175: Breaking through the "almost manifested" loop

Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Cani Crystals the podcast. I hope that you're all well. As you know by now, my name is Mart Tweedy, I'm your host, And just before we crack on with today's episode, I just wanted to basically fill you in on a couple of things. I wanted to let you all firstly know about something super exciting, that my 10-day Limitless Manifestation Accelerator is starting on the 3rd of March, 2025. And this is a challenge inspired by my book Limitless, and I created it because I just wanted to show you exactly how to shift your mindset and start manifesting quicker than ever before. Because we're all capable of attracting our dream reality, but sometimes we just need the right tools and a bit of structure and that accountability as well to make it happen. So if you join the challenge, here's what you can expect. You'll get daily video lessons. So every day I'll be guiding you through a powerful new concept to help reprogram your mindset, clear those limiting beliefs, and activate your manifestation potential. You'll also get journaling prompts and action steps. So I don't want you to think that you'll just be learning because you'll be actively applying these principles through guided journaling exercises and simple but effective daily tasks. And we'll also be doing some rapid energy shifts as well, because this accelerator is designed to help you collapse time and manifest fast. So by the end of the 10 days, I want you to completely have shifted your energy and upgraded your beliefs and started to see real-world results. And then we'll also be going through some manifestation techniques that work. So I'll be teaching you the exact tools that I use in own manifestation practice, like visualization, identity shifting, gratitude, detachment, aligned action, just so that you can attract your desires with clarity, confidence, and ease. And then last but not least, like I say, there's accountability and support. So you won't be doing this alone. You'll be surrounded by a community of like-minded manifestors who are on the same journey, and they'll be all cheering you on and keeping you motivated as well. And as a bonus, you also get a free free 1-hour subliminal affirmation download. So as part of the challenge, you'll also receive this bespoke subliminal audio which has been designed to rewire your subconscious mind for success, abundance, and limitless possibility. And the best part about this is it's only £10 for the full 10 days, so that's just £1 per day to completely transform your manifestation process. And because with everything on the Academy you get lifetime access It means that you can come back and redo that challenge whenever you need a little bit of a reset, or whenever you have a new goal that you want to achieve, you can come back and do it again. So whether you're feeling stuck, impatient, or maybe you just want to manifest faster and with more ease, this challenge is for you. The universe responds to action, so we're going to take that first step together. Like I say, we start on the 3rd of March. The doors are open right now, So if you want in, just head to the link in the show notes for today's episode, or if you're following me @KanniCrystals on socials, the link is also in my bio as well. Or you can even just head to kanni-crystals-academy.co.uk/10days to sign up. And that's the number 10, not the letters spelling 10. So kanni-crystals-academy.co.uk/10days. And I'd absolutely love for you to join me on this. It is going to be game-changing. The second bit of information that I have for you is one of my manifestations came true this week. Don't know if you remember, but I think it was probably about 18 months ago now, I met Denise Duffield-Thomas, author of Lucky Bitch, uh, Get Rich Lucky Bitch, and Chillpreneur, or Chill and Prosper, depending on which edition that you have of that book. Denise is the founder of Money Bootcamp, and she has learned me so much about my money mindset. I've been following her now for about 4 years, and I have been part of Money Bootcamp for about 3 years. She was the one that taught me all about digital products and things like that. She is a huge manifester herself. She manifested a 6-month paid-for cruise around the world. Honestly, she is one of the wildest manifestors that I've ever known. And get this, she reached out, she wants to be on the podcast. So in a few weeks' time, Denise will be coming on the podcast I think we're recording on the 5th of March, so the Friday following that, I'm putting that episode straight out there. Denise is a huge inspiration of mine, and I hope that you all absolutely love, love, love, love what she has to say. So yes, very, very excited about that. But anyway, let's get on with today's episode rather than thinking ahead. I wanted to talk today about that frustrating little pattern that makes you feel like the universe is playing a game of, you know, hashtag just kidding with your manifestations. You know what I mean? You are so close to landing that dream job, but then the position goes to someone else. Or you'll manifest money, but then your car will break down and poof, it's gone under the repairs. Or you might meet the perfect person, but for some reason it just kind of fizzles