Three questions to build consent and trust in relationships: What would you really enjoy right now? Is there anything you don't want? If tonight had a menu, what are you ordering? They move past permission to actual desire and comfort.
What are 3 fantastic questions for instilling consent deep into mature relationships? Question number 1, what would you really enjoy right now? This shifts intimacy away from just permission-seeking and toward mutual desire. You're not just finding out what's okay, you're discovering what they actually want. Question number 2, is there anything you don't want or that you want me to stay away from? Now, this is clear, it's simple, and it normalizes boundaries without making them awkward. Healthy intimacy makes it easy to say both yes And no. And question number 3, let's have a little fun here. If tonight had a menu, what are you ordering? This can make communicating desires playful instead of clinical. And you can even follow up with questioning such as, anything you'd like to see on the specials? Great consensual intimacy isn't just about getting a yes. It is about creating enough comfort, trust, and communication that both people can freely express what they want and what they don't. And in the end, have a lot more fun. Ask first, respect the answer. If you want adult audiences to gain essential skills like these, follow me here, or even better, reach out. Let's Let's talk about bringing me to speak at your next event.
