Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Intimacy should always start with respect!

18 Jul 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief spoken monologue, the presenter argues that healthy sexual intimacy should be enjoyable rather than strictly romantic, challenging Hollywood’s idealized portrayal. He acknowledges real‑life constraints—such as limited time when parents have children—but emphasizes that mutual desire and clear consent are the essential ingredients for respectful intimacy. The speaker highlights that intimacy can remain respectful regardless of setting, and poses a rhetorical question about why people often hesitate to simply ask for it, suggesting a gap between the ideal of respectful consent and everyday practice.

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Should healthy sexual intimacy be fun? Of course it should be, right? Of course it should be. So is it always going to be romantic? No, it's not always going to be romantic. That's Hollywood that makes it look like that, but it's not reality. If you've been married, you know it's not always romantic, right? Sometimes it's timing. If you have kids, they're going to be like, we got 5 minutes, want to make a go of it? Because they've got 5 minutes. Might not seem romantic, but they both want it, right? Right, as long as they both want it, that's critical here, right? And they're both able to consent. Might not be romantic, but it's what they both want. All right, so, but it's respectful. It can always be respectful. So that's going to lead us to this question: if it can always be respectful, why doesn't everybody just ask?