263: Can you enjoy your life without feeling guilty?

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Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Candy Crystals, the podcast. I hope that you're doing well, whatever you're up to whilst you are listening. I've had one of those weeks where I feel like I've lived about 4 different lives. I've had approximately 12 minutes of sleep, and me stomach submitted a formal complaint. So before we get into today's conversation, let us fill you in on what's been going on, because there's been a lot. So on Friday night, I went to see the Pussycat Dolls here in Newcastle, and Lil' Kim was the support act, right? So I was so, so excited for this. She was supposed to be on for about 45 minutes. I've never seen Lil' Kim before, but the last time I saw the Pussycat Dolls, it was back in 2009, I think it was 2008, 2009. And the weirdest thing was, right, the Pussycat Dolls' support acts were Lady Gaga before she was famous and Ne-Yo. So it was an incredible gig. Can you imagine going to see the Pussycat Dolls and also getting Lady Gaga and Ne-Yo? So anyway, Lil' Kim, really excited for her. She was supposed to be on for 45 minutes. Oh my God. But the first 25 minutes of those, it was just her DJ playing her songs while she was backstage, absolutely fucking nowhere to be seen. And I'm standing there thinking, is she coming out? Is she stuck on the Tyne Bridge? Have we essentially paid to just listen to somebody else's Spotify playlist? So anyway, she eventually came out, and I'll be honest with you, I was very disappointed. Very disappointed. The nostalgia just was not there. There was a lot of jumping around. A lot of sounding breathless, and surprisingly little Lil' Kim music for a Lil' Kim performance. I think she did about 3 of her own songs, and when I say her own songs, it's a bit of a reach because she started with Lady Marmalade. Obviously that was Christina Aguilera, Pink, and Mya as well. She just did a little rap on it. And then she also did Christina Aguilera, Can't Hold Us Down, which she did the little rap on. I think she only did one of her own songs, so it was Very, very disappointing to say the very least. And at one point we got about 10 minutes of songs that apparently she likes driving around to. So Fergie's Glamorous, Nelly's Hot in Here. I mean, lovely songs, absolutely, but I hadn't realized we bought tickets to experience her commute. It was a very weird setup, if I do say so myself. But the Pussycat Dolls more than made up for it. Nicole Scherzinger, honestly, what a powerhouse. I love her so much. Her voice, her stage presence, Just the whole thing. You know when someone's so good that you just stand there with your mouth open in awe? Like, that was me. So anyway, after the gig, got home at around midnight, and I had an alarm set for 5 in the morning because I was getting the first train down to London. A decision that had sounded absolutely fine when I booked it and significantly less fine once that alarm went off. There's a very specific kind of regret that only exists at 5 in the morning when you've voluntarily arranged something, isn't there? Nobody's done this to you, you've done it to yourself, and now you've got to put your shoes on, pull your knickers up, and get on the train. So I got to London about half 9 in the morning. I went to meet Francesca Amber at her podcast studio where she was interviewing the lovely Poppy Delbridge, and then me and Fran went for a little Nando's. We headed out for a few social drinks around Camden, which was just lovely. Tia, who was one of the contestants on the Inheritance TV show with me, she came to meet us as well, so it was just really nice to catch up with her. And I think what I appreciated most was just having a bit of downtime where I could just enjoy myself. I don't get very many weekends to myself these days, and I absolutely love being a dad more than anything else, but it was lovely to just let me hair down and have a conversation without also keeping an eye on what my little person is trying to climb, or even to finish some food while it's hot, or to sit there and think, I haven't got to rush off anywhere, I can just be here. And then on Sunday, we went to our favorite restaurant in Chiswick, Villa di Gaggiano. It's absolutely beautiful if you live in London. Make the pilgrimage. It's absolutely amazing. But Fran was feeling quite fragile from the night before, and so the waiters very kindly offered her a Virgin Mary, which she took one sip of and decided that it tasted like cold tomato soup. Now, because they'd given it to her for free and I'd never tried it before, I felt guilty that it was just going to go to waste, which tells you quite a lot about me, doesn't it? A drink that I hadn't ordered, I didn't particularly want, and I wasn't responsible for had somehow become my moral obligation. So I necked about half of it before realizing there was something really friggin spicy in there. Possibly cayenne pepper, that's what I think it was. But whatever it was, my stomach recognized it immediately and it began making arrangements. I get super bad IBS-like symptoms whenever I have anything spicy, and my stomach played absolute havoc with us afterwards, all because I apparently couldn't bear the thought of disappointing a tomato. So there's