out. Like, what the hell is going on? It's almost like the universe is teasing you. Or maybe you're trying to manifest a new car and then your friend rings you up one day all excited like, guess what, I've just bought myself a new car. And no prizes for guessing which car it bloody is. It's happened to me loads, honestly, and it can seem really annoying. And honestly, this happened to me so much when I started on my manifestation journey, and this is what I like to call the almost manifested loop. So today we're going to break it down because I think once you understand why this happens, you'll finally be able to step out of that cycle and start fully receiving everything that's meant for you. So we're going to look at first why it keeps happening. So when you're stuck in this loop, it can feel like the universe is teasing you. Like I said, it's almost like it's dangling that carrot in front of your face and then snatching it away just as you get there. But I promise you, the universe isn't sitting there like some prankster thinking, haha, let's see how close we can get them before pulling the rug out from under their feet. No, the universe is always working for you, not against you. It's always working for you. So what's really happening here? Well, there are a few different possibilities. So the first is that divine timing is at play. So sometimes things aren't lining up because the best version of what you want, it isn't quite ready yet because the universe is orchestrating behind the scenes. It's making sure all the right pieces are in place before delivering your manifestation in the most aligned way. The second thing that might be happening is that you're in a bit of a vibrational tug of war. So you might be sending out mixed signals. You know, one minute you're all I'm totally ready for this, but then deep down your energy is like, oh, but am I really? What happens if I do get this and I don't like it? And I mean, more on this episode later about that, but trust me, your vibe is everything. The third thing is that it might be a final test from the universe, because sometimes when you're so close to achieving your goals, the universe might throw a little pop quiz your way. And this isn't to punish you, it's almost rather to see if you really believe in what you're manifesting. Like, are you going to stay in that trust, or are you going to freak out and fall back into old limiting patterns? And the fourth thing that might be happening is that you're unconsciously resisting it. Now, this is a big one, because sometimes, as much as you think that you want something, there is a part of you that's actually a bit scared of it. So more money might mean more responsibility. A soulmate, it might mean opening up to a bit of vulnerability. A dream career, it might mean stepping into your full power. And all of those things can be quite terrifying to us. So I want you to be able to spot if you're in the almost manifested loop. So how do you know if this is happening to you? There are a few telltale signs. So you might keep attracting almost opportunities, you know, things that feel like your manifestation but then they don't fully materialize. You might feel a weird mix of excitement and frustration, like you're so close, you can taste it, but it keeps slipping through your fingers right at the last minute. Or you might be starting to see signs and synchronicities everywhere, like repeated numbers, your manifestation popping up in conversations, random synchronicities like angel numbers, but no actual physical result. And if you're experiencing any of those, then congratulations, you're on the verge of something huge. Seriously, this is proof that your manifestation is right there. But there's just one little shift that needs to happen before you can fully receive it. And that's exactly what we're going to go into today, because now that we understand what that loop is, I think it's time for us to kind of break free from it once and for all. So I want to talk about subconscious blocks, you know, those little buggers that are keeping us from our manifestation and keeping our manifestation at arm's length. So stay with me because this might seem a little deep and juicy and might be a little even uncomfortable, But I promise you, this is where the magic is going to happen. So before you roll your eyes and think, "Oh, here we go with more mindset talk," let me tell you, this is going to be the thing that separates people who manifest effortlessly from those who feel like they're always stuck in the almost phase. Because you can do all the vision boarding, you can do the affirmations, the full moon rituals, you can work with crystals, but if there's even the tiniest part of you that doesn't fully believe that you can have what you want, guess what? That's the signal that you're going to send out to the universe. So I want to try and expose those subconscious blocks and most importantly help you to clear them away, because if your manifestation is being ghosting you, it's time to find out why. So I'm going to get a little sciency for a second, but don't worry, I promise you it's fun. Your subconscious mind runs about 95% of your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. So that means that the things that you consciously want, like more money, more love, more