Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

FEAR OF REJECTION

24 May 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker (Mike Domitrz) argues that avoiding sexual requests out of fear of rejection is morally wrong because it denies the other person a genuine choice. He contends that refusing to ask to avoid a possible ‘no’ is cruel and that people should not be forced to defend their bodies in intimate situations. He further claims that most people are not truly afraid of rejection, pointing out that when a ‘no’ is heard during intimacy, many either stop or find alternative ways to continue, indicating that rejection is an ever-present possibility in sexual encounters. The speaker uses this reasoning to emphasize that consent must be an active, voluntary choice rather than a forced default.

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Here's another reason people don't ask: fear of rejection. Whatever you do, do not give them a choice. If what I just said sounds awful, because that's exactly what you're saying if you say, I'm not going to ask because they might say no. So you're just not going to give them a choice. That's awful. That's literally cruel. I can't handle you saying no, so I'm not giving you a choice. Now, people get defensive with me and go, that's not fair, Mike. They have a choice. They have a choice whether to push me away. Should they have to defend their body in a sexual situation? No. No, they should not. So we're not even afraid of rejection. I can prove you're not afraid of rejection. When most people hear no during intimacy, do they flat out stop everything, or do they try another way to get back to where they were? Clearly not afraid of rejection. And if you were afraid of rejection, you'd never be sexually intimate with another human being, because rejection is always on the table. It's a possibility.