Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Hookup Culture is not accurate. You have a choice.

7 May 2023 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker challenges the common belief that high school environments are dominated by a pervasive "hookup culture." He argues that most people do not remain in a hookup phase for life, citing that about 80% of Americans expect to be married by age 35, and high schoolers themselves anticipate marriage rather than lifelong casual relationships. The speaker emphasizes that this distinction matters for parents, urging them to discuss with their children that while a hookup phase may exist for some, the majority transition to long‑term committed relationships, and therefore the notion of an all‑encompassing hookup culture is misleading.

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Hookup culture is a belief that our culture is built around people hooking up. That's the culture. And in high schools, it is really believed that they live in a hookup culture. Now, here's the good news. They don't. They don't live in a hookup culture. And here's how we can prove it. Because if you say to the average high schooler, by the age of 35 in this country, what do you expect it to be relationship status? 80%. And whenever you ask high schoolers that question, they go, well, you're expected to be married. Now, by the way, I'm not judging that or saying that that's right or wrong. We're just saying what our culture does. They'll say you're expected to be married. Oh, so you don't live in hookup culture, because if you did, the answer would have— that would have been nobody gets married because we stay in a hookup culture our whole lives. But you don't. Why this is important for parents to understand is you want to talk to your kids and say, yes, there are people who who go through a hookup phase. But most people don't stay in it.