Mike Domitrz explains that boundaries on a date create mutual comfort, not restriction. Instead of guessing, ask directly: "Are you feeling a connection?" or "May I kiss you?" Direct communication makes the date better and kills the awkwardness.
Let's talk about boundaries. See, boundaries aren't just restrictions. They actually create more freedom for everyone to enjoy their time together. When you tell someone what your boundary is, you're inviting them into what you are comfortable with. You're handing them the map to treat you well. That's freedom for both of you. Let me make it click, right? Picture the start of a date. Say to your date, have you ever noticed at the end of a date how awkward it can get? And almost every time they'll say, Sure. I'd like to avoid that by being transparent with you. Like, if one of us is feeling a connection, can we just ask the other one if they're feeling it too? And that way we don't have to guess or wonder how things are going. And if at some point we want to kiss, same thing, let's just ask each other. I find being direct is a lot more fun, and we honor each other's boundaries along the way. What do you think of that? Now see how clear that was, how confident that was? Do you see what just happened? You didn't say don't, you said how. You made it clear, you made it respectful, and you made it fun. That awkwardness, guessing, hoping you're reading it right that people do? Gone. Replaced with 2 people who actually ask. If you want your students to better know how to honor each other's boundaries, reach out. Let's talk about bringing me to speak at your school.
