Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

How To Choose The Best Consent Speaker For Your School

22 Apr 2026 · 0 min

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In this brief segment from Mike Domitrz's consent‑training video, the presenter walks an audience through a practical, respectful method for asking someone for a kiss. He outlines three concrete steps: (1) make direct eye contact, (2) smile to convey friendliness, and (3) phrase the request as a clear question (e.g., "Can I kiss you?") and then honor the answer, regardless of the response. The speaker uses a conversational, slightly humorous tone, referencing a hypothetical “horror‑movie” scenario and a participant named Samir to illustrate how the approach feels in real life. The core message is that consent is obtained by combining clear verbal language with respectful non‑verbal cues and by always respecting the other person's answer.

How do you actually ask? You're gonna ask somebody for a kiss. Number one, look them in the eyes. A little weird to do one of these. Um, um, can I kiss you? People do weird things when they get nervous, right? Step number two, smile, right? One, look them in the eyes. Two, smile. Samir, what do you mean? Well, if you're doing this, um, um, um, can I kiss you? It sounds like you're in a horror movie, right? Probably not as romantic. Some of you will try to show the opposite of that. You'll do one of these. Hey, give me a kiss. Whoa! Number three, ask a question. Once you ask a question, respect the answer.