Mike Domitrz explains how bystanders can safely intervene in dangerous situations. Gather three or four friends, approach calmly, and use non-violent language to get someone at risk, like an intoxicated person, a safe ride home. A startled reaction means the intervention is working.
Always intervene for someone you think is worth it. So I have to have to remember I don't need to know that person; they're worth it because they're a human being. That's all I need to know. Now some of you are looking at me going, "Well, Mike, how do you actually intervene? What do you do to intervene?" And that's a fair question. You're at a party normally because you're with friends. Walk up to three or four friends. Just be like, "Hey, can you back me up?" Instantly, your friends are like, "Let's go." Right? You don't even know what you're backing up. I don't care. Let's go. Now, we don't want a fight. We're not looking for any violence. So we calmly walk up to Jesse. There's now 4 or 5 of us and simply say, hey, Jesse, clearly Aaron's had a lot to drink. Hope you don't mind. We just want to make sure Aaron has a safe ride home. Jesse about to thank me or freak out? What's more likely in this scene? Freak out. Freak out. The moment this person freaks out, you know you're doing the right thing. You know it.
