031: Using EFT to live your best life

Hi guys, how are you all? I hope that everyone is good. I'm just looking out the window. Where the bloody hell is this summer? Like, all it's done is rain. I just want to get me shorts and like sunnies on and get some sun cream on and lie outside in my garden, but the weather is so meh. I apologize in advance as well if anyone can hear any loud machinery, because we live on a new build estate, they're constantly like building new houses and things, and apparently this is going on for the next 12 years. Hopefully we'll have moved by then. But yeah, so I do apologize, but there is a lot of loud machinery pretty much right outside my friggin' house today, just when I need to record the podcast. So I've got my Zen head on. I'm not going to shout out the window, don't worry. I'm just going to open it and be like, shut the fuck up. Anyway, um, this week I was lucky enough and privileged— oh, by the way, my sore throat is gone finally. But yeah, anyway, this week I was lucky enough and privileged enough to have been asked to be on the Jude Dawn Unbreakable Mindset podcast as a guest, and I spoke about how I got into manifesting and the mindset that I now have because of everything that I've learned over the years. And Jude is a mindset coach. She's a life coach, she's a business coach, and she's also a psychotherapist as well, all rolled into one. And she really talks a lot of sense. And the episode was so long just because I never shut up— standard— um, so it had to be actually split into two parts. My fault for gassing. Um, so yeah, part one is out now, part two is coming Tuesday the 10th of May. Uh, yeah, so go and have a listen if you haven't already. Just search Unbreakable Mindset wherever you're you're listening to this podcast from. We had such a laugh recording it and she's had some amazing feedback on it as well. So I'm over the moon with that. I'm really impressed. So go and have a listen. It's a really fun episode. Right. So anyway, this week's episode of Kenny Crystals, the podcast, we spoke about this time and time again and I've had, well, you wouldn't believe the amount of messages that I've had wanting me to do an episode on this. So it's finally here. You can all shove this in your pipes. We're going to talk about emotional freedom techniques, EFT, tapping, whatever you'd like to call it. So with talking about this, and before we actually get into doing a round of EFT ourselves, this might sound like a bit of a complicated episode, okay? So I might even do a longer TikTok on it to explain it better by video. I'm not sure how this is going to work. It might sound confusing, but I just want you to have an open mind and to stick with it, okay? So do your own research if you feel the need to, but most of all, give it a shot for yourself to see what it brings up for you, but just stick with it. You might need to listen to this episode twice if you don't quite get it the first time, but I assure you, it might sound complicated, but it's really, really not, okay? So maybe even watch a video on how to do EFT first. I am going to explain it, but it's hard to explain it over just audio rather than visual, isn't it? But yeah, grab yourself a pen and a bit of paper if you're old school, or even just open the Notes app on your phone if you're living in 3008, because chances you're going to need to write a couple of bits of info down to help you along the way. So before you even start becoming intentional about shifting your vibration towards alignment with your dream life, you know that you need to be prepared to deal with all the resistance that are likely to show up in your life, yeah? So the failure to have the tools to do this is what accounts for virtually all failures of Law of Attraction techniques or programs, and While many law of attraction teachers talk about the importance of letting go of attachment and things, or simply allowing the universe to deliver, for the most part they don't really provide specific instructions on how to do this, and any instructions that are given are vague at best. And that's what EFT is all about. It's all about forgiving yourself, letting go, and just letting go of that attachment. And recently there's been a lot of incredible breakthrough in understanding the human energy system And this has brought forth like extremely powerful tools to deal directly with resistance because at the end of the day, resistance is simply just energy that's vibrating at a frequency that's not in resonance with your dreams and desires. Yeah, and we know this. So we have to actually manually change that vibration of that energy. And this is what release techniques do. So these techniques that I'm going to talk about today, it's just EFT basically, it's tapping. It's extremely simple to use, and it can be used in the moment that you become aware, basically, of the resistance. So you will know yourself that you're experiencing resistance when it happens because it's virtually always associated with a