success, whatever it is, that's only being backed by about 5% of your brain power. Meanwhile, if your subconscious is sitting there going, "Hmm, actually wealth sounds stressful," or, "Oh, I don't know, am I lovable enough for a soulmate?" Guess what happens? That deeper belief is the one that's going to be winning because it's running on autopilot in the back of your head. It's shaping your decisions and ultimately the reality that you create. So if your manifestations keep almost landing but not quite, it's usually because there's a belief that's buried deep down that contradicts what you want, or you're unknowingly pushing it away, and your manifestation might feel a little unfamiliar or scary or overwhelming. So let's go through some of the things that are holding us back. So in terms of money, you know, we might be thinking rich people are greedy, more money means more problems, I don't deserve to be wealthy, I have to work really hard for money. In terms of love, you might think, "What if I get hurt again?" "I'm not good enough for the kind of love that I want." "Love always ends in heartbreak." In career, you might think, "If I step into me dream life, people are gonna judge us." "I'm not smart, talented, or experienced enough," or "It's selfish to want more." If that sounds familiar, if any of those hit home, don't panic. It just means that we found a piece of the puzzle. So we're going to get juicy with some self-discovery here. I want you to grab a journal, and write down this question, okay? And you can answer this at any point throughout the day. I just want you to answer this question: what would change in my life if I actually received this manifestation? What would change in my life if I actually received this manifestation? And I just want you to be honest with yourself with this. Like, what feelings come up? Is it excitement? Is it fear? Is it doubt? Is it resistance? For example, let's say you're trying to manifest money. I'm just using money as an example because it's an easy one that pretty much everyone in the world wants. So you might write, "I'd finally feel financially free, but also my family might expect me to support them. So what if people start treating me differently?" You know, and then boom, there's your hidden fear. Or maybe you're trying to manifest love and your first thought is, "I'd feel so loved," but then you might think, "But what if I get abandoned again?" That's another subconscious block uncovered. So once we find those little bits of resistance, it's then time to shift it. So I want you to challenge the story. Ask yourself, "Is this actually true? Is this belief that I have actually true? Have all wealthy people in the history of mankind been greedy? Has every single love story in the history of mankind ended in heartbreak?" And the answer is no. So we need to rewrite that narrative. We need to flip the script. So we need to take our old belief and turn it into a more empowering one. So instead of saying, "I have to work hard for money," you could try, "Money flows to me easily because I allow myself to receive." Or instead of, "Love is scary," you could say, "I'm safe to open my heart to the right person." And your subconscious mind, it loves repetition. So the more that you repeat your new beliefs through affirmations, journaling, or even subliminals, the more it's going to stick. And then I want you to imagine you already have what what you're manifesting. So how does that feel? Does it feel safe? Is it exciting? Is it expansive? Because your emotions send powerful signals to the universe. So you need to embody that new belief now. And most people stop manifesting at that almost phase because they don't realize their own subconscious resistance is actually standing in the way. But now you do, and that means that you've got the power to shift it. So I just want you to take a moment today to just sit with that Just sit with that question and journal on it. Start rewiring those beliefs, because next I want to talk to you about something equally as important, which is how to make sure your energy is actually aligned for what you're calling in. Because, you know, being a vibrational match is a whole different level of manifestation magic. So we're going to talk about this now anyway, because this is the thing, right? Manifestation isn't just about wanting something, it's about being that version of you who already has it. And that means that you've got to match the vibe of your desire. You can't be sitting in, you know, that vibe of, where is it? Why isn't it here yet? And just expect the universe to just drop it on your lap. It doesn't work like that. The universe is all about alignment. So let's get one thing straight and out the way right now. Wanting and having are not the same vibration. If you are wanting something, you're in lack mode. You're saying, I don't have this yet. And I really, really hope that I get it. If you are being, you are already having. You're embodying the energy of someone who naturally attracts what they desire. So think about it like this: if you're manifesting a new job, but every time you think about it, your energy is screaming like, OMG, I need this so badly, or I'll be stuck in this awful job that I'm in right now forever— that's desperation. That desperation just creates