Mike Domitrz argues that asking for consent doesn't ruin intimacy. People avoid asking because they fear awkwardness, but Domitrz shows that relying on 'game' to bypass consent is actually a sign of insecurity that undermines genuine connection.
And why do you think people don't ask and instead go for it? What are those reasons? They think it kills the mood. It's going to be awkward. Now, why is that funny? Because that means you actually think you're smooth. Have any of you ever watched one of your friends try to hook up with someone? It's one of the funniest things you will ever observe in your life. Let's get a little real right now. You're all awkward. We are all awkward. If you agree that's true, say, that's true. That's true. Yeah. How many agree you could be making out with someone and in 1 second it can go awkward? Agree that's true? Say, that's true. That's true. Yeah. Ever heard of braces? Watch out. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. You're not afraid of being awkward. You're great at it. Every now and then students are like, Mike, you don't know me. I've got game. And whenever someone says that to me, I look them right in the eyes and I'm like, I'm sorry you need it. See, when you tell me you've got game, what you're telling me is who you are isn't good enough, so you have to play a game to get what you want. I wouldn't be bragging.
