Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

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22 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this brief coaching monologue, speaker‑coach Mike Domitrz urges presenters to abandon rehearsed, robot‑like delivery that mimics past coaches and instead speak as if they were sharing ideas with friends on a couch. He observes that many speakers arrive overly programmed, acting as a “robot” rather than their true selves. By encouraging speakers to adopt a conversational, authentic style, he claims they become more compelling, freeing, and more likely to attract bookings because audiences respond to genuine personality rather than a manufactured persona.

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If you stop being yourself on stage to follow everybody else's rules, you'll stop being yourself. Why in the world do you want a career being somebody else from the stage? Be you. One of the things that I see when I coach speakers all the time is they come in so programmed from past coaches they've worked with that I am not watching the person who I know who they are on stage. I'm watching a robot act the way they've been told to act by other people beforehand. And I always stop people and go, what if you were just talking to your friends on the couch and you excitedly want to share this with them? How would you discuss it? And suddenly the person comes out and it's beautiful and it's freeing. And they are way, way more likely to want to book you for being you than you for being someone else.