Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

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29 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, relationship coach Mike Domitrz confronts the common dilemma of staying in a partnership where the emotional connection is missing. He argues that remaining in such a relationship actually harms the other person more than leaving, and urges immediate, honest termination. Domitrz advises against weak excuses like “it’s not you, it’s me” and instead recommends looking the partner in the eye, affirming their worth, and clearly stating the lack of connection. He emphasizes that genuine connection cannot be forced over time, and that both parties deserve to be with someone who feels a true bond. The core message is to prioritize respect and honesty, ending the relationship promptly to avoid further hurt.

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What should you do if you're in a relationship where you don't feel the connection they feel? Anybody, what should you do? Immediately get out. But most people don't get immediately out. Why don't they get immediately out? What would you guess is the reason they don't? Yeah, they feel bad. They don't want to hurt this person's feelings. But what are they actually doing? Hurting them more is what they're actually doing. How many agree when you stay in a relationship with somebody you don't care as much about, you're actually hurting that person more every day you stay in it? Is that true? Yes or no? Yes. Yes, it is true. End it now. Don't make weak excuses. Don't say things like, it's not you, it's me. Be honest. Look them in the eyes and say this: you're an amazing person. I love you as a friend. I don't feel the connection. You deserve to be with someone who feels a connection. I don't. And I deserve to be with someone I just feel the connection with. This isn't fair that we're staying together. Now they're going to say, give it time, you'll feel the connection. That's not how connection works. If it does, I'll come back to you down the road, but I'm not staying here in the situation. All right, be honest with each other.