Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

How To Choose A Consent Speaker For Your Highschool

8 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this excerpt from Mike Domitrz’s presentation on selecting a consent speaker for high schools, the speaker urges the audience to internalize intervention as a core part of their identity rather than a situational choice. He asks the room to affirm that saying “it’s who I am” is a powerful response, contrasting it with the common practice of making excuses. By framing personal responsibility as an expression of self, he encourages participants to refuse unwanted activities or intervene in others’ situations simply by stating, “not for me, that’s who I am,” without judgment. The segment blends motivational rhetoric with a practical, identity‑based script for bystander action.

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By the way, how many agree that's the number one answer you can give me in this room? Mike, I'm gonna do the right thing in life when others don't, simply because it's who I am. How many agree that is way more powerful than, I'm gonna intervene 'cause if it was me, I'd want someone to intervene. I'm gonna intervene 'cause if it was my family member, I'd want someone to intervene. You don't need an excuse when it's who you are. If you agree that's powerful, just say powerful. Powerful. Somebody tries to get you to do something this weekend you don't wanna do, instead of coming up with excuses for why not to do it, just look them in the eye and go, not for me, not who I am. Notice I'm not judging them. You're saying, not for me. And when somebody says, well, why are you doing that? Nobody else is taking action. Why are you taking action? Because it's who I am. It's that simple.