Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Don't praise or degrade someone for being sexually active.

28 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief video, the speaker defines slut‑shaming by contrasting the gendered labels applied to sexually active people: men are called “stud” (a compliment) while women are called “whore” (a derogatory term). The speaker argues that both praising and degrading sexual activity are inappropriate. Instead, the speaker recommends a neutral stance—recognizing that a person is sexually active without assigning value judgments or using gendered slurs. The core message is that eliminating slut‑shaming requires avoiding these loaded terms altogether.

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What is slut-shaming? All right, so let's give you an example. I say that a guy is sexually active. What's he called? Stud. A stud. All right, pause right there. I say a woman is sexually active. What's she called? Whore. That's slut-shaming. So one is being praised while the other one's being degraded. Now, should they be praised or degraded? No. Here's how it should work. Oh, they're sexually active? They're sexually active. That's none of my business. So I shouldn't be degrading and I shouldn't be praising them. I shouldn't make them sound like they're better because they are or less than because they are. So how you remove slut-shaming is you don't use those words. All right, that's a good question.