A brief spoken piece by Mark Hamilton about preserving deep values in relationships. He argues that beneath conscious complaints there can be right-brain, deep love worth salvaging, and sometimes one should act with love and provide security even when reason or feelings push toward leaving. He notes everyday stresses can obscure these deep values.
Always look deeply at anything that you have any value.
And in the realm of relationships, so many people.
I've seen this in business dealings or what have you. Someone becomes a world traveler and suddenly leaves the family or the spouse, whatever. Realize that when you.
First.
Married your spouse, there is something very deep there that was coming from your right brain. There's many things that your right brain knows that your left brain does not know. And those things are still there.
So whereas your left brain may see reasons or problems, a lot of times the part you don't know about consciously could very much still be in love. There could be something very deep and powerful worth salvaging. And sometimes your actions must be the opposite of what your feelings are telling you or what your left brain, what your thoughts are telling you. You're irrational.
Immature spouse who's name calling you and saying things that are just absolutely not true. Maybe instead of shutting them off and turning away and then looking elsewhere, maybe that's a time to actually do just the opposite. Show love. Give them a sense of security.
Tell them certain things like you're still deeply in love with them.
You may be quite surprised. And those who I advise this to, from what I've learned, the relationship now is closer than it's ever been. Because now their security.
In more than one instance, the spouse is now part of the society of secrets and they're closer, more in love than ever. Sometimes it's just that much under the surface. But you must act differently than the way you think you're supposed to act. Now, I'm not saying that.
That'S true in all cases. And I know that there's been other situations where relationships have. New relationships have been made at the cost of others. I'm not passing judgment. I'm not saying that was right or wrong by any means. Each situation is unique and has to be the people involved. Decisions not influenced by me. Other than to say that. Understand that.
Values that are deep and came from somewhere.
Sometimes can be lost in everyday life. The stresses and the strains.
So keep that in mind. Sometimes we overlook that.
