Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

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19 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this brief educational monologue, the speaker outlines the core principles of sexual consent: it must be mutually wanted, specific to the act being requested, given in the exact moment of the interaction, and can be withdrawn at any time. The speaker emphasizes that prior agreements or plans do not constitute consent at a later time, and that any indication of non‑consent—such as a partner saying they "can't control themselves"—should be recognized as predatory language and called out immediately. The talk concludes with a call to actively confront and reject such behavior.

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Consent is mutually wanted. Nobody's talking somebody into anything. They both want it. It's specific. So if you say, can I kiss you? And they say yes, you don't get to do other things. That's not what they agreed to. It's in the moment, which means if you say, hey, tonight when we come back from party like 1 AM, you want to hook up? And they say yes, that's not consent. That's called making plans. Consent must occur at 1 AM when you're back together. This is why it must be in the moment. Free to be removed means the second someone says stop, you must— Stop! If your partner says, but I can't control myself, By the way, do people talk like that sometimes? Yes or no? Yes! Sounds like a predator. How many agree that is what that sounds like? Yes! Yes! So if somebody ever says that to you, look them in the eyes and go, not my problem. It's not, right? Call that stuff out.