your first practical takeaway from today's episode. You're allowed to leave something that you don't want. You don't have to turn yourself into a human waste disposal unit just because someone's been kind enough to give you a free drink. But we then got ready and we headed over to the Royal Academy of Music for Poppy Delbridge's Unlock Your Power live event, which was so good, by the way. And I found myself sitting sandwiched— get this— between Dame Kelly Holmes, the athlete, And Katie Hill. For those of you who grew up in the '90s watching Blue Peter like I did, you'll understand why seeing Katie in real life still feels surreal. There are people that your brain permanently files under a person from the television, doesn't it? And then suddenly they're beside you having an ordinary conversation about parenthood and everything else. But she really is the loveliest human, so genuine, so down to earth, just a really, really warm, nice person. And Kelly Holmes actually took such an interest in us as well. She was asking us about the crystals and everything I do, and it was just so, so lovely. It was one of those moments where I could actually stop and just appreciate where this whole journey has taken us. Because when I first started getting into crystals, I certainly wasn't picturing myself sitting there having that conversation. And then on Monday, I got the train home. Me little boy had been unwell over the weekend, a bit of a cold, you know, snotty nose, coughing, all All of the above. And that's where the dad guilt really kicked in because I'd been away enjoying myself while he'd been at home feeling poorly. So when I got back, he got loads of cuddles. I sat on the couch, we watched a bit of TV, and I was just really glad to be home with him. But today, Tuesday, as I record this, I've also just dropped me car off to get it wrapped to protect the paintwork. And I'm not saying I'm a bad driver, but everyone else seems to be, don't they? So I'm just taking precautions. I'm excited to get that back on Friday. And then also on Friday, me mam's also having a major operation on a tumor in her stomach. So there's a lot on me mind with that as well. So between family and work, it's a bloody busy week, and it's been a bloody busy week, and it's going to be another busier week next week as well. And underneath everything else, there's that worry about me mam. And when I was thinking about what I wanted to talk about on the podcast this week, I kept coming back to how quickly me brain had just moved on from enjoying the weekend to questioning whether I should have enjoyed it quite so much. Because I'll be honest with you, like, I had such a lovely time. I'd seen people that I loved, I laughed, I'd gone to an amazing event, I had a bit of space for myself. But as soon as I knew that me little boy had been poorly, there was this voice in me head going, well, you shouldn't have been there, you should have been at home. And it was like a real guilt kicked in. I think a lot of us recognize that voice as well, don't we? Like, maybe you're a parent Maybe you look after someone, maybe you're running a business, or maybe you're simply the person that everyone turns to. And then you finally get a bit of time for yourself, and instead of being able to enjoy it fully, part of your brain just starts listing all the other places that you could have been useful. So you're out for dinner, you're thinking about the work that you haven't finished, or you're having a quiet afternoon in, but you're wondering whether you should check in on someone, or you spend money on something that you've wanted for absolutely ages. And then you immediately start mentally defending the purchase to an imaginary panel of judges. Nobody's even asked you about it, but you've prepared a statement and supporting evidence as well. I do this all the time, and I want us to have a proper conversation about that today, because if you're trying to manifest a life with more freedom or joy or more experiences that you actually want to have, then we need to look at how we respond when those experiences actually become available to us. So can we let ourselves enjoy them? Can we take the afternoon off? Can we accept the invitation or book the weekend and actually just be present for it? Now, of course, every single person on the planet has got responsibilities, don't they? I'm not pretending that we can all just abandon those and fuck off to Nando's indefinitely, as appealing as that might occasionally sound. But there is a real difference between taking care of the people who need you And deciding that every moment you spend enjoying yourself needs to be fully justified. Because I'll be honest, like, if that's the agreement that you've made with yourself, you might be waiting a bloody long time, let us tell you. Because there's always going to be another washing basket or another person having a difficult day. So if your happiness needs that unanimous approval from everybody and everything in your life, then, you know, you're never going to get around to it. But what interests me is where those conditions come from. Like, who decided that you could only enjoy yourself once you've done enough? And off the back of that, like, similar to last week's episode, what actually counts as doing enough? Because some of us