Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Be mindful of other people's experiences!

11 Jul 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief talk, the speaker emphasizes the importance of proactively asking others about potential emotional triggers to avoid causing distress. He cites a well‑known quote—"people may not remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel"—to underline that the emotional impact of interactions outweighs the content of words. The speaker shares two anecdotes: Ashley reinforces the quote’s relevance in education, while Lisa reveals that she had never been asked about her triggers before, prompting both her and the speaker to recognize the value of such questions. The speaker concludes by encouraging listeners to adopt the practice of asking about triggers, suggesting it can foster personal growth and more considerate communication.

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So if we want to cure those issues around how do we avoid triggering someone, we should ask people, hey, are there things I do or that I could do that could trigger you and that you're comfortable sharing with me? Because I don't want to be the person doing that. All right? I don't want to be causing that trigger to occur. So Ashley said, hey, people may not remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Yeah. And that quote is a really powerful one. that's used in education and is so true. And this is where it matters, how you make them feel. And Lisa was like, wow, I've never— she was— both of us grew in that moment 'cause she actually said, I've never had anybody think about asking me what my triggers were before, Mike. So I grew from learning I should have asked. She grew from learning also. She's like, I'm gonna ask other people too. So it's a powerful question you can all go back and ask. Thank you.