Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

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11 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this motivational clip, Mike Domitrz challenges the common habit of rating oneself lower than a prospective date. He illustrates the power dynamic that emerges when a person sees their partner as a "10" while viewing themselves as a "6" or "7," leading them to act as the subordinate in the relationship. Domitrz argues that the "10" rating should reflect consistent effort and personal growth—not flawless perfection. By committing to daily self‑improvement, anyone can consider themselves a 10, just as elite athletes are deemed top‑tier despite frequent mistakes. The core message is that no one you date is inherently more valuable than you; recognizing your own worth empowers healthier, balanced connections.

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How would I score myself on a scale of one to ten versus how I would score the person about to go on a date on a scale of one to ten? What's amazing here is most people will say I'm a six or a seven. Well, what's the person you're about to go on the date with? Oh, they're a ten. Well, wait a second. If they're a ten and you are a six, who owns this relationship? The ten clearly because the six will do whatever they have to do to keep the ten happy because they think the ten's more valuable. Now some people go, well, I'm not going to see myself as a ten. I'm not perfect. Well, that's interesting because you saw them as a ten. So why don't Once you see yourself as being as great a human being as possible, which is all that a 10 is— it's not perfection, it's do I get up every day and try to be the best person I can be? If I do that every day, then I'm a 10. I'm gonna make mistakes. The greatest athletes in the world miss shots, fail all the time. They're still a 10 in their categories, right? Because they're doing their best every day. That's all we're asking of you. Get up and know you're a 10 because you're doing your best. Nobody you date is more valuable or special than you.