167: What do you desire?

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Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Cani Crystals the podcast. I want to start this episode by saying Merry Christmas if you celebrate it, and I hope that everyone has had an amazing little break from work, from family, from whatever it is that you want a little break from. So this Christmas was our first with our little baby boy, and you know what, like, some people go absolutely crazy at Christmas and they buy loads of gifts and, you know, they get themselves into debt. And I used to do this so many years off the trot. Like, there was one year that I bought Johnny a holiday to Crete, like all-inclusive, all paid off and everything like that. There was even one Christmas that I bought me mam tickets to go and see Cliff Richard, and there was something like £400 each. And you know what, I used to put things on me credit card all the time and I would think like, oh, I'll just pay them off in the future, not worry about it. And I'd still be paying them off in like May and June time. And then before I knew it, it was time to start buying more presents. So this year I just said to Johnny, let's have an intentional Christmas. Let's not buy each other anything. And I said the same thing to me mam as well. She didn't listen, she still bought me and Johnny stuff. But I just said like, let's have an intentional Christmas. I wanna make memories with our baby boy. I wanna make memories with you. I wanna just, you know, just have a good day in each other's company with some nice food and just make some memories, make some experiences, that kind of thing, and even start some little traditions as well. So that's exactly what we did. We had an amazing Christmas Day. Me mam stayed over the night before just so she could see the bairn open his presents and stuff like that. And we didn't really do much, to be totally honest. We even bought, you know, them trays of vegetables that you get where they're already like seasoned and they're already oiled and stuff, and you literally just pull the plastic off the top and whack them in the oven. We did that for Christmas dinner because you know what? I didn't want to be stood in the kitchen for 2 or 3 hours stressing about when everything needed to go in and, you know, keep on basting the turkey and stuff. So we just bought shop-bought stuff and honestly it was just the nicest, most relaxed Christmas day ever. And baby absolutely loved it, obviously. He got spoiled rotten from family and friends. I knew that we wouldn't even have to buy him anything because he's just been absolutely spoiled rotten by everyone else. But, you know, he got like little Teletubbies dolls and In the Night Garden things and, oh, all that stuff that makes noise. And he was absolutely over the moon, like squealing with laughter all day. And it was just so, so nice to see. It was just so nice to spend time with family and just, you know, really chill out. And then today, as I record this, we're actually flying to Northern Ireland to see Johnny's family because he's Northern Irish. So we're actually taking everything but the bloody kitchen sink on this flight, as you can imagine. It's really hard traveling with a small baby under the age of 1, but it's just going to be so nice to spend even more time with family, friends, and take a little relaxing break from work and switch off. And obviously the next thing, the next big thing will be 2025. So I wanted to use this episode to ask you about what are your goals for 2025? So what do you desire? You know, I want you to really get specific with your goals and dreams because the next 12 months are going to be so poignant for us all. So I want I want you to start just by picturing yourself standing at the edge of a cliff, and it's kind of overlooking this massive endless ocean. And across the horizon, there is a giant colorful canvas that is filled with endless possibility. So every single wave that just laps against the shore, it carries these secrets of dreams that we haven't yet discovered, or wishes that we haven't yet made, and potential that is just waiting to burst into life. So the ocean is like the universe. It's brimming with all these magical energies that shape our world, and it's just just waiting for you to give them some direction with your clear intentions. Now I want you to think of your desires as little ships on this ocean. They are just ready to set sail, but for these ships to reach their destinations, they need very specific coordinates. And this is where our adventure of manifestation is going to kick off, with the magic of being specific. So just like a captain would need a map to sail the seas, you need to define your dreams with pinpoint accuracy just to guide the universe in making them come true. So I want you to consider this episode your compass, okay? So together we're going to dive into the deepest parts of your heart. We are going to discover what you truly desire. So by learning about the power of being specific, you'll then be able to tap into the universe's energy, turning those fuzzy wishes into sparkling realities, okay? So one of the most common messages that I get on a daily basis is from people asking me how they know what they want to manifest in