Mike Domitrz argues that sex is never owed in a relationship, no matter what cultural narratives suggest. In talks with military audiences, men have claimed marriage grants them a right to sex, a claim he's never heard from women, revealing how gendered conditioning creates false entitlement to intimacy.
What about gender differences when sex is owed? Now, what did we say in yesterday's program about sex being owed? It is never owed. It is never owed. However, can society create a feeling that it is owed? And are certain genders treated differently around this topic? What genders typically can feel like, I owe it? All right, I'm hearing females. Some people are saying women. All right, so give me an example of how culture teaches that. Can we think of an example of how culture teaches women owe sex? I'll give you one. I've had military members over the years— this doesn't happen often, it's rarely occurred, but it has happened— has said, hey, well, they married me, they owe me sex. That has never been said by somebody who identified as a female or a woman in my history of my career. It's only been said by somebody who identifies as a male or a man. So that right there says we got a clear assumption bias there, that I've only heard it from men in audiences.
