Two people lie in bed, both wanting sex, but neither speaks up. Each waits for the other to notice a subtle touch. Nothing happens. By morning they're both frustrated, each convinced they signaled clearly. The lesson: stop expecting your partner to read your mind.
I'll give you a classic scene that people will tell me about in married or long-term relationships. Right? They go to bed. They are both in the mood, but neither's told the other. Right? So they are laying in bed naked right next to each other, horny, ready to go. Now, whenever we say horny, people go, that's inappropriate. That's a PG word. So they are horny, laying right next to each other, ready to go. Here's the fascinating part. Neither is talking to the other. Right? So one starts to think, huh, they should start making a move. I'm getting ticked off. They're not making a move. So, did they start talking? No. No. They just continue to get ticked off at the other one for not making a move. How long does this go on for? To the point they fall asleep. Wake up the next morning ticked off they didn't get laid last night. They're now down in the kitchen and the one says, hey, what happened last night? And the other one's like, what are you talking about? I gave you the signal. What signal are you talking about? I touched your leg. How messed up is this?