life. And you know, that really is all down to you because it's pointless me saying the more common things that people want in life such as money or love if those areas of your life pose no issues for you. We need to learn how to get specific and ask for what we want. So I want you to ask this question to yourself at some point today and just jot down whatever comes to mind. What do I desire? Now this question sounds quite simple on its surface but it kind of invites us into the depths of our being, urging us to get specific, to uncover, to articulate all those dreams that we want to manifest in our lives. But not only that, it also allows us to discover the paths that lead us to the clarity and specificness needed to bring out our deepest desires to life. So the Law of Attraction obviously teaches us that to manifest our desires, we've not only got to ask the universe for what we want, but we have to be crystal clear about it, no pun intended. So the universe responds to specific specificness, just like a kind of, you know, a sat nav or a GPS. They need exact coordinates to reach a specific destination. So why is it so crucial? It's because it acts as a beacon. It guides the energy of our intentions through all the possibilities of the universe to materialize our exact desires. Because when you're specific, you activate a powerful frequency to the universe. It's like tuning into that radio station. So the clearer the frequency, the better you're going to receive. Now, you might be listening to this wondering, you know, why is being specific so important? Can't I just wish for happiness or success and call it a day? I want to tell you that pinpointing your desires is like adding rocket fuel to your manifestation journey. So imagine walking into a busy restaurant without looking at the menu, and when the waiter walks over to you, you vaguely say, "I want something tasty, I'm really hungry." Now, the possibilities are going to be endless, and while you might end up with a delicious meal, there's also a chance that you'll get something that doesn't quite hit the spot, or something that you're allergic to, or something that you don't even fancy. So I want you to think about how different that experience would be when you know exactly what you want. Maybe it's a nice juicy cheeseburger with crispy chips and a crisp cold beer. Whatever it is, the moment you place your order, the kitchen starts to get to work. It starts preparing your meal to your exact specifications. So manifestation just works in pretty much the same way. The universe is like that restaurant. Your desires are orders that you place. So when you're vague, the universe has a harder time delivering exactly what you want. But when you're more specific, you are going to set clear intentions that act as a precise instruction to that cosmic kitchen. And this not only helps you get what you want, but it also helps to speed up the process as well. So I'm going to add a little bit of science into this magical mix now, because neuroscientists have discovered that our brains are They're basically like powerful supercomputers. They're always on the lookout for ways to turn our thoughts into reality. Now, this is known as the reticular activating system. You might have heard of me refer to this before as RAS. This is what it is. That RAS, it acts as a filter, so it's going to prioritize information that aligns with our goals and desires. So when you're specific about your goals, you're essentially just programming your RAS to focus on the things that will help you to achieve them. For instance, if your goal is to buy a new car, suddenly you might start noticing car adverts, or dealership promotions, or even opportunities to earn extra money. You might even see that car of your dreams out on the road every single day. This isn't just a coincidence. It's your brain filtering out all the noise and honing in on what is important to you. So being specific just sharpens that filter. It makes it even more effective. It's like giving your brain that detailed map to follow rather than just a vague idea of where you want to go. So the clearer the map, the faster you're going to reach that destination. But how do we uncover those desires that lie beneath all those layers of, you know, societal expectations, fear, doubt? I have got a 3-step process that I use when doing this, okay? So if you're thinking about what you want to manifest in 2025, I'd say step 1 is self-reflection, okay? So just begin with a little bit of introspection, because journaling can be such a powerful tool here. So ask yourself 2 simple questions. Number 1: What brings me joy? And 2: What have I always longed for but never ever gone after? And just allow your imagination to roam without these boundaries. Grab yourself a pen and notepad or journal. Just answer those 2 questions. What brings me joy? What have I longed for for years but have just never ever gone after? Then step 2 is visualization. So take some time every single day to visualize your goals as if they have already been achieved. So close your eyes, imagine every detail, imagine who you would become become as a person that has their desires in their life. So imagine the sights, the sounds, any feelings associated with that success, because the more vivid