Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Consent Speaker on Trust

25 Mar 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief talk, the speaker argues that self‑trust is the single most important form of trust in any relationship. He claims that when you trust yourself, you retain autonomy and cannot be easily manipulated; conversely, lacking self‑trust leads you to prioritize a partner’s wants over your own, compromising consent. The speaker advises listeners to first assess and strengthen their own trust before evaluating whether they can trust a partner, framing self‑trust as the prerequisite for healthy, consensual interactions.

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Do you trust yourself or do you trust your partner? Which one's more important, trusting yourself or partner? Which one? A lot of you said both. That's not true, actually. Only one is priority. It is always yourself. Let me explain why. If I trust myself, you can't get me to do anything. But if I don't trust me and I trust you, I'll do whatever I have to do to keep you happy. When we lack trust in ourselves, we lose ourselves to other people's wants, likes, desires, right? Trust yourself first and then go Hey, I trust me. Do I trust them? That's the second question.