Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Confidence in Dating Taught by Consent Speaker

27 Mar 2026 · 1 min

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In this short instructional monologue, the speaker distinguishes two authentic forms of confidence. The first is the "authentic self" confidence, exemplified by a person who is comfortably immersed in their own world and happy with who they are; they are confident because they accept themselves. The second is a more outward, performative confidence where a person walks and talks with poise, yet still feels genuine confidence. Both types share a key trait: they can ask for what they want without fearing the response, because a yes or no does not threaten their self‑worth. By contrast, those who fear rejection often hide their insecurity behind arrogance. The speaker warns listeners to recognize and avoid this false arrogance, encouraging true confidence that embraces any answer.

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See, there's 2 kinds of real confidence. There's this confidence, the awkward person who's themselves. How many remember in high school the person who walked down the hallways and they seemed to be in their own little world? But they were happy in that little world, and every now and then you thought, that must be a good place to be. That's confidence. That is, you're confident in who you are. You're being yourself. The other confidence is this one. They walk confident, they talk confident, because they're genuinely confident people. These are the 2 profiles. Here's what's interesting. Both of them have no problem asking. Do you know why? They don't fear the answer. You say yes or no, it doesn't destroy them. They're confident. They're okay. You can say no. It's the person who's afraid of the answer that lacks the confidence, so they cover it in arrogance, right? So that's what we want to be careful of.