and specific your visualization, the more real it becomes to your mind, and the faster you'll start seeing results in your reality. So at some point today, close your eyes, visualize your ideal day. Where do you want to be in December 2025? You might choose this to be in 5 years' time or a decade from now. I always do it 12 months in advance just because I I think it's a good goal to have. So think about what you're doing, who are you with, where are you? Because visualisation not only helps in getting specific, but it also ignites that emotional connection to your desires. And you can be playful with this as well because you can visualise pretty much anything that you want in life. And then the step 3 is the why. So for every desire, I just want you to ask yourself, why do I want this? So you could say that you want a million pound in your bank account, or you could say that you want a brand new house to move your family into. But if you just say that, they're just wishes. So understanding the underlying reasons as to why you want something, that's going to add depth, it's going to add commitment to your desires. For example, it's not just the house that you want, but it's that feeling of security and family that it represents. Or it's not just the money, it's what you'll be able to do with it and how much time freedom you're going to have because of not having to work. So get specific. This step is so important because it really allows you to tap into that raw emotion and express those feelings of what it physically means to you. So once you've got that clarity with what you desire, it's time to create your manifestation blueprint for 2025. So write down your desires in as much detail as possible. You can use ChatGPT for this if you want, put in all this information, ask it to do a day in the life of. You can just journal it out, you can type it in your phone, you can type it on your computer. Just write it down in as much detail as possible. If it's a job, what's the position? What's the environment? What's the salary? What's the impact? How are your colleagues? If it's a house that you're trying to manifest, where is it? How are your neighbors? What impact does it have on your well-being living there? If it's money, what does it mean to you? What can it buy you? How will it affect your mood? Don't just think, "I want a new job, a new house, lots of money in the bank," because it'll never work like that. Or if it does, it's going to take some time. Okay, and then once you've got that, one of the most fun and effective ways to get specific with your manifestation is through vision boards. So this not only helps to clarify your desires, but it also keeps them at the forefront of your mind as well. So when I mention this to people, the first image that it usually conjures up is a huge in-depth corkboard with hundreds of cutout images from magazines pinned onto it. But it doesn't have to be this taxing. Vision boards can be as simple as finding just one image that represents what you want and setting it as your phone wallpaper. We're living in the age of AI right now. George Lizzo, who was on my podcast last week, he keeps posting things on his story where I think he must want a better body or something because he keeps posting pictures of himself, for example, where the AI has basically created him this amazing body. And he was like dressed up as Santa with like barely any clothes on. And I was like, okay, each to their own. But it obviously works because it's shown you what you could potentially look like with an amazing body. So you can use AI, you can use things like Canva for free. You can obviously use Google to get images of things that are similar to you. If you're really good, you can use Photoshop, that kind of thing. But just start by creating a vision board. It's a collage of images, words, and symbols that are just going to represent your goals and dreams. It's not an arts and crafts project, it's just a powerful manifestation tool. Okay, so select images and words that resonate with your desires because that's going to send out a clear signal to the universe and your subconscious mind about what you want to achieve. And this is going to be such a powerful shift for you because you're going to be seeing that image 200, 300 times a day subconsciously when looking at your phone, for example. Visual aids can be incredibly powerful. So that vision board with images and words that represent your desires, they can serve as a daily reminder and motivator as well for why you want those goals. And obviously, words are incredibly powerful when it comes to manifestation as well, because words can shape our thoughts, they can influence our emotions, They can ultimately determine our actions. So this is why affirmations and declarations are such important tools in your manifestation toolkit. Affirmations are positive statements that just reflect your desired reality. So the key to making affirmations work is just being specific. So instead of saying, "I want to be successful," try something more specific like, "I am thriving in my career as a graphic designer and I earn £50,000 a year." Because that detailed affirmation not only sets you a clear goal, but it also helps you to visualize what success looks like to you. Declarations