Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Be PATIENT and lead with CURIOSITY!

9 Apr 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief spoken segment, the presenter engages the audience by recalling the first day of moving in with a partner, prompting them to share how quickly they felt annoyed by each other. The speaker highlights the range of reactions—from a few minutes to a month—suggesting that early friction is common. He then challenges the notion that partners intentionally irritate one another, asserting that most people are simply being themselves and are often unaware of the impact of their behavior. The underlying message encourages patience and curiosity, urging listeners to recognize that irritation is usually unintentional rather than malicious.

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How many of you can remember the first day you ever moved in with someone? How long on that day did it take before one of you annoyed the other? I hear a few of you laughing up there. How long was it? Yell out some numbers. A month. 5 minutes. I heard 5 minutes. I heard a month. You were lucky. All right. So sometimes we hear 5 seconds. 5 minutes. Do you think they were trying to do it on purpose? Were they trying to irritate you? Yes. You think that? Okay. Are most people trying to irritate you normally? No. No, they're not. They're just being themselves, and being themselves, they don't realize the impact it's having sometimes.