Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Just be you, quirks and all. #centerforrespect #mikedomitrz #perfect #dating #justbeyourself

5 Nov 2024 · 0 min

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In this brief YouTube segment, speaker Mike Domitrz critiques the common pre‑date habit of staring at oneself in the mirror and demanding perfection. He argues that this mindset creates anxiety and hampers enjoyment. Instead, he proposes a simple reframing: look in the mirror and tell yourself, “this is about to get interesting,” which shifts focus from flawless performance to curiosity and openness. He reinforces the point by noting that awkwardness is a natural part of any interaction, even after decades of marriage, because each partner remains an individual with distinct thoughts. The core message is to abandon perfection‑driven expectations and adopt a playful, exploratory attitude to improve the dating experience.

One of the worst things people do before dates or hookups is they look in the mirror and they do one of these. Oh, I gotta be perfect. Everything's gotta be— tonight's gotta go perfect. That's one of the worst things you can do. Here's what you should do. Look in the mirror and go, this is about to get interesting. Let's see what happens. How many agree you're gonna enjoy that night a whole lot more with that approach? Agree that's true? Say that's true. Yes, because you're awkward. You're always gonna be, by the way. I have people go, what about when you've been married 20 years? It can't be awkward then. Yeah, yeah, it can, because you're 2 different people with 2 different thoughts.