When you stop inserting yourself into others' work and let them figure things out, their performance and confidence improve. Offering suggestions signals they lack something, which erodes their sense of brilliance. Step back and pose questions instead.
How many of you out there have ever been in a situation where you thought, I'm not going to jump in and tell them what to do, but I will jump in and say, have you thought about this? If you've ever done that, just type done it in the chat. I see a lot of you going, oh, I've done this one before. It doesn't mean you jump in and take it over. You just throw out a consideration for them. What happens? They think they can never do things without you. They lose their sense of autonomy, of their own brilliance. And I've done this one way too many times. And 7 years ago in my life, I realized this is what I did. And when I stopped doing it, everyone around me became more brilliant. What do we mean by that? They created better results because they believed in themselves more and more. Because I didn't look over the shoulder, I didn't throw the idea out. I trusted them and it just got better and better. So whether you're a parent trying to fix kids or you're somebody trying to— the moment you're trying to fix someone, You're saying that you're— you have something they don't have.