resistance. So instead, you want to shift into the energy of I already know my dream job is on its way, so I'm showing up as this confident, abundant version of me who totally deserves it. Okay, so how do you know if your energy is off? There are some big red flags. So one might be that you're constantly checking for proof. You know, you keep refreshing your inbox, you keep looking at your bank account, you're stalking that person's Instagram to see if they've messaged you yet. That's lack mode. Okay, another is that you might feel frustrated and impatient. You know, instead of trusting, you're thinking, "Why isn't it here yet? I've been doing everything right." But that impatience is going to push your manifestation further away. Another thing is that you might be focusing on what's missing. So if you keep noticing the absence of your manifestation rather than acting as if it's already happening, your energy is sending out mixed signals. Or you could even be over-explaining to the universe. So if you're constantly affirming and scripting but deep down still feel like I need to keep doing this because I don't fully believe that it's coming, then you're just affirming that lack. Okay, so how do we fix this? How do we actually become a vibrational match to what we want? The first thing that I want you to do is to act as if, and this doesn't mean faking it, it means embodying the version of you who already has it. So if you're manifesting a new job, start showing up now as the person who already has that dream role. How would you dress? How would you speak? How would you carry yourself? If it's money, stop acting like it's scarce. Would the wealthier version of you stress over every little purchase, or would they trust that money flows easily? And feel those feelings now, because your emotions are everything. Instead of waiting for the thing to arrive before you feel happy, abundant, or loved, feel those emotions right now. If you want love, start filling your life with romance and self-love. Work on yourself first. If you want abundance, start feeling grateful and secure in what you do already have in your life, and then detach from the how. Because the biggest block to receiving is trying to micromanage the universe. So stop stressing about the how and just focus on being in alignment. And if you get too caught up, it has to happen this way and by this time, you know, I've said it myself before, you're not trusting, you're controlling. That's lack energy. Nothing shifts your energy as well like gratitude. So instead of focusing on what you don't have, just start focusing on what's already amazing in your life, because gratitude magnetizes more things to be grateful for. Manifestation is a co-creation. You take a step, the universe meets you halfway, you know. But if you're trying to force things or you're trying to take action from a place of fear, it's time to take a step back and realign. So the real question is, are you just wishing and hoping that your manifestation is going to happen, or are you actually showing up as the version of you who already has it? Because the second one, that's the one that makes you shift from wanting to being. So you stop chasing and you start attracting, and trust me, that's when the magic will happen. And something else that might be the reason that your desire keeps getting so close but never quite landing is attachment. Because let's be honest, when we really, really want something, we tend to grip onto it like our life depends on it. I've done this myself before as well. I'm not saying I'm perfect. Like, I would obsess over something, I would overthink everything, you know. I would constantly be checking for signs, and it's almost like we start bribing the universe. Like, if you just give me this, I promise I'll be good and I'll meditate every day. I've been there myself as well. It's crazy. I would always have conversations with the universe and I'm like, please, 'Just put an additional £1,000 in my bank and I promise I'll be good. I promise I'll work with my crystals next month.' Um, and what does that do? It creates resistance. So instead of attracting your manifestation, you end up pushing it further away. So think about it this way, like, when you're attached to an outcome, you're basically telling the universe, 'I don't trust that this is coming, so I need to hold on to it for dear life.' And what happens when you hold on to something too tightly is that you suffocate it. You don't leave any space for it to naturally unfold. Manifestation works best when you trust, flow, and allow. But when you're clinging to your desire, you're operating from fear, lack, and desperation, which ironically keeps your manifestation just out of reach. And I know that it sounds counterintuitive, but the second that you let go, things will start to shift. And that's because when you detach from needing the manifestation, you finally free up space for it to arrive. So think about it like dating. If someone you liked started texting you nonstop, begging for your attention, analyzing everything that you said, constantly checking if you're still interested, you'd probably run for the hills, right? I mean, I know I would. Well, your manifestation feels the same way. It doesn't want to be forced into your life. It wants to arrive naturally in