negative thought or feeling. So if you have any thought that deflates your enthusiasm for your vision, then chances are that you're dealing with resistance right there and then. That exact moment that you feel this, this is the best time to use EFT. And I want to underline and bold the hell out of that by saying that release techniques are most effective when you use them on the spot throughout the day in any moment of upset. So it's, it's always when it's like you're at your heightened, like, anxieties about that, basically. So they're generally not nearly as powerful when used after the situation because chances you've already had time to for your brain to diffuse what's going on and you've had time to chill out. So the key to most release techniques is actually being tuned into the emotion that you want to release. So working on these emotions later in the day is generally not nearly as effective as addressing them in the moment. Your goal should be to get to a point basically where you can release resistance on the spot in any given moment. So if someone comes up to you and said like, oh Martin, I want you to do I'm just speaking hypothetically here. I want you to do X, Y, and Z. I know you've already got all of this on your plate today, but I'm gonna chuck even more at ya. Then on top of that, you're gonna need to do this, this, and this. Chances are I would sit there and be like, oh my God, I'm so anxious, I'm so stressed, all of this needs doing by 5 o'clock, blah blah blah. And I will be sat there in full panic mode, not knowing what to do. That is the exact moment that you can do it. And this, the goal for this is so that basically I can sit back and think, okay, I've got plenty of time to do this. Nothing's going to bother me. I'm absolutely fine. I can manage this. This is totally acceptable. And it's just to bring yourself down from that heightened anxiety, like I say. And don't worry, because that ability will come to you with practice. The more that you experience the feeling of releasing that resistance, the easier it'll obviously be to do it on the spot. So like everything that we do in life, you learn the more that you do it, and the more you do it, the better you'll become at it. So like, imagine being able to let go of anger in, you know, in a snap, in an instant. What would life be like if all those feelings of jealousy or hatred or self-doubt or irrational fear or even worry could become tiny little moments in your day rather than have that heavy emotional weight that affect your ability to live your life. So resistance is the only thing that's keeping you from experiencing your manifestations and desires right now. So learning these effective, like, release techniques about EFT, it's one of the most powerful things that you can do. So EFT, like I say, it's short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, and it's probably the most effective technique that I use myself. I do it daily, and what's great about it is that you can adapt your script to pretty much any situation that you need a release with. So as you learn about EFT, you might find yourself feeling a little skeptical at first, and that's absolutely fine because I did it at first as well. I felt really, really skeptical thinking, this isn't going to work. I mean, when you think about it, the process literally involves tapping various points of your body with two fingers while talking to yourself. And I mean, sometimes I'll be laying in bed doing it and Johnny walks in and he just gives me the look as if to say, What the actual fuck is going on? But yeah, it looks like a cult, but it's not, obviously. It's literally tapping your body. I didn't even try it on myself for almost a year after learning about it either, because I just couldn't grasp how it would work. Anyway, the Denise Duffield-Thomas Money Bootcamp that I'm part of, it's one of the modules on there, and it wasn't until then that I started incorporating it. And I remember there was one morning I woke up, I had huge limiting beliefs and huge amounts of self-doubt on my conscience, And I just remember thinking, what is the harm? I actually did the process and I immediately just knew and understood how integrating EFT into my daily routine could then help me overcome more of my problems and limitations within my life. So let me give you the history of tapping before we actually get into this. Um, and imagine I'm putting my sexy secretary glasses on right now because I'm going to sound like such a nerd when in actual fact I'm just going to read this from Google. So EFT is a form of psychological acupressure treatment that uses a gentle tapping technique instead of needles to stimulate traditional Chinese acupuncture points of the energy meridians we have in our bodies. So we've all heard of like acupuncture and acupressure and things like that. So this is all this is, but instead of using needles, you're using fingers. So really, this technique just borrows the acupuncture theory that energy gets blocked in