are similar to affirmations, but they are often more powerful because they are stated with conviction. For example, you might want to declare to yourself, "I am a confident and skilled graphic designer attracting high-paying clients effortlessly." So that act of declaring your goals with confidence, it can boost your belief in your ability to achieve them, and that in turn is going to accelerate the manifestation process. So craft affirmations that resonate with your very specific desires. Repeat them daily. Affirmations are just going to reinforce your desires to the universe and to your subconscious mind, because manifestation isn't just about asking, it's about aligning that energy with your desires. So cultivate a positive mindset, believe in the possibility of your desires coming to fruition. And I also want to use this little section to talk about emotion as well, because emotions fuel manifestation. So feel the joy, feel that gratitude, feel all the excitement of having your desires already fulfilled even before they're materialized. And then take inspired action as well towards your desires, because the universe loves cooperation. Your actions signal your commitment and your readiness to receive. And the path to manifestation will be met with challenges because we all have doubts, we all have fears, we're all impatient. And you know, that's absolutely fine. We'll get over them. Overcoming doubts and fears is all just about recognizing these as parts of the journey. So use them as indicators of what may need tweaking or what may need healing or even further clarity. But just remember that manifestation takes time. So cultivate patience and trust in the universe's timing. Everything arrives at the perfect moment for us. Okay, so breaking down your goals. To get specific about your goals, you need to break them down into smaller, manageable steps. Now this process, it not only makes your goals more attainable, but it also helps you to stay focused and more motivated along the way as well. So let's say your ultimate goal is to run a marathon. I'm doing the Great North Run in September, scared to shit about it. It's only a half marathon, still 13.1 miles. Can I run? Can I? Hell. So this is a great goal for me because I want to use 2025 to look after meself and look after me health. Okay, so this is a great goal for me, but it can feel really overwhelming at times when I think, oh my God, I've only got 9 months until the Great North Run. So if you don't break your bigger goals down, they'll start to feel overwhelming and they'll start to consume you as well. So start by setting yourself very specific milestones, such as, you know, I will run 3 miles without stopping by the end of this month. And then once you achieve that milestone, set another. Like this month I will run 4 miles without stopping. Okay, so break down your goals into smaller, more specific steps, and it'll just make the process less daunting, and it helps you to track your progress as well, because every small victory is just going to boost your confidence and reinforce your belief that you can achieve your ultimate goal. And you know, when I talk about specificness as well, it's not just about clarity, it's also about alignment. So When you get specific about your desires, you align your energy with what you want to manifest, and that alignment just creates a powerful magnetic force that is going to attract your desires into your life. So being specific tunes your energy to that exact frequency of your desires, making it easier for them to come into your reality. Many people struggle with getting specific about the goals because they fear disappointment. They worry that, you know, if they set a specific goal and they don't achieve it, they'll feel like a failure. But this is the thing—specificness doesn't limit you, it empowers you. When we get specific, you're not closing yourself off to other possibilities. You are just giving the universe clear instructions about what you want whilst remaining open to the idea that something even better might come along. So I just want you to trust that the universe knows the best way to bring your desires to you, okay? So don't be afraid to refine and adjust your goals as you go as well. So I've got some practical exercises for you all now that I wrote down this morning, and I've got 3 here. You can do them now, you can do them before 2025, you can do them on January 1st, whatever you want to do. Exercise 1 is the clarity list. So I want you to grab a notebook or a journal, just write down your top 5 goals for 2025, and for every goal, answer the following questions: What exactly do I want to achieve? Why is this goal important to me? How will I feel when I achieve this goal? What specific steps can I take to achieve this goal? And what resources or support do I need to reach this goal? So just by answering those 5 questions, that's going to help you clarify your goals and create a bit of a detailed plan for achieving them. Then exercise number 2 is visualization. So just Once you've done that, find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Just close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and just visualize yourself achieving one of your specific goals. Imagine every detail. So imagine