Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

A reason why people don't intervene.

11 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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In this excerpt from a YouTube presentation on bystander intervention, the speaker challenges the audience to consider why they often stay quiet when witnessing vulnerable or dangerous situations. He frames the topic as uncomfortable but necessary, prompting self‑reflection on personal responsibility. The speaker suggests that feelings of shame, guilt, and the desire to avoid personal accountability cause many to refrain from intervening, and he asks the audience to acknowledge this tendency as a common experience.

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Is it my business what happens to another human being in a vulnerable, dangerous situation right in front of me? Why do you think we are so quiet on the question? Yes? It's an uncomfortable topic. It is an uncomfortable topic, yeah. And I'm willing to get uncomfortable with you. What do I mean by that? I'm not just going to keep plugging along when we've got an issue in the room, right? So it's uncomfortable, but was the question difficult? Honestly, it wasn't difficult. So why do you think we paused or we were quiet? All right, there we go. So if I say, yeah, it's my business what happens to other people in front of me, oh man, I haven't always intervened. Now I gotta look in the mirror. Now I'm gonna feel shame. I'm gonna feel guilt. I don't wanna do that. So I'm just gonna leave this one so I don't have to own it. How many agree there's a good chance that that could be true of almost all of us in this room? Could reflect on a scene we could have handled better. Agree that's true? Say that's true. That's true.