Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Friends stop friends from committing sexual assault!

27 Jul 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief discussion, the speaker confronts the uncomfortable reality that a trusted friend, "Jesse," could potentially commit a sexual assault when left alone with a woman, "Erin," at a party. By asking listeners to estimate the odds (0‑100%) that Jesse would attempt a sexual act in that scenario, the speaker highlights that most people perceive the likelihood as very high—typically between 90% and 100%. The conversation stresses that it is not about believing a friend is incapable of such behavior, but recognizing the substantial risk and being prepared to call out or intervene when a friend is alone with a potential victim.

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Yeah, if Jesse's my friend, I don't want to believe my friend could do something awful when they leave that party or go to another room with that person. So let's get real. If Jesse gets Erin alone in a room that night, what are the odds on 0 to 100 Jesse attempts a sexual act if Jesse gets Erin alone that night? Seriously, what do you think the odds are? 100. 100. I typically hear between 90 and 100. 90 and 100. So it's not a matter of thinking my friend would never do that. It's what the odds are if my friend gets alone with that person in this situation. What are the odds they're not going to do it? They're pretty slim that they're not going to try something. So we have to be able to call that out.