could complete every job that we plan to do and discover a cure for something or rescue a kitten and put the bins out, and then we'd still sit down and think, I probably should have cleaned the fridge as well. Yeah? I want you to pay attention to the sentence that comes into your head when something lovely becomes available to you. So if someone invites you somewhere, or you get offered an opportunity, or you have a chance to do something that you've wanted to do for ages, what is your first response? Is it, that sounds lovely, or is it, can I really justify that? Because there can be a whole belief hiding inside that word justify. The belief that your enjoyment needs a defense before you're allowed to have it. And this goes so much deeper than just making space in your diary. Because you can have the time available or the arrangements made and you've put the money aside, but you could still struggle to let yourself have that experience. So you could be physically sat in a restaurant, but mentally you're back at home conducting an inspection. Or maybe you've got one eye on the menu and your other eye on the running commentary about whether you should be there or not. And at that point, you might as well order a side of guilt because you've brought enough for the table anyway. So, sometimes we've become so used to being useful that I think we don't quite know who we are when nobody needs anything from us. So, being the reliable one can feel good because people trust you, they come to you, you know how to sort things out. But it can also become a role that you feel that you have to keep performing even when you're tired of it. So, you might find yourself volunteering before anyone else has asked. Or taken responsibility for something that was never ever yours to begin with. So like in my case, I felt that it was my obligation to drink Fran's unwanted Virgin Mary cocktail. So there's a question underneath that which can feel a bit uncomfortable. Like, do you believe that you're still valuable when you're not doing something for someone else? So when you're laughing with a friend or enjoying a concert or sitting there having a lovely time, do you feel comfortable being that version of yourself? Or do you need to make the whole thing useful somehow? Like, I'll go, but this is networking. Or I'll have the afternoon off, but I'll be more productive tomorrow. Or I'll enjoy meself, but only because I've worked hard enough to earn it. Now, all of those things might be true. But I also think that we need some experiences in life that don't require us to produce a result afterwards. So you're allowed to go to a concert because you just love the music. You're allowed to see your friend because you miss them. And this is really where I want to bring manifestation into it, because when we talk about the life that we want, we can be really specific about what that looks like. So we might know how the house looks, or what the money feels like, or the business, or the relationship, the opportunities— whatever it is that you're trying to manifest into your life. We've got the vision board looking immaculate. But have we thought about what we'll allow ourselves to feel Once we're actually living it. So you could create a successful business, and you could still feel like every hour away from it is dangerous. I do that. I always do that. If I go away for a couple of days, I always feel guilt. Guilt that I should be in the office, I should be producing emails or creating social media content or talking to people, sorting out problems and issues. So you could have more money, and you could still feel guilty about buying something you love. You could meet people who treat you beautifully and still feel obliged to repay every single bit of kindness immediately. Now, the circumstances can change while those old rules carry on running in the background, and then you're wondering why something that you wanted so much doesn't feel quite how you ever imagined it. Now, that doesn't mean that you've manifested badly, or that you need to police every single thought until you're sufficiently positive, Christ, you'd never get anything else done, would you? It just means that there's a practical part of receiving that deserves some attention from you. So when something good happens, can you recognize that and stay with it for a minute and just let it become part of your actual experience? Or does your mind immediately start explaining why you shouldn't get too comfortable here? Now, for me, it is the latter. I always start explaining to myself, You know, don't get too comfortable. This is just a fluke. This is just a one-off. And that's coming from me, yeah? So think about how you respond to a compliment, for example. Someone says you look lovely, and even before they've finished, you've started explaining that your clothes were on the sale rail, or that your hair's a mess at the back. They haven't requested a full audit from you. They've just said something kind. Or maybe someone offers to help you out, and you say, Oh no, don't worry, I'll manage. Even though you were privately about 3 minutes away from losing your fucking mind. Now those are small moments, but they give you somewhere to practice. You don't need to wait for some enormous life-changing opportunity to work on receiving. So