oh, sorry, baby, I didn't mean to talk to you like that. I don't want you to feel like I'm upset at you or I'm being Too loud and obnoxious. Like, I don't want to do that anymore, maybe I shouldn't drink as much or who knows whatever was causing it for him. So that's an example of bringing those problems up to him so that he can solve with you. That could be a reason. I'm not saying that's the reason, but that could be a reason why he ghosted. He just didn't feel like there was a space for him to be the hero in the relationship. There wasn't any problems for him to solve and he didn't get that sense of meaning out of it. So he's just like, oh, it was nice, but I don't really. Didn't really feel anything that could be a reason. Just one of them. Plus you're also in that process, you're building polarity because again, the feminine sharing her feelings, open, vulnerable heart sharing problems. And the masculine is getting to hear that. He's getting to observe and hold space for that and getting to solve the problems and be the hero. So that's the polarity piece that creates that attraction and that juice and that passion in a relationship that he might not have felt either. We don't know. We're just making up stories, but hopefully that could maybe give you some insights into what may be happening or at least make sure that that area is covered for future dates. So the peace coach said, I feel like you're a brother I never had telling me what is really going on in a man's heart and what he really needs. So excited to be on this journey. Yep. I'm glad you feel that way. It can definitely be like that. That's what I want to do, is give you the insights into a man, into his mind, into his heart, so that you can understand more and know what his wirings, how he's wired, so that you can match that and be the compliment to have him feel like that. The, the sparks are flying, the, the plugs are connecting, the electrical cords are connecting. So now this chemistry and this electricity can flow. So glad that helps. Mercedes said, if he said, you are too much for me, I don't deserve you, what does that mean? It can mean a lot of things, Mercedes, but one thing it could mean is he doesn't feel. Of course he could not feel good enough. He could be a man who doesn't have a high sense of self worth in himself, a sense of value. Now, the way I typically view this, when a man says, I don't deserve you or you're too much for me, I mean there's many different things. So if he said just that one piece, if you are too much for me, that could mean that you actually could be in your masculine with him. If you're doing too much things for him, if you're providing for him, if you're giving him, if you're trying to make him happy, if you're anticipating his needs, then he could feel that you're too busy busy in your masculine, that he doesn't feel the space to be in his masculine. He's like, whoa, I, that's too much. I can't do anything for you because you're giving so much to me. You're providing so many things to me. Like part of me likes it. The more feminine part of him is like, yeah, this is great, I like to have a woman taking care of me. But also I can't give anything to you. Like how am I supposed to be the hero here? How am I supposed to give if you're giving all the time? He can't be in his masculine. So that could be one thing for him to say he doesn't deserve you. Again, that could be low self worth or it could be him feeling that, yeah, the polarity piece again too, that he can't actually give to you. So he doesn't feel a sense of being able to provide in the relationship. And sometimes guys will just use this as a cop out. This can be a generic sense, a statement to say basically like, I don't think we're really a good match, like you're too good for me, I need to like you, you can be with somebody so much better. But it's actually because he doesn't really feel the chemistry, he doesn't really feel that he wants the relationship. So he's just kind of using it as a nice way to kind of break up. So that could be going on as well. There's a lot of things I would have to get more details about the relationship but those are just some, some general thoughts right now, Mercedes. Hope that helps you. Feel free to post a question below or in our coaching membership. We can go deeper as well to help you with that, that situation. And so Harlow said you can't change anyone if someone doesn't respect you. Yeah, you can't change him. All you can change is yourself and that's all you can control and that's what we're teaching you here. But the beauty is through the law of polarity, opposite energies attract. If you become more feminine, he's going to be inspired into his masculine and if he doesn't respect you, that could be partially because you're not respecting him or he doesn't feel respected by you, or it could be that he's not valuing the relationship. And then that sense we need to work on again getting you into becoming a high value feminine woman that he does value, that he does respect in that sense and so he can have, you can have a great relationship together. Or he could be a broken man, he could be an asshole, he could be just a man who's not capable of showing care for your heart. In that case, you do need to set a boundary with yourself and be willing to walk away. So those are of kind couple things to note with that. And then Heather said, now that he broke up with me, should I just move on? How do I get him to return? He will not even have a conversation about this. Yeah, it's a really tough situation if a man's not even willing to have a conversation with you. Now there's different approaches. We'll recommend to you on how if you can still message him and if you could still contact him, I'd highly recommend taking our free quiz and we'll help you. We'll get you some coaching and some support to what to send to him. We have actually a seven word text message you can send that can reverse the revive the relationship and we also have