these circuits of electricity around the body, and that results in emotional and physical symptoms. And we know that when we have that energy blocked in our body, that's when we start to harbor, like, things like illness and ill health around our body. And that results in emotional and physical symptoms. And the tapping can eliminate these energy blockages. So it's just moving the energy around your body, basically. It's a bit like inserting acupuncture needles, like I say, but obviously it's a lot easier and a lot less painful and a lot less worrying to apply it to yourself, because I mean, I'm freaking petrified of needles. Um, but yeah, it's— you can do this on yourself, you can do it in your car, you can do it in your bed, you can do it at your desk at work, you can do it sat on the toilet having a poo. Literally, you can do this anywhere. I do it sometimes when I'm out for a dog walk. It's absolutely crazy. You can do it wherever you want. So basically this is what you do. So you start tapping on these acupuncture points on the face and the body, and you just repeat a phrase that represents your current problem. And by combining your focus, the affirmations, and the tapping, it seems to balance the energy system and relieve all the emotional distress and physical pain in your body. And that restores the balance of the energy system, which allows the body and the mind to resume their natural abilities. So not only is it safe and easy to apply. It's non-invasive because acupuncture is using needles, and that is— so this is non-invasive. It's been used successfully since the 1970s, so almost 50 years now, and it's just started to gain popularity. It's massive in Chinese and herbal medicine. I don't know about you, but over here in Newcastle we have— well, it's in Gateshead, but hey ho. Um, in Newcastle we have the Metro Centre, and in there there's a Chinese herbal specialist, and For years I've walked past this place and they're always trying to like give out leaflets for like ear candling and aromatherapy and stuff like that, and I've never ever gone in. But when I walked past last week, I saw that they even do EFT for you. There's an actual EFT practitioner, but I just don't understand why you would get someone to tap on points for you when you can do it yourself. But anyway, so yeah, it's been around for absolutely years. It's just gaining in popularity now. And guess what? You can use it for almost anything. So whether that be severe stress reactions, insomnia, anxiety, allergies, limiting beliefs, blocks to success and abundance, PTSD, like trauma, childhood trauma, pain relief, phobias, sugar and cigarette cravings, and much, much more. It's whatever you want to use it for. You can help it, and you can help your body calm down and relax from that heightened state. So for EFT to be effective, you need to follow the stages. So number 1 is to choose a clear target. So for the purpose of today, I'm going to choose, I don't know, the target of I'm afraid to be successful. Okay, so that is the target that we're going to target. Number 2 is to aim the EFT tapping treatment at that target. Okay, so we're going to verbalize our words around that about feeling successful and what that brings up for me. And number 3 is to then follow that up with the tapping. So your target might be a belief or an emotion, or it might even be an event that happened in the past, or like I say, a craving of sugar or cigarettes, or even a physical pain like in your lower back or your legs or wherever. I'll give you some examples. So your belief might be that you don't have what it takes to be successful. Your emotion might be that you feel so anxious about an upcoming meeting. An event. It might be that it's causing you anxiety. It might be a time that you're thinking about the time that your parents humiliated you in front of all your friends, and that's just kept that emotional charge. Cravings might be that you always crave sugar late in the afternoon. You might have a pain issue that you have a sharp shooting pain in your lower back. Whatever it is that you're wanting to target, I just want you to connect with that feeling and how that feeling comes across, across your entire body, and just rate yourself out of 10 for intensity. So not being that it doesn't bother you at all, which obviously it, it's not going to be a zero because why else would you be doing this, or 10 for full intensity that you literally can't leave the house because of this. And then you come back to that score at the end, so you just remember that. So the basic setup of EFT is you create a statement about the target area that you want to work on. So we start with a set of statements naming the problem but we combine them with a general affirmation phrase as you go around. So for example, a set of statements sounds like, um, even though I have this extreme anxiety about meeting with my boss today, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. You repeat that initial setup statement out loud 3 