Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Doing what is right is worth the confrontation!

11 Oct 2023 · 1 min

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In this motivational talk, the speaker—who works with elite special‑force personnel—explores the human instinct to fear confrontation. He argues that fear is natural and even highly trained operatives experience it, but people are willing to confront when they perceive the encounter as worthwhile. He illustrates the point with two vivid scenarios: a parent risking personal safety to protect a child, and a sober friend intervening to stop an intoxicated companion from driving. The central message is that confronting becomes acceptable and even necessary when the stakes justify it, encouraging listeners to assess the value of a confrontation rather than avoid it out of fear.

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Do we fear confrontation as human beings? Yes or no? Yes. A lot of us do. And by the way, I work, I work with special forces. Like, I get to work with some of the most highly trained individuals in the world in my line of work, and they have fears of confrontation. When people go, no, it's human behavior. If you had no fear of confrontation, you wouldn't survive, actually, because you'd be in danger in situations you wouldn't take it serious enough, right? So fear of confrontation is okay. But here's the interesting part. They have found that we do not fear confrontation when we believe the confrontation is worth it. Now, what do I mean by that? Will a parent throw them— loving parent throw themselves in harm's way to protect a child? Will a loving parent do that? Yes or no? Yes. Yes, they will. Your friend is drunk, high, trashed, bombed at a party, about to try to drive home. You're going to stop that friend from driving, yes or no? Yes. Of course you are. All forms of confrontation you had no problem with because you believed the confrontation was worth it.