the best possible way. So I know what you're thinking, like, but if I let go, won't that mean that I don't care anymore? No, it doesn't. Detachment doesn't mean giving up. It just means that you're so confident that it's coming that you don't need to actually obsess over it. So you can shift your energy in a few different ways. Like, instead of obsessing over how your manifestation should arrive, focus on the feeling that it will bring instead. So if you're manifesting love, start feeling love now through self-care, through friendships, doing things that make you happy inside. Light up your soul, light it on fire. If you're trying to manifest money, try and feel abundant now by appreciating what you do have and what your money has been able to buy you over the years, and making empowered financial choices, you know. Stop putting things on hold until your manifestation arrives as well. If you want a relationship, don't sit around waiting. Enjoy your single life, explore hobbies, have fun. If you want a new job, keep on growing, keep developing yourself, keep networking, keep learning. Because the right opportunity will come when you're already moving forward. So instead of thinking, "I need this to happen," just try and say something like, "Wouldn't it be nice if this happened?" Because it removes any pressure, it puts you in a playful, open state, and that's so much more magnetic to the universe. And you know, in our manifestation, sometimes delays happen because something even better is on the way. So instead of thinking, "Why isn't it here yet?" Shift your thoughts to, oh my God, I can't wait to see how amazingly this works out for me. If you're obsessing with when it's coming, you're still in attachment mode. So try and say, it's already mine, I trust it's arriving in the perfect time, in the perfect way. So if your manifestation has been so close but not quite landing, just ask yourself, am I gripping onto this too tightly? Am I leaving space for the universe to surprise me? Because, you know, the moment that you let go and you surrender, you open the doors for the magic to happen. And you know, you can't sit in a meditation pose all day. You can't visualize your dream life 24/7. You can't expect the universe to drop it in your lap like Amazon Prime delivery. Manifestation is a co-creation. It's not about forcing things to happen, but it's also not about doing nothing. It's about taking aligned, inspired action. So we need to be able to tell the difference between action that moves you closer to your manifestation and action that's actually blocking it as well. Because there is such a big difference between flowing with the universe and trying to control the whole damn thing yourself. So let's break this down. Inspired action, it feels light, it feels exciting, and almost intuitive as well. It's like when you get a nudge to do something, it's a little whisper from the universe that says, hey, go check out this event, or go and message that person, or start this little project. It's not forced, it just feels right. It's like a little intuitive nudge. Overcontrol, on the other hand, that feels heavy. It feels desperate, and it's almost exhausting as well. It's when you're scrambling or overplanning or forcing things to happen because you're so afraid that they won't happen on their own. And here's the key: when you're taking action from a place of fear, you're not in alignment. You're telling the universe, "I don't trust you, so I have to make this happen myself." So some of the biggest signs that you're forcing instead of flowing Could be that you're hustling non-stop but you're getting nowhere. You might be feeling drained or frustrated. You might be attached to specific outcome, or you could even be hitting roadblock after roadblock. Yeah, all of these are over-control mode. So what we want to do is we want to flip this into inspired action. So tune into your intuition, you know, before you take action, just ask yourself, does this feel light and exciting, or does this feel like pressure and desperation? If it's the latter, pause, realign, and then move forward. Follow your nudges as well, because the universe speaks in whispers, not megaphones. So those little intuitive hits, like a sudden idea or a good feeling or an opportunity that just feels right— those are your cues to act. Let go of the how as well, because your job isn't to figure out exactly how your manifestation will unfold. Your job is just to stay open and follow the breadcrumbs that the universe lays out for you. And I want you to stay in that energy of play and curiosity as well, because, you know, instead of focusing on one specific outcome, approach it with curiosity. Try things just to see what happens. Follow joy, not pressure, okay? And then just trust yourself and keep moving. Inspired action doesn't always give you instant results, but every step that you take is leading you somewhere. So keep moving, keep trusting, and just let that process unfold naturally. The biggest lesson I think here is that action alone doesn't create manifestations, but aligned action does. So before you run off and force something to happen, just check in with yourself. Like, are you acting from trust, joy, and excitement, or are you acting from fear, impatience, and control? Because the moment you