next time someone gives you a compliment, just try saying thank you and stopping there. Just like someone saying, oh, your hair looks good today. Thank you. That's literally it. It's literally it. Notice whether you want to add a disclaimer though. Because I do all the time. You can feel that urge without following it. You can let the other person's kind words stand. Yeah? So if someone offers help that you would appreciate, try accepting a specific thing. Just say, yes, actually, could you do that for me? And then resist the urge to spend the next 20 years apologizing for having accepted the help that they offered. You can appreciate someone's effort And you can respect their limits and still allow them to contribute to your life. Relationships have got room for you to receive as well as give, and it's all part of the eternal flow, isn't it? Giving and receiving, it's got to be in equal measure. And if you have an enjoyable experience this week, just pay attention to how you describe it afterwards. Like, do you say, oh my God, I had such a lovely time, or do you immediately add, but I don't normally do that? And I've been really busy, but I needed it, and it wasn't that expensive. Just listen to how quickly you start making your case. Listen to that inner dialogue. You might be explaining yourself to someone who wasn't even judging you in the first place. So here's something practical that you can do later when you've got a pen or your notes app in front of you. Finish this sentence honestly. Just write down, I am allowed to enjoy myself when... Dot dot dot, and just see what comes out. I'm allowed to enjoy myself when. So I did this little exercise this morning, right? And I just thought, I'm gonna totally unfilter myself. I'm just gonna write whatever comes to my mind. And I wrote down, I'm allowed to enjoy myself when everybody else is okay, when I've done enough work, when I've lost weight, when I'm earning more, when nobody could possibly accuse me of being selfish. Now, don't write the answer that you think sounds spiritually impressive, 'cause nobody else is gonna read this. Just write the one that actually turns up in your head. 'Cause for me, they all just landed in me head straight away. And then ask yourself whether that condition has a clear endpoint. Like, when would you know when you'd met it? Because when I've finished this particular job, that's something that you can assess. But when everybody's happy with me, That could keep you occupied until you're 97, and then somebody will be annoyed that you didn't reply to a message. Yeah? You can also ask what you're afraid would happen if you enjoyed yourself before meeting that condition. So maybe someone would be disappointed. Maybe you'd feel a bit less in control. Maybe you'd have to admit that you want more from life than being endlessly dependable. Whatever your answer is, it's going to give you something specific to work with. And it's much easier to question a belief once you can actually hear what that belief is actually saying. So for example, if you've wrote down, I can only enjoy myself when nobody else needs me, you could try something a bit more realistic like, I can make sensible arrangements and still have experiences of me own. Yeah, reframe it. It gives you a decision that you can act on. You can check what needs doing. You can communicate. You can arrange support where it's available and then go off and do your thing. There's room in that sentence for both your responsibilities and your enjoyment. And I want you to start small if you need to. For example, you could have a coffee without answering messages throughout the whole thing. Just let yourself enjoy that coffee. You could accept a compliment without taking the person out of it. You could just enjoy an evening in the house without opening your laptop. Afterwards, just notice what actually happened. Like, did the consequence that you feared occur? Did someone raise a real concern that you need to discuss? Or did the discomfort just gradually pass while life carried on? And I think that can be especially difficult when you're interested in manifestation or spirituality because you can start watching your own emotions like they're about to get you in trouble. So you're worried about something. Then you're worried that being worried is going to attract more things to be worried about. And now you've got the original concern and an imaginary disciplinary meeting with the universe. It's a lot, isn't it, before you've even had your breakfast on a morning? And with me mam's operation coming up, like, of course I'm going to have concerns. I love her to bits. I want everything for it to go well. I can be hopeful about Friday, but I can still have moments of doubt where me mind starts wandering into all these different possibilities. It's human nature. It's natural. I don't need to turn that into another thing to criticize myself for. And if you're going through something uncertain yourself, I really want you to give yourself that same understanding. Having a frightened thought doesn't mean that you've caused an outcome or failed at manifestation. Sometimes the most supportive thing that you can do is just acknowledge what's happening honestly. Like, for me, driving in my car this morning, I literally just said, I'm worried because