Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Helping kids understand the lens of porn.

12 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief segment, the speaker advises parents and guardians on how to discuss pornography with children. Rather than labeling porn as "evil," the speaker recommends framing it as a performance—an unrealistic portrayal of sex that actors do not replicate in their private lives. The talk references research indicating that porn performers seek pleasure, connection, emotion, and love off‑camera, contrasting with the visual and audio fantasy presented on screen. By teaching kids to view porn through this lens, the speaker suggests they will recognize its comedic, stylized nature and be less likely to become aroused by it, fostering a healthier understanding of sexuality.

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So the thing with kids is not saying porn is evil, because you're not going to get anywhere by just saying something's evil. But saying, hey, here's the lens you might want to watch it through. It's performance. The people who are in porn will tell you they don't do at home what they do on the screen. There's been lots of research on this. You can look it up. You can Google that concept. Because they— at home they want pleasure. They want connection. They want emotion. They want love. And all of that's for other people's visual and audio fantasy. So it's not realistic. So telling them that, just know the lens you're seeing it through. If anything, if you understood healthy sex, you'd be laughing more at porn than turned on by it. Often. All right? Because it's comical in the way it's being presented.