Mike Domitrz argues that if a teen won't talk openly with their partner about boundaries and consent, they're not ready for sex. Most high schoolers never hear that communication matters. Parents should see discomfort discussing sex as a sign of immaturity, not a problem.
If you want your kid to find out what is mutually amazing for them and the other person, what must they do with that person? They've got to ask. And if your kid goes, but I'm not going to ask, here's your response. I'm surprised. You told me you're sexually ready and mature. Why are you uncomfortable talking with your partner about it? Totally legit question. If you're so ready to do this, which I'm not questioning, Then I know you're going to be comfortable talking about it because that's part of the maturity process. And if you're not comfortable talking about this, that's okay. It means you're not ready, and that's good you know that. Because here's a little secret: nobody had their best sex in high school. And if they did, we're sorry for that person. And by the way, think about how many high schoolers have never gotten that message.