this matters to me. That simple sentence gives us somewhere to start. I can decide what would help us through the next hour rather than trying to force myself into feeling absolutely fabulous about a situation that is difficult to me. Like, you don't have to be doing cartwheels in the kitchen to prove that you've got faith in the universe. Yeah. I find it useful to separate what I know from what I'm imagining. Because when there's a bit of uncertainty, my mind can start filling in the gaps. And I know everyone else's does this as well. And it's rarely writing a lovely little rom-com in that space. It's got a full-on production budget for disaster. So you can ask yourself, what information do I actually have right now? What question could I ask? What are you repeatedly guessing about without getting any closer to the answer? Now, if it helps, write those things down. You might know that an appointment's booked, Or that someone's being looked after, or that you're waiting for an update on someone. And then there are things that you don't know yet. You know, seeing that distinction on paper can really help you notice when you've started treating a possibility as though it's already happened. You can bring yourself back to what's available to you today. And then from that, just choose one useful action. Check what support somebody needs. Make a phone call. Arrange who's doing what. Tell a person that you trust that you're having a difficult day. There might also be a point when you've done everything that you can for now, and the next helpful thing is to just eat something or have a shower or get some sleep. Your basic needs still count when you're waiting for news, and you're allowed moments of enjoyment within that waiting as well. You can laugh at something that your child does or your partner does. You can have a nice conversation. You can watch something that takes your mind off it for a while. You don't need to feel guilty about that. The seriousness of a situation, it's not measured by how continuously miserable you can make yourself. Laughing for 10 minutes doesn't mean that you've stopped caring. It means that you've had 10 minutes of laughter during a difficult period in your life. Now that's something that I want us all to remember this next week, because I can be there for me mam, I can give me little boy his cuddles, and I can still appreciate the lovely weekend that I've just had. There's no benefit in going back in time and mentally canceling out every single good moment because something worrying is happening to us right now. Life doesn't simply, like, organize itself into neat little boxes where you finish all your concerns and then you get an allocated slot about happiness. Yeah? Gratitude can be much more honest when we allow that as well. You can say, this is hard, but I'm grateful someone checked in on us. Or, I don't know what happens next, but I'm glad I've got support. You're noticing something that helps without pretending that the difficulty's disappeared. So, for example, if you have ever tried to make yourself write a gratitude list whilst you're upset, you'll know the difference between appreciating something and telling yourself off for having feelings. So, if you're carrying something at the moment, ask yourself what would make today a little more manageable. It might be going and seeing a friend. It might be just some peace and quiet. It might be asking someone to take a job off your hands and delegating something, or even just deciding that you don't need to discuss it with everybody. You're allowed to choose the kind of support that actually would help you rather than the kind that you think you should want. So for me, spirituality needs to have room for all of that. We need to have room for hope, uncertainty, Uh, laughter, worry, and all the ordinary things that we do to care for each other. And I think honestly, once we start to accept that, we can stop holding all our enjoyment back for some future moment when we're 110% certain that nothing difficult is going to come our way. Because I would absolutely hate for us to get to the end of another year and just realize that we've spent most of it getting ready to enjoy our lives. Like getting everything sorted, keeping everybody else happy, waiting until we feel confident enough. Like, you can spend so much time preparing for the version of life that you want that you barely notice the bits of it already happening around you. So I'm taking some of that away from this weekend for myself. Like, I had experiences that I'll remember, spent time with people I love, and had conversations that meant something to us. But I want to let those memories be lovely. I don't want to attach an apology to every single one of them because I'm also a dad, a son, and someone with a business to run. Like, all those responsibilities matter to us, of course they do, but so does being able to enjoy me life. So rather than leaving you with another massive list of things to do, I just want you to choose one small thing this next week that you would like to experience. Something specific enough that you'll actually recognize when you've done it. So maybe it's just something small like seeing a friend or taking a walk somewhere that you love, listening to an album all the way through, finally using the nice