times while you tap the karate chop point on your hand with 2 fingers off your other hand. So the karate chop point is on the side of your hand where your little finger is about halfway between the tip of your little finger to the bottom of your palm. And then once you've repeated that setup statement 3 times, you start then tapping on the meridian points in sequence. Don't worry, we are going to do a section of this, um, at the end, and it will become clear when we start doing that. So when you start tapping the sequence of points, it helps you to tune in and to stay focused on the issue that you've chosen for treatment. Yes, I know this all sounds really fucking weird, But you always start with a negative tapping round, and that just affirms the issues to yourself and it brings them to the forefront of your mind, and that helps you tune into the problem. So you always start at the eyebrow point, and as you begin tapping each point in sequence of points, you approximately tap maybe 10 times with 2 fingers, and you repeat the negative reminder phrase. So the EFT sequence of points is— and you might want to write these down, this is why I told you to get some paper— So number 1, the first one, is the top of your eyebrow. So this is more towards the center of your face than the outer side. So it's just tapping on your eyebrow. Number 2, next, is the side of your eye. So just literally at the side of your eye. The third spot is under your eye. So again, on your cheekbone. Um, number 4 is on your fulcrum, which is the part of your face just under your nose, above your top lip. Then fifth is your chin, so just underneath your bottom lip. Then sixth is the collarbone, okay, so just tapping on the collarbone. Seventh is under your arm. Now, this is the bit under your arm where if you were a girl or you were wearing a bra, it's where your bra strap would sit, okay, so just there. Some people call it the monkey, uh, the monkey point because you look like a monkey as you're trying to press it. Um, But then the 8th and last point is the top of your head, so right on your crown. So the first round directs your mind to focus on the negative thought patterns that block your ability to reach your goals, to feel calm, attract abundance, or release food cravings, and it allows EFT to then neutralize them so that you don't have any emotional charge left in your body. So once you're done with the first round of tapping while affirming these negative statements, about your target, you then start with the positive tapping sequences, and you can go around as many times as you want positive, okay? So you tap on the exact same 8 places again, but this time you focus on the solution by verbalizing positive things about your target. And this basically allows you to reprogram your mind and install what you would prefer to experience emotionally in your thought patterns and in your life. You then complete each exercise with a slow, deep breath to help move that released energy through your body and mark yourself out of 10, and you'll see the improvement. So now that you know the basics, we're going to do an example of a round of EFT. So I just want you to get comfortable on your chair, have your notes in front of you, what you've just took for the 8 points. I will be repeating them anyway, but just so that you know. And just get yourself comfy somewhere where you won't be disturbed for approximately 5 minutes. And I just want you to sit and really feel the area that you want to target. So whether that be your limiting beliefs, your anxiety, your physical pain, your cravings, an event that happened in the past, and I just want you to measure that intensity and the charge of that fear on a scale of 0 to 10. So go ahead and do that now. So once you've got your score, whilst tapping on your karate chop point on either hand, repeat after me. You can do this on your left or your right. You can tap with whichever hand you prefer. For me, I'm using my right hand to tap on my left. So repeat after me while you're tapping. Even though I'm afraid to be successful, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I'm scared that with success comes great responsibility, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though success feels unachievable to me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. So that's the setup statement done. So now we move into the first round of negative tapping. So I'm going to say the body part out loud because you can't see what I'm doing here by audio, but you just repeat the statement without saying the body part, okay? That's just to let you know where to tap. So let's go, starting on the eyebrow. I'm afraid to be successful. Side of eye: I have this deep fear of being successful. Under the eye: I'm afraid to be hurt if I'm successful. Under the nose: I'm afraid that I will never ever be successful. On the chin: I fear that success is out of my reach. Collarbone: I don't know how I'm going to make it. Under the armpit. I'm scared that if I try, I'll