where you are, who you're with, what you're doing, how you're feeling. Spend at least 10 minutes in that visualization. Just fully immerse yourself in that experience and repeat that exercise daily as well, because it'll help to reinforce your specific goals it'll help to strengthen your belief in their attainment. And then exercise number 3 is the affirmation blueprint. So create a set of specific affirmations for each of those goals that you wrote down in exercise 1. Just make sure that every affirmation that you write down is positive, it's in the present tense, and it's detailed. For example, if your goal is to improve your health like mine, your affirmation might be, I am healthy and fit, exercising regularly, and enjoying nutritious meals. That's actually one of mine for 2025. The nutritious meals just go out the window all the time. I'd like to think that I'm healthy and fit, but I probably don't exercise as regularly as I probably should. So write your affirmations on sticky notes, place them where you'll see them often, put them as your phone wallpaper, put them on your bathroom mirror, on a fridge, your computer monitor, wherever it is. Repeat those affirmations every time you see them. And just feel the truth of each statement as you say it as well. Okay, so that is one of the most powerful secrets of manifestation, just getting very specific. When we get clear and we get detailed about our desires, you're not only speeding up the manifestation process, but you're also aligning your energy with your goals. So the universe is like that magical restaurant, it's ready to serve up your dreams exactly as you order them. So don't be afraid to get specific. Set yourself clear intentions and trust that your desires are on their way to becoming your reality. Keep using these 3 exercises and the tools that I've discussed in this episode, and just watch as your goals will transform from wishes into, you know, tangible success. Okay, the power of specificness is in your hands, so use it wisely, use it joyfully. And, you know, just remember to ask yourself that question at some point today, if you do nothing else. What do I desire? Okay, and just before we wrap up for 2025, I just want to say a massive, and I mean a massive, massive, massive thank you from the bottom of my heart straight out to you all. Because, you know, 2024 has been an incredibly hard year for me. I had 2 days paternity before I went back to work and before I was thrown back in at the deep end, before Happy Place Festival, before launching a festival of my own. All whilst trying to navigate parenthood for the very first time. So it's been taxing, to say the very least. But you know, I'm still alive, and I'm not just surviving, I am thriving. So thank you all so much for listening. Thank you for all your purchases this year, whether it's been through Canny Crystals Academy or whether it's been through cannycrystals.co.uk. However you've supported me this year, even if you've just liked an Instagram post, thank you from the bottom of of my heart. If you want to do my Achieving Your Goals workshop, don't forget, if you bought this last year, you can still do that. You've still got access to the workshop itself, which I think is like for 1 hour 45 minutes. It's also got the workbook still in there, it's got the meditation still in there, it's got the subliminal still in there. If you haven't, it's still on special offer right now. It is £22.22 However, if you use the code BOXINGDAY, all as one word, you'll get an additional 20% off. So you'll get it for around £16, £17. I can't do the quick maths in my head. It's around £17, okay? Head to cannycrystalsacademy.co.uk, click on the view courses, and then go to Achieving Your Goals. If you're in Manifest with Mart Tweedyedy, however, we will be doing an abridged version of the Achieving Your Goals workshop on the next new moon meetup. So make sure you've got that date in your diaries if you're a member. If you're not a member, it's £10 a month. Come and join us. Unlimited resources of meditation, subliminals, journal prompts, EFT tapping. It's an amazing community and we all love each other. Please come and join us. Head to cannycrystalsacademy.co.uk, and you can also get 20% off any crystals or jewelry or well-being items, books, all of that jazz at cannycrystals.co.uk. It's the same discount code, it's all one word It is Boxing Day. B-O-X-I-N-G-D-A-Y. Right, I'm off. I'm off to catch this plane with everything but the kitchen sink in tow. If you've enjoyed this episode, please leave me a rating or review wherever you listen to this episode from. I really would appreciate it. Don't forget, tickets for our incredible festival with an amazing lineup next year in Newcastle upon Tyne on June 16th are still on sale. You can head to manny fest.uk and secure your spot now. I hope that you all have an incredible New Year's Eve, whatever you get up to, whether you're going out celebrating, whether you're staying in with family and friends, or maybe you're just even staying in on your own. Whatever you do, have a good one. Ensure that you give yourself some relaxation time in there, a little bit of a break from the norm, and I will see all of you in 2025. I'm going to be a douche here and say see you next year, guys. Bye!