Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Educate younger students to be aware of some older student's tactics.

9 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief presentation, the speaker warns that older college students (e.g., 22‑year‑olds) often use subtle manipulation to pressure younger peers (e.g., 18‑year‑olds) into risky sexual or social behaviors. The speaker explains how these older students frame dangerous actions as "normal" college experiences and use excessive compliments as a grooming technique. The core recommendation is to equip incoming students with specific language and memory cues—phrases that they can recall when they encounter such tactics—so they can mentally flag and resist the pressure. The talk emphasizes the power of precise wording in training and the need for educators to convey these cues clearly to the new class.

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Right. So another 18-year-old, they might think, I'm not trusting this person. They're my age. Why would I do this? But because they're 22, they start to go, well, they know what they're doing. And by the way, sexually, that's some dangerous games. Because now I wouldn't normally do this, but the 22-year-old says this is normal to do in college. So yes, I have to do it. And that is a mentality that can absolutely happen. So you want to be able to help incoming students recognize this. And with this exact language you're giving me, that's what you want to talk to the incoming class. Same way and say, hey, here's what the game they're playing. They're gonna feed you a lot of compliments. Now here's what's great about that. If it starts to happen, just tell them, remember me saying this when it starts to happen. Because if you say that, you actually help their brain put it in lock and go, I'm supposed to remember this. Words are powerful when you're teaching and training.