fail. Top of head. I'm afraid that people will desert me if I'm successful. Okay, so now that we've done one negative round, we move on to the positive tapping round. So round 2, let's go. Eyebrow. I love knowing that I can let go of this fear. Side of eye. I choose to release this conflict about success. Under the eye. It feels so right to feel good about success. Under the nose. I appreciate that success is good for us all. On the chin. I love knowing that I can be safe and successful. Collarbone. I am super successful in my own rights. Under the armpit: It feels so good to be successful. Top of head: I love attracting abundance and being successful. So once you've done round 2, you can either continue on with round 3 and 4 and 5, either repeating that or with new positive phrases, or however many rounds that you want to do. But once you're finished, you take a deep breath in, you hold it for a few seconds, and then you release everything out from your lungs. Ah. You can then rate the intensity of your issue on a scale of 0 to 10 again and see the improvement for yourself. So usually when I'm in periods of high anxiety, my score might be an 8 or a 9. But after doing EFT, it'll come right down to a 3 or 4. It's amazing. It's such a good tool. And like I said, the more that you do it, the more you'll get the hang of it. Now I don't even need my own scripts. Like, I can literally sit here right now and make something up on the spot and just do scripting on that, and I know the exact, like, points of my body that I should be tapping on. That there, what I just gave you, was just an example of EFT that I wrote on the spot. Okay, so you can change your scripts and you can say the words like you want for any issue that you have. I have ones that I've wrote when I feel bad and anxious about having low sales on my website. I've got ones that I've wrote for when I get lower back pain, or even when I'm just anxious about going to the gym, or when I'm going to visit family and I know that things might get heated in conversation. You can write EFT for anything. It tends to be more powerful and meaningful to you when you adapt the script based around your wants and needs and around the issues that you want help with. It's pointless, like me doing scripts for success like we've just done there, for example, if that's not an issue for you and you don't feel like success is holding you back. I hope that makes sense, like, because success does feel like it's holding me back all the time. I'm a massive self-sabotager, self-saboteur, um, But if you're struggling for inspiration, YouTube has some amazing videos, and I mean, there are millions out there, and I'm not just like over-exaggerating. There are literally millions. Just Google EFT tapping followed by your issue, so anxiety, limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, or whatever it is that you want help with. Okay, you can also Google script ideas. Again, there are millions out there. I'm even doing one right now. It's called A Month to Manifest $50,000. Which I found on YouTube, and you basically just tap every day for a month, and there have been some amazing results in the comments section. So I just thought, why not? It's 5 minutes a day for a month. That can't hurt anyone. This is something that you can do on the go. You can do it while you're in the shower. You can do it while you're in the bath. Like I say, you can do it while you're out for a walk. Literally give yourself 5 minutes every single day try this, okay? Just try it for a week, try it for a month, see what difference it is that it makes to your life. See what it brings up for you. If you do want any help writing your own script, just drop me a message and I'll gladly point you in the right direction and give you some hints and tips. You can DM me on TikTok or Instagram @cannycrystals or on my personal, which is @marttweedie, or even feel free to even message us on the chat function on my website, cannycrystals.co.uk. All links are in the show notes, by the way. I do hope that you enjoyed this episode. I know it was a little different to what we normally do and what we normally talk about, but so many of you have been asking for this EFT episode for so long now. I will eventually get round to signing up to YouTube and getting a video made for there, but for the time being, I really hope that this helps you out in some way, shape, or form. And give it a go. Like I say, let me know how you get on. Drop me a message. Next week's episode will be different again because next week I have my very first podcast guest. Woohoo! Finally, it's only taken me 31 episodes. Yes, so that'll be nice, won't it? But for now, thank you so, so much for joining me once again. Go leave me a rate and a review. I really do appreciate it wherever you're listening from. I love you all so much. Thank you so, so much. Um, have a beautiful ful week, and I'll see you all again next Friday for another episode of Candy Crystals the podcast. See you later, guys. Bye!