Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Just be you, quirks and all. #centerforrespect #mikedomitrz #date #justbeyourself #datenight

7 Jan 2025 · 0 min

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In this brief YouTube monologue, Mike Domitrz advises viewers to abandon the urge to appear perfect before a date or hookup. He suggests looking in the mirror and adopting a playful, curious mindset—thinking, “this is about to get interesting”—instead of demanding a flawless night. He emphasizes that awkwardness is inevitable, even for couples married decades, because each person brings their own thoughts and quirks. By accepting imperfection and embracing awkward moments, the speaker claims the experience will be more enjoyable.

One of the worst things people do before dates or hookups is they look in the mirror and they do one of these. Oh, I gotta be perfect. Everything's gotta be— tonight's gotta go perfect. That's one of the worst things you can do. Here's what you should do. Look in the mirror and go, this is about to get interesting. Let's see what happens. How many agree you're gonna enjoy that night a whole lot more with that approach? Agree that's true? Say that's true. Yes, because you're awkward. You're always gonna be, by the way. I have people go, what about when you've been married 20 years? It can't be awkward then. Yeah, yeah, it can, because you're 2 different people with 2 different thoughts.