Mike Domitrz argues consent means both people genuinely want it, not just that you won't be prosecuted. Each act requires its own yes. If you're talking someone into it, something's wrong.
How many agree if you were with somebody, you're about to hook up, you're about to date someone, and they said the following words to you, hey, look, here's how I roll. As long as I can't be charged with sexual assault, I'm good to go. Would you stay in that situation or run for the hills? Seriously, which one? Hills. You'd be running because that's way too low a standard. So here's our standard, mutually wanted, which means I don't talk you into it, you don't talk me into it. If we have to talk someone into it, something's wrong. It is specific, which means if I say, can I kiss you? And you say yes, I don't get to do other things based on that yes.