start moving with the universe instead of against it, things will start flowing in ways that you never expect. You know, we're really doing the work in this episode, aren't we? I know that we're uncovering these subconscious blocks We're aligning our energy. We are talking about letting go. We're shifting from forcing to flowing with that inspired action. But this is the last thing that I want to talk about today, and it's the most exciting part, which is actually receiving. Because, you know, your manifestation isn't just floating around in the ether teasing you. It's already yours. The only thing left for you to do is to open that door and let it in. So if you're still feeling some doubt or impatience or fear tapping is one of the most quickest ways to shift your energy. So try this right now. Tap on your karate chop point of your hand, which is the side part of your hand, you know where your little finger is, that's the karate chop. If you were about to like break a block of wood with your hand and you went, "Hiya!" like a karate chop, that side bit where your little finger is, just tap on that with the two fingers from your other hand and just keep tapping there. And just as you do that, just take a deep breath in And just say to yourself after me: Even though I felt frustrated, I deeply trust that my manifestation is already on its way. Even though I felt frustrated, I deeply trust that my manifestation is already on its way. I now choose to relax and allow it in. I now choose to relax and allow it in. And just keep tapping while repeating variations of that. You can make up your own, it's totally up to you. There are so many affirmation scripts, you can totally just make them up off the top of your head, which is what I tend to do. I find that they're more powerful because they come from my heart. And just feel yourself shifting into ease and trust. Like, EFT is so, so powerful because it helps release stuck energy so your manifestation can come through without resistance. And obviously that's not a full EFT sequence, I know, but it's a short, sharp way that you can incorporate super quickly into your day. Okay, now here's the game changer. You are not waiting for your manifestation. You're stepping into the version of you who already has it. So close your eyes and picture it right now. Imagine waking up already living your dream. Like already living your dream reality. How do you feel? How do you move? What decisions do you make? And then ask yourself, what's one thing I can do today that my future self would do? What's one thing that I can do today that my future self would do? Maybe it's dressing a little differently. Maybe it's speaking with more confidence. Maybe it's making a bold decision. But whatever it is, go out and do that, because the moment that you start embodying that version of you that has it all, your reality has to then play catch-up. Yeah, the universe loves gratitude. Like I say, when you say thank you before something even happens, you're sending a message that you already believe that it's done. So instead of saying, I hope this happens, say, I am so grateful that this is already unfolding perfectly. Instead of saying, I need this so badly, say, I'm so grateful for all the amazing things coming my way. Start thanking the universe now and watch how fast things start shifting. You know, sometimes your manifestation can't arrive for you as well because you literally haven't made room for it. So if you're manifesting love but you're still emotionally stuck on an ex, or you're manifesting abundance but you're constantly stressing over money, there's no space for your desire to land. So just ask yourself, what do I need to clear out to make room for my manifestation? So it could mean decluttering your physical space, it could mean letting go of a limiting habit, It could even be releasing an old attachment that's keeping you stuck, because the universe loves a vacuum, and once you create space, your manifestation rushes in to fill it. So, you know, here's the truth: you were never being teased by the universe. It was never dangling that carrot in front of your face. You were always on the path to receiving. It's just that little shifts were needed to bring you into full alignment, and now you know exactly what to do. You know how to release resistance. You know how to align your energy, how to let go, how to take action from a place of trust instead of fear. So just take a deep breath and just know that it's already done. Your manifestation is already here. The only thing left for you to do is to open your arms or open that metaphorical door, whatever it is in front of you, and just receive it. Okay, so that's a wrap on this episode. I know that this one will hit home for so many of you. So if you had any big aha moments, please tag me on Instagram, let me know. I am @cannycrystals on social media. And if you've loved this episode as well, don't forget to leave me a review. It helps more people break free from their manifestation blocks just like you did today. So yeah, go out there, trust the process, and get ready because your manifestation is about to land in the most magical way possible. Trust me. Okay, so have an incredible week ahead, guys. Guys, and I will see you all for another episode next Friday. See you soon, guys. Bye!