another text message that you can send him called our appreciation bomb text that can shift the energy with him and get him to come back and pursue you and then hopefully you can get on the phone with him. Ultimately, hopefully you can at least have a phone conversation. So we can use magnetic feminine communication and shifty and shift the dynamic and have him start to care and devote to you. If you can't even get to that point, all we can really work on. So if he's not even responding, letting you send text messages, if he's blocked you or something, all we can work on at that point is your energy. We can work on getting you into your magnetic feminine energy so that you can shift the energy within yourself. Of course you can start attracting more high value masculine men into your life. And then likely I believe that men have a sixth sense that they can sense when there's an energetic shift with a woman that they've been energetically tied to. Some people call this soul ties and that there's a way that he can sense energetically that you've shifted and that can start to bring him back to you where he reaches back out to you. He starts Pursuing you again or at least checking in with you and then we can go from there. But those are the only things we can do right now with that situation to start to bring him back. And they can be powerful things. We just have to give it a try. So I'd recommend getting some coaching support with that and hopefully we can shift the dynamic. Otherwise, yes, you will likely need to move on. All right, so I'm going to answer one final question here tonight. And so patriot Liberty said 25 years of being unhappy, emotional abuse, inverted roles. I left two months ago and have been focusing on my healing, which includes your incredible teachings in healing my childhood trauma. I need help. Yeah, definitely. There's going to be a lot there. And especially what happens with the years of emotional abuse and you being in your masculine. There's a lot of armor that you're going to have on, a lot of masculine armor that's protecting you for good reason. You had some trauma and you had some abuse in the past, so you have armor on. And what we're going to do and what we're going to help you with, ideally through the 90 day challenge, which I think I saw something you mentioned about that as well, is we're going to help you start to gradually take off that armor and to be more exposed in your feminine vulnerability. It's going to feel scary. It's going to be a process, but we're going to help you take the armor off. We're going to start peeling back the layers of trauma and abuse and being in your masculine and protecting yourself so that you can feel safe to actually share your feelings with a man, to actually be your authentic self with a man and draw him to you and draw a man who protects you where you can take off the armor and give it to him. Like, let your man be your warrior. Let him put on the armor of love and start to protect you so that you don't have to. You can be the princess. You can be open, you can be cherished, you can be adored, you can be vulnerable and let him pick up the sword and protect anyone who would try to hurt you from his masculine because now he values you and he's still a highly masculine man who cares about you and who you're highly attracted to and excited about. But he's also going to be like, I'm not going to let anybody touch you. I'm not going to let anybody hurt you, even your feelings. Like, I'm going to. I'm going to be your warrior from here on out. Like, I will die if that's what it takes to protect you. And he'll expand that. Like if you have a family together, if you have kids, you're bringing in the situation, like, he'll expand it, he's going to protect the family. But that's what masculinity is all about. Masculinity is really about death. Like, I'm willing to die to protect you and I'm willing to die, in a sense, to make you happy, to make you a fully filled up, cherished, adored woman. Because that's my purpose. And if I'm not able to do that, then I failed as a man. I failed in being my core masculine role in the world, which is being the protector, provider, hero. And if I can't do that, then something's really wrong. So a man is going to be inspired into that. When you have let that armor down and you've been able to give it to him using magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication, like what we're teaching you. And you'll attract those kind of men into your life, men who are wanting to lead you, they're wanting to provide to you, they're wanting to make you happy, give you pleasure and protect you and all the other things that your heart may desire. Like, he'll want to give that to you because of who you're being. The feminine is being, the masculine is doing. He's going to do. He's going to give through who you're being, being in your feminine. So we're going to teach that to you and we're going to help you with that. And I would highly recommend taking our free quiz if you haven't yet, and joining our coaching memberships so that we can get you on the right path. And if you have any other questions about that, go ahead and feel free to send us an email as well, any of our emails after you've taken the quiz. We'll definitely help you. We'll answer questions and get you on the right path because we want to coach you, we want to support you, and we'll customize everything to make sure you get the relationship of your dreams. We'll do whatever it takes to make sure you're in that spot because that's what creates the better world for all of us. That's going to create a more loving world when men can be in their healthy masculine and women can be in their healthy feminine. And we have incredible relationships and incredible, healthy, happy human beings on the planet. So that's it for, for tonight. So again, if you want to take this to the next level? I highly recommend. Can't recommend enough. 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