bath stuff that you've apparently been saving for a royal visit. Whatever it is, just choose something that you want rather than something that you think would look impressive on Instagram and just do that. And then ask yourself, What needs arranging to make that possible? Keep that practical. You might need to agree a time with someone, or sort childcare, or choose an option that fits your budget. Whatever it is, those are things that you can work with. But notice if you start adding conditions that have absolutely nothing to do with the arrangements, like needing to feel completely caught up with life first. You could be waiting until the sun explodes for that. Okay, and when you get there, try letting yourself just be there in the moment. So if guilt pops up, which it will, you don't need to spend the entire experience just arguing with it. You can just acknowledge the guilt, remind yourself of the arrangements that you've made, and return your attention to what's happening. So listen to your friend, taste your food, watch Nicole Scherzinger sing her absolute tits off. Give the experience a chance to reach you. And then afterwards, make a point of remembering something that you enjoyed. Tell someone about it without immediately explaining why you were allowed to go. You might even write a sentence in your notes about what made it so lovely. That gives you something real to then come back to when your mind starts insisting that you never do anything for yourself, or that life's nothing but one responsibility after another. Okay, I am rambling now because I feel like I've gone off on so many different tangents there. But while we're talking about having something lovely to look forward to, let us just tell you quickly, because my crystal advent calendars are coming up on the Canny Crystals website this weekend. I am really excited for these, so I want you to keep your eyes on cannycrystals.co.uk. And if you are buying one, remember to use the discount code, which is the word podcast at checkout. Get your 10% off there. It is literally just the word podcast, all one word. Please remember to put that in before you pay, because I know what you're all like. I always get emails saying, I forgot my discount code, can you just refund me. So whether you are buying one for yourself or as a gift, I hope it gives you something lovely to look forward to in December. And if it is for you, you're allowed to enjoy choosing it. You don't need to invent an elaborate reason why you deserve a crystal. And equally, if you are watching your spending, you can take everything that we've talked about today and still find some enjoyment that doesn't cost you a penny. Yeah, I'm not forcing you to buy these advent calendars. There are plenty of other ways to give yourself something to look forward to. So I suppose the question that I'm gonna leave you with this week is, what is something that you keep saying that you want more of, and where could you allow just a little bit more of it into your life this week? So it might be more connection, which could just be reaching out to a friend. More enjoyment might mean saying yes to something that you'd normally talk yourself out of. More support might mean actually accepting the help that someone's been offering you. You don't have to wait until you're a completely different person to begin. You can make a choice while you're still a bit unsure, or still busy, or still learning how to do this. And if it feels awkward at first, good. That's okay. That's normal. You're trying something that you might not have given yourself much room for before. I'll be keeping all of that in mind over the next 7 days, especially with me mam's operation on Friday. So thank you so much for listening. Let me share what has been going on in my life. I hope something in this conversation has helped you look at your own life with a little more kindness And maybe giving you a little nudge to enjoy something that you've been putting off. If you've got someone in your life who is always looking after everybody else and struggling to let themselves have a good time, send them this episode. They might need to hear it. And if you've enjoyed listening, I'd really appreciate a rating or review wherever you're tuning in from. It helps other people find the podcast, and it's always lovely to hear what resonated with you out of these episodes as well. And right, that's it. I'm going to leave you to it, but remember, The crystal advent calendars are coming to cannycrystals.co.uk over the weekend. Use the word podcast, it gets you 10% off when you order. So have a lovely week ahead, give yourself something to look forward to, and I'll speak to you all next Friday. Speak soon, guys. Bye! Bye!

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Talking about guns with others might not always feel comfortable, but it could save a life. Here's a way to start a conversation. Your family is going over to your neighbor's home for dinner for the first time. How would you ask if there are any unlocked guns in the home?

Hey!

Hey, we're so excited for tonight. Before we come over though, may I ask if there are any unlocked guns in your home?

Our guns are stored securely, locked in a safe that